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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hey everyone,

Lets hear some tips you've picked up over your time on Fab.

I'll start by saying ensure you know exactly where the meet is so you dont get lost! (I need a satnav to get out of sainsbury's car park!)

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By *aughty_nymphWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham

Always meet socially first with no expectations to play.

People lie.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Always meet socially first with no expectations to play.

People lie. "

That is a very good tip!

That and you can never tell the hygiene from a picture

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it looks like a penis, wiggles like a penis and bulges like a penis....chances are it's a penis !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If it looks like a penis, wiggles like a penis and bulges like a penis....chances are it's a penis !"

Best thing I've heard all day haha

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By *ittleRed18Woman
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Always meet in a public place first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Always meet in a public place first. "

That's just common sense

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

meet in a public place and tell someone you trust where you are and get them to ring you an hour in and have a safe word and a not so safe word, carry mace in your handbag

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got handed a fiver for my performance after one meet. That was a decent tip

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Be prepared for the sorry I don't think this will work conversation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

this is a great tip expect nothing and if you get something won't that be great

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By *ublinGirl92Woman
over a year ago

Hell

Don't feel like you need to talk to guys just because they've paid you a compliment. They've said the same exact thing to every woman they've come across and you don't owe anyone your time.

Also try to see a picture of a prospective meet smiling because if they have their mouth clamped shut in every picture there is something wrong!

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By *ittleRed18Woman
over a year ago

Aberdeen


"Always meet in a public place first.

That's just common sense"

You would think. Heard too many horror stories.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't feel like you need to talk to guys just because they've paid you a compliment. They've said the same exact thing to every woman they've come across and you don't owe anyone your time.

Also try to see a picture of a prospective meet smiling because if they have their mouth clamped shut in every picture there is something wrong! "
no teeth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have another great tip but I'm charging for this one sorry needs must

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By *ublinGirl92Woman
over a year ago

Hell


"Don't feel like you need to talk to guys just because they've paid you a compliment. They've said the same exact thing to every woman they've come across and you don't owe anyone your time.

Also try to see a picture of a prospective meet smiling because if they have their mouth clamped shut in every picture there is something wrong! no teeth "

There was technically teeth. How long they'll remain is the question really...

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By *hy_bangor_bi-girlWoman
over a year ago

Bangor

Never give out your Number unless it's a burner specifically for fab etc.

In this day and age EVERYONE'S phone leaves a footprint and anyone can find out everything about your Facebook account, Instagram, your family, friends etc in 5 minutes.

For most, keeping your fab lifestyle secret is paramount and preferable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't feel like you need to talk to guys just because they've paid you a compliment. They've said the same exact thing to every woman they've come across and you don't owe anyone your time.

Also try to see a picture of a prospective meet smiling because if they have their mouth clamped shut in every picture there is something wrong! no teeth

There was technically teeth. How long they'll remain is the question really... "
i had that once omg they were black spikes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never give out your Number unless it's a burner specifically for fab etc.

In this day and age EVERYONE'S phone leaves a footprint and anyone can find out everything about your Facebook account, Instagram, your family, friends etc in 5 minutes.

For most, keeping your fab lifestyle secret is paramount and preferable. "
i don't have Facebook its intrusive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always make sure that they are who they say they are always make sure any little detail that you can get off them always meet in a social place don't go straight away to their house because you never know who will be there. The best thing to do is always meet at a coffee shop or a bar especially where it's busy.. there are too many fake people out there there are many catfish people out there are for the best thing to always remember is stay safe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont think though anyone that meets at a house or a hotel on the 1st meet up shouldn't even be thought about

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By *hy_bangor_bi-girlWoman
over a year ago

Bangor


"Never give out your Number unless it's a burner specifically for fab etc.

In this day and age EVERYONE'S phone leaves a footprint and anyone can find out everything about your Facebook account, Instagram, your family, friends etc in 5 minutes.

For most, keeping your fab lifestyle secret is paramount and preferable. i don't have Facebook its intrusive "

Its not just Facebook though lol

Every phone has an email account linked either through iTunes or Google to back up. People click on "allow" literally everytime they download a new app.

