FabSwingers.com forum: mf couple at club-she plays and he dont

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

last year i had a fwb who went to clubs with me.one club we attended was quite friendly with nice people.on one occasion we got chatting to a couple who went regular.we all went into the sauna where my fwb and the other lady started to kiss. We then all went into a private room. My fwb and the lady played, and me and the other man did also. My fwb asked me for a condom and i gave him one.he and the lady then had sex.i was giving her partner a blow job and when he was hard i then got out a condom.but he then told me that he didnt like condoms, so therefore woudnt have sex with other females as he only went bareback with hes partner. I then decided to leave them to it and find a man who would have sex with me with a condom, and i did. However it puzzles me why the couple meet couples knowing the situation regarding the male,because sooner or later an argument would ensure because of the situation with the male.plus my partner and her were both i felt insensitive here.and am certain they are some males who would not have played with the female if their partner was not going to play with the other man through no fault of her own?

By *uliaChrisCouple
over a year ago

westerham

Reads like your fwb had already started having sex by the time the issue came up? Bit late then.

Although ideally everyone agrees boundaries etc before playing, not unreasonable to expect if full sex is going to happen that condoms are used, I would blame the bareback guy for the situation, not your fwb.

By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

I've known couples where only one party plays or will have full sex with someone else. It's not unusual.

As with anything swinging related it's always a good idea to make it known first though. Prevents any surprises.