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By *acey_Red OP Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I've often thought about this as a switch. When I'm submissive to a man, 99% of the time he's strong enough to physically overpower me.

Obviously when I pin a man down, he's just allowing me to as he could likely throw me off with ease. Does this shatter the illusion for you or is it the act of allowing the woman to be in charge that does it for you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve never experienced a dominant woman.

I do like the thought of it but yes I’m reality she’d need to be Wonder Woman to pin me so I’d have to allow her to do it.

I do think that my submission to her would keep me in the mindset so no I don’t think it’d ruin it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d never considered it from the pov of ‘I could get out of this if I wanted to’ but maybe because you get really invested in the situation?

Maybe I’m doing it wrong lmao.

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By *ill-Ian KissesCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere over there

"I've often thought about this as a switch. When I'm submissive to a man, 99% of the time he's strong enough to physically overpower me.

I like to use restraints rather than me physically hold them; then that way their strength is taken out of the equation and I can just focus on being in Domme mode.

Millie x

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)

"I've often thought about this as a switch. When I'm submissive to a man, 99% of the time he's strong enough to physically overpower me.

I just get her to tie me up, hand cuff me, spreader bar, blind fold. You can soon feel pretty vulnerable.

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By *acey_Red OP Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I’ve never experienced a dominant woman.

I do like the thought of it but yes I’m reality she’d need to be Wonder Woman to pin me so I’d have to allow her to do it.

I do think that my submission to her would keep me in the mindset so no I don’t think it’d ruin it."

Thanks for your thoughts. Mindset certainly can be powerful

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By *acey_Red OP Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I’d never considered it from the pov of ‘I could get out of this if I wanted to’ but maybe because you get really invested in the situation?

Maybe I’m doing it wrong lmao. "

I don't think you're doing it wrong at all. If anything I think if you're not considering escaping then you're doing it right

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

I’d have to restrain them personally, their vulnerability just adding to the anticipation as the teasing starts

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By *acey_Red OP Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I've often thought about this as a switch. When I'm submissive to a man, 99% of the time he's strong enough to physically overpower me.

I like to use restraints rather than me physically hold them; then that way their strength is taken out of the equation and I can just focus on being in Domme mode.

Millie x"

Yeah I have used restraints or rope when having a proper session but sometimes you just want a spur of the moment fuck on the sofa

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By *acey_Red OP Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I've often thought about this as a switch. When I'm submissive to a man, 99% of the time he's strong enough to physically overpower me.

I just get her to tie me up, hand cuff me, spreader bar, blind fold. You can soon feel pretty vulnerable."

Believe me, I love all that. I'm speaking more for a spur of the moment quickie.

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By *acey_Red OP Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I’d have to restrain them personally, their vulnerability just adding to the anticipation as the teasing starts "

Oh I love to tease. Almost to the point of cruelty

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)

"I've often thought about this as a switch. When I'm submissive to a man, 99% of the time he's strong enough to physically overpower me.

I just get her to tie me up, hand cuff me, spreader bar, blind fold. You can soon feel pretty vulnerable.

Believe me, I love all that. I'm speaking more for a spur of the moment quickie."

Oh ok, don't think I've ever been sub for a quickie. I think I would struggle with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's all in the mind

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By *llaboutthewifeCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

I love being in charge, of both of them!

CFNM is great for this I find.

Oh, you got me horny now!

Jo x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Submission isn't about overpowering. It's in the mind.

Sure restraints can have a place but it's only a small part of it.

I adore to be in control and I get off on reactions and someones willingness to give themselves to me. It's an honor to be trusted in that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve never had a problem and I do enjoy restraining my lovers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not into being tied up but quite happy to let the lady pin me down

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By *acey_Red OP Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I've often thought about this as a switch. When I'm submissive to a man, 99% of the time he's strong enough to physically overpower me.

I just get her to tie me up, hand cuff me, spreader bar, blind fold. You can soon feel pretty vulnerable.

