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"So I’ve found myself in this situation and as I’m a sub in training would like to know what people thought on this? " I'm not sure what you mean, can you expand on the question? | |||
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"So I’ve found myself in this situation and as I’m a sub in training would like to know what people thought on this? " Define respect. If you mean not trying to engage with another Dom/mes sub, belittle them or interfere in their existing relationship, for me the answer is yes. | |||
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"So I’ve found myself in this situation and as I’m a sub in training would like to know what people thought on this? " Respect is earned, irrespective of dominance. If anyone tries to assert dominance without consent, I'd lose a lot of respect for them as people, let alone as a kinkster. In life we're all equal, but in kink the sub is the one holding the real power. But a more direct answer to your question is that I personally respect a Dom who is considered, knowledgeable, and receptive to the different lifestyles people lead. | |||
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"I'm not sure what you mean. Are you saying you have two doms? " no only my master | |||
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"I'm not sure what you mean. Are you saying you have two doms? " no only my master. But in a situation where a current Dom is not respecting my master. | |||
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"If one Dom is aware that you are owned should he respect your master and not pursue you? " Yes. This would be an enormous red flag for me and I wouldn't even consider engaging that person. | |||
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"Two Doms don’t make a right " | |||
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"If one Dom is aware that you are owned should he respect your master and not pursue you? " OK gotcha. Well in my opinion he should respect YOU, and not pursue you if you've told him not to. Block him if that's the case. | |||
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"Two Doms don’t make a right " | |||
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"More detail needed- what’s the specific situation??" i currently have my master whom I met on here. But another as come along to collar me as he thinks I am not owned which I am most definitely am. Yet he continues to belittle my master on how he does things with his sub | |||
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"If one Dom is aware that you are owned should he respect your master and not pursue you? OK gotcha. Well in my opinion he should respect YOU, and not pursue you if you've told him not to. Block him if that's the case. " thank you x | |||
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"If one Dom is aware that you are owned should he respect your master and not pursue you? Surely the respectful thing for the pursuing Dom to do is engage in dialog your master, no? Fuzz" this was my thought also | |||
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"More detail needed- what’s the specific situation??i currently have my master whom I met on here. But another as come along to collar me as he thinks I am not owned which I am most definitely am. Yet he continues to belittle my master on how he does things with his sub " Doesn’t really sound like he fully understands the dynamic tbh- block him, he’s a pretender lol | |||
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"More detail needed- what’s the specific situation??i currently have my master whom I met on here. But another as come along to collar me as he thinks I am not owned which I am most definitely am. Yet he continues to belittle my master on how he does things with his sub " Second dom is being disrespectful to your dynamic | |||
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"More detail needed- what’s the specific situation??i currently have my master whom I met on here. But another as come along to collar me as he thinks I am not owned which I am most definitely am. Yet he continues to belittle my master on how he does things with his sub Second dom is being disrespectful to your dynamic" thank you. I just needed other views on this as I am new to this. X | |||
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"More detail needed- what’s the specific situation??i currently have my master whom I met on here. But another as come along to collar me as he thinks I am not owned which I am most definitely am. Yet he continues to belittle my master on how he does things with his sub Doesn’t really sound like he fully understands the dynamic tbh- block him, he’s a pretender lol" This ^ So many 'Doms' lead with the whole "if you were a real dub you'd do as I say, because I'm a Dom" | |||
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"More detail needed- what’s the specific situation??i currently have my master whom I met on here. But another as come along to collar me as he thinks I am not owned which I am most definitely am. Yet he continues to belittle my master on how he does things with his sub Doesn’t really sound like he fully understands the dynamic tbh- block him, he’s a pretender lol This ^ So many 'Doms' lead with the whole "if you were a real dub you'd do as I say, because I'm a Dom" " i agree yes. | |||
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"More detail needed- what’s the specific situation??i currently have my master whom I met on here. But another as come along to collar me as he thinks I am not owned which I am most definitely am. Yet he continues to belittle my master on how he does things with his sub " It seems like bad form, but I would say that you could shut the situation down and tell the other chap to keep out of your relationship. Just because you are sub to one man, doesn't mean that you should ne dominated by anyone who tries... submission is a choice. Cal | |||
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"More detail needed- what’s the specific situation??i currently have my master whom I met on here. But another as come along to collar me as he thinks I am not owned which I am most definitely am. Yet he continues to belittle my master on how he does things with his sub It seems like bad form, but I would say that you could shut the situation down and tell the other chap to keep out of your relationship. Just because you are sub to one man, doesn't mean that you should ne dominated by anyone who tries... submission is a choice. Thank you my lovely this is very true Cal" | |||
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"More detail needed- what’s the specific situation??i currently have my master whom I met on here. But another as come along to collar me as he thinks I am not owned which I am most definitely am. Yet he continues to belittle my master on how he does things with his sub " If he's belittling the man you gave the gift of your submission to, how much respect do you think he'll have for you? Does your Master actually know what's going on here? I assume you've told the second guy you are owned? If he's aware that you are, but is choosing to ignore the fact then he's clearly best avoided and you need to block and move on. | |||
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"So I’ve found myself in this situation and as I’m a sub in training would like to know what people thought on this? " I'll be blunt You do realise as the sub you are in charge ? If not erm So I'll reiterate there should never be a conflict you control the situation If it becomes a shit fest cock fight it will be your fault | |||
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"So I’ve found myself in this situation and as I’m a sub in training would like to know what people thought on this? I'll be blunt You do realise as the sub you are in charge ? If not erm So I'll reiterate there should never be a conflict you control the situation If it becomes a shit fest cock fight it will be your fault " oh really? I think I understand thank you. | |||
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"In the world of BDSM all Doms should respect each, if a Dom knows you are collared then he should not even get in touch with you especially without going through your Dom first. If he's not doing this he's not respecting either of you and isnt genuine. If you are on "FL" its usually states on your profile that your owned/collared and nearly everyone on there follows the correct Etiquette. Plus your Dom should know and deal with this other bloke lovely x" This is spot on. | |||
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"In all honesty, the only thing that is needed here is common sense... So what if you are new to being a sub... If you are committed to one man, which apparently you are, you wouldn't even be entertaining the conversation with this other guy... To me this situation of a guy trying to butt in is no different to normal life... Block the guy, which ultimately will show your respect to your Master... He shouldn't have to deal with this for you." A lot of the trouble is BDSM etiquette and culture has disappeared so far up its own ass , its difficult for new bees to understand what is right or wrong . Its cloaked now in so many " mustdoisms or thatsnotrightisms its losing all resemblance of what it started out as Bdsm, kink , fetish what ever you want to call it runs parallel to real life not off at some crazy tangent . If someone is getting on your threpenny bits , As the above poster said " common sense " delete and block ... | |||
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"More detail needed- what’s the specific situation??i currently have my master whom I met on here. But another as come along to collar me as he thinks I am not owned which I am most definitely am. Yet he continues to belittle my master on how he does things with his sub " Erm I'll say again He's just a man Being a man You have the control it's called the block button Whilst you dont press it you are enjoying the attention No dom has to respect any other some doms are utter twats Some humans play games try their luck some do not This is internet land Whether you are collored or not is irrelevant here You either like and want the attention from this man Or you block It's not a predicament or a sub dom thing | |||
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"If one Dom is aware that you are owned should he respect your master and not pursue you? " He should respect you if you've told him you have a dom. | |||
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