FabSwingers.com forum: Things I should know

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi all. I'm new here. I do have a friend who uses the forums but wanted to ask you all, what did you wish you knew about fab when you joined up? What should I expect?

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Nothing just be yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wish I knew about the message filters

I wish I knew how shitty people can be

I wish I knew that it tends to be the men who are bitchy, not the women.

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By *ockdowncplCouple
over a year ago

hackney

I wish I knew I’d have to see 100 pics of dicks a day just to find the few people we wanna meet.

Jay

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Most single ladies profiles are fake if they don’t meet you

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

Use the message filters so you don’t get overwhelmed.

Don’t be afraid to block anyone that’s a bit of a twat.

Send naked pictures to everyone that replies to your posts, we’ve all done it

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By *atricia ParnelWoman
over a year ago

In a town full of colours

Welcome

Filters are brilliant to displace persistent cockwombles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wish i had known how judgemental people can be on here .

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Most single ladies profiles are fake if they don’t meet you "

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

"Most single ladies profiles are fake if they don’t meet you

But we’ve met.......... and docked

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Most single ladies profiles are fake if they don’t meet you

But we’ve met.......... and made love

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Most single ladies profiles are fake if they don’t meet you "

Yes my friend told me that

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Be yourself, but be cautious. Don't trust too easily. Look for red flags. Trust your gut.

Be firm and be defensive. Don't take shit from people, delete, block, ignore. Be true to yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wish I knew about the forums from the beginning! Welcome

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I wish i had known the forums were fun. I avoided them for 2 years.

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

How common rejection is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People with nicest personas can be shitty in despicable ways if things dont go their way.

People can flood you with kindness even if you have never met. Without seeking anything to gain.

In short be ready to be surprised with a difference between peoples intentions, words and actions. Sometimes.

Mostly just enjoy and when you dont - log out.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"People with nicest personas can be shitty in despicable ways if things dont go their way.

People can flood you with kindness even if you have never met. Without seeking anything to gain.

In short be ready to be surprised with a difference between peoples intentions, words and actions. Sometimes.

Mostly just enjoy and when you dont - log out.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

"Most single ladies profiles are fake if they don’t meet you

Yes my friend told me that

Given your location I’d say I know who your friend is

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By *nimaginativeUsernameMan
over a year ago

Rochester, Kent

I wish I’d known how NICE people are on this site.

I came on Fabs not really expecting anything other than pervs and sordid activity. But I’m pleased to say (from my experience so far) everybody’s been lovely. Some of the forum threads can get a bit angsty, but I just find another friendlier one and I don’t get embroiled in the bitching. True, not everybody is keen on everybody else, but that’s just life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People with nicest personas can be shitty in despicable ways if things dont go their way.

People can flood you with kindness even if you have never met. Without seeking anything to gain.

In short be ready to be surprised with a difference between peoples intentions, words and actions. Sometimes.

Mostly just enjoy and when you dont - log out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Posting a thread in the forums can lead to your inbox being even more overwhelmed if your a single lady or sexy couple

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By *MARUBIXCUBEWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Most people are twisted fuckers unless its all about them.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Most people are twisted fuckers unless its all about them."

Wrong I'm not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi all. I'm new here. I do have a friend who uses the forums but wanted to ask you all, what did you wish you knew about fab when you joined up? What should I expect?"

I wish you came a bit earlier? Did it hurt when you fell from the heavens?

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Most single ladies profiles are fake if they don’t meet you

Yes my friend told me that

Given your location I’d say I know who your friend is

Pof

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

It's within the rules that no answer is a perfectly acceptable way of responding to a message.

You don't owe anyone your attention or a reason why you don't want to meet them, and although some do take the hump at having a message deleted with no response, most understand that it's just the way the site works.

When I joined I felt obliged to respond to every message but I got quite a bit of abuse from a couple of guys who were way outside my age range when I sent a polite thanks but no thanks. I wish I'd known how much easier it is to just delete any message from someone who patently hasn't read my profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Welcome

Filters are brilliant to displace persistent cockwombles

That did hurt my feelings!

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

I wish a lot more guys were more respectful towards ladies.

The site is not as easy as you may have thought, but the forums are definitely the place to make Friends - IMO.

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By *MARUBIXCUBEWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Most people are twisted fuckers unless its all about them.

Wrong I'm not "
Excellant

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"I wish a lot more guys were more respectful towards ladies.

The site is not as easy as you may have thought, but the forums are definitely the place to make Friends - IMO.

And ladies to men.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Most people are twisted fuckers unless its all about them.

Wrong I'm not Excellant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How common rejection is"

Fab taught you that?

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By *urse89Man
over a year ago

nantwich

Block delete Ignore the haters but don’t treat it like Facebook ?????????

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Hi all. I'm new here. I do have a friend who uses the forums but wanted to ask you all, what did you wish you knew about fab when you joined up? What should I expect?"

Bi-sexual single fem, then expect a lot of messages from the Male half of couples asking if you want to put on a show for him

I will send mine in a minute

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"I wish a lot more guys were more respectful towards ladies.