Believe me, I love all that. I'm speaking more for a spur of the moment quickie.

Oh ok, don't think I've ever been sub for a quickie. I think I would struggle with it."

That's fair enough

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By *acey_Red OP Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"It's all in the mind "

Believe me I get that. I think my question is more if the knowledge you could just push them off affects the mindset.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d never experienced any woman who physically dominated me until last year. I’d never been pinned by a woman before and I loved the feeling of submission. It helped me come to the conclusion that I too am a switch and will explore this more after lockdown.

Whether I could have thrown her off never entered my head as I was enjoying letting go and allowing her to do what she wanted to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's all in the mind

Believe me I get that. I think my question is more if the knowledge you could just push them off affects the mindset."

I don't think that would come into my mind. However I've never met a dominant lady because they're like an endangered species to find

so I don't know for sure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never really experienced it but it's one of my fantasies to have a woman push me around the bedroom a little and demand stuff from me! Maybe take the odd thump!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

'Restrain' their mind.

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By *acey_Red OP Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I'm not into being tied up but quite happy to let the lady pin me down"

What is it about it you like? Is it more that you just find them doing it hot or enjoy that they want to do it as obviously they couldn't literally hold you down in any real way.

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By *acey_Red OP Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I’d never experienced any woman who physically dominated me until last year. I’d never been pinned by a woman before and I loved the feeling of submission. It helped me come to the conclusion that I too am a switch and will explore this more after lockdown.

Whether I could have thrown her off never entered my head as I was enjoying letting go and allowing her to do what she wanted to me."

That makes sense. Because you're enjoying it and want it the thought of throwing her off doesn't even enter your head? Therefore the fact you could is irrelevant?

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By *acey_Red OP Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"It's all in the mind

Believe me I get that. I think my question is more if the knowledge you could just push them off affects the mindset.

I don't think that would come into my mind. However I've never met a dominant lady because they're like an endangered species to find

so I don't know for sure. "

Do I need a WWF appeal?

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By *acey_Red OP Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I've never really experienced it but it's one of my fantasies to have a woman push me around the bedroom a little and demand stuff from me! Maybe take the odd thump!

Sounds hot

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

"I’d have to restrain them personally, their vulnerability just adding to the anticipation as the teasing starts

Oh I love to tease. Almost to the point of cruelty

It is taking it that extra step and I love watching their reaction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not into being tied up but quite happy to let the lady pin me down

What is it about it you like? Is it more that you just find them doing it hot or enjoy that they want to do it as obviously they couldn't literally hold you down in any real way."

For me it comes across as being confident in what they like and want to do, that in itself is hot.

It's also hot knowing I can say I've had enough and then just pick you up and turn you over

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

London

"'Restrain' their mind."

This is it. I switch, and when subbing it's all about transferring that control mentally, not physically.

It's like a little, well, switch in the brain that says 'you're now in obey mode'. Mind set is surprisingly powerful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whether I could have thrown her off never entered my head as I was enjoying letting go and allowing her to do what she wanted to me.

That makes sense. Because you're enjoying it and want it the thought of throwing her off doesn't even enter your head? Therefore the fact you could is irrelevant?"
Exactly. I was just lost in the moment. After the initial surprise I simply let go

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By *acey_Red OP Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I’d have to restrain them personally, their vulnerability just adding to the anticipation as the teasing starts

Oh I love to tease. Almost to the point of cruelty

It is taking it that extra step and I love watching their reaction

The begging looks and the lip biting *fans self*

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

"I’d have to restrain them personally, their vulnerability just adding to the anticipation as the teasing starts

Oh I love to tease. Almost to the point of cruelty

It is taking it that extra step and I love watching their reaction

The begging looks and the lip biting *fans self*"

and the accompanying sounds

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By *acey_Red OP Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I'm not into being tied up but quite happy to let the lady pin me down

What is it about it you like? Is it more that you just find them doing it hot or enjoy that they want to do it as obviously they couldn't literally hold you down in any real way.

