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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So, I have two lawns on the front of my house, one of which merges with nextdoor, in the sense that there's no separation by way of a flower bed, fence or hedge etc. Since moving here a few years ago I've always cut the lawn which merges with my neighbour. I used to have a gardener as I simply didn't have time to mow the lawn. The gardener would also do my neighbours side but I'd pay as he would do my front two lawns and my rear lawn and I thoughy there was no point in divvying up what I should pay and what my neighbour should pay as it was a matter of pounds. Over a period of time I began to mow the lawns and I'd do my neighbours side too. We've always been friendly with one another in terms of saying hi and waving etc but they keep themselves to themselves and I do the same.

About two weeks ago I came home and my neighbour had mowed the lawn, first time in 5 years. He did his side and left my side! Cheeky sod I thought. I wouldn't expect him to do my other lawn on the front but atleast he could have done the part which merges into one. I was actually shocked and I felt stupid for doing his lawn all these years. It got my back up a bit that did.

Would I seem petty now by digging out a flower bed in the lawn to separate my lawn from thiers? Is it fair for him to do that? Could any of you lovely Fabbers see yourself doing what he did? Would any Fabbers feel a bit annoyed and peed off like I did?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd be kicking his door in and giving him slap! Sounds like hes a right selfish and ignorant cunt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ew

Okay yeah he didn’t HAVE to do your lawn, but come on

Fuck it. Put a giant fence up and shit on his lawn

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By *uke OzadeMan
over a year ago

Ho Chi Minge City

He’s a class A bellend so do what you like now OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So, I have two lawns on the front of my house, one of which merges with nextdoor, in the sense that there's no separation by way of a flower bed, fence or hedge etc. Since moving here a few years ago I've always cut the lawn which merges with my neighbour. I used to have a gardener as I simply didn't have time to mow the lawn. The gardener would also do my neighbours side but I'd pay as he would do my front two lawns and my rear lawn and I thoughy there was no point in divvying up what I should pay and what my neighbour should pay as it was a matter of pounds. Over a period of time I began to mow the lawns and I'd do my neighbours side too. We've always been friendly with one another in terms of saying hi and waving etc but they keep themselves to themselves and I do the same.

About two weeks ago I came home and my neighbour had mowed the lawn, first time in 5 years. He did his side and left my side! Cheeky sod I thought. I wouldn't expect him to do my other lawn on the front but atleast he could have done the part which merges into one. I was actually shocked and I felt stupid for doing his lawn all these years. It got my back up a bit that did.

Would I seem petty now by digging out a flower bed in the lawn to separate my lawn from thiers? Is it fair for him to do that? Could any of you lovely Fabbers see yourself doing what he did? Would any Fabbers feel a bit annoyed and peed off like I did?"
You think this is a problem, you should meet the idiots next to me. Errect a 6 foot fence.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm glad it's not just me that felt a bit cringe. I know there's a few a**holes out there but this is specialist. Proper bellend I thought.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's certainly not very neighbourly of him, but I don't think he deserves a slap for it

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By *uckOfTheBayMan
over a year ago

Mold

He's just wanting to socially isolate himself from you

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By *mberWoman
over a year ago

Preston

He's a dick. I'd have said something.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm glad it's not just me that felt a bit cringe. I know there's a few a**holes out there but this is specialist. Proper bellend I thought. "

Make a joke out of it next time you see him, see if the penny drops.

I'd definitely have a word...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

No slaps required haha. I also think if I'd have said something I'd have got worked up and had a proper go at him with a flurry of choice words haha. Instead I'm going to dig out a flower bed and divide the lawn up that way. That'll get his back up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe - just maybe, his thought process was....."I really should mow my neighbour's lawn because he has kindly mowed mine for years, but what if he's really into gardening and me mowing his lawn for him will take away the small pleasure he would get to be outside in this lovely weather tending to his own garden".

Maybe.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

Some people are a bit selfish, maybe he was a bit short of time, perhaps he didn’t think his mower was up to your standards.

Let the hate wash over you - at the very least he’s saved you the trouble of doing his for a week or two

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Maybe - just maybe, his thought process was....."I really should mow my neighbour's lawn because he has kindly mowed mine for years, but what if he's really into gardening and me mowing his lawn for him will take away the small pleasure he would get to be outside in this lovely weather tending to his own garden".

Maybe. "

Haha, maybe. But if he thought that he was very mistaken lol

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By *picknspanMan
over a year ago

North West Leeds

Next time cut some of his lawn and make it look ridiculous

Point made perhaps he/she might realise....

