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"Yes! My periods are incredibly irregular though so very hard to track on my app and I never really know when it's coming. Sometimes I'll randomly feel the weight of the world and cry myself to sleep. Other times it's snapping at my friends and family over nothing. Then I'll get my period one or two days later and be like "ohhhh so that explains it..." " Cry yourself to sleep? Oh that's not good | |||
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"Wow op I wasn’t aware it was you I’m married too " that'll go down well. The more I'm on the planet, the more apparent it seems to me, that females really do struggle with insecurities, bourne from combination of outside influence and hormones (yes I know staying the obvious!). But honestly, stop assu6mens definition of attractive and sexy. Be kind and smile and that's hooked me straight away. It must be tough on such a rollercoaster but I'm confident you're in the majority? | |||
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"Yes! My periods are incredibly irregular though so very hard to track on my app and I never really know when it's coming. Sometimes I'll randomly feel the weight of the world and cry myself to sleep. Other times it's snapping at my friends and family over nothing. Then I'll get my period one or two days later and be like "ohhhh so that explains it..." " I'm like this, but just weepy rather than bitchy (I'm bitchy anyway so that goes unnoticed!). I'll find myself crying at an advert on telly, then a couple of days later I come on and think "I bloody KNEW I wasn't really a whiny cow". Sorry OP, no advice here just plenty of empathy and sympathy. | |||
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"I am so like this, and it's got markedly worse over the last 6 months or so. I've found the best thing for me is to remove myself from all social media and think about everything I say before I say it because I can be vile when I'm like that. " All social media? That could be a shout. Do you go cold turkey on WhatsApp as well or still keep some channels of communications open? Sending hugs Lily, I get how awful it is. | |||
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"Yes! My periods are incredibly irregular though so very hard to track on my app and I never really know when it's coming. Sometimes I'll randomly feel the weight of the world and cry myself to sleep. Other times it's snapping at my friends and family over nothing. Then I'll get my period one or two days later and be like "ohhhh so that explains it..." " My pcos means that they are fairly irregular at times, much like yours. I've had the crying myself to sleep thing recently. It's so daft isn't it? The next morning it doesn't seem anywhere as bad but at the time it's just... bleurgh. My dear friend has learned how to track mine based on my message tone. That's not good (but very sweet). | |||
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"Yes! My periods are incredibly irregular though so very hard to track on my app and I never really know when it's coming. Sometimes I'll randomly feel the weight of the world and cry myself to sleep. Other times it's snapping at my friends and family over nothing. Then I'll get my period one or two days later and be like "ohhhh so that explains it..." My pcos means that they are fairly irregular at times, much like yours. I've had the crying myself to sleep thing recently. It's so daft isn't it? The next morning it doesn't seem anywhere as bad but at the time it's just... bleurgh. My dear friend has learned how to track mine based on my message tone. That's not good (but very sweet). " Yes, although sometimes there really is nothing better than a good cry. Especially lately... I don't really have any advice on how to deal with it though, I'm sorry. I would say meditation or apps like headspace but if you're anything like me those kinds of things piss me off even more when I'm already irritable. Emotions really aren't meant to be bottled up though, I say just let yourself feel it (as long as you're not hurting anyone, that is). | |||
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"I can remember the days Meli. I don’t have it now because I may be menopausal/post menopausal. I do still know when I would have been having a period though. Those feelings that you mention can be overwhelming and all consuming some times. Ride the wave and hopefully those around you will be tolerant. I have found people very tolerant of my cloudy headspace and forgetfulness " That's interesting because menopause for me has been much more riddled with mood swings than when I was younger. But we're each different. Meditation has helped with bringing moods into balance, I think. | |||
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"I tend to condense all of this hormonal behaviour into one day a year where I turn into Mad Mac an absolute schizo terror bitch. I unleash carnage and then I'm alright for another year. Useless response though as I don't know it's coming so I don't know how to manage it. Everyone else senses the red mist and generally leaves me to it thankfully. " One day a year sounds a bit Purgeish. It's not a useless response at all, it's nice to know I'm not so alone in this. I have tried reframing it as my emo time but that didn't help. | |||