You day not have Facebook but doesn't take long to figure out your sister/brother /parents /kids do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never give out your Number unless it's a burner specifically for fab etc.

In this day and age EVERYONE'S phone leaves a footprint and anyone can find out everything about your Facebook account, Instagram, your family, friends etc in 5 minutes.

For most, keeping your fab lifestyle secret is paramount and preferable. i don't have Facebook its intrusive

Its not just Facebook though lol

Every phone has an email account linked either through iTunes or Google to back up. People click on "allow" literally everytime they download a new app.

You day not have Facebook but doesn't take long to figure out your sister/brother /parents /kids do"
oh yes i knew that i don't have any links to family on this phone so no probs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t take rejection personally and don’t let it lower your self esteem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't sweat the small stuff...don't lose sleep cause you got no reply ,don't get hung up on timewasters,approach a meet with the mindset that it might never happen ( timewasters ) and if it does happen just be ready for the " sorry ,but we're not compatible " line ,not every shoe fits and it's only when people actually meet thats discovered, rejection is part and parcel here ,at the end of the day ladies decide who they want to leave between their legs ,if it's you ,great,if not don't sweat it ,don't let others destroy your fun here ,wether on the forums on in chatting ,you've joined the site to have fun , something to look forward to not to log on and have your confidence and esteem crushed by someone that thinks it's ok to do it ..other than that ..have fun ..there are some Absolutely amazing Brilliant people in heart & mind floating around this joint

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont believe anything you are told!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it’s okay to wait for a unicorn!

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By *sasimpleMan
over a year ago

D & G

Have patience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always trust your gut instinct.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Always meet in a public place first. "

Definitely this one x

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Pay to be a site supporter, worth it alone so you can see your message history.

If someone isn’t quite who they seem, you can remove your pics from the messages to. X

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

That 25 year old hottie who wants to talk sexy to you later at night and can't wait to meet you. Says she loves an older man and wants nothing more than to have not steamy sex with you. She's a guy sitting in his pants in the back bedroom while his wife's asleep.

Never, ever do something you don't want to, take one for the team or have sex with someone because you "don't like to say no", develop a tough shell.

Don't believe a person is who they claim to be until they're sitting opposite you in Starbucks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That 25 year old hottie who wants to talk sexy to you later at night and can't wait to meet you. Says she loves an older man and wants nothing more than to have not steamy sex with you. She's a guy sitting in his pants in the back bedroom while his wife's asleep.

Never, ever do something you don't want to, take one for the team or have sex with someone because you "don't like to say no", develop a tough shell.

Don't believe a person is who they claim to be until they're sitting opposite you in Starbucks.

"
Starbucks really you wouldn't catch me in one

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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru

Get to an organised social event.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"That 25 year old hottie who wants to talk sexy to you later at night and can't wait to meet you. Says she loves an older man and wants nothing more than to have not steamy sex with you. She's a guy sitting in his pants in the back bedroom while his wife's asleep.

Never, ever do something you don't want to, take one for the team or have sex with someone because you "don't like to say no", develop a tough shell.

Don't believe a person is who they claim to be until they're sitting opposite you in Starbucks.

Starbucks really you wouldn't catch me in one "

Fair enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That 25 year old hottie who wants to talk sexy to you later at night and can't wait to meet you. Says she loves an older man and wants nothing more than to have not steamy sex with you. She's a guy sitting in his pants in the back bedroom while his wife's asleep.

Never, ever do something you don't want to, take one for the team or have sex with someone because you "don't like to say no", develop a tough shell.

Don't believe a person is who they claim to be until they're sitting opposite you in Starbucks.

Starbucks really you wouldn't catch me in one

Fair enough. "
Pret et Manger for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they've been on for months and haven't even bothered to get photo verified then they probably won't turn up

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"That 25 year old hottie who wants to talk sexy to you later at night and can't wait to meet you. Says she loves an older man and wants nothing more than to have not steamy sex with you. She's a guy sitting in his pants in the back bedroom while his wife's asleep.