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford


"Maybe - just maybe, his thought process was....."I really should mow my neighbour's lawn because he has kindly mowed mine for years, but what if he's really into gardening and me mowing his lawn for him will take away the small pleasure he would get to be outside in this lovely weather tending to his own garden".

Maybe.

Haha, maybe. But if he thought that he was very mistaken lol "

You’re going to punish him for not being psychic?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Some people are a bit selfish, maybe he was a bit short of time, perhaps he didn’t think his mower was up to your standards.

Let the hate wash over you - at the very least he’s saved you the trouble of doing his for a week or two "

Haha. In a small way he's done me a favour and spurred me on more to divide the lawn up. Often while I'm mowing his side I think to myself that he's never even popped his head out the window and said thanks or said thanks the next time he's seen me.

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By *mberWoman
over a year ago

Preston


"Next time cut some of his lawn and make it look ridiculous

Point made perhaps he/she might realise...."

Like a penis crop circle?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It really wouldn't bother me at all, I'd still cut his bit when I did the mowing - but maybe with some artistic topiary

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People are arses, let it go. Be happy... Maybe pee on it after midnight

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just mow your side next side and leave his. Or mow the word knob in his side.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Next time cut some of his lawn and make it look ridiculous

Point made perhaps he/she might realise...."

That's brilliant. I might actually do that. Just take a small chuck out of his side and leave the remaining 99%

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By *picknspanMan
over a year ago

North West Leeds

Like the idea of a penis crop circle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stop cutting his grass if it's bothering you so much

All the other stuff is just really petty

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"People are arses, let it go. Be happy... Maybe pee on it after midnight "

Very tempted

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick

Rise above it, keep cutting his side and some day the penny will drop with him. Dont fall out with your neighbour, you'll only make your own life miserable

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Stop cutting his grass if it's bothering you so much

All the other stuff is just really petty"

We're all just chatting, petty it maybe but it's just banter and conversation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd just start doing your own lawn and not bother doing his anymore, dont be angry or make a fuss its not worth your time or energy. If you want to do a flower bed do it but If you cant be asked dont. You could dig a moat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did you ever have any kind of agreement?

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By *mberWoman
over a year ago

Preston

I don't think it's worth falling out over in all seriousness. But I wouldn't continue to cut his grass.

If he'd said thanks at any point or if he'd not cut it at all, then fine. But he didn't.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Next time I may just mow his side and leave mine...that'll confuse the f*** out of him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Next time I may just mow his side and leave mine...that'll confuse the f*** out of him "

Wait, which side are you gonna pee on

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By *radleywigginsMan
over a year ago

northwest

How about asking something like ‘I was just about to mow my lawn and it seems stupid not to do yours at the same time, would you be awfully offended if I did?’

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Did you ever have any kind of agreement?"

No never. The first time it was ever cut by me was not long after I moved here. I felt stupid doing my bit and not his so I went ahead and did it. After that he never said anything and I thought if he's not moaned I'll continue doing it, so when I had a gardener I told him to do it all. It seems now that it was an expectation that I'd be doing his lawn. This thread isn't me kicking off, it's more a case of wow, can people really do that and not feel the tiniest bit of a pisstaker.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Next time cut some of his lawn and make it look ridiculous

Point made perhaps he/she might realise....

Like a penis crop circle?"

I was thinking he could wait until his neighbours side is grown thick enough to mow the words ARSEHOLE into his neighbours side of the lawn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

soon as you lose your temper the neighbour has won.

always rem_mber. more than one way to skin a cat.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Next time I may just mow his side and leave mine...that'll confuse the f*** out of him

Wait, which side are you gonna pee on "

Haha, brilliant. He'll be mega confused if I then pee'd on my side

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Total cockwomble, post a turd through letterbox

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Total cockwomble, post a turd through letterbox"

I might just post the grass cuttings through his door instead

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

Maybe his mower lead isn’t long enough to reach your side, next time your at the shops get an extension lead and leave it on his doorstep

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By *radleywigginsMan
over a year ago

northwest

Tarmac it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Did you ever have any kind of agreement?

No never. The first time it was ever cut by me was not long after I moved here. I felt stupid doing my bit and not his so I went ahead and did it. After that he never said anything and I thought if he's not moaned I'll continue doing it, so when I had a gardener I told him to do it all. It seems now that it was an expectation that I'd be doing his lawn. This thread isn't me kicking off, it's more a case of wow, can people really do that and not feel the tiniest bit of a pisstaker. "

i used to do my neighbours bit of grass on the verge when i did mine (separated by a path).. And then I'd do his front lawn , 'cos he was knocking on a bit (i don't have a front lawn).. And he used to come out to inspect and point out bits I'd missed

Miss that fucker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Glyphosate the word c@#t into his lawn

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By *ungscotsman26Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

Aw absolute grade A bellend. Especially since you have been paying / doing their side for years!