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"I’m fine now I’m a good HRT. Get moody infrequently now " On a good HRT, not I am a good HRT | |||
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"Wow op I wasn’t aware it was you I’m married too that'll go down well. The more I'm on the planet, the more apparent it seems to me, that females really do struggle with insecurities, bourne from combination of outside influence and hormones (yes I know staying the obvious!). But honestly, stop assu6mens definition of attractive and sexy. Be kind and smile and that's hooked me straight away. It must be tough on such a rollercoaster but I'm confident you're in the majority?" I don't mind a dad joke at all. It's not an assumption of beauty ideals as such. I think it's just closer to wallowing. I know I'm kinda cute most of the time. | |||
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"Absolutely...... the week before my period I’m a complete emotional bag of shit!! " I hope it gets better for you soon Lexi, x | |||
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"I can remember the days Meli. I don’t have it now because I may be menopausal/post menopausal. I do still know when I would have been having a period though. Those feelings that you mention can be overwhelming and all consuming some times. Ride the wave and hopefully those around you will be tolerant. I have found people very tolerant of my cloudy headspace and forgetfulness " Aww Babs, that's because you're adorable even with cloudy headspace. I've got some wonderful tolerant folk around me but I do think that instead of being all or to them, sometimes I should just go for a walk or eat a cake. Not a slice. The whole thing. | |||
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"I am so like this, and it's got markedly worse over the last 6 months or so. I've found the best thing for me is to remove myself from all social media and think about everything I say before I say it because I can be vile when I'm like that. All social media? That could be a shout. Do you go cold turkey on WhatsApp as well or still keep some channels of communications open? Sending hugs Lily, I get how awful it is." I temporarily block all group chats (I'm not a fan of them anyway, and at that time of the month I just get irritated by inane messages), but I keep chat open to friends (although I generally don't send any first messages but will reply). I just find that being anti-social means I don't needlessly upset anyone or make myself feel worse | |||
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"Most of the month I'm relatively sane. Quite calm. Not the jealous sort. Bit too talkative but you know... normal. But once a month, for several days, I'm a hormonal mess. I could happily fuck a man senseless but then spend the next few hours sobbing that I'm not that attractive and how could anyone actually be interested in me? Or snap at him if he doesn't worship the ground I'm walking on. And these mood swings are tiring; in an ideal world I'd not communicate with anyone but I'm waaaay too needy to do that. And it's not fair to those I care about, I think they must eyeroll hard/be tired of it. What I'm asking basically - are any other women like this? How do you deal with this time? " I could have written this myself | |||
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"Awww Meli, you’re adorable throughout the month. Those who know you are more than happy to deal with your mood swings as we have them too. It doesn’t matter if they’re hormonal or emotional, we all go through them and helping each other out is the best way to go... " Perfectly said Incandescent. Jo.Xx | |||
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"I started taking Evening Primrose and Star Flower oil capsules in January and they seem to be balancing out my mood. Don't know whether that's the placebo effect or not but hell, it's working for me. Might be worth a try?" Yes, I'm going to have a look and try and order some tonight! Thank you for the suggestion, it's appreciated x | |||
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"Sorry OP, no advice here just plenty of empathy and sympathy." Empathy and sympathy is appreciated! Sending it back to you with a hug. | |||
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"This is probably one part of my period that isn't a horrendous mess (pun not... entirely intended. Sorry). It sucks, doesn't it? I have it a little bit some periods, and I can't predict when it's coming. I have my safe people to talk to about my feelings. But I also try to observe my feelings and not get caught up in them. That's hard work and probably is a skill that needs to be developed (I do it in conjunction with my other mental health coping strategies). Also making sure other physical and mental health issues are ok. I do know medical treatment for menstrual psychological issues is possible, and it's not worth dismissing depending on how much you suffer." I don't think it's something I'm quite severe enough for - loved ones work in that particular field and I'm apparently "not that bad". Not getting caught up in my feelings is a good shout, thank you Swing. x | |||
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