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"There should be an anti bullying policy in place. If there is follow the procedure set out in that. If not you need witnesses and a very strong constitution. You have my sympathy. I left a job due to bullying. " I left the air training corps due to bullying | |||
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"Also I think racist behaviour is automatic dismissal in many organisations " I agree | |||
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"There should be an anti bullying policy in place. If there is follow the procedure set out in that. If not you need witnesses and a very strong constitution. You have my sympathy. I left a job due to bullying. " I have asked the person that told me to help me report her - but she doesn't want to get involved and cause problems for herself as it is a private company etc.. I will try and find out if there is a procedure - thanks for that. I can't leave right now because there are no jobs to go to! What happened with your bully? | |||
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"There should be an anti bullying policy in place. If there is follow the procedure set out in that. If not you need witnesses and a very strong constitution. You have my sympathy. I left a job due to bullying. I left the air training corps due to bullying" It's the only time in my entire life that I have been victimised in that way. I chose the easy way out but made sure the bosses knew why I was leaving. The op isn't in a position to leave sadly | |||
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"That is completely unnaceptable. Are you in a union? I suggest you sign up. Talk to Acas. They are brilliant tbh." This. And read upon any policy about bullying you may have at work and follow it. Be strong. | |||
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"There should be an anti bullying policy in place. If there is follow the procedure set out in that. If not you need witnesses and a very strong constitution. You have my sympathy. I left a job due to bullying. I have asked the person that told me to help me report her - but she doesn't want to get involved and cause problems for herself as it is a private company etc.. I will try and find out if there is a procedure - thanks for that. I can't leave right now because there are no jobs to go to! What happened with your bully?" It was a job that I was way too qualified for and she didn't like that. She didn't show me how to do things then criticised me when I got it wrong, held my paypacket until last even though they were handed out alphabetically, ignored me unless she had to speak to me and then used a patronising and nasty tone, just a multitude of small, nasty things. Nothing as bad as what you've experienced though | |||
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"Is there anybody above her that you can take this to? This is dome serious shit and if you think you are being victimised and the company doesnt do anything then you could land them in some serious trouble." I took it to the General Manager today. She seems to think that a meeting with the bully will sort it out. Disregarding my hours being cut. I'm so upset. | |||
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"There should be an anti bullying policy in place. If there is follow the procedure set out in that. If not you need witnesses and a very strong constitution. You have my sympathy. I left a job due to bullying. I have asked the person that told me to help me report her - but she doesn't want to get involved and cause problems for herself as it is a private company etc.. I will try and find out if there is a procedure - thanks for that. I can't leave right now because there are no jobs to go to! What happened with your bully?" Is there a HR dept? | |||
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"There should be an anti bullying policy in place. If there is follow the procedure set out in that. If not you need witnesses and a very strong constitution. You have my sympathy. I left a job due to bullying. I have asked the person that told me to help me report her - but she doesn't want to get involved and cause problems for herself as it is a private company etc.. I will try and find out if there is a procedure - thanks for that. I can't leave right now because there are no jobs to go to! What happened with your bully?" I think she has the right to keep her comments anonymous? Citizen's Advice would also be really helpful to you | |||
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"To cut a very long story short - I'm being bullied at work by a manager because of my skin colour I was born and raised in England and I'm mixed race white British and black Caribbean. This woman has never liked me and I thought it was a clash of personalities. She has recently cut my hours so I will find it hard to survive. I have been told that she has said Quote " Black women always have an attitude problem - I'd rather not work with niggers " I cant prove that she said this - and because she is a manager I don’t have a lot of hope. I cant leave in the current Covid19 situation and I'm so upset and have been crying all day with frustration more than anything. Does anyone know what I should do in this situation? Thanks in advance x" Next time you talk to her record your conversation privately and then take send recording to HR and get that bitch sacked. | |||
