FabSwingers.com forum: Polyamorous Relationships

By *rcool67 OP Man
over a year ago

London

Has anyone been in or in a relationship like this?

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

In one

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I'm in one.

Well I think so. I'm not too sure. I have two people I'd describe as a partner so yeah I think so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been in one. I had a great time!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The more I think about it, the more I think I'd like this kind of relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes.

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By *exy mature ladyWoman
over a year ago

Newport

I'd like to be in one...

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

I want one but it’s hard to find

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Finished my last one June 19. They are getting married and trying to have a child.

I'd be interested to hear from poly couples who have worked through that situation. We couldn't make it work.

Now seeing a fb with no poly experience, both of us see others. I think we are exploring a hareem idea, rather than an established poly relationship.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I want one but it’s hard to find

Try OK cupid. It's full of poly people.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Finished my last one June 19. They are getting married and trying to have a child.

I'd be interested to hear from poly couples who have worked through that situation. We couldn't make it work.

Now seeing a fb with no poly experience, both of us see others. I think we are exploring a hareem idea, rather than an established poly relationship."

I don't want to get married or have kids so it's not really an issue for me. However I do know other poly folk who are married and/or have kids so it's not neccessarily a barrier.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't want to get married or have kids so it's not really an issue for me. However I do know other poly folk who are married and/or have kids so it's not neccessarily a barrier."

Fair point but that is your current position, not dissimilar to how my poly relationship started. Things change over time, would you consider poly if you wanted a child?

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By *erdyWoman
over a year ago

wiltshire

Love to be in one! A different hubby for each day of the week, seeing to a different need. After all one person cannot be everything to us.

Not sure what current hubby would make of that though !

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By *nvisible_beardMan
over a year ago

near newbridge, wales

I'd be open to it

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I'm in one

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I don't want to get married or have kids so it's not really an issue for me. However I do know other poly folk who are married and/or have kids so it's not neccessarily a barrier.

Fair point but that is your current position, not dissimilar to how my poly relationship started. Things change over time, would you consider poly if you wanted a child?"

Yes. However I really can't see me changing my mind about kids.

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By *ittlesub4uWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

In one, wouldn’t want it any other way x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd like one!

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By *elly72Woman
over a year ago

glasgow

"Love to be in one! A different hubby for each day of the week, seeing to a different need. After all one person cannot be everything to us.

Not sure what current hubby would make of that though !

All those mother-in-laws though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I'd prefer a strong committed swinging relationship than polyamory but I wouldn't rule it out

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By *iberal ArtsCouple
over a year ago

London

We met a couple at a club just before Christmas and connected in a way that we never thought possible in this scene. 4 way click and so much in common that we have become friends as well as lovers. They live in a different country but we've see each 6 times since our initial meeting and it gets better and more intimate every time. They are seriously good looking with gorgeous bodies (much better that ours) and are into the same music/ food/ kinks as we are so the initial sexual attraction has moved into what I can only describe as love. We're currently trapped in 2 different countries and spend hours formulating plans for when the lockdown is over. Its very frustrating but not a bad problem to have.

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By *erdyWoman
over a year ago

wiltshire

"Love to be in one! A different hubby for each day of the week, seeing to a different need. After all one person cannot be everything to us.

Not sure what current hubby would make of that though !

All those mother-in-laws though

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Can you imagine!

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By *all_Toned_89Couple
over a year ago

Warwickshire

We talked about it.. Didn't dismissed the idea so I'm guessing we're just waiting to meet the 3rd wheel to join the party

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By *wingles007Couple
over a year ago

sutton

We would love another female or couple for this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are currently looking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd like one!"
currently looking if we are your type.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was but it was so unethical, so many rules and I never got to have my own say! Didn't last long.

Now we have a singleton interested and he's lovely but nothing has kicked off yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The fella loves the idea of this, we're not sure how it would work tho. We kind of had a regular thing going with one couple but this latest situation has put pay to that

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By *artinbobMan
over a year ago

Leicester

No but want one. If anyone wants to start one drop me a DM

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By *ovestrapMan
over a year ago

London

"In one, wouldn’t want it any other way x"

What a lovely bum mmmmm

God I want to spank that ass.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im open to the idea of one, never know what the future holds

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When it works it works. When it goes wrong it goes VERY WRONG. Not speaking from my own experience, but from a good friend.