The site is not as easy as you may have thought, but the forums are definitely the place to make Friends - IMO.

And ladies to men."

This is also true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wsh I'd known about message filters when i first used the forums and blocked women straight away to prevent the nasty, bitchy messages i got from women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Prince of Fabrabrah is a fake. Don’t get chatting to him. He still has my credit card details! If you’re reading this, STOP BUYING DOG FOOD

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I wish a lot more guys were more respectful towards ladies.

The site is not as easy as you may have thought, but the forums are definitely the place to make Friends - IMO.

I get what you mean, I'd rather people respected me for who I am though not just because I'm a woman. I dont like two faced people

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"I wish a lot more guys were more respectful towards ladies.

The site is not as easy as you may have thought, but the forums are definitely the place to make Friends - IMO.

I get what you mean, I'd rather people respected me for who I am though not just because I'm a woman. I dont like two faced people "

Think yourself if they only have 2 faces. Lol.

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By *urse89Man
over a year ago

nantwich

[Removed by poster at 24/04/20 10:49:26]

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By *urse89Man
over a year ago

nantwich

"Prince of Fabrabrah is a fake. Don’t get chatting to him. He still has my credit card details! If you’re reading this, STOP BUYING DOG FOOD"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Most people are twisted fuckers unless its all about them."

I get that. I just got eye rolled because I suggested ordering a fake Chinese to some guys fake party

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most people are twisted fuckers unless its all about them.

I get that. I just got eye rolled because I suggested ordering a fake Chinese to some guys fake party"

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

Nothing is private unless you keep it to yourself.

You can’t trust people as you would normally be able to.

There is a lot of jealousy.

There is a lot of sniping.

There are people who believe they are better than others.

Safe sex doesn’t really mean that, lots of people have their special friends.

All that aside ...

You can get a lot of support here.

So many lovely people.

The forums will probably make you giggle and tut in equal measure.

Be yourself.

Never be put off posting because others dominate the forums.

It can be a great place if you allow it to be.

It’s nice to see you here and I hope you enjoy the experience. Just enjoy the ride and take it all with a pinch of salt

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By *MARUBIXCUBEWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Most people are twisted fuckers unless its all about them.

I get that. I just got eye rolled because I suggested ordering a fake Chinese to some guys fake party"
Tip of the ice berg baby you will start to feel slightly ill at the levals they resort to for attention ...thick skin is needed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most people are twisted fuckers unless its all about them.

I get that. I just got eye rolled because I suggested ordering a fake Chinese to some guys fake party

Oh dear

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By *MARUBIXCUBEWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

And always have cake to offer.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Most people are twisted fuckers unless its all about them.

I get that. I just got eye rolled because I suggested ordering a fake Chinese to some guys fake partyTip of the ice berg baby you will start to feel slightly ill at the levals they resort to for attention ...thick skin is needed."

Dont worry, I have very thick skin. Thank you

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By *MARUBIXCUBEWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"And always have cake to offer.

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Your such a sweety aint ya chuckles ***tickles your chin ***

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"And always have cake to offer.

Your such a sweety aint ya chuckles ***tickles your chin ***"

Yip.

(squeezes her bum)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you truly want to swing. Start by going to clubs. It’s a lot safer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Block delete will help out the unworthy.

Not all men send crap messages.

There are always new fake profiles.

Beware whom you send face pics too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People with nicest personas can be shitty in despicable ways if things dont go their way.

People can flood you with kindness even if you have never met. Without seeking anything to gain.

In short be ready to be surprised with a difference between peoples intentions, words and actions. Sometimes.

Mostly just enjoy and when you dont - log out.

This fits with my experience.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"Hi all. I'm new here. I do have a friend who uses the forums but wanted to ask you all, what did you wish you knew about fab when you joined up? What should I expect?"

Everyone’s experience is different. It depends entirely upon your expectations

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

It’s kind of like multiple different sites, with some crossover. Important to remember that

Forums/ chatting

Photograph people

Lifestyle people

People who just want to find/be found and meet and don’t do much else

All the fakes, time wasters , cams etc

Find near me for people who travel

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

"Most people are twisted fuckers unless its all about them."

Someone’s got their knickers in a twist

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I'm going to focus on the positives of fab because I think that if ever there was a good time to, now would be it (I mean sure, you get the territorial people who go a bit batshit crazy, the lies... oh the lies, the sad, the mad and the downright bad).

In my years on fab I've learned that people can truly be supportive and lovely. Even when it's not something that's not related to swinging, if you reach out, someone will reach back and help you. I've found that opening up to others can be so rewarding - I used to mistrust people and compartmentalise but when I stopped doing so I found love and friends who are very dear to me.

I think staying true to who you are, speaking up when you're unhappy and making the most of it (and if you go to socials, don't get really d*unk

) and you'll enjoy it. The fora are interesting, diverse, eyeroll inducing and frustrating but overall a great place to be. I hope your time on here is a good way, and I'd echo the sentiment of taking time away if it's not working for you. Have fun OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Search Google image is always handy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There’s a big reason why so many of the people are single.

