FabSwingers.com forum: Domination or not

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Who loves being dominated the right way and who hates it and why

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only left way.

;-)

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By *adetMan
over a year ago

South of Ipswich

Yep something I want to try. Also impossible to find

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its the only way I meet and play. Im a sub and love BDSM and proper Dominant men. I absolutely love D/s

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is my need & desire but only with one, my Dom.

Anyone else wouldn't stand a chance to control me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We love it both ways but ours is more of a sensual domination..tied, blindfolded and sometimes hearing dulled so you have no idea what is or is not going to happen. We like slaps of the ass but prefer it to be squeezed hard or fingernails raked across but rathere than inflict, though do enjoy that, we tend to drive the mind wild with more sensuous touch, the kind of touch you want so much that it can be used to taunt and tease..don't know whether that makes any sense

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Anyone else want to comment on this subject

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anyone else want to comment on this subject "

Yeah I like it

However actually finding someone who can dominate properly? And hasn’t just watched porns and watched 50 shades of grey? Very difficult

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have been into kink 10 years now had a previous sub/dom dynamic for 3 years it’s not all about sex it’s mental before physical

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Who’s on fetlife

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who’s on fetlife "

You can’t mention that on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, no, no, no, nope... I am not submissive at all... The things I like, that could be seen as submissive, aren't given in that way... It's hard to explain... It's obvious I don't submit though

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

"Who loves being dominated the right way and who hates it and why "

I look more for dominant personalities, not for wanting to control me, more for an equality feeling as I am a dominant personality. I love it when the sparks fly and power exchange is fluid between us, neither of us

in control of each other just raw animal pleasure seeking.

When the look in his eyes say "I want to fuck you now" oooft

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perfect description above!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a sub in training I love to be dominated in the right way. Although I feel it’s not just all about the sex it’s mentally also which is very important to myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive been on FL 6 years, definitely more Doms on there who actually know BDSM. Here some wannabe Doms think by throwing me across the room it makes them Dom. Its incredibly hard to find a genuine Dom and aftet 6 years on here im still no nearer to achieving that x

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

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Thing is OP what is the "right way"?

Your idea of the "right way" might not be someone elses - the key is finding those that match what you are looking for in a dominant/submissive and whose thinking is aligned, and from an informed position too.

There are plenty of people who are dominant that I wouldn't consider submitting to because, though they may be knowledgeable, their idea of BDSM doesn't match with my own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dominatrix and submissive here , the dynamic is set in stone , we never switch

Is it the " right " way? ..would have no idea whats right or wrong . Theres a huge mental connection between us which allows us to do what we do .The physical and mental run side by side , one is not greater than the other .

The mental connection holds us together like a great big chain whilst we are apart , the physical is what we crave when we are together ..

Its a much talked about subject on the other site , which is the " right " way . Some say Domination should not include sex , others disgree . Some say Femdom , is nothing more than male fantasy . Fortunatly my partner disagrees , its all her fantasy too

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

"Anyone else want to comment on this subject

Yeah I like it

However actually finding someone who can dominate properly? And hasn’t just watched porns and watched 50 shades of grey? Very difficult "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who loves being dominated the right way and who hates it and why "

Only by each other

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think all men are naturally dominant and some females get carried away thinking they are a sub/owned by someone just because of a bit of roleplay and sex objectification. I know someone exactly like that who thinks her master is a dom when theres no mention of it in his profile and its just fantasy roleplay. A true dom/sub is a mindset, relying on trust gained over time not just a couple of sexy meets x

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

"Thing is OP what is the "right way"?

There are plenty of people who are dominant that I wouldn't consider submitting to because, though they may be knowledgeable, their idea of BDSM doesn't match with my own"

Exactly my thoughts.

Although I prefer to be domme mostly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had loads of guys message us telling not asking that would Dom my wife I just laugh they really don’t know her at all. Def not one to be dominated

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"I think all men are naturally dominant and some females get carried away thinking they are a sub/owned by someone just because of a bit of roleplay and sex objectification. I know someone exactly like that who thinks her master is a dom when theres no mention of it in his profile and its just fantasy roleplay. A true dom/sub is a mindset, relying on trust gained over time not just a couple of sexy meets x"

All men are definitely not "naturally dominant" - I'm certainly not and any other male submissives aren't - I don't have a naturally dominant bone in my body, yes I can be assertive when the mood takes me in a mutually agreeable and equal situation, but that doesn't make me dominant.

And while I agree that *some* people of both genders can get carried away with the idea that they are submissive or dominant as a result of a bit of roleplay etc or having read *those* books or seen some BDSM porn, I don't think you can write them off as "not submissives or dominants" either - they're just not *your* idea of a submissive or a dominant - they may require some guidance and encouraging to understand the dynamic more and some of them can be very dangerous indeed - but just because someone doesn't refer to themselves as a dominant or having an interest in that side of things on their profile doesn't mean they're not, in fact there's an argument that they are more likely to be the type of dominant who has thought about their interest and doesn't feel the need to advertise it.