Alot of people say they are 'poly' and actually mean having unprotected sex with LOTS of people and calling it ' Poly Family' Blurgh!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting OP

We would be open to it

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By *rcool67 OP Man
over a year ago

London

"Interesting OP

We would be open to it "

Lovely

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By *eavenNhellCouple
over a year ago

carrbrook stalybridge

we are currently looking for polly partners having been in a short three way relationship . it is very hard work to make it work you need ground rules in place or it just leads to jealousy and recrimination .we have friends who are in a ten strong polly family who all meet each other separately on a regular basis but they do make it work between them .they do all get std and other health checks on a regular basis it takes very strong people to make it work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I left Australia i was asked to stay and enter into one with a couple I was seeing quite regularly. The reasons for me moving back meant that I couldn't but I'd be open to it with the right couple. As with most fab type things ground rules are important I guess...

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By *exySquirrelsCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

We are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is having a regular fwb the same?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Has anyone been in or in a relationship like this?"

Yes, and it was a disaster from start to finish, there was not enough honest communication from the get go.

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By *artinbobMan
over a year ago

Leicester

"Has anyone been in or in a relationship like this?

Yes, and it was a disaster from start to finish, there was not enough honest communication from the get go."

Has it put you off fully from another??

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

"Is having a regular fwb the same?

It is the desire to have a intimate relationship with more than one person, with the consent of all partners involved, mine are all fwb, I don't include any one offs or occasional fb because we don't have the intimacy of knowing about each others real lives it's just about seeking pleasure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"we are currently looking for polly partners having been in a short three way relationship . it is very hard work to make it work you need ground rules in place or it just leads to jealousy and recrimination .we have friends who are in a ten strong polly family who all meet each other separately on a regular basis but they do make it work between them .they do all get std and other health checks on a regular basis it takes very strong people to make it work "

Does it not also take a lot of time and emotional energy?

That's always the bit I can't get my head around. An intimate and meaningful relationship with just one person can be challenging enough when juggling work, friends, life and possibly kids

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Something we would love to explore and something we have researched extensively.

Finding it very difficult to meet like minded singles though. Anyone know if meet groups in the midlands area?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is having a regular fwb the same?

In that case yes I’m in one then

defo works for me and my other half.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Has anyone been in or in a relationship like this?

Yes, and it was a disaster from start to finish, there was not enough honest communication from the get go.

Has it put you off fully from another?? "

No it's just made me more mistrusting of other people and their true intentions.

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By *rcool67 OP Man
over a year ago

London

"Has anyone been in or in a relationship like this?

Yes, and it was a disaster from start to finish, there was not enough honest communication from the get go."

Oh no! That's a shame, I guess just like any other relationship honesty and communication is very important

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes, just one is too many

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By *artinbobMan
over a year ago

Leicester

"Has anyone been in or in a relationship like this?

Yes, and it was a disaster from start to finish, there was not enough honest communication from the get go.

Has it put you off fully from another??

No it's just made me more mistrusting of other people and their true intentions. "

Is good that it’s not put you off fully. But I think it’s a natural reaction to mistrust when something goes wrong in relationships

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"When it works it works. When it goes wrong it goes VERY WRONG. Not speaking from my own experience, but from a good friend.

Alot of people say they are 'poly' and actually mean having unprotected sex with LOTS of people and calling it ' Poly Family' Blurgh! "

I'm poly and I'm not having unprotected sex with anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there’s a lot of misconceptions towards it. It doesn’t look like one thing, there’s no right or wrong way to have a relationship.

You can have healthy polyamorous relationships and unhealthy ones the same as with monogamous relationships.

For me, it would be dependant on the dynamic with the other person/people involved. I’ve got quite a fluid attitude towards it

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay

Yes. Current status.

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By *rcool67 OP Man
over a year ago

London

I think it sounds very exciting, if you all have a great connection and understanding of each other.

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay

It's not for everyone. For me, there needs to be a very conscious aspect..people who can demonstrate good communication and are settled in themselves enough to make it as a lifestyle choice .. not just to be able to have sex with lots of people.

Kindness, respect, honesty, transparency and privacy all need to be in the mix.

It can take some navigating .. but there are beautiful rewards and those connections can be deep and loving as well as playful.

Each connection is unique and you can shape it together how we want.