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By *MARUBIXCUBEWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Most people are twisted fuckers unless its all about them.

Someone’s got their knickers in a twist

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Have they, who?

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By *twasntme11Woman
over a year ago

dublin

"How common rejection is"

Negative so called men looking for attention

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm going to focus on the positives of fab because I think that if ever there was a good time to, now would be it (I mean sure, you get the territorial people who go a bit batshit crazy, the lies... oh the lies, the sad, the mad and the downright bad).

I think staying true to who you are, speaking up when you're unhappy and making the most of it (and if you go to socials, don't get really d*unk

That's very sweet, thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t settle for second best. As a lady you have the pick of the men. Only go for the pinnacle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most people are twisted fuckers unless its all about them.

Dont worry, I have very thick skin. Thank you

Can I feel your skin? Would like to see if it is as think as mine!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Most people are twisted fuckers unless its all about them.

Dont worry, I have very thick skin. Thank you

Can I feel your skin? Would like to see if it is as think as mine!

That sounds like you want to make a jacket out of my skin or something

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most people are twisted fuckers unless its all about them.

Dont worry, I have very thick skin. Thank you

Can I feel your skin? Would like to see if it is as think as mine!

That sounds like you want to make a jacket out of my skin or something"

I might moisturize it for you!

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Visions of - silence of the lambs.

Lol

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"Don’t settle for second best. As a lady you have the pick of the men. Only go for the pinnacle. "

You would think that would be easy / simple with so much choice , how wrong you would be.

Most guys seem to think simply being horny and showing you their cock as proof entitles then to sex with beautiful intelligent women .....

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

I wish I knew that a polite 'No thank you' six years ago means that people can skip past our filters for the rest of eternity.

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By *oldyoudown41Man
over a year ago

caledonian

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By *oldyoudown41Man
over a year ago

caledonian

To be inundated with mail from men

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By *irenGuy70Man
over a year ago

Cirencester

"Most people are twisted fuckers unless its all about them.

I get that. I just got eye rolled because I suggested ordering a fake Chinese to some guys fake party"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People take fictional parties way too seriously

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"People take fictional parties way too seriously "

I've noticed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wish I'd known how unlikeable I am.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

There's a few divas and lamppost pissers.

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By *iss KissWoman
over a year ago

near Coventry

If you dont want an inbox flooded with messages from men. Pop your filters on.

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By *arkb73Man
over a year ago

Cheshire/Staffs

Don’t expect anything and prepare to be very disappointed in your fellow humans

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’ll meet better men at clubs compared to on here. This is good at keeping in touch with the people you meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's a few divas and lamppost pissers. "

Which are you?

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By *ark_NLMan
over a year ago

Netherlands / Merseyside

That the fab website is ancient and it needs an overhaul.

Doesn't support bigger monitor screens, all the content is locked into the middle.

You can't navigate left or right to cycle through someone's gallery, you have to keep on going backwards and forwards.

The website itself is very accessibility friendly if you have problems navigating with text.

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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

Take everything with a pinch of salt until u get to know them face to face

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"There's a few divas and lamppost pissers.

Which are you?

If you knew me you'd know I'm neither.

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"Hi all. I'm new here. I do have a friend who uses the forums but wanted to ask you all, what did you wish you knew about fab when you joined up? What should I expect?"

You've clearly got your head screwed on, and knowing someone else on here, means that you already have a good idea what to expect.

I would say that as a single lady looking for men, you would be better to block the lot and search for yourself.

Especially now, even I'm getting a fair few messages, and most guys seem to be looking for ladies under 45.

When lockdown is over clubs are a fun and safe way to meet.

In the meantime enjoy the forums and making new friends.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"There's a few divas and lamppost pissers.

Which are you?

If you knew me you'd know I'm neither. "

Mr Nice Guy

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Welcome to FAB!

I'd been on AN Other site before here so FAB has been a walk in the park.

Don't take yourself or the site or anything anyone says too seriously and you'll be ok OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Be yourself, but be cautious. Don't trust too easily. Look for red flags. Trust your gut.

Be firm and be defensive. Don't take shit from people, delete, block, ignore. Be true to yourself. "

This

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"There's a few divas and lamppost pissers.

Which are you?

If you knew me you'd know I'm neither.

Mr Nice Guy

Thank you DC. (I owe you a box of jaffa cakes - lol)

You are rather nice yourself. Xx

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

"Hi all. I'm new here. I do have a friend who uses the forums but wanted to ask you all, what did you wish you knew about fab when you joined up? What should I expect?"

Take your time and get to know people - we have found social meets to be invaluable! Be yourself, have an idea of your boundaries, and have fun

Mrs TMN x

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By *ulahlollipopWoman
over a year ago

Reading/London

"Most single ladies profiles are fake if they don’t meet you "

Ain’t no ladies meeting just now though

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