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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Last night I was told by a very sexy lady that I was on their hot list and had been for some time.

I was flattered as I generally dont see myself as hotlist material for anyone. Then I got to thinking I wonder if I was on anyone else's hotlist???

Wouldnt It be cool if you had a notification just saying someone had added you to there hot list.

I mean for is guys especially that would be a big confidence boost. Anyone else agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

I see your point but I like to roam fab incognito...perving to my hearts content.

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

I think I'd rather find out from a conversation than from some notification, in honesty... but all the same, that's a cool boost for you OP my dude!

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Nah, if I want them to know I tell them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I see your point but I like to roam fab incognito...perving to my hearts content.

"

Oh I dont mean that it should reveal who added you to the hotlist just saying that someone has so it keeps it on the down low for those who just wanna perve lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think I'd rather find out from a conversation than from some notification, in honesty... but all the same, that's a cool boost for you OP my dude! "

I was just cuft that I was on someones hot list to be honest lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Congrats man, don't see any reason why you wouldn't be on someone's hot list, don't he so harsh on yourself.

Would be pretty cool to see if anyone has added you to hot list. Although, at times, would probably be bad for me to have an ego boost.. I'd probably get hyped up and go try take over the world

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly


"I think I'd rather find out from a conversation than from some notification, in honesty... but all the same, that's a cool boost for you OP my dude!

I was just cuft that I was on someones hot list to be honest lol"

Hint taken. Hotlisted.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"I see your point but I like to roam fab incognito...perving to my hearts content.

Oh I dont mean that it should reveal who added you to the hotlist just saying that someone has so it keeps it on the down low for those who just wanna perve lol"

Oh..got you...what if you never get a notification, that might be a bummer for you..

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

It's nice to be on someone's hotlist for good reasons.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I see your point but I like to roam fab incognito...perving to my hearts content.

Oh I dont mean that it should reveal who added you to the hotlist just saying that someone has so it keeps it on the down low for those who just wanna perve lol

Oh..got you...what if you never get a notification, that might be a bummer for you.."

Well to be honest I hadn't expected to be on anyones I see myself as a bit of comic relief on the forums and I'm ok with that as i like to make people smile and yes I'm a flirt but happy to just be that I never expected much else lol. But being told I was on a hot list did give me a chufty badge lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think I'd rather find out from a conversation than from some notification, in honesty... but all the same, that's a cool boost for you OP my dude!

I was just cuft that I was on someones hot list to be honest lol

Hint taken. Hotlisted. "

God your a flirt lol

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

Most people prefer to keep to keep their hotlist choices to themselves, myself included. It comes up in conversation if you've really begun chatting to someone and I admit to having them listed or vice versa.

Made the mistake once of sending a well put together message to a long time hotlisted and frequent page one hottie and received a terse "no thanks not interested". That showed me!

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Just imagine all the "Why aren't I in anyone's hotlist" whines

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By *nvisible_beardMan
over a year ago

near newbridge, wales

No

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just imagine all the "Why aren't I in anyone's hotlist" whines "

Yes this would be the down side of this so maybe yes dont know until your told lol.

Still I'm a happy bunny now

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By *obbychickWoman
over a year ago

Essex


"Most people prefer to keep to keep their hotlist choices to themselves, myself included. It comes up in conversation if you've really begun chatting to someone and I admit to having them listed or vice versa.

Made the mistake once of sending a well put together message to a long time hotlisted and frequent page one hottie and received a terse "no thanks not interested". That showed me! "

Oh that’s a real shame

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By *obbychickWoman
over a year ago

Essex

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"Most people prefer to keep to keep their hotlist choices to themselves, myself included. It comes up in conversation if you've really begun chatting to someone and I admit to having them listed or vice versa.

Made the mistake once of sending a well put together message to a long time hotlisted and frequent page one hottie and received a terse "no thanks not interested". That showed me! "

Conversation..well, am I

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By *obbychickWoman
over a year ago

Essex


"Last night I was told by a very sexy lady that I was on their hot list and had been for some time.

I was flattered as I generally dont see myself as hotlist material for anyone. Then I got to thinking I wonder if I was on anyone else's hotlist???

