FabSwingers.com forum: Accepting friend request

By *obbychick OP Woman
over a year ago

Essex

Im interested into knowing how you all go about accepting friend requests.

Do you accept requests of those who’s “friends only” pictures you’d like to see??

Someone you’re keen to meet??

Profiles of people you might chat to on the forums??

Or anything else you might want to add??

I don’t really accept any requests, I like keeping friends list quite short and usually personal (as in those I see I can build something with)

But I am contemplating on whether I should add a few more lol

Random profiles just get ignored by myself, especially those that I’ve never spoken to before. That but I never really get other than them being nosey and wanting to peek in. Nothing much is even on my profile lol

Hope you all are enjoying the weather and this beautiful Sunday

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pick me, pick me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I’ve built up a bit of a repertoire with someone and I like the way they communicate I’ll usually accept.

I very rarely ask myself.

I don’t handle rejection well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We do not accept friend requests from anyone who we haven't already spoken to.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Only people I've been talking to, most of my friends are people I've met or plan to meet, and a small handful from the forum.

Friends pics aren't a factor I consider.

It's a fairly small list!

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I only accept friend requests for people I have or intend to meet.

The only photos I have in friends are face photos and many seem to want to "friend" you because they think you will have more graphic photos available.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

Either people we've met or built up a really good rapport with on here/via messaging. Not just anyone!

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

I usually accept or send friend requests to people i've either met at clubs or socials and enjoyed their company or people i've established a good rapport with on the forums. There doesn't necessarily have to be an intent to meet underlying the requests either.

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By *eachesAndCream99Couple
over a year ago

Outskirts of Cardiff just off the M4

We won’t simply invite people to be friends or accept instant friend requests as we have a lot of friends only photos that we want to keep as just that, for friends, people we know and people we have met or verified. Nothing personal, if they’ve no face or couple together pics then why should they see all of ours? We’re always happy to send genuine fabbers our face pics when we’re chatting and the same level of respect is expected from them or we simply have to unfriend them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We tend to get them along with the first messages and will decline. After we've been chatting for a while then maybe, but it's rare. People must think we've got more exciting photos in friends only so send requests and it's just our faces

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By *obbychick OP Woman
over a year ago

Essex

Oh ok so everyone so far have the same kind of views.

If the interest stops before meeting, do you guys end up deleting them??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh ok so everyone so far have the same kind of views.

If the interest stops before meeting, do you guys end up deleting them??"

Yeah for sure!

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I’ve been exchanging a few messages with a lady for a week. We’ve exchanged face pics so know what each other look like (if she is actually the woman she says she is).

Yesterday she asked if I’d accept her friend request. As she doesn’t have any friends pics and I’ve got quite a few including more with my face then I declined.

I honestly can’t see the point. It’s not Facebook!

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

My friends are people I know and have met.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My friends list is small. It's people who I've either met already or plan to but more importantly those whom I talk to regularly and have that kind of connection with

Although I have accepted unsolicited requests in the past when the sender is offline, had a quick perv then removed them

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By *edoriartyCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough

I accept if they are either someone I've met and liked, I've spoken to for a bit and liked or have liked what I've seen of them so far and think they may have more I would like to see.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My friends list is made up of folks ive met and 1 or 2 i’m yet to meet.

Any unasked for requests i wait until theyre offline check out the friends only photos and then delete. Sometimes i just ignore as it stops them sending another for a month.

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By *obbychick OP Woman
over a year ago

Essex

"We tend to get them along with the first messages and will decline. After we've been chatting for a while then maybe, but it's rare. People must think we've got more exciting photos in friends only so send requests and it's just our faces

Lol it’s always nice knowing the face behind the profile tho, so I wouldn’t be disappointed with that.

My friends only pics aren’t anything exciting either just so everyone knows lol

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By *ed PetalCouple
over a year ago

Kent

We only accept friend request from people we have met in real life.

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By *obbychick OP Woman
over a year ago

Essex

"My friends list is small. It's people who I've either met already or plan to but more importantly those whom I talk to regularly and have that kind of connection with

Although I have accepted unsolicited requests in the past when the sender is offline, had a quick perv then removed them

Hahaha you’re cheeky mr

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay

I'm friends with people I have some rapport with .. mostly from the forum. We will have exchanged a few messages.