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"Is there anybody above her that you can take this to? This is dome serious shit and if you think you are being victimised and the company doesnt do anything then you could land them in some serious trouble. I took it to the General Manager today. She seems to think that a meeting with the bully will sort it out. Disregarding my hours being cut. I'm so upset. " It's very hard I know but you need to find out as much as possible from ACAS and then take charge of the situation before any meeting takes place. | |||
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"Is there anybody above her that you can take this to? This is dome serious shit and if you think you are being victimised and the company doesnt do anything then you could land them in some serious trouble. I took it to the General Manager today. She seems to think that a meeting with the bully will sort it out. Disregarding my hours being cut. I'm so upset. " Then she is fundamentally wrong, tell her that you do not wish her to be there as its intimidating. | |||
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"To cut a very long story short - I'm being bullied at work by a manager because of my skin colour I was born and raised in England and I'm mixed race white British and black Caribbean. This woman has never liked me and I thought it was a clash of personalities. She has recently cut my hours so I will find it hard to survive. I have been told that she has said Quote " Black women always have an attitude problem - I'd rather not work with niggers " I cant prove that she said this - and because she is a manager I don’t have a lot of hope. I cant leave in the current Covid19 situation and I'm so upset and have been crying all day with frustration more than anything. Does anyone know what I should do in this situation? Thanks in advance x" the only way to deal with bullies is to confront them but in a way she wouldn't be expecting use reverse psychology and have somebody around as a witness, compliment her or appeal to her sense of fair play but in person, if you give attitude unfortunately you will get attitude back | |||
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"Is there anybody above her that you can take this to? This is dome serious shit and if you think you are being victimised and the company doesnt do anything then you could land them in some serious trouble. I took it to the General Manager today. She seems to think that a meeting with the bully will sort it out. Disregarding my hours being cut. I'm so upset. " If you’re not comfortable to meet with the bully you don’t have to. They GM shouldn’t expect you to be put in that situation. They should be dealing with racist bully separately. If I was you I’d take someone independent to that meeting for your support if you go. Union rep or someone else. Depends on the type of business it is I can only take specific people in meetings in case we discuss confidential information | |||
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"To cut a very long story short - I'm being bullied at work by a manager because of my skin colour I was born and raised in England and I'm mixed race white British and black Caribbean. This woman has never liked me and I thought it was a clash of personalities. She has recently cut my hours so I will find it hard to survive. I have been told that she has said Quote " Black women always have an attitude problem - I'd rather not work with niggers " I cant prove that she said this - and because she is a manager I don’t have a lot of hope. I cant leave in the current Covid19 situation and I'm so upset and have been crying all day with frustration more than anything. Does anyone know what I should do in this situation? Thanks in advance x" HR first but don't accept anything other than what you want from the situation whether that be an apology or getting them disciplined. If someone has used the N word they deserve every bit of sh.t that's coming. If hr aren't taking it seriously go to the very top of the company and if you still don't get answers talk to a solicitor. Will the person who told you back you up ? | |||
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"In anything like this you have to deal with facts or you've lost before you start. The fact is the op has had her hours cut. The racist comment is hearsay. Before things can proceed evidence needs to be collected and if there's a disciplinary investigation, verified. This is why a procedure needs to be followed and no meeting should take place without witnesses. " Absolutely this. Also insist all meetings are documented and you receive copies of these . I know it's difficult but you need to keep it factual and professional . Hug of support OP. | |||
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"Thankypu all for your kind words and advice. X" I'm gonna miss youuuuuuuu Love you loads. P | |||
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"Sounds like you need to get that colleague to make a statement about what she said to support your complaint. And if she is deliberately cutting your hours (and its just you and you can prove that), then you may be able to argue that she is attempting constructive dismissal. Speak to your HR as soon as possible and lodge a complaint. Also, keep a diary of when things happen to support your complaint" Make sure you put everything in writing, do not give them wriggle room, a conversation can be denied. Google employment rights and refer to them in any correspondance. Good luck.. | |||
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