Wouldnt It be cool if you had a notification just saying someone had added you to there hot list.

I mean for is guys especially that would be a big confidence boost. Anyone else agree "

Awww widowdad, I’m sure you’re on a few members hotlist

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest


"Most people prefer to keep to keep their hotlist choices to themselves, myself included. It comes up in conversation if you've really begun chatting to someone and I admit to having them listed or vice versa.

Made the mistake once of sending a well put together message to a long time hotlisted and frequent page one hottie and received a terse "no thanks not interested". That showed me!

Oh that’s a real shame "

Win some, lose some

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Last night I was told by a very sexy lady that I was on their hot list and had been for some time.

I was flattered as I generally dont see myself as hotlist material for anyone. Then I got to thinking I wonder if I was on anyone else's hotlist???

Wouldnt It be cool if you had a notification just saying someone had added you to there hot list.

I mean for is guys especially that would be a big confidence boost. Anyone else agree

Awww widowdad, I’m sure you’re on a few members hotlist

"

Gobby flattery will get you everywhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the suspense of not knowing and then being told is better than some notification. I'd been chatting to someone for ages then she dropped it in to conversation that I was on her hotlist far better that way than knowing before talking to someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I see your point but I like to roam fab incognito...perving to my hearts content.

Oh I dont mean that it should reveal who added you to the hotlist just saying that someone has so it keeps it on the down low for those who just wanna perve lol

Oh..got you...what if you never get a notification, that might be a bummer for you..

Well to be honest I hadn't expected to be on anyones I see myself as a bit of comic relief on the forums and I'm ok with that as i like to make people smile and yes I'm a flirt but happy to just be that I never expected much else lol. But being told I was on a hot list did give me a chufty badge lol "

So was it a hotty from the forums that hotlisted ya?

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

It's cute when some men I chat to ask me for permission for them to put me on their hotlist

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest


"Most people prefer to keep to keep their hotlist choices to themselves, myself included. It comes up in conversation if you've really begun chatting to someone and I admit to having them listed or vice versa.

Made the mistake once of sending a well put together message to a long time hotlisted and frequent page one hottie and received a terse "no thanks not interested". That showed me!

Conversation..well, am I "

Um...you were You're on a far better list now

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I see your point but I like to roam fab incognito...perving to my hearts content.

Oh I dont mean that it should reveal who added you to the hotlist just saying that someone has so it keeps it on the down low for those who just wanna perve lol

Oh..got you...what if you never get a notification, that might be a bummer for you..

Well to be honest I hadn't expected to be on anyones I see myself as a bit of comic relief on the forums and I'm ok with that as i like to make people smile and yes I'm a flirt but happy to just be that I never expected much else lol. But being told I was on a hot list did give me a chufty badge lol

So was it a hotty from the forums that hotlisted ya?"

I think that would be telling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would be lovely to know . Ive never been told im on anyones hotlist tbh. Its very flattering if it happened. Good for you OP btw, thats lovely x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It would be lovely to know . Ive never been told im on anyones hotlist tbh. Its very flattering if it happened. Good for you OP btw, thats lovely x "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Last night I was told by a very sexy lady that I was on their hot list and had been for some time.

I was flattered as I generally dont see myself as hotlist material for anyone. Then I got to thinking I wonder if I was on anyone else's hotlist???

Wouldnt It be cool if you had a notification just saying someone had added you to there hot list.

I mean for is guys especially that would be a big confidence boost. Anyone else agree "

Its not really necessary if someone wants you to have knowledge they are interested there is the wink system.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Last night I was told by a very sexy lady that I was on their hot list and had been for some time.

I was flattered as I generally dont see myself as hotlist material for anyone. Then I got to thinking I wonder if I was on anyone else's hotlist???

Wouldnt It be cool if you had a notification just saying someone had added you to there hot list.

I mean for is guys especially that would be a big confidence boost. Anyone else agree

Its not really necessary if someone wants you to have knowledge they are interested there is the wink system. "

As I had said it wasnt so much so.you know.who more just an anonymous thing saying you have been hotlisted lol

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

I like the current system. I don't really use the hotlist for anything other than clubs and event profiles and I'm not bothered about who adds me - if anything it may make me question if it was their hot or their not list.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I like the current system. I don't really use the hotlist for anything other than clubs and event profiles and I'm not bothered about who adds me - if anything it may make me question if it was their hot or their not list."