Having said that, there are plenty lovelies who I haven't got round to requesting as friends.

I ignore random friends requests, I don't need to see their friends only pics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I have or want to get intimate with them, usually, or occasionally just because they are

Hot!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wont accept random friend invites, however if I've been chatting to them for a while or I we have met then I will accept them. However have regular clears out to keep my list under control.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have face pics in friends only so will only except of we have met. On the rate occasion I will add providing we are about to meet. Most just want to see my pics and have no interest in actually knowing me so im very careful x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never send random friend requests .......... and rarely accept them too

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

I have a lovely mix of friends. One or two that I have chatted to since I first joined although we will never meet but I enjoy the conversations. I’m happy to be friends if we get along well but I rarely ask

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

There has to be a connection on some level after all that is part of the definition of "friend" - I don't accept/send random requests without any prior communication and I certainly don't accept/send just to get to see their friends pics either

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

I will accept all who I have meet or spoken too in person or on fab or any lady or couple that sends me one I do not accept from Men, TV/TS.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We tend to accept if it’s someone we are chatting to via messages. We don’t tend to accept random requests. Usually after we post a new pic we get quite a few, usually from single guys, which we just delete.

That being said if it’s someone we really like look of we have been known to accept, perve the friend only pics and then swiftly delete lol

We also wouldn’t accept a friend request from someone with zero friends only photos. Seems one sided. We have a lot of face pics unedited etc in our friends so like to expect to see same when we accept

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mostly just people we have met or plan to meet occasionally someone who is just great to chat to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh ok so everyone so far have the same kind of views.

If the interest stops before meeting, do you guys end up deleting them??"

Yes definitely. We've got 2 friends and one is a profile for socials so we know when they're being held. That's when they come in handy more than anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I only have about 10 friends on fab. I only accept a new friends request after I get to know that person a bit with a possibility of a meet.

Hopefuls think they will see more naughty pictures when they randomly send me requests - I only have my face pictures there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unless we've met in person, you won't get on our friends list. No way!

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By *evilmademedoitMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

I’ve sent random friends request by accident before, what I mean by that is with my fat fingers were aiming for the hotlist button and friend request buttons are too close.

I always send an apology for the random request, when I tell them they were being added to the hotlist, a few have accepted and we now regularly chat on here.

It’s not all bad, although I must admit I never accept random requests.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

I ask people who are either unbelievably sexy or make me laugh, which makes them unbelievably sexy.

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

I don't accept any random requests for a start.

For me it has to have been someone I've spoken to and got on with which usually comes from the forums.

It will usually be because I think we'd get on in real life too or sometimes because it's people I'd like to meet where there could be something sexual happening as well at some point and I'd like a way for us to keep in touch.

I dont feel the need for those on my friends list to constantly check in either, just that we have a link to each other for when timings work out like now while we're all in lockdown

I do consider those on my list to either be friends I've yet to meet or actual friends so if you're on there or find a place on there then I do like you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I rarely get them and only send them after asking permission to from a person I've chatted to.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"I don't accept any random requests for a start.

For me it has to have been someone I've spoken to and got on with which usually comes from the forums.

I dont feel the need for those on my friends list to constantly check in either, just that we have a link to each other for when timings work out like now while we're all in lockdown

I do consider those on my list to either be friends I've yet to meet or actual friends so if you're on there or find a place on there then I do like you

I'm on there but I hope to be in time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Will accept a friends request once we've chatted for a while.

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By *edVelveteenCouple
over a year ago

Heaven in the Midlands

I accept any friend request. We don't have much in the 'friends only'. We're more spontaneous, so we don't use the lists for people we plan to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A combination of factors for me....

If I like the look of their public pics, there’s a good chance I’d be interested in their private ones; that alone wouldn’t seal the deal though.

I’d have to have either chatted here or seen/replied to some of their forum posts to get an idea of who they are and whether they seem like a good ‘un or not.

Maybe if they were established in some way, e.g. known party organiser/club owner, I’d forego needing any interaction.