As for the notion of a "true" dominant/submissive - there is no such thing, only an individuals idea of what one might be

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By *ovestrapMan
over a year ago

London

"Its the only way I meet and play. Im a sub and love BDSM and proper Dominant men. I absolutely love D/s

I like the way you think..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmm I do love to be dominated by a mature woman or a kinky fun couple but it needs to be playful and encouraging rather than humiliating/ aggressive, soft domme please!

You catch more flies with honey than you do with vinegar!

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By *quaman87Man
over a year ago

Colchester

Not for me, I'm the dom! I like to please and won't stop till i do!

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

I have played the dominant mistress at fetish clubs in the past. Certainly some guys who attend quite like a Tgirl to take control and do some mild whipping and control.

However I’m not in anyway an expert, it’s just play and doing things I’ve seen more experienced people do, when I used to go to Fetish clubs in the past.

Dressed I’m naturally submissive but in the right situation I do enjoy the power

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When done properly it is incredible.Problem is that there are very few true doms out there.

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

I'm a switch. However, due to being a massive bloke, I almost exclusively end up topping. Hah.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So true, it's hard to find intelligent responsive Dom/Dommes, I almost feel sorry for them having to try and restrain and control such wandering naughty subs haha

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By *ovestrapMan
over a year ago

London

"Its the only way I meet and play. Im a sub and love BDSM and proper Dominant men. I absolutely love D/s

It's the only way to go....

Love a women in pigtails specily if she has red hair.

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"Who loves being dominated the right way and who hates it and why "

I’m craving it. But the right way!

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By *ovestrapMan
over a year ago

London

"When done properly it is incredible.Problem is that there are very few true doms out there.

Very true

Too mnay wannabe so called Dom males. Well they call themselfnl Dom. They are just bullies and they reuin it for the rest of us

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By *ovestrapMan
over a year ago

London

Love it. Being a switch I enjoy both worlds. But I always end up being the dom.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well don’t you just hate in when the OP of the thread is no longer on the site. No staying power!

Well I’m a sub, in the right company and environment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So many so called Doms these days watch 50 shades of grey or read the book and then believe that control and power is what it's all about....they have no conception of respect,trust,communication. They don't see the gift of submission as anything other than a right to do what they want to and behave how they feel they are entitled to.....you will never get them to comprehend no matter how hard you try to explain....in my years of living the lifestyle I've encountered many Submissives who have been damaged mentally and physically by these so called Doms....as all they see is a way of controlling another and behaving how they want to for their own self gratification.

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By *ensualMan
over a year ago

Sutton

"Thing is OP what is the "right way"?

There are plenty of people who are dominant that I wouldn't consider submitting to because, though they may be knowledgeable, their idea of BDSM doesn't match with my own"

I agree.

The term "right way" is just another way of saying "true dom or true sub" which is as a concept has been discredited for many people.

It is like saying there is a right way to cook. The basics are food safety, hygiene and non poisonous ingredients, other than that there is as much variation in cooking as there are by humans to enjoy it and safe ingredients to use.

Some people want full-on porn star kink, others you would not notice there was a D/S relationship.

The only right way to D/S is consensually, with the absence of abuse and with empathy.

But the problem is finding someone with the same palate as you.

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By *ovestrapMan
over a year ago

London

"Well don’t you just hate in when the OP of the thread is no longer on the site. No staying power!

Well I’m a sub, in the right company and environment "

I god I just saw that now.

Yeah no staying power. Guessing the OP was hoping to meet a sub or Dom but it did not go as planned.

Dom here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My style is all in the mind. First meet is always vanilla . Give her something special that she will always crave then use it to reward and punish. Get inside her head. Agree with the comments that most are just bullies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

D/s is not something that happens straight away. A lot of trust is required first. Limits (soft and hard) set, what is the submissive’s goals, safety and of course is there a connection to begin with. Turning up and commanding they get on their knees to worship you ends in a lot of laughter as they walk away!

Plus what is their dynamic. You cannot except a little not to want that in their life, it is part of them and you may not be able to fulfill that role if you are looking for something else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im not interested in it currently, no-one can do it properly. Try and dominate me and you will get a bop on the nose

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"Im not interested in it currently, no-one can do it properly. Try and dominate me and you will get a bop on the nose

Well there'll be no over the knee spanky bottoms for you then young lady

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im not interested in it currently, no-one can do it properly. Try and dominate me and you will get a bop on the nose

Well there'll be no over the knee spanky bottoms for you then young lady

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would have asked OP what they thought "domination the right way" is, but they have left the building.

Dom/Sub surely a different dynamic for all depending on their physical and emotional connection?

Personally I'm rather more inclined to it being a journey of mutual discovery, rather than any right or not right way....

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By *ensualMan
over a year ago

Sutton

"Im not interested in it currently, no-one can do it properly. Try and dominate me and you will get a bop on the nose

Well there'll be no over the knee spanky bottoms for you then young lady

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