For me it comes across as being confident in what they like and want to do, that in itself is hot.

It's also hot knowing I can say I've had enough and then just pick you up and turn you over

I totally get what you mean! That's definitely a part of what makes Dominant women hot for me too.

Haha ooo I do love a bit of a battle for control

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would love it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP I like to think I’m a big strong girl and I’m the quickie situation I could most definitely take control and pin a man down and have my wicked way. It’s a mixture of mind, positioning and tease. But my big thighs and height probably help me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"'Restrain' their mind.

This is it. I switch, and when subbing it's all about transferring that control mentally, not physically.

It's like a little, well, switch in the brain that says 'you're now in obey mode'. Mind set is surprisingly powerful."

Flicking the switch is the only power required, the rest is just window dressing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like a woman to express what she wants, and take an active part....

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"I've often thought about this as a switch. When I'm submissive to a man, 99% of the time he's strong enough to physically overpower me.

I think it's just the act itself where it's as if you're in charge.

On top riding while pinning my arms by the side of my head is awesome

Of course I could throw you off but why would I

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've often thought about this as a switch. When I'm submissive to a man, 99% of the time he's strong enough to physically overpower me.

I think it's just the act itself where it's as if you're in charge.

On top riding while pinning my arms by the side of my head is awesome

Of course I could throw you off but why would I

In my job i have overpowered men twice my size and trust me....I have never been thrown off. Technique not brute strength

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's what rope is for

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"I've often thought about this as a switch. When I'm submissive to a man, 99% of the time he's strong enough to physically overpower me.

I think it's just the act itself where it's as if you're in charge.

On top riding while pinning my arms by the side of my head is awesome

Of course I could throw you off but why would I

In my job i have overpowered men twice my size and trust me....I have never been thrown off. Technique not brute strength

I think the question should be why would anyone be trying to throw you off mid cow girl ride

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've often thought about this as a switch. When I'm submissive to a man, 99% of the time he's strong enough to physically overpower me.

I think it's just the act itself where it's as if you're in charge.

On top riding while pinning my arms by the side of my head is awesome

Of course I could throw you off but why would I

In my job i have overpowered men twice my size and trust me....I have never been thrown off. Technique not brute strength

I think the question should be why would anyone be trying to throw you off mid cow girl ride

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Throw you off OP.

Why would I ever consider that

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By *ill-Ian KissesCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere over there

"I've often thought about this as a switch. When I'm submissive to a man, 99% of the time he's strong enough to physically overpower me.

I think it's just the act itself where it's as if you're in charge.

On top riding while pinning my arms by the side of my head is awesome

Of course I could throw you off but why would I

In my job i have overpowered men twice my size and trust me....I have never been thrown off. Technique not brute strength

I can agree with this; I used to do Tae-Kwon Do, which is a self defence martial art and there was a technique to get out of being pinned down.

For me, sensory deprivation is the ultimate submission as I am Deaf and to give up my hearing aid/hearing and be blindfolded means I’m fully trusting someone; so it’s rare (even with Ian) so I definitely prefer being in Domme mode & in control. X

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"'Restrain' their mind."

This completely for me - for me to be submissive, I need to "feel" submissive and that comes from the mind not physicality.

Submission isn't about being pinned down against your will, it's about being pinned down because you *want* to be - so strength doesn't enter into it.

If it's "kink play" without the D/s angle then of course it's different but then it's a mutual equal thing so using physical strength to overcome something isn't a consideration then either.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"'Restrain' their mind.

This completely for me - for me to be submissive, I need to "feel" submissive and that comes from the mind not physicality.

Submission isn't about being pinned down against your will, it's about being pinned down because you *want* to be - so strength doesn't enter into it.

If it's "kink play" without the D/s angle then of course it's different but then it's a mutual equal thing so using physical strength to overcome something isn't a consideration then either."

You always phrase things so well GM

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