Have a similar situation out the front of my house where there is a very small section of grass for me and my neighbour with no divide. Luckily we are not arseholes and whoever happens to be cutting it at the time will do the full thing. Otherwise you would literally have a harder time trying to do a straight line down the middle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Did you ever have any kind of agreement?

No never. The first time it was ever cut by me was not long after I moved here. I felt stupid doing my bit and not his so I went ahead and did it. After that he never said anything and I thought if he's not moaned I'll continue doing it, so when I had a gardener I told him to do it all. It seems now that it was an expectation that I'd be doing his lawn. This thread isn't me kicking off, it's more a case of wow, can people really do that and not feel the tiniest bit of a pisstaker. "

Saw right. He's made a statement to the effect that it would appear he will now attend to his side. That's good enough for any neighbours.

Don't let it get your goat. Your heart is in the right place, but his plot is his responsibility.

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By *ungscotsman26Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

But also it's not worth getting into a big dispute about. So from now on just ignore his side. And if you would like some plant anyway then here's your motivation for putting some in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tarmac it?"

Tarmac and a fence end of story

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Aw absolute grade A bellend. Especially since you have been paying / doing their side for years!

Have a similar situation out the front of my house where there is a very small section of grass for me and my neighbour with no divide. Luckily we are not arseholes and whoever happens to be cutting it at the time will do the full thing. Otherwise you would literally have a harder time trying to do a straight line down the middle "

That's civil...whoever is out cutting it will cut both sides. This bellend waits for me to cut it bar two weeks ago where he made his statement

I rem_mber a year back I cut the lawns and then two weeks later I went away for two weeks. I came back and the lawn hadn't been cut. I was snowed under with work once back from my hols so I didn't have time to mow it. It wasn't until 5 fives since I cut it last that it got cut again. The both of them are lazy sods.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"But also it's not worth getting into a big dispute about. So from now on just ignore his side. And if you would like some plant anyway then here's your motivation for putting some in "

I'll do exactly that pal, after I've pee'd all over his side haha

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

I’d dig a flower bed and plant anti personal mines in it ... the human race never shocks me anymore ...... the fucking selfishness of some is unbelievable... fuck em, plant a load of fur trees

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By *utonguy2023Man
over a year ago

luton

The phrase Wanker springs to mind

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By *ungscotsman26Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

Don't plant trees or a hedge though you will end up having to cut that for them too hahahaah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Selfish twunt I wouldn't do their side anymore and put a little boarder up

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Just don't do his lawn any more.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"Next time I may just mow his side and leave mine...that'll confuse the f*** out of him "

Ask him if he would like to borrow YOUR lawnmower when he decides to mow HIS lawn

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By *aptain VMan
over a year ago

Birstall, Leicester

Just stick to your side of the property.... you had no obligation to do his side

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

people get all violent over a lawn.

fuck me im glad I don't live next to you lot.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"people get all violent over a lawn.

fuck me im glad I don't live next to you lot.

"
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it's lockdown, it's getting to people

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By *usie pTV/TS
over a year ago

taunton

None so queer as folks lol, don't let it bother you absolutely not worth it, you really don't want bad blood between neighbours there would be no winners.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's a dick move on his part, stick a fence in but ask him if it's alright first or prob moan that you've took about a few inches of his garden being lost. If hes not alright with it just stick it on your boundary.

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By *ark ph0enixWoman
over a year ago

Teesside

Just a thought. Did he now the lawn himself? Could a family m_mber or friend have done it for him and if so perhaps they were unaware of all the years you had done it for him.

If he did it himself then he's a tosser. Dobt bother putting a separation in between the lawns. Just do what he did and leave his side alone to make the point clear.

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

Unfortunately people don’t see things that you see. don’t worry about it just do your side from now on simple as this.

Just keep the peace and you was just being a good person

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Yes it would be petty. It would not show you in a good light.

Knock on his door and ask him if he wants to make an agreement with you for each of you to take it in turn to cut the front lawn.

Or just cut your own grass in future.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Stop cutting his grass if it's bothering you so much

All the other stuff is just really petty"

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Having gone back and read all of the thread I have to tell you O.P. you are the problem.

1. You never asked him if you could trespass on his property.

2. You never asked him if he wanted his grass cutting.

3. Now that he hasn't cut yours you think HE owes you something.

Think about it.

If you feel stupid for doing his lawn all those times then it shows you didn't do it out of neighbourliness.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford


"Yes it would be petty. It would not show you in a good light.

