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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is it normal for you and your other half to not have sex for 4 months?

Is it normal for your gf to never to stay at yours even though you stay on your own and she stays with her parents

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By *xfordshireCoupleMFCouple
over a year ago

Nr. Oxford

Have you been together 4 months or have you been together longer and just not had sex for 4 months?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We’ve been together for 5 years and not had sex in 4 months


"Have you been together 4 months or have you been together longer and just not had sex for 4 months? "

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By *xfordshireCoupleMFCouple
over a year ago

Nr. Oxford


"We’ve been together for 5 years and not had sex in 4 months

Have you been together 4 months or have you been together longer and just not had sex for 4 months? "

Have you spoken to her about it? There might be something you are missing or she is worrying about something. I (mrs) get the staying at her place, it’s a safe place that she feels comfortable in. She might not like your place? I had an ex who used to have the heating at 16 in the winter, I would avoid his like a plague.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Is she maybe seeing someone else?. Does she know you are on Fab?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It’s been on going for years that we would talk about the lack of sex, then we have sex all the time for a couple of weeks and then it stops for a while. She says she loves having sex with me so I don’t get it.

She keeps saying she likes staying at mine but she never does


"We’ve been together for 5 years and not had sex in 4 months

Have you been together 4 months or have you been together longer and just not had sex for 4 months?

Have you spoken to her about it? There might be something you are missing or she is worrying about something. I (mrs) get the staying at her place, it’s a safe place that she feels comfortable in. She might not like your place? I had an ex who used to have the heating at 16 in the winter, I would avoid his like a plague."

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is she maybe seeing someone else?. Does she know you are on Fab?"

I doubt she is seeing someone else. And no she doesn’t know I’m on fab, I’m only on this for the forum

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"Is it normal for you and your other half to not have sex for 4 months?

Is it normal for your gf to never to stay at yours even though you stay on your own and she stays with her parents "

Absolutely normal, perfect preparation for when you marry her joking

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"Is she maybe seeing someone else?. Does she know you are on Fab?

I doubt she is seeing someone else. And no she doesn’t know I’m on fab, I’m only on this for the forum "

Why does your profile say your looking for sex if you're only on for the forums ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is it normal for you and your other half to not have sex for 4 months?

Is it normal for your gf to never to stay at yours even though you stay on your own and she stays with her parents

Absolutely normal, perfect preparation for when you marry her joking "

Always one smart arse

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

The sex sounds like mismatched sex drives maybe?

The staying at hers? Well maybe she just doesn’t like your place? Maybe it’s not clean enough/too clean/too blokey/too cold/too hot/you don’t offer tea or coffee and she feels awkward asking (although after so long I doubt that).

Plus all her stuff is at her place, unless she keeps things at your place.

Us women like our Knick knacks and creature comforts.

Maybe she just doesn’t feel welcome.

I had an ex who every time he had a poo he left skid marks in his pan and going to the toilet was like a scene from Anaconda, you never knew when something would pop up. Plus he had a problem with fruit flies.

I dumped him in the end.

But anyway, you get my drift.......

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

After 5 years of say it was odd that she wasn't staying at yours more.

After that long shouldn't you be in talks about May be moving in together? How old is she?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

she constantly says she is horny but every time I make a move she isn’t interested or I do her and she says she’ll do me the next night but she never does. I’m not pushy and I never pressure her it’s just frustrating

I would expect her to tell me what the problem is with my place that she doesn’t stay and she constantly says she doesn’t have a problem staying at mine and sometimes blames it on me for not inviting her over.

But I would put it down to her being in her ways and being more comfortable at her own house.

Anything she needs I buy for her, like I’ve bought a whole drawer full of her favourite stuff, moisturiser, candles and all the womeny stuff lol I’ve also bought her a hairdryer which she hasn’t used once because she hasn’t stayed

I just feel like I’m doing all the effort packing up my stuff to stay with her.


"The sex sounds like mismatched sex drives maybe?

The staying at hers? Well maybe she just doesn’t like your place? Maybe it’s not clean enough/too clean/too blokey/too cold/too hot/you don’t offer tea or coffee and she feels awkward asking (although after so long I doubt that).

Plus all her stuff is at her place, unless she keeps things at your place.

Us women like our Knick knacks and creature comforts.

Maybe she just doesn’t feel welcome.

I had an ex who every time he had a poo he left skid marks in his pan and going to the toilet was like a scene from Anaconda, you never knew when something would pop up. Plus he had a problem with fruit flies.

I dumped him in the end.

But anyway, you get my drift......."

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"After 5 years of say it was odd that she wasn't staying at yours more.

After that long shouldn't you be in talks about May be moving in together? How old is she? "

There have been talks about her moving in but she says she wants to build up her savings more before she does, which is understandable.

I love sex especially with her but I don’t want to go through life having a sexless life. Is that selfish?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not her...it's you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is she maybe seeing someone else?. Does she know you are on Fab?

I doubt she is seeing someone else. And no she doesn’t know I’m on fab, I’m only on this for the forum

Why does your profile say your looking for sex if you're only on for the forums ?"

This same question from us.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's not her...it's you"

It must be

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

If you are only here for the forums then your profile is very misleading.

5 yrs into a relationship I'd expect a partner to be open & honest with me about everything, if I discovered he was on a swingers site without me knowing I'd be pretty pissed off. Between you being on here, the clearly mismatched sex drives & the fact she's reluctant to stay at yours & avoiding moving in, I'd wonder where the relationship is going

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if I was in a relationship I would not be on here.

call me old fashioned but I believe in trust, values and respect.

she should be all you need.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was married we would go very long periods without sex and in the end I strayed - not proud of it and it caused a lot of hurt so if you are struggling now it will only get worse as you progress through the relationship and it’s probably a lot to do with why you are on Fab. Sometimes better to call it quits and move on, not saying you should but if you are looking for NSA sex then you may have already subconsciously decided enough is enough.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"if I was in a relationship I would not be on here.

call me old fashioned but I believe in trust, values and respect.

she should be all you need."

Sex is an important part of a relationship though, no?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you for everyone’s advice

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By *essie.Woman
over a year ago

Serendipity

Maybe there’s a reason behind it, she’s the one you need to be talking to about it.

There is no normal, it’s subjective.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if I was in a relationship I would not be on here.

call me old fashioned but I believe in trust, values and respect.

she should be all you need.

Sex is an important part of a relationship though, no? "

Yes sex is important, however honesty and respect are far more important don't you think??

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea


"Is she maybe seeing someone else?. Does she know you are on Fab?

I doubt she is seeing someone else. And no she doesn’t know I’m on fab, I’m only on this for the forum

Why does your profile say your looking for sex if you're only on for the forums ?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes mine has not had sex with me in 5 years!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if I was in a relationship I would not be on here.

call me old fashioned but I believe in trust, values and respect.

she should be all you need.

Sex is an important part of a relationship though, no? "

oh yes. but even still I would not be on here.

I do not cheat. id rather talk things through than cheat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why would you choose fab .. to come on as a chat forum ? It’s a swingers site

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes mine has not had sex with me in 5 years!"

Seriously!?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes mine has not had sex with me in 5 years!"

Has she found out that you are on here?

Is that the reason? ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes"

That’s brutal man, how can you stand that

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

I’m on 4 years never mind 4 months

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She not interested in sex anymore

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m on 4 years never mind 4 months "

Did your partner also find out you are on here, or does she know because you told her.

Maybe that is why she won't have sex with you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’m on 4 years never mind 4 months "

Why is that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No she has become fridged

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No she has become fridged"

She knows that you are on here?

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon


"No she has become fridged"

Gone cold?

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