Never, ever do something you don't want to, take one for the team or have sex with someone because you "don't like to say no", develop a tough shell.

Don't believe a person is who they claim to be until they're sitting opposite you in Starbucks.

Starbucks really you wouldn't catch me in one

Fair enough. Pret et Manger for me "

We prefer a small independent coffee shop that we're regulars at. Hence Starbucks for socials, nobody knows us there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's too good to be true it probably is

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By *arciocialWoman
over a year ago

Leicester

Don't be worried about saying no. Best to say no at the start than engage in conversation then say no.

Don't engage with follow up "why" questions.

Just delete the abusive messages, if you get any.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That 25 year old hottie who wants to talk sexy to you later at night and can't wait to meet you. Says she loves an older man and wants nothing more than to have not steamy sex with you. She's a guy sitting in his pants in the back bedroom while his wife's asleep.

Never, ever do something you don't want to, take one for the team or have sex with someone because you "don't like to say no", develop a tough shell.

Don't believe a person is who they claim to be until they're sitting opposite you in Starbucks.

Starbucks really you wouldn't catch me in one

Fair enough. Pret et Manger for me

We prefer a small independent coffee shop that we're regulars at. Hence Starbucks for socials, nobody knows us there."
ahhhh i go to calypso coffee house in Torquay its only one open £3.50 for a small cup but its my absolute luxury at the moment the supermarkets are only selling 4 pint cartons of milk ive been buying 2 pint up until now but having to throw some of it away because it goes off in my room, so can't even buy milk now lol

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly


"Hey everyone,

Lets hear some tips you've picked up over your time on Fab.

I'll start by saying ensure you know exactly where the meet is so you dont get lost! (I need a satnav to get out of sainsbury's car park!)"

Replace your watermelon after fucking it, never double-dip

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't expect to meet those who are so quick to send you face pics of themselves!

Not in my experience anyway!! I've learnt to disregard those.

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By *arksxMan
over a year ago

Leicester / London

Communication

Learn how to clearly explain your thoughts and wants better yourself

And it's red flags if the other person cant communicate basic information and themselves and their wants.

How many times have your people are looking for "fun"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't broadcast getting close to someone on the forums. Some people get a kick out of causing upset between you.

The single person probably isn't as single as you would expect single to mean.

A lot of people here have been hurt and carry scars - remember that and don't be a cunt.

Use the notes function, it may give you a few reminders and giggles.

If you're a bloke you're advised to get yourself known on the forums, it works to a degree in getting laid, but comes with a side order of psycho fans.

Wear a fucking condom.

Don't discuss blue waffle in a cake shop social

Know your worth.

P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The best first message a guy can send to a female or a couple should be simple and concise.

No waffle and should clearly state their intentions. Transparency is key. Therefore the most simple way of achieving this is to send the following:

Meet now?

(Interest dick pic)

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

First impressions: listen to them. They'll bite you if you don't.

Be true to yourself, always.

Be kind, but be ruthlessly defensive.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"Always meet socially first with no expectations to play.

People lie. "

This, definitely this! Or meet in a club so you have the chance to socialise and meet others if the pre arranged thing doesn't work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When you meet her expect a few extra pounds than she had in her pics.

Don't kill me all at once

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rule one: Don’t be a dick

Same rule applies to life in general

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey everyone,

Lets hear some tips you've picked up over your time on Fab.

I'll start by saying ensure you know exactly where the meet is so you dont get lost! (I need a satnav to get out of sainsbury's car park!)"
Always meet socially in a neutral place first, and don't be pressured or rushed into final decisions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On the whole you can have a positive experience and support is there when you need it, there are lovely people on here, but keep your wits about you.

If I went Into specifics I’d come across as negative, but on the whole my personal experience has been positive.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"When you meet her expect a few extra pounds than she had in her pics.

Don't kill me all at once "

Not in all cases - what you see on our profile is what you get - all pics are recent

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By *arciocialWoman
over a year ago

Leicester


"Don't expect to meet those who are so quick to send you face pics of themselves!

Not in my experience anyway!! I've learnt to disregard those."