Knock on his door and ask him if he wants to make an agreement with you for each of you to take it in turn to cut the front lawn.

Or just cut your own grass in future.

"

What, talk to someone about an issue? Get it resolved in 30 seconds with zero animosity and a growing sense of wellbeing towards your neighbour?

Sounds bollocks to me, much better to devise something that’s elaborate, expensive and time consuming that will only end in everyone being annoyed

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Sorry Adam you are right. I think a punch should be thrown, a 12 foot barbed wire fence erected - WITH turrets and the odd machine gun ....... and some cams...... there's gotta be cams.

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By *uriousblondwifeCouple
over a year ago

wickford

He obviously needs a good bunk up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So, I have two lawns on the front of my house, one of which merges with nextdoor, in the sense that there's no separation by way of a flower bed, fence or hedge etc. Since moving here a few years ago I've always cut the lawn which merges with my neighbour. I used to have a gardener as I simply didn't have time to mow the lawn. The gardener would also do my neighbours side but I'd pay as he would do my front two lawns and my rear lawn and I thoughy there was no point in divvying up what I should pay and what my neighbour should pay as it was a matter of pounds. Over a period of time I began to mow the lawns and I'd do my neighbours side too. We've always been friendly with one another in terms of saying hi and waving etc but they keep themselves to themselves and I do the same.

About two weeks ago I came home and my neighbour had mowed the lawn, first time in 5 years. He did his side and left my side! Cheeky sod I thought. I wouldn't expect him to do my other lawn on the front but atleast he could have done the part which merges into one. I was actually shocked and I felt stupid for doing his lawn all these years. It got my back up a bit that did.

Would I seem petty now by digging out a flower bed in the lawn to separate my lawn from thiers? Is it fair for him to do that? Could any of you lovely Fabbers see yourself doing what he did? Would any Fabbers feel a bit annoyed and peed off like I did?"

A fence would be put up straightaway I’m afraid leave them to it

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By *arlomaleMan
over a year ago

darlington

When I changed my facia and soffits and gutters I noticed my elderly neighbours had seen better days so I said when I do mine shall I do yours ive already got the tower scaffolding and I’ll do it for nothing if you buy the materials which came to £70 I was in the process of putting my house up for sale and thought nextdoors house looked a bit rundown and may put of potential buyers of my house anyway my point is if you’re neighbours can’t be bothered to cut the grass it makes yours look untidy so for me I’d just keep cutting it nothing worse than looking at an untidy garden

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would simply only mow my own side and not touch any of his side at all. Just treat him how he's treated you. It'll be a silent fuck you for not mowing my side.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"When I changed my facia and soffits and gutters I noticed my elderly neighbours had seen better days so I said when I do mine shall I do yours ive already got the tower scaffolding and I’ll do it for nothing if you buy the materials which came to £70 I was in the process of putting my house up for sale and thought nextdoors house looked a bit rundown and may put of potential buyers of my house anyway my point is if you’re neighbours can’t be bothered to cut the grass it makes yours look untidy so for me I’d just keep cutting it nothing worse than looking at an untidy garden "

Commendable....... xx Everyone should have neighbours like you.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet


"Stop cutting his grass if it's bothering you so much

All the other stuff is just really petty"

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By *miles4himandmeCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Weedoll is better

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By *arlomaleMan
over a year ago

darlington


"When I changed my facia and soffits and gutters I noticed my elderly neighbours had seen better days so I said when I do mine shall I do yours ive already got the tower scaffolding and I’ll do it for nothing if you buy the materials which came to £70 I was in the process of putting my house up for sale and thought nextdoors house looked a bit rundown and may put of potential buyers of my house anyway my point is if you’re neighbours can’t be bothered to cut the grass it makes yours look untidy so for me I’d just keep cutting it nothing worse than looking at an untidy garden

Commendable....... xx Everyone should have neighbours like you."
although it was a nice gesture by me I suppose there was an ulterior motive as i didn’t want to put of any potential buyers but in all honesty even if I wasn’t selling I’d of offered as I said it made out semis look tidier with new facia and soffits and gutters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You think thats bad. My neighbour is 87 and the lazy cow hasn't got her milk in for 2 weeks.

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By *vilgasamWoman
over a year ago

The dot in the i

Ok, I’m probably going to be slammed here but I disagree, I’d keep going and mowing his too, I wouldn’t mention anything about it and carry on but now and again I’d drop a comment about the lawns and make him wonder, let a seed grow, his mind will pull a lot better tricks on him than I could think of, let him torture himself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn’t cut there’s again , put the flowerbed idea into practice then you don’t have to cut he’s

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

He might like his lawn to be like a summer meadow, with meadow flowers to attract butterflies and nectar seeking insects.