A not list would just be cruel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's pointless knowing you're on someone's hot list if they aren't going to make contact. I just don't get the point.

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway


"I like the current system. I don't really use the hotlist for anything other than clubs and event profiles and I'm not bothered about who adds me - if anything it may make me question if it was their hot or their not list.

A not list would just be cruel "

It's just an alternative use for the hotlist for some users. I don't think it's cruel, just the way things are. Either way I'd rather not know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d be creeped out if they told me. Only because I think it’s weird someone that doesn’t talk to me is constantly watching my profile

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’d be creeped out if they told me. Only because I think it’s weird someone that doesn’t talk to me is constantly watching my profile "

Some of us like to be watched

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

I think not knowing if you are or aren't is part of the appeal. A telltale sign you might be on someone's is if a profile you've not spoken to before constantly fabs your pictures. I've a few of these, though sadly they're 90% men

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think not knowing if you are or aren't is part of the appeal. A telltale sign you might be on someone's is if a profile you've not spoken to before constantly fabs your pictures. I've a few of these, though sadly they're 90% men "

Yes I also have that their are 3 or 4 men not local to me either that fab my pictures almost as soon as I up load them

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I’d be creeped out if they told me. Only because I think it’s weird someone that doesn’t talk to me is constantly watching my profile

Some of us like to be watched "

Ooh it's weird. Occasionally I get recognised in a club by my public pictures and... that conversation never goes well because I stand there like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's nice of her to let you know that.

Sound a nice lady you should get to know more about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I see your point but I like to roam fab incognito...perving to my hearts content.

"

Same here. Sometimes I just wanna perve not talk

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I see your point but I like to roam fab incognito...perving to my hearts content.

Same here. Sometimes I just wanna perve not talk "

That's because you are a perving ninja lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’d be creeped out if they told me. Only because I think it’s weird someone that doesn’t talk to me is constantly watching my profile

Some of us like to be watched

Ooh it's weird. Occasionally I get recognised in a club by my public pictures and... that conversation never goes well because I stand there like "

Never been to a club dont have that problem to date lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think it's nice of her to let you know that.

Sound a nice lady you should get to know more about"

She seems lovely and we are now chatting

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"I think it's nice of her to let you know that.

Sound a nice lady you should get to know more about

She seems lovely and we are now chatting "

Woop woop my wingman.

You stud, you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think it's nice of her to let you know that.

Sound a nice lady you should get to know more about

She seems lovely and we are now chatting

Woop woop my wingman.

You stud, you. "

Mate I was on cloud 9 being told I was on her hotlist and she is a stunner

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby


"I see your point but I like to roam fab incognito...perving to my hearts content.

Same here. Sometimes I just wanna perve not talk "

You just perve at me all the damn time and don't say you don't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its cool, I agree

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.


"I see your point but I like to roam fab incognito...perving to my hearts content.

Same here. Sometimes I just wanna perve not talk "

I’m open to being perved. No obligation to buy.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"I think it's nice of her to let you know that.

Sound a nice lady you should get to know more about

She seems lovely and we are now chatting

Woop woop my wingman.

You stud, you.

Mate I was on cloud 9 being told I was on her hotlist and she is a stunner "

Im always surprised by how many stunning ladies there are on here.

Also by the amount of ladies that are beautiful on the inside too.

.

Keep up the good work.

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)

An option to make it known to those on your hotlist that they are on it could be good but it would need to be an option you turned on, the current set up should remain the default imo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it's nice of her to let you know that.

Sound a nice lady you should get to know more about

She seems lovely and we are now chatting

Woop woop my wingman.

You stud, you.

Mate I was on cloud 9 being told I was on her hotlist and she is a stunner

Im always surprised by how many stunning ladies there are on here.

Also by the amount of ladies that are beautiful on the inside too.

.

Keep up the good work. "

All women are fake or lesbian!