The heart has a huge capacity for love.

We don't limit how many we love in otner relationships with friends and family so why limit in intimate relationships.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

F. I *might* be, but no real clue tbh

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By *quaman87Man
over a year ago

Colchester

Intruiged

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By *rcool67 OP Man
over a year ago

London

"It's not for everyone. For me, there needs to be a very conscious aspect..people who can demonstrate good communication and are settled in themselves enough to make it as a lifestyle choice .. not just to be able to have sex with lots of people.

Kindness, respect, honesty, transparency and privacy all need to be in the mix.

It can take some navigating .. but there are beautiful rewards and those connections can be deep and loving as well as playful.

Each connection is unique and you can shape it together how we want.

The heart has a huge capacity for love.

We don't limit how many we love in otner relationships with friends and family so why limit in intimate relationships.

Good point, well said

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Kindness, respect, honesty, transparency and privacy all need to be in the mix.

It can take some navigating .. but there are beautiful rewards and those connections can be deep and loving as well as playful.

Each connection is unique and you can shape it together how we want.

The heart has a huge capacity for love.

We don't limit how many we love in otner relationships with friends and family so why limit in intimate relationships.

This is so beautiful Freya and perfectly describes how I feel. x

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By *artinbobMan
over a year ago

Leicester

Kindness, respect, honesty, transparency and privacy all need to be in the mix.

It can take some navigating .. but there are beautiful rewards and those connections can be deep and loving as well as playful.

Each connection is unique and you can shape it together how we want.

The heart has a huge capacity for love.

We don't limit how many we love in otner relationships with friends and family so why limit in intimate relationships.

Thank you for sharing

this is put so well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I want one but it’s hard to find

Try OK cupid. It's full of poly people."

Also Openminded. Apparently good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

God noooooooo!

I dont want a relationship with one person let alone more than one

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By *ondongreg79Man
over a year ago

london

This is a swingers site. I think you’ll find a few positive responses to that question here.

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By *inkywife1981Couple
over a year ago

A town near you

Not sure if it poly or not but mrs has a long term lover who has also become a good friend to us both.

To the extent that we often socialize without anything intimate happening.

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By *rMrsBrightsideCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

I find this really interesting and there have been some great replies x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is what I’m working towards x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Really good Louis Theroux documentary about this if you've got access to iplayer.

I have been in a couple but they very rarely work unless both parties are 100% committed and think the same way. Which if you think about it is never the case in any relationship. I found that I was always ok with us being open but the other parties involved would end up giving me an ultimatum. Jealousy always seemed to creep in and the more passive the person, the longer it takes them to voice that they are not happy which kinda made me feel bad.

I know there's a lot of people who will disagree with me on this but just my experience. I don't think there's ever an ideal relationship, everything is subjective so it's better to test the waters of each pool and find a scenario that make both/all parties happy

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Really good Louis Theroux documentary about this if you've got access to iplayer.

If it's the Louis Theroux documentary that I saw I personally hated it and was very dissapointed as I usually like his shows. Most documentaries I've seen always seem to concentrate on the most out there examples. I can get it as they're trying to make good TV but it's frustrating as it leads to a lot of misinformation. I did see a BBC Scotland documentary once that wasn't too bad.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

"Not sure if it poly or not but mrs has a long term lover who has also become a good friend to us both.

To the extent that we often socialize without anything intimate happening. "

It's all about the relationship you all have, there are many different versions and if it works for you then brill

I am a gf to a married man and his wife has a bf, we all meet as a 4 and just socialise together, it's the friendship that is important, the sex is just a bonus

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By *inkywife1981Couple
over a year ago

A town near you

"Not sure if it poly or not but mrs has a long term lover who has also become a good friend to us both.

To the extent that we often socialize without anything intimate happening.

It's all about the relationship you all have, there are many different versions and if it works for you then brill

I am a gf to a married man and his wife has a bf, we all meet as a 4 and just socialise together, it's the friendship that is important, the sex is just a bonus

It works well for us as he is divorced with adult children and travels alot so just enjoys the company when he is in town.

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By *rcool67 OP Man
over a year ago

London

"Really good Louis Theroux documentary about this if you've got access to iplayer.