He is probably thinking, what gives next door the audacity to cut my meadow with out asking.

You out to dominate him OP?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think hes trying to signal that he would like you to swing with him.lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Having gone back and read all of the thread I have to tell you O.P. you are the problem.

1. You never asked him if you could trespass on his property.

2. You never asked him if he wanted his grass cutting.

3. Now that he hasn't cut yours you think HE owes you something.

Think about it.

If you feel stupid for doing his lawn all those times then it shows you didn't do it out of neighbourliness. "

Haha, this is brilliant. So it turns out I'm the problem.

Firstly if he thought I was trespassing then he'd have said something in 5+ years.

Secondly, I didn't ask him. 9 times out of 10 people would be grateful someone else mowed thier lawn.

Thirdly, he owes me nothing. I'm not sure when I said he did.

I'm now beginning to think you're the miserable sod who lives next door to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Weed killer....draw a massive spunking cock on his side.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"Having gone back and read all of the thread I have to tell you O.P. you are the problem.

1. You never asked him if you could trespass on his property.

2. You never asked him if he wanted his grass cutting.

3. Now that he hasn't cut yours you think HE owes you something.

Think about it.

If you feel stupid for doing his lawn all those times then it shows you didn't do it out of neighbourliness.

Haha, this is brilliant. So it turns out I'm the problem.

Firstly if he thought I was trespassing then he'd have said something in 5+ years.

Secondly, I didn't ask him. 9 times out of 10 people would be grateful someone else mowed thier lawn.

Thirdly, he owes me nothing. I'm not sure when I said he did.

I'm now beginning to think you're the miserable sod who lives next door to me "

Ha ha, miserable sod, is that how you see him?

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

Sounds like he's a cunt.

Well next time just don't do his.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"Sounds like he's a cunt.

Well next time just don't do his."

He doesn’t need to, he does his own given the chance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having gone back and read all of the thread I have to tell you O.P. you are the problem.

1. You never asked him if you could trespass on his property.

2. You never asked him if he wanted his grass cutting.

3. Now that he hasn't cut yours you think HE owes you something.

Think about it.

If you feel stupid for doing his lawn all those times then it shows you didn't do it out of neighbourliness.

Haha, this is brilliant. So it turns out I'm the problem.

Firstly if he thought I was trespassing then he'd have said something in 5+ years.

Secondly, I didn't ask him. 9 times out of 10 people would be grateful someone else mowed thier lawn.

Thirdly, he owes me nothing. I'm not sure when I said he did.

I'm now beginning to think you're the miserable sod who lives next door to me "

Careful, you're beginning to let the good guy mask slip

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Having gone back and read all of the thread I have to tell you O.P. you are the problem.

1. You never asked him if you could trespass on his property.

2. You never asked him if he wanted his grass cutting.

3. Now that he hasn't cut yours you think HE owes you something.

Think about it.

If you feel stupid for doing his lawn all those times then it shows you didn't do it out of neighbourliness.

Haha, this is brilliant. So it turns out I'm the problem.

Firstly if he thought I was trespassing then he'd have said something in 5+ years.

Secondly, I didn't ask him. 9 times out of 10 people would be grateful someone else mowed thier lawn.

Thirdly, he owes me nothing. I'm not sure when I said he did.

I'm now beginning to think you're the miserable sod who lives next door to me

Ha ha, miserable sod, is that how you see him?"

He and his wife are miserable sods. Lol. On the cul de sac I live in there's only 6 houses and through the summer we have BBQs in someone's garden, we've had a party once and generally the community spirit is brill. They hardly make any effort to join us and on the odd occasion they have joined he's been moaning about something or he's just killed the mood in some way lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Having gone back and read all of the thread I have to tell you O.P. you are the problem.

1. You never asked him if you could trespass on his property.

2. You never asked him if he wanted his grass cutting.

3. Now that he hasn't cut yours you think HE owes you something.

Think about it.

If you feel stupid for doing his lawn all those times then it shows you didn't do it out of neighbourliness.

Haha, this is brilliant. So it turns out I'm the problem.

Firstly if he thought I was trespassing then he'd have said something in 5+ years.

Secondly, I didn't ask him. 9 times out of 10 people would be grateful someone else mowed thier lawn.

Thirdly, he owes me nothing. I'm not sure when I said he did.

I'm now beginning to think you're the miserable sod who lives next door to me

Careful, you're beginning to let the good guy mask slip "

Eeek lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd be kicking his door in and giving him slap! Sounds like hes a right selfish and ignorant cunt."

Wow that's a very extreme reaction!