For clarity OP, you’d be straight in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We Only accept friend requests from those we have met

We say so in our profile.

We also point out we will block anyone that ignores our wishes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We only accept those weve met or chatted to for a good bit, anyone who sends random requests gets it deleted min...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once you've met no problems.

If you are just out to collect a big list then go for it.

My experience is that most you accept on friends list before meeting hardly ever do, they always got an excuse. And the conversations dry up and you hardly hear from them.

You don't need these people, they are energy vampires and wasters.

You can send face pics etc anytime so no need to add to friends until you've met.

Woman on here are ruthless and men should be as well regardless of the difference in ratio.

It doesn't make you a bad person just direct in what you want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually few nice conversations over time lead to it. If I feel someone is mainly after my friends only pics..i would be reluctant to add. I might be wrong though but that's just me. It doesn't mean they are people i intend to meet. Just people Im comfortable with.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

I hardly check my friend requests, so I've surely missed some I would have probably accepted.

I have a fair few already. Those I've spoken to..those I like to look at and those that have raised my curiosity

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By *exy4youxxWoman
over a year ago

Pontefract

My friends list is for friends I have made on here and people I am meeting it's not wank fodder. I ask to send the requests if anyone just adds me they are instantly blocked as my profile clearly states x

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

"I don't accept any random requests for a start.

For me it has to have been someone I've spoken to and got on with which usually comes from the forums.

I dont feel the need for those on my friends list to constantly check in either, just that we have a link to each other for when timings work out like now while we're all in lockdown

I do consider those on my list to either be friends I've yet to meet or actual friends so if you're on there or find a place on there then I do like you

I'm on there but I hope to be in time

Of course you should be on there so your invite has been sent sent

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By *nvisible_beardMan
over a year ago

near newbridge, wales

I'm easy.... I like the attention.... but they remove themselves

I'm kidding..... what friend requests

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only ever have people on my friends list I’m actively talking to regularly at least

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess I add those who I’ve talked to first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

See I think I totally got it the wrong way round when I joined and far too nice to say no!!! But my friends list is quite long yet my Hotlist is for the guys I plan to or have met. Just shows I’m an amateur!!

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"I don't accept any random requests for a start.

For me it has to have been someone I've spoken to and got on with which usually comes from the forums.

I dont feel the need for those on my friends list to constantly check in either, just that we have a link to each other for when timings work out like now while we're all in lockdown

I do consider those on my list to either be friends I've yet to meet or actual friends so if you're on there or find a place on there then I do like you

I'm on there but I hope to be in time

Of course you should be on there so your invite has been sent sent

Thanks Sophie..off to accept

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By *nvisible_beardMan
over a year ago

near newbridge, wales

"See I think I totally got it the wrong way round when I joined and far too nice to say no!!! But my friends list is quite long yet my Hotlist is for the guys I plan to or have met. Just shows I’m an amateur!!

Wanna be fwiends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wanna be fwiends

Of course!! More the merrier.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I accept friends requests from people I have been chatting to for a while. Apart from that I don't accept them especially from people who I have never spoken to.

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

I only have people that I have actually met or have been chatting to for a good while on my friends list.

Any requests sent just sit there otherwise so they can’t request again

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By *nvisible_beardMan
over a year ago

near newbridge, wales

Wanna be fwiends

Of course!! More the merrier.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I rarely receive friend requests, but if we haven't been communicating beforehand, I won't be accepting it.

I only add people whom I have gotten into a conversation with and are either forum regulars who I feel I have a connection with, or others who may be prospective future meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Friend request sent!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pick me, pick me!

Don’t do it!!! It’s a trap!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only have forumites on my friends list. Two are local to be and I want to eventually meet. Not sure they’ll be keen though, now that I’m bald

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By *rHornyGentMan
over a year ago

South East London

My friends list is hidden and longish. I’ve more or less met everyone on it.

When I joined I knew friend requests from men were a waste of time unless you’d met up. So I hauled ass to a local club and started chatting. That led to private party invitations and different clubs, so after 7 or so years I have a fair few swinger friends.

My hotlist is for those I find interesting or think would be fun to meet. I’m realistic about those I hotlist and get in touch with.