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

I have about 3 people in my hotlist. Judging by the way I behave whenever I am around them, I suppose they know they’re in it anyway!

I’ve been told many times I am on people’s hotlists. But I suppose my fabbed photos tell me that too...

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

No because they might think I’m weird

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By *elshkinkyMan
over a year ago

south wales


"Last night I was told by a very sexy lady that I was on their hot list and had been for some time.

I was flattered as I generally dont see myself as hotlist material for anyone. Then I got to thinking I wonder if I was on anyone else's hotlist???

Wouldnt It be cool if you had a notification just saying someone had added you to there hot list.

I mean for is guys especially that would be a big confidence boost. Anyone else agree "

Not on mine OP for obvious reasons but still a top fella... always nice to hear if you are or not. Think it’s particularly nice for a bloke to know given the ratio on here

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By *imon_hydeMan
over a year ago

Stockport

I've got people on my hotlist that I haven't spoke to. Generally because I'm not what they are looking for or I'm too faraway geographicly, it's because I find them attractive and perv their photos. The fabs give me away x

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By *elshkinkyMan
over a year ago

south wales


"It's pointless knowing you're on someone's hot list if they aren't going to make contact. I just don't get the point. "

Surely on the hotlist means you are looking to see if their personality meets the visual attraction?? It’s all very well and good being stunning but not if you want to high five them in the face with a chair

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"No because they might think I’m weird "

We don't think you're weird........... We know you're weird.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No because they might think I’m weird "

I'm not saying anything

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas


"No because they might think I’m weird

We don't think you're weird........... We know you're weird. "

I love you 2 chunky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What is a Hot list?

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"No because they might think I’m weird

We don't think you're weird........... We know you're weird.

I love you 2 chunky "

I know.

Doesn't everyone??????

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas


"No because they might think I’m weird

I'm not saying anything "

Shush you my mama says I’m special

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No because they might think I’m weird

I'm not saying anything

Shush you my mama says I’m special "
your special to me busty that smile brightens up my darkest day

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By *abonWoman
over a year ago

L’boro/Ashby & Cheltenham

I think hot means different things to different people, so never going to get agreement on the privacy/notification debate. The most classically physically attractive guys who have approached me are married...which is not hot for me.

I use mine as a reminder of people who I think are lovely or funny and who I might have a connection with...or someone who pushes a hot button that I’m naybe not ready to push yet. We haven’t all been fabbing for ages

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas


"No because they might think I’m weird

I'm not saying anything

Shush you my mama says I’m special your special to me busty that smile brightens up my darkest day "

Aww thank you WD

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No because they might think I’m weird

I'm not saying anything

Shush you my mama says I’m special your special to me busty that smile brightens up my darkest day

Aww thank you WD "

See I'm not always mean

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think hot means different things to different people, so never going to get agreement on the privacy/notification debate. The most classically physically attractive guys who have approached me are married...which is not hot for me.

I use mine as a reminder of people who I think are lovely or funny and who I might have a connection with...or someone who pushes a hot button that I’m naybe not ready to push yet. We haven’t all been fabbing for ages"

I think this is a very good point and but either way it made my day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's pointless knowing you're on someone's hot list if they aren't going to make contact. I just don't get the point.

Surely on the hotlist means you are looking to see if their personality meets the visual attraction?? It’s all very well and good being stunning but not if you want to high five them in the face with a chair "

Surely you do that by making contact. You can't see if their personality is any good by having them on a hot list!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gets annoying when people add you and you're not interested and they always msg everytime you do anything new.. lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I much prefer to choose an opportune moment to talk to them.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

OP you’re not on my hotlist but I’m glad your lady likes you

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By *eliciousladyWoman
over a year ago

Sometimes U.K

So the idea is to get a notification that you’ve been hotlisted..would you receive notice if someone removes you from their hotlist?

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Stockport

We’ve often said it would be good if there’s a notification when people match as they’re on each other’s hot list.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

God no, I’d never stop getting notifications!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"We’ve often said it would be good if there’s a notification when people match as they’re on each other’s hot list. "

People aren't always on hot lists for good reasons

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By *artinbobMan
over a year ago

Leicester


"No because they might think I’m weird "

Weirds good

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