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"Having gone back and read all of the thread I have to tell you O.P. you are the problem.

1. You never asked him if you could trespass on his property.

2. You never asked him if he wanted his grass cutting.

3. Now that he hasn't cut yours you think HE owes you something.

Think about it.

If you feel stupid for doing his lawn all those times then it shows you didn't do it out of neighbourliness.

Haha, this is brilliant. So it turns out I'm the problem.

Firstly if he thought I was trespassing then he'd have said something in 5+ years.

Secondly, I didn't ask him. 9 times out of 10 people would be grateful someone else mowed thier lawn.

Thirdly, he owes me nothing. I'm not sure when I said he did.

I'm now beginning to think you're the miserable sod who lives next door to me

Ha ha, miserable sod, is that how you see him?

He and his wife are miserable sods. Lol. On the cul de sac I live in there's only 6 houses and through the summer we have BBQs in someone's garden, we've had a party once and generally the community spirit is brill. They hardly make any effort to join us and on the odd occasion they have joined he's been moaning about something or he's just killed the mood in some way lol "

The odd person likes life quiet and their independence.

Every stick has two ends, wonder what their term is for you?

At a guess?

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Maybe he’s been gagging to mow his own lawn. Perhaps he has the Porsche of Lawnmowers in his shed and he’s been desperate to mow his lawn. To feel the powerful throb of that engine up his arms. The spray of gray in his face......

And you, ya meanie, you took that joy away from him.....until that fateful day.....when his Bosch AdvancedRotak 750 came out to play....

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales


"Maybe he’s been gagging to mow his own lawn. Perhaps he has the Porsche of Lawnmowers in his shed and he’s been desperate to mow his lawn. To feel the powerful throb of that engine up his arms. The spray of gray in his face......

And you, ya meanie, you took that joy away from him.....until that fateful day.....when his Bosch AdvancedRotak 750 came out to play.... "

The spray of grass..... I got carried away again.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Maybe he’s been gagging to mow his own lawn. Perhaps he has the Porsche of Lawnmowers in his shed and he’s been desperate to mow his lawn. To feel the powerful throb of that engine up his arms. The spray of gray in his face......

And you, ya meanie, you took that joy away from him.....until that fateful day.....when his Bosch AdvancedRotak 750 came out to play.... "

Haha. That's possibley what it was. I've never let him have his chance to go out and mow the lawn, wind in his hair etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just take the hint and do your own bit.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"Maybe he’s been gagging to mow his own lawn. Perhaps he has the Porsche of Lawnmowers in his shed and he’s been desperate to mow his lawn. To feel the powerful throb of that engine up his arms. The spray of gray in his face......

And you, ya meanie, you took that joy away from him.....until that fateful day.....when his Bosch AdvancedRotak 750 came out to play....

Haha. That's possibley what it was. I've never let him have his chance to go out and mow the lawn, wind in his hair etc "

You don’t think it might be a non confrontational sign?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dig your half up and put artificial in..that would confuse him

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"Dig your half up and put artificial in..that would confuse him "

Yes, but it would take away the joy of mowing his grass.

Or even, taking the kiddies to the park.

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Stockport


"Maybe - just maybe, his thought process was....."I really should mow my neighbour's lawn because he has kindly mowed mine for years, but what if he's really into gardening and me mowing his lawn for him will take away the small pleasure he would get to be outside in this lovely weather tending to his own garden".

Maybe. "

This made me smile almost as much as the original post

Just forget it and carry on as normal. Life’s too short to give it another thought.

(Plus most people are idiots anyway. I’d rather continue with a generous nature than let things bother me!)

Mrs J x

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"You think thats bad. My neighbour is 87 and the lazy cow hasn't got her milk in for 2 weeks."

ffs

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Having gone back and read all of the thread I have to tell you O.P. you are the problem.

1. You never asked him if you could trespass on his property.

2. You never asked him if he wanted his grass cutting.

3. Now that he hasn't cut yours you think HE owes you something.

Think about it.

If you feel stupid for doing his lawn all those times then it shows you didn't do it out of neighbourliness.

Haha, this is brilliant. So it turns out I'm the problem.

Firstly if he thought I was trespassing then he'd have said something in 5+ years.

Secondly, I didn't ask him. 9 times out of 10 people would be grateful someone else mowed thier lawn.

Thirdly, he owes me nothing. I'm not sure when I said he did.

I'm now beginning to think you're the miserable sod who lives next door to me "

Ha! Take a peep. I'm cutting my own lawn again.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"Having gone back and read all of the thread I have to tell you O.P. you are the problem.