I need to watch that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting replies there. We definitely have to discuss this topic at some point in future podcasts

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By *etite_delightWoman
over a year ago

BunnyLand

Not me, not interested at all! Prefer regular sexual partners instead

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By *rcool67 OP Man
over a year ago

London

"Not me, not interested at all! Prefer regular sexual partners instead

It's much easier to find regular sexual partners, although sometimes that's not always reliable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks for everyone's views on this, it's something I've thought of but am unsure about. To some people it seems to be about being in a community of like-minded people, yet I have also met some who keep their relationships with their partners completely separate (but not secret). I guess it's like swinging in a way, it means different things to different people.

If what you're after is a few people that you have both an emotional and physical relationship with, where you can trust each other to explore the boundaries of your sexuality and pleasure (MFF, MMF, MMFF), is that an ethical poly relationship, or regular swinging partners? (maybe a question for a new thread)

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay

"Thanks for everyone's views on this, it's something I've thought of but am unsure about. To some people it seems to be about being in a community of like-minded people, yet I have also met some who keep their relationships with their partners completely separate (but not secret). I guess it's like swinging in a way, it means different things to different people.

It's a good question .. It's just doing it how you are doing it.

To me, polyamory suggests on going relating, whatever the depth of feeling involved. Although the name does suggest that love is involved.

Perhaps ethical non monogomy is more what you are suggesting. Consensual non monogomy where all parties are consenting to sharing. The ethical bit is about partners left at home clueless and everyone open about the arrangement.

There's no need to label situations.. but I find it useful to define something so that there is clarity and discussion as things shift and evolve, which they do.

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Kindness, respect, honesty, transparency and privacy all need to be in the mix.

It can take some navigating .. but there are beautiful rewards and those connections can be deep and loving as well as playful.

Each connection is unique and you can shape it together how we want.

The heart has a huge capacity for love.

We don't limit how many we love in otner relationships with friends and family so why limit in intimate relationships.

That sounds perfect. Gorgeous profile Freya x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When it works it works. When it goes wrong it goes VERY WRONG. Not speaking from my own experience, but from a good friend.

Alot of people say they are 'poly' and actually mean having unprotected sex with LOTS of people and calling it ' Poly Family' Blurgh!

I'm poly and I'm not having unprotected sex with anyone."

You are doing it right then.

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By *thleticgirthMan
over a year ago

wirral

I really want this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I believe that it is the way forward. The only rules about love and relationships are man made. They are based on old morals that no longer exist. If more than 2 people love each other then why shouldn't they be together if that's what they all want? Good luck to all of you in poly relationships.

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By *unkymale65Man
over a year ago

Worksop

I would love one

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By *thena123Woman
over a year ago

Swansea

I'd like to be in one..

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By *thleticgirthMan
over a year ago

wirral

"I'd like to be in one..

I would with me, you and a third of your choice x

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By *thena123Woman
over a year ago

Swansea

"I'd like to be in one..

I would with me, you and a third of your choice x"

Now there's an offer.xxx

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By *rcool67 OP Man
over a year ago

London

I would not rule this out if I met the right people

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By *thleticgirthMan
over a year ago

wirral

"I'd like to be in one..

I would with me, you and a third of your choice x

Now there's an offer.xxx"

Il leave it to you to sort then

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By *thleticgirthMan
over a year ago

wirral

"I'd like to be in one..

I would with me, you and a third of your choice x

Now there's an offer.xxx"

Could be a lot of fun xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not yet but would like to

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By *yesgreenMan
over a year ago

north and south

"Not yet but would like to"
A lady that will consider her cosant for you to enjoy everything and let you enjoy another lady too, how many are we lucky enough to meet like that , Without losing one or both goodwomen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not yet but would like toA lady that will consider her cosant for you to enjoy everything and let you enjoy another lady too, how many are we lucky enough to meet like that , Without losing one or both goodwomen

? I don't don't follow. Did you mean to quote me there?

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By *wingles007Couple
over a year ago

sutton

Defo our first thing after lockdown

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By *iwie!Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

In one :D

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By *thleticgirthMan
over a year ago

wirral

If anyone is looking im in x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Something I have thought about alot recently x

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By *ubynaughtyCouple
over a year ago

sheffield

We would love to end up in one but finding it hard to find a women!