Why?

I send a face pic with the first message I don't want to waste time if they won't find me attractive.

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By *ublinGirl92Woman
over a year ago

Hell


"If they've been on for months and haven't even bothered to get photo verified then they probably won't turn up "

I only got photo verified at 3am last night and I've been on here for over a year haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Always meet socially first with no expectations to play.

People lie. "

Definitely this if they even bother to show up that is.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Just because they’re wearing a dress doesn’t mean they’re female, so Read PROFILES !!!

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By *harliebbwWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham


"When you meet her expect a few extra pounds than she had in her pics.

Don't kill me all at once "

I like people to know my rolls have rolls thanks.

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By *ugRollersCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

One thing I’ve learnt .... don’t feel bad for rejecting someone .... and definitely don’t meet them on your own behind your hubby’s back to say sorry to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is amazing. Great advice wish I had seen this when I joined a few months ago. Thanks everyone xx

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By *oobyliciousnessWoman
over a year ago

outside Llanelli.


"Always meet socially first with no expectations to play.

People lie. "

Best advice for everyone xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If they've been on for months and haven't even bothered to get photo verified then they probably won't turn up

I only got photo verified at 3am last night and I've been on here for over a year haha"

Well there are exceptions.. You have verifications.. What I meant was if they've been on ages with no verifications and not even photo verified..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not all couples actually are couples

No reply means fuck off you ugly old cunt

Treat other profile as you'd like to be treated and remember there is a person on other end

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if its too good to be true its worth a go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Resist requests to 'take it off here'

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Wow! Amazing advice everyone this certainly blew up!

If anyone has anymore then please feel free to continue

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By *eneral HysteriaMan
over a year ago

Newcastle


"Always meet socially first with no expectations to play.

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Repeat - no expectations to play

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"That 25 year old hottie who wants to talk sexy to you later at night and can't wait to meet you. Says she loves an older man and wants nothing more than to have not steamy sex with you. She's a guy sitting in his pants in the back bedroom while his wife's asleep.

Never, ever do something you don't want to, take one for the team or have sex with someone because you "don't like to say no", develop a tough shell.

Don't believe a person is who they claim to be until they're sitting opposite you in Starbucks.

Starbucks really you wouldn't catch me in one

Fair enough. Pret et Manger for me

We prefer a small independent coffee shop that we're regulars at. Hence Starbucks for socials, nobody knows us there.ahhhh i go to calypso coffee house in Torquay its only one open £3.50 for a small cup but its my absolute luxury at the moment the supermarkets are only selling 4 pint cartons of milk ive been buying 2 pint up until now but having to throw some of it away because it goes off in my room, so can't even buy milk now lol "

That's awful! Our favourite coffee shop closed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think about the experiences you want to have.. Craft your profile accordingly

Think hard about the reality of starting something with someone who is not local

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with above... it’s also important to know... some see this as complete fantasy... hence the comment on reality above being right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That 25 year old hottie who wants to talk sexy to you later at night and can't wait to meet you. Says she loves an older man and wants nothing more than to have not steamy sex with you. She's a guy sitting in his pants in the back bedroom while his wife's asleep.

Never, ever do something you don't want to, take one for the team or have sex with someone because you "don't like to say no", develop a tough shell.

Don't believe a person is who they claim to be until they're sitting opposite you in Starbucks.

Starbucks really you wouldn't catch me in one

Fair enough. Pret et Manger for me

We prefer a small independent coffee shop that we're regulars at. Hence Starbucks for socials, nobody knows us there.ahhhh i go to calypso coffee house in Torquay its only one open £3.50 for a small cup but its my absolute luxury at the moment the supermarkets are only selling 4 pint cartons of milk ive been buying 2 pint up until now but having to throw some of it away because it goes off in my room, so can't even buy milk now lol

That's awful! Our favourite coffee shop closed "
really well i saw a police officer in the one i go to yesterday but he was buying a coffee

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

think before you print, if you're thinking it sounds ok in your head think how it would sound in your mums and if she wouldn't like what your about to say then don’t put it on the screen

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