1. You never asked him if you could trespass on his property.

2. You never asked him if he wanted his grass cutting.

3. Now that he hasn't cut yours you think HE owes you something.

Think about it.

If you feel stupid for doing his lawn all those times then it shows you didn't do it out of neighbourliness.

Haha, this is brilliant. So it turns out I'm the problem.

Firstly if he thought I was trespassing then he'd have said something in 5+ years.

Secondly, I didn't ask him. 9 times out of 10 people would be grateful someone else mowed thier lawn.

Thirdly, he owes me nothing. I'm not sure when I said he did.

I'm now beginning to think you're the miserable sod who lives next door to me

Ha! Take a peep. I'm cutting my own lawn again. "

That a metaphor?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

That's me bush !

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"That's me bush !"

Need some good hedge trimmer, recommend any?

Especially for heavy growth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The thing is, if you like that there isn't a fence, then don't get to the point where you want one.

For now just do your own lawn. Cut up to mid point and let that be how it is.

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By *radleywigginsMan
over a year ago

northwest

Re-seed both gardens with Pampas Grass?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In fairness op, he probably thinks you do a shit job of it and has been gagging to get in there before you for years.

He might just like to keep himself to himself, many people do.

Just do the mature thing next time you see him. Apologise if you cutting his grass without permission has upset him in anyway and ask politely if he prefer you leave it alone on future.

After all, you are the one in the wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Charge him for all the years you've maintained his side.. hahaha

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Charge him for all the years you've maintained his side.. hahaha"

Haha, now that's not a bad idea

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

It could be that the person didn't think to do your side, as it sounds like something a mate of mine would do.

Not intentional to aggravate someone, just not thinking at the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe he fancys you and just wanted you to notice him.lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Job done. I've dug out a separation on the lawn and made it into a flower bed

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Job done. I've dug out a separation on the lawn and made it into a flower bed "

Here's hopin' you did it on your side. If not ..... see you on Ch5 next year

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Job done. I've dug out a separation on the lawn and made it into a flower bed

Here's hopin' you did it on your side. If not ..... see you on Ch5 next year "

Yup all above board and is on my side

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Job done. I've dug out a separation on the lawn and made it into a flower bed "

I love updates! Read this the other night. Dick neighbour.

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By *hill1965Man
over a year ago

Camberley

I have the same issue, but just cut the neighbours lawn still as I don’t want the mess to make my house looks shite.

5 minutes a week out of my life!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Job done. I've dug out a separation on the lawn and made it into a flower bed

Here's hopin' you did it on your side. If not ..... see you on Ch5 next year

Yup all above board and is on my side "

What flowers are you planting ?

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By *ig1gaz1Man
over a year ago

bradford

keep doing what you think is right is my opinion.

id have done the same as the op

But some people dont just do it for being decent, They can and do pinch land for maintaining it.

only in the uk though scotland dosnt have this stupid rule

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No slaps required haha. I also think if I'd have said something I'd have got worked up and had a proper go at him with a flurry of choice words haha. Instead I'm going to dig out a flower bed and divide the lawn up that way. That'll get his back up "

It will look nice too ! Make sure you sprinkle some bark or slate into his grass so it damages his blade to lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No slaps required haha. I also think if I'd have said something I'd have got worked up and had a proper go at him with a flurry of choice words haha. Instead I'm going to dig out a flower bed and divide the lawn up that way. That'll get his back up

It will look nice too ! Make sure you sprinkle some bark or slate into his grass so it damages his blade to lol"

That's not neighourly or necessary

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By *W ChapMan
over a year ago

Swindon

I had the very same situation with an old house I used to live in. However I hated my neighbour cutting my grass as he would cut it way too short. So it was always a race for me to get there first.

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By *ervent_fervourMan
over a year ago

Halifax

He's probably embarrassed or feels guilty he has been letti gg you do his side, and fully aware he hasn't thanked you.sometimes when somekne leaves undone something which needs doing (mowing/saying ta) it can stretch into leaving it aamd it seems impossible to save face. So it gets left, and gets worse..

I'd see it as positive that he's done his side.

I'd try not to obssess about it and do just your side next time.

And try not to overthink anything which subsequently happens (that way lies aggro/madness). - if hee doesn't mow his side again, so be it.

I'd just start mowing your side only. He's shown acknowledgement that he should be doing it himself.

And don't get hang up on him nott doing your side. He could have. But didn't.nevermind!

See him doing his as a reset from his point of view re:doing what he should have been doing from the beginning.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Job done. I've dug out a separation on the lawn and made it into a flower bed

Here's hopin' you did it on your side. If not ..... see you on Ch5 next year

Yup all above board and is on my side

What flowers are you planting ? "

I had some boxwoods potted up so I've planted those in the border. Looks pretty nice I think

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield


"Stop cutting his grass if it's bothering you so much

All the other stuff is just really petty"

This.