I used to use the block button but now rely on private notes and memory to stay clear of those with no interest in meeting me. I know quite a few use the hotlist to ‘block’ profiles they don’t like.

MHG xx

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By *rHornyGentMan
over a year ago

South East London

"I only have forumites on my friends list. Two are local to be and I want to eventually meet. Not sure they’ll be keen though, now that I’m bald

If you don’t mind me asking, was fashion or fundraising the reason you went bald?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of mine I have met, the others I would like to meet. Some just want to perve my pics which I'm ok with.

Random requests I accept when they're off line, have a quick perve then they might get deleted or stay if they have good pics

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"Most of mine I have met, the others I would like to meet. Some just want to perve my pics which I'm ok with.

Random requests I accept when they're off line, have a quick perve then they might get deleted or stay if they have good pics"

I have never done that, accepted and then deleted. Btw great pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine are people I've met, potentially will meet, find funny... Or got added through the 'find a friend' thread

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By *rHornyGentMan
over a year ago

South East London

Just had an unprompted friend request...

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By *rs She DevilWoman
over a year ago

Blantyre

I only accept friend requests from people I've actually met in person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We decided after being burnt a couple of times that we will only accept friend requests after we've met them. This we know is difficult at the moment so we look at their verifications and if they are verified

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By *man79Man
over a year ago

newry dundalk. warrenpoint

Bman79 rule no.17. Never accept friend request unless I have met the person in person or have chatted to for a long time

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Mine are my special friends, friends I've made at socials and a few I chat to on a regular basis, some come and go to the natural fade on here as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't "blind add"... If people want to send us a friend's request its only ever accepted after weve talked. Been burnt too many times by pic collectors..dor WhT it's worth there's a line in our profile that say unsolicited requests wil Be ignored.. Like anyone reads profiles.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I only have forumites on my friends list. Two are local to be and I want to eventually meet. Not sure they’ll be keen though, now that I’m bald

If you don’t mind me asking, was fashion or fundraising the reason you went bald?

I’ve wanted to do it for years, so thought ‘fuck it’ last Sunday and just went for it

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

"If I’ve built up a bit of a repertoire with someone and I like the way they communicate I’ll usually accept.

I very rarely ask myself.

I don’t handle rejection well."

Me too.

Post first, post a lot, have a chat and if they like what you have written accept their invite. I also have no rejection shield.

Quality over quantity every time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being male I've never felt comfortable asking. I think it's the woman's prerogative.

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By *obbychick OP Woman
over a year ago

Essex

"My friends are people I know and have met. "

Thank honestly makes sense to me

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By *obbychick OP Woman
over a year ago

Essex

"I have a lovely mix of friends. One or two that I have chatted to since I first joined although we will never meet but I enjoy the conversations. I’m happy to be friends if we get along well but I rarely ask

Awww that’s sweet that you’ve been friends from the beginning.

Do you feel like you have to be friends on here even if you do enjoy the convos?

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By *obbychick OP Woman
over a year ago

Essex

"I have face pics in friends only so will only except of we have met. On the rate occasion I will add providing we are about to meet. Most just want to see my pics and have no interest in actually knowing me so im very careful x

I would be the same too.

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By *obbychick OP Woman
over a year ago

Essex

"We tend to accept if it’s someone we are chatting to via messages. We don’t tend to accept random requests. Usually after we post a new pic we get quite a few, usually from single guys, which we just delete.

That being said if it’s someone we really like look of we have been known to accept, perve the friend only pics and then swiftly delete lol

I think that’s one of the main points in being friends on here, they get to see pics that may be a little more personal. I don’t have face pic on here but if I did, I’d want it to be only a select few

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am accepting all new requests from ppl I fancy.....

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By *obbychick OP Woman
over a year ago

Essex

"I don't accept any random requests for a start.

For me it has to have been someone I've spoken to and got on with which usually comes from the forums.

I dont feel the need for those on my friends list to constantly check in either, just that we have a link to each other for when timings work out like now while we're all in lockdown

I do consider those on my list to either be friends I've yet to meet or actual friends so if you're on there or find a place on there then I do like you

I totally get what you’re saying

I’d still check in on people I’ve spoken to regardless of whether they’re on my friends list or not.

