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By *ugRollers OP   Couple
over a year ago

Newcastle

Say no to someone? I’m too soft ....

I don’t mean in terms of having sex I just mean on here

I need some good answers as I’m struggling .... without just ignoring someone

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By *llaboutthewifeCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Just say

No thank you it's not what we are looking for.

Jo x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just say thanks no but no thanks.

It doesn't really what you say or what you don't, someones going to get arse on about it

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By *MARUBIXCUBEWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Fo works

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Sorry but I don't think we'd be compatible, good luck though.

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By *ugRollers OP   Couple
over a year ago

Newcastle


"Just say

No thank you it's not what we are looking for.

Jo x"

It’s hard doing that though when their profile doesn’t say much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Say no to someone? I’m too soft ....

I don’t mean in terms of having sex I just mean on here

I need some good answers as I’m struggling .... without just ignoring someone "

I always thank them for their message, however you don't match my interests have a lovely day or something along that lines

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By *xfordshireCoupleMFCouple
over a year ago

Nr. Oxford

We normally say

Thank you for your message but you aren’t what we are looking for.

Never had a rude reply yet.

Hope this helps.

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By *ugRollers OP   Couple
over a year ago

Newcastle


"Sorry but I don't think we'd be compatible, good luck though. "

That’s a good one .... I like that .... it’s hard though as I feel like a cruel twat

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"Sorry but I don't think we'd be compatible, good luck though.

That’s a good one .... I like that .... it’s hard though as I feel like a cruel twat "

Don't, you can't say yes to everyone.

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By *B69Woman
over a year ago

Wiltshire

I usually say sorry your not for me happy fabbing, took me a while to be blunt but has to be done

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By *arciocialWoman
over a year ago

Leicester

What others have said and when they come back asking why etc I just ignore. There's far too many on here to justify your reasons to and it's your choice at the end of the day.

when there's a lot of thought and effort in a message, that's when I feel bad but tend to relate back to their message and reply with a bit more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuck off loser.

Do one you ugly fuckwit.

You gotta be kidding me? Really?

I’d rather put pins in my eyes.

Not if you were the last ....... on Earth.

Then block.

You’re welcome

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By *MARUBIXCUBEWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Fuck off loser.

Do one you ugly fuckwit.

You gotta be kidding me? Really?

I’d rather put pins in my eyes.

Not if you were the last ....... on Earth.

Then block.

You’re welcome "
Ahhh a student of mine...well mentored.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I usually just say thanks but alas you’re

too far away or something like that.

Then they offer to up sticks and move and it’s like buggeration i didn’t think that through!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Delete and ghost if you must, if abusive report and block, can’t be any simpler than that really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just don’t say no to anyone. I’m booked solidly until 2026

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By *elly72Woman
over a year ago

glasgow

Just say no if that isn’t good enough block them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just don’t say no to anyone. I’m booked solidly until 2026"

Can I book for 2027?

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By *oldyoudown41Man
over a year ago

caledonian

1: Thank you but not for me x

2: You look lovely but not meeting men right now

3: You’re too good for me

4: Not interesting sweetheart

5: Too far away babe

6: Not interested

7: No response

This is what I normally get ... 3 was my favourite

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By *orny IrishMan
over a year ago

Rural Wiltshire

Just give them the bad news but finish with a good luck or something positive so they dont feel so bad.

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By *moothCriminal_xMan
over a year ago

Redditch

Lovely you want to be nice about things. Try to be honest but the "you arent my type" line is weird- unless you have some uber fetish for one very narrow set of aesthetic preferences and only sleep with clones it makes no sense and is really annoying to receive.

"You arent what we are looking for" is fair but generic.

A lot of people just delete or block to avoid having to say "you're ugly". Truth is if you dont feel any sort of buzz from msgs or their pics then sayinh a short and quick "thanks. We are flattered but my partner wasnt attracted to your pics" is a decent way of puttjng it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not for us but thank you for messaging"

This works for us. Sometimes if it's a particularly nice first message then we add a bit more to it, such as "thank you for your compliments", or "thank you for sending a decent message which is quite rare on here". And we end with "hope you continue to enjoy Fab"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Say no to someone? I’m too soft ....

I don’t mean in terms of having sex I just mean on here

I need some good answers as I’m struggling .... without just ignoring someone "

I personally would rather not hear anything back. It communicates the message without words. Plus I wouldn't think less of anyone if they didn't respond, I would just get the picture.

You are clearly a nice person but this can be a very toxic environment and most people are used to it being that way. Ignoring a message would only be the tip of a very ugly big iceberg. And don't forget that negative attention is the only attention that some people get on here so they may be dragging you into an argument because for them it's the only entertainment they are going to get

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fuck off loser.

Do one you ugly fuckwit.

You gotta be kidding me? Really?

I’d rather put pins in my eyes.

Not if you were the last ....... on Earth.

Then block.

You’re welcome Ahhh a student of mine...well mentored. "

Learned from Miss Bitch

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By *mcouple2Couple
over a year ago

Warrington


"Just say

No thank you it's not what we are looking for.

Jo x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just delete unless you have been talking. A message doesn't come with the obligation of a response.

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Just say

No thank you it's not what we are looking for.

Jo x"

Nail on the head Jo!!

Jo.Xx

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