Anyone have any tips as to where to look other than here? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In one

Those feet were made for sharing

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"In one

Those feet were made for sharing

Is this to me? If so thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In one

Those feet were made for sharing

Is this to me? If so thank you

Yes it was, wow I’d love to be sucking those toes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was in one. One partner moved on as she later found it wasn't for her. Communication and trust is paramount as is commitment to each other. Without these it can make it difficult to start but if you persevere it is rewarding. It's not for everyone as some will struggle with the sharing aspect and not always at the onset. Not something to just jump into without a lot of thought and conversations. It's also not so much about the sex and maybe more about what others can bring to the relationships that make it attractive. Being independent can help.

Lots of rambling but hope that makes sense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would like to have one! Tried many times to arrange it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had one years ago with 2 bi men, it was bliss!

I've been seeking this again and finding that real polyandry is rare

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had one years ago with 2 bi men, it was bliss!

I've been seeking this again and finding that real polyandry is rare"

Bi guy here, but not close enough for a regular relationship

, but if you ever want an ad hoc bi guy

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

I'm poly. Married to a mono husband (who's on the asexual end of the sexual spectrum).

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By *reeSpiriT17Man
over a year ago

Local

"Has anyone been in or in a relationship like this?"

Would love to be in one Shropshire area

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By *wingles007Couple
over a year ago

sutton

Poly needed for us x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its an interest for us at the mo. I think if its going to work, its gotta be natural and communication between all parties mudt be key

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By *rettyGreenWoman
over a year ago

watton

"Has anyone been in or in a relationship like this?"

My best friend and her husband have a third.

Im not, and i dont think its for me and my partner. Fucking is fine. But feelings is completely different. If i heard him tell someone else he loved them ect i think id loose my mind...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Communication would be key

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm poly. Married to a mono husband (who's on the asexual end of the sexual spectrum). "

Huh??

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Yeah I was in one...

Had to knock it on the head, was too much having 2 people telling me to put my socks in the washing every day.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Yeah I was in one...

Had to knock it on the head, was too much having 2 people telling me to put my socks in the washing every day."

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

This intrigues me, but I couldn't ever be in a polyamorous relationship - I can share someone I love physically, but not emotionally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I want one but it’s hard to find

Try OK cupid. It's full of poly people."

Was on there a few years ago, never realised this

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By *lasphemouscoupleCouple
over a year ago

Cambridgeshire

Wouldn't rule it out,

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By *ensual-dominant-passionMan
over a year ago

sheffield

It’s amazing... no room for jealousy

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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru

"This intrigues me, but I couldn't ever be in a polyamorous relationship - I can share someone I love physically, but not emotionally. "

This

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

Wish I could

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

I can't ever see myself falling in love again so could i just have two very good fwb?

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I want one but it’s hard to find

Try OK cupid. It's full of poly people.

Was on there a few years ago, never realised this

They have search filters for monogamous and non-monogamous and even have the options for putting if you're already in a relationship or married which is great.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're on here with a poly relationship in mind. Just need to find a single female we both like, thats willing to get to know us & allow it to grow organically.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"It’s amazing... no room for jealousy

Nah. Poly people still feel jealousy, those in poly relationships don't always act in this virtuous, kind way. I think there's this false idea at times that poly relationships are this happy hippy commune of love. No, they still take time and love and care. People can still cheat, still upset those they are dating, still feel jealous or less than important.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not really made for sharing...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

G here. Our relationship started as poly. L was seeing someone who was poly, and he encouraged her to meet other people. She met me, and we got on pretty well. After a couple of months, their relationship fizzled out, and we were both satisfied with what we had and didn’t look for anything else.

It’s something we’re open to exploring more, if someone comes along that one of us wants to be with.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"It’s amazing... no room for jealousy

Absolutely though unfortunately when others witness toxic polyamorous relationships they often see that as a sign that polyamory can't work which I've never really seen anyone do over the existance of toxic monogamous relationships. Polyamory is vulnerable to all the same pitfalls though as much as I get occasional pangs of jealousy, it is something I've had to learn to work through and know when it needs to be discussed with a partner and when its just me and I can sit with it. I think if I felt excessive jealousy I'd be miserable in polyamory.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are poly at heart. Cs heart is full of love and we have had experimented with poly onher part. I love it when I think a guy or girl is going to fall for Her as much as I. Poly with a bull type is perfect. We have had very special dalliances and look forward to more..love the pangs of jealousy when she went to the back row of cinema with one of her special friends on a date. I love it when she has opportunity to meet and love and play with others.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

" Absolutely though unfortunately when others witness toxic polyamorous relationships they often see that as a sign that polyamory can't work which I've never really seen anyone do over the existance of toxic monogamous relationships. Polyamory is vulnerable to all the same pitfalls though as much as I get occasional pangs of jealousy, it is something I've had to learn to work through and know when it needs to be discussed with a partner and when its just me and I can sit with it. I think if I felt excessive jealousy I'd be miserable in polyamory. "

This is so very true Lacey, I could read your writing on the subject all day.