But I do like the idea of drawing patterns on it with seeds or mushrooms or something.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Without being there or communicating with him, we don't know why he just did his part. He may have been short of time, whatever.

As it's ideal to have an amicable relationship, the ideal way is to have a chat about it. I do with neighbours and then we all know where we stand. Adding a border you'd not planned could be viewed as passive aggressive, as it's a replacement for direct honesty about the situation and you'd presumably have an open lawn, with something worked out.

I'd pop round, keeping social distances intact, and say I thought it was a good time during spring, to discuss what you could plan and arrange for the year. If they're timid, they may not have felt comfortable encroaching on your lawn. You'll give them the opportunity to thank you for having done it earlier but, importantly to clear misunderstandings up and get it straight for the future

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

My front lawn is seperated by a path to my neighbours front lawn. Often when cutting my grass i do his side as well even though he is younger and never does mine. It really does not bother me much as i just think i must be a kinder person than him and i will never stoo being kind to people unless they do me real harm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My front lawn is seperated by a path to my neighbours front lawn. Often when cutting my grass i do his side as well even though he is younger and never does mine. It really does not bother me much as i just think i must be a kinder person than him and i will never stoo being kind to people unless they do me real harm "

Well said - really not worth worrying about!

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By *erry bull1Man
over a year ago

doncaster

Write cunt on his lawn with killer , i did it to a guy who ripped me off fir £200,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Write cunt on his lawn with killer , i did it to a guy who ripped me off fir £200, "

Awesome.

Also OP forget it. Just dont do hos lawn anymore.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Write cunt on his lawn with killer , i did it to a guy who ripped me off fir £200, "

Haha, that's brilliant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Job done. I've dug out a separation on the lawn and made it into a flower bed

Here's hopin' you did it on your side. If not ..... see you on Ch5 next year

Yup all above board and is on my side

What flowers are you planting ?

I had some boxwoods potted up so I've planted those in the border. Looks pretty nice I think "

I recommend Japanese Knot

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Job done. I've dug out a separation on the lawn and made it into a flower bed

Here's hopin' you did it on your side. If not ..... see you on Ch5 next year

Yup all above board and is on my side

What flowers are you planting ?

I had some boxwoods potted up so I've planted those in the border. Looks pretty nice I think

I recommend Japanese Knot "

Haha, just had to Google that. That would have really put a spanner in the works

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By *ooking4othersMan
over a year ago

Here ...

Buy a cat ... they never shit in their own gardens

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Buy a cat ... they never shit in their own gardens "

I like your thinking haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He didn't ask you to do it so stop moaning, and if you stop doing it he's found out the depths of your friendliness.

I would say carry on doing his side, he may reciprocate or he may not.

Let this be a lesson to you.

It's best not to volunteer for certain things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A can of petrol and a match. That will learn the ingrate

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By *lint-EverhardMan
over a year ago

Perpignan and cap

That would boil my piss too op.

Why don't you have a word?

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By *artinbobMan
over a year ago

Leicester

I’d have said something to them. People can be such selfish ignorant fuckers

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By *unloversCouple
over a year ago

rotherham

We also have a garden that merges into the neighbours and I always end up doing both to keep it looking nice

Pointless doing one half without the other but I agree that each neighbour should take it in turns to keep the front gardens looking nice

No you don’t have to do theirs but if their grass is long after you have done yours it will look stupid

Put a little note in their letterbox to ask if they mind doing it now and again

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

..

This is the sort of thing that causes disputes for a very long time

I would simply carry on doing what I was happy to do and allow him to do the same. Nobody gets upset then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just cut your lawn from now on

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just cut your lawn from now on "

Done just that. Makes my life easier

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

**So there's been a development**

Since I separated up the front lawn with my neighbour there's been no word or mention from him at all so I though fair enough, that works for me perfectly, until last weekend.

He dug up his side of the lawn (it's only about 5mtrs x 3mtrs) and is now putting in a rockery it with slate chippings around it.

Have I started something here lol!

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet


"**So there's been a development**

Since I separated up the front lawn with my neighbour there's been no word or mention from him at all so I though fair enough, that works for me perfectly, until last weekend.

He dug up his side of the lawn (it's only about 5mtrs x 3mtrs) and is now putting in a rockery it with slate chippings around it.

Have I started something here lol! "

He has probably been meaning to do it for years and has only had the time now its lockdown.

Good for him

Let it go now OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey ho, it'll be a fence next. Then well see if the peace can be kept.

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