I'm much like you, if I experienced excessive jealousy I wouldn't be happy in a poly set up. As it is, wobbles are a chance for me to self reflect and I know my loved ones are there to listen and support if they are the sort that require open communication and not just my time of my month Ms Hyde moments.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've enjoyed reading the posts in this thread, it's something I'd love to explore and totally see the attraction to the lifestyle.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"I want one but it’s hard to find

Try OK cupid. It's full of poly people.

Was on there a few years ago, never realised this

They have search filters for monogamous and non-monogamous and even have the options for putting if you're already in a relationship or married which is great. "

What about fab and tinder?

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

I'm married to a romantically monogamous man who doesn't have much, if any sex drive.

I am, and always have been poly before meeting him and he's happy with that. Currently I'm devoid of secondary partners.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So whats the difference between a polyamorous relationship and an open relationship?

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

"So whats the difference between a polyamorous relationship and an open relationship?

There are many poly relationship versions that people adopt to suit their lifestyle, it's not one way fits all. I am poly because it is natural for me to love more than one person at the same time and that is how I maintain multiple relationships, not one is better than the other they all have equal room in my heart.

Multiple boyfriends for example.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tried a kind of poly relationship once with a woman I met on here.

We were both married to others, and met each other discretely, yes our partners did not know we were on a swing site.

We continued to see others from here at first, so I guess we were fwb to begin with, and we then decided to stay exclusive to each other. We were both very happy with it, and began to have strong feelings and emotions for each other.

We still went to clubs, and the occasional party, and met other couples twice, we preferred clubs though, less intense and pressurised environment.

Our agreement was, that we would play with other couples only, and only together if we both agreed. If one of us didn't want to play, no questions asked and that would be it.

A few times, we got playing with couples and all was fine, but there were a few occasions where she was getting fucked by the guy, and I found it really difficult to watch and be there.

I couldn't say anything or react, because it was what we both agreed, but it was tough for me nonetheless.

On every occasion that I felt this way, we talked about it, and it often ended with her saying that we wont do anything with other couples again, because she didnt want me to feel that way, saying I was more important to her than anything, and I believed her.

Its not that I didnt want to play with other couples with her, it just wasn't easy for me to accept it sometimes, accept seeing her with another man sometimes, but not all the time.

It was wierd for me why I felt this way, but I couldnt help it.

What I'm saying is that in my experience, it wasn't so easy for me to accept and adjust.

The idea sounds great to me, but the reality was different.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Think we both are !

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By *ka-sammi_n_danCouple
over a year ago

nantwich

We would love to be in a poly/triad relationship... One day the right fit for us will come along and it will be great

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

"So whats the difference between a polyamorous relationship and an open relationship?

Open relationships are generally (as far as I have experienced) monoromantic but sexually none monogamous.

Being poly (polyamory being more than one love) for me is about having more than one emotionally connected relationship (not all of which are sexual)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Has anyone been in or in a relationship like this?"

No thank you. Two mother in laws will be too much to handle!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d love to join x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Want a polyamorous relationship FFM OR MMF, please get in touch x

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By *orkshrCplCouple
over a year ago

Ripon

I do think theres a difference between ethical non monogomy and polyamory. I'd say it's the latter if feelings run as deep as love x

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I do think theres a difference between ethical non monogomy and polyamory. I'd say it's the latter if feelings run as deep as love x"

Ethical non-monogamy is more of an umbrella term. It includes polyamory, swinging, open relationships, etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's something we have thought about if we meet the right people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, had a girlfriend and my husband for a while xx

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By *thleticgirthMan
over a year ago

wirral

North west anyone (any two)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We love it!

Mrs DD had her lover for over 2 years!

She loves being adored by two men!

And she adores him!

If we can make it 4 way..( working on it! ) All the better.

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By *andaloriansCouple
over a year ago

Malvern

Certainly interested in such, if and when the right people come along

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By *olymalelincsMan
over a year ago

southend

Was in a poly relationship for 8 years with my ex and in that time had one 2 year relationship with another couple and a couple of separate relationships at other times, currently have kind of solo poly as I have two young ladies that I love very much but neither lives with me although both are awear of each other as is only right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would love to be part of it x

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By *ilverjagMan
over a year ago

swansea

As I'm getting older, I'd love to be in one, but meeting someone on the same wavelength, and who is not located on the other side of the country, is like finding The Holy Grail.

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By *idnight RamblerMan
over a year ago

Pershore

Is that sex using wallpaper paste?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was a couple of years ago, it only lasted a few months though unfortunately xx

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By *TK421-Man
over a year ago

Cheltenham

I'm in one now myself.

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By *etite_delightWoman
over a year ago

BunnyLand

"Not me, not interested at all! Prefer regular sexual partners instead

Above quote is mine a year ago

never say never eek

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

love to chat with anyone in poly relationship--love the idea but assume you need to have trust and both want and need to embody this

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

"love to chat with anyone in poly relationship--love the idea but assume you need to have trust and both want and need to embody this"

Oh yeah of course, polyamoury involves a huge amount of trust.

Which in turn means a lot of continual, open communication about boundaries, feelings etc...

And shared calendars, a lot of shared calendars

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm pretty sure fucking parrots is illegal..

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"love to chat with anyone in poly relationship--love the idea but assume you need to have trust and both want and need to embody this"

Both of who? It needs to be the case for everyone involved.

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By *iggyStarjumpsMan
over a year ago

Stockport

"Has anyone been in or in a relationship like this?"

Have been and would again

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

"love to chat with anyone in poly relationship--love the idea but assume you need to have trust and both want and need to embody this

Both of who? It needs to be the case for everyone involved. "

Him and his wife, who is not on his profile and is unaware of him being on fab, or having a fwb.

So to clarify...

Polyamoury is never cheating..

Poly people who break defined boundaries and lie about relationships are cheaters too.

Polyamoury is about clear and transparent communication amongst all parties.

Having clearly defined boundaries of what is and isn't acceptable between all parties concerned.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"love to chat with anyone in poly relationship--love the idea but assume you need to have trust and both want and need to embody this

Both of who? It needs to be the case for everyone involved.

Him and his wife, who is not on his profile and is unaware of him being on fab, or having a fwb.

So to clarify...

Polyamoury is never cheating..

Poly people who break defined boundaries and lie about relationships are cheaters too.

Polyamoury is about clear and transparent communication amongst all parties.

Having clearly defined boundaries of what is and isn't acceptable between all parties concerned.

I meant more that people in existing monogamous relationships often come into polyamory and its all "we, us, pair, two, both" as if they're a complete entity of their own and that's normally pretty incompatible with polyamory. I get it's probably a force of habit but I guess I'm touchy as like many I've been burnt by couples privilege in the past.

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

"I meant more that people in existing monogamous relationships often come into polyamory and its all "we, us, pair, two, both" as if they're a complete entity of their own and that's normally pretty incompatible with polyamory. I get it's probably a force of habit but I guess I'm touchy as like many I've been burnt by couples privilege in the past. "

Ah yeah couples looking as a singular unit for a 3rd is mostly completely unrealistic and totally unfair on the 3rd.

The only time I've known a triad work well is where each person maintains 2 relationships and the relationship between the existing couple is managed as part of that, but it's very hard work to ensure that the 'primary' don't have that privilege (although hiarachical situations such as D/s can make this easier - or worse!)

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By *erbert the pervertMan
over a year ago

party in your panties

Can I join in

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Ah yeah couples looking as a singular unit for a 3rd is mostly completely unrealistic and totally unfair on the 3rd.

Even aside from that, where is there "both" when there's 3 people?

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By *ocktoplaywithMan
over a year ago

Derby

"Has anyone been in or in a relationship like this?"

Yes, loved it, but it was very difficult emotionally when it came to an end. Took me a while to get over it.

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By *lirtyAndFunCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

We are, V likes me to be with lots of other guys but doesn't want to take part himself.

I really like sex & am madly in love with V so its perfect.

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