I think when you get along with someone you’d have that care to see how they’re doing.

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By *obbychick OP Woman
over a year ago

Essex

"A combination of factors for me....

If I like the look of their public pics, there’s a good chance I’d be interested in their private ones; that alone wouldn’t seal the deal though.

I’d have to have either chatted here or seen/replied to some of their forum posts to get an idea of who they are and whether they seem like a good ‘un or not.

Maybe if they were established in some way, e.g. known party organiser/club owner, I’d forego needing any interaction.

For clarity OP, you’d be straight in

Oh how lovely. Does that mean that I’m a good one

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By *obbychick OP Woman
over a year ago

Essex

"I ask people who are either unbelievably sexy or make me laugh, which makes them unbelievably sexy.

Would you be offended if they said no??

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By *ingle ex cuckMan
over a year ago

chester

I will accept friends requests from 99%

The 1% I won’t accept is brand new profiles that have only joined in less than 48 hours or so

Remember when you could display your friends list?

Caused lots of problems that did

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will take some friends

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Someone I'd like to speak to more. It's usually after exchanging a few messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hate the random requests obvious pic collectors

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By *obbychick OP Woman
over a year ago

Essex

"Once you've met no problems.

If you are just out to collect a big list then go for it.

My experience is that most you accept on friends list before meeting hardly ever do, they always got an excuse. And the conversations dry up and you hardly hear from them.

You don't need these people, they are energy vampires and wasters.

You can send face pics etc anytime so no need to add to friends until you've met.

Woman on here are ruthless and men should be as well regardless of the difference in ratio.

It doesn't make you a bad person just direct in what you want."

Totally agree with you. It’s never about the number for me. My thing is being able to put in friends only pics for those that I see as potential meets where pictures might be a little bit more “naughtier”

Hasn’t happened yet but it’s what I would use that for

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By *obbychick OP Woman
over a year ago

Essex

Lol not at all, you just have done it your way and honestly speaking. There is no right way

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By *obbychick OP Woman
over a year ago

Essex

"Pick me, pick me!

Don’t do it!!! It’s a trap!!!!"

Lol have you fallen into the trap queenie

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By *obbychick OP Woman
over a year ago

Essex

"I only have forumites on my friends list. Two are local to be and I want to eventually meet. Not sure they’ll be keen though, now that I’m bald

I’m sure they’ll still be keen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pick me, pick me!

Don’t do it!!! It’s a trap!!!!

Lol have you fallen into the trap queenie

I has majicull powers innit....

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By *obbychick OP Woman
over a year ago

Essex

"Most of mine I have met, the others I would like to meet. Some just want to perve my pics which I'm ok with.

Random requests I accept when they're off line, have a quick perve then they might get deleted or stay if they have good pics"

That is very cheeky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My advise don’t add friends , it leads to guys spitting their dummy’s out x if u like someone put them on your hot list x I had friends on here then deleted most of them as they didn’t engage them when they noticed they had been removed all hell broke lose, so I don’t add people now it’s not worth the hassle

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By *obbychick OP Woman
over a year ago

Essex

"We decided after being burnt a couple of times that we will only accept friend requests after we've met them. This we know is difficult at the moment so we look at their verifications and if they are verified "

Of course, as long as it works for you both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pick me, pick me!

Don’t do it!!! It’s a trap!!!!

Lol have you fallen into the trap queenie

I don’t fall into any traps. As I never move

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By *obbychick OP Woman
over a year ago

Essex

"Mine are my special friends, friends I've made at socials and a few I chat to on a regular basis, some come and go to the natural fade on here as well"

I can totally understand this...

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over a year ago

"I only have forumites on my friends list. Two are local to be and I want to eventually meet. Not sure they’ll be keen though, now that I’m bald

I’m sure they’ll still be keen

Bloody hope so, but sadly doubt it!

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By *obbychick OP Woman
over a year ago

Essex

"I am accepting all new requests from ppl I fancy.....

You should name them so they know

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By *obbychick OP Woman
over a year ago

Essex

"I will accept friends requests from 99%

The 1% I won’t accept is brand new profiles that have only joined in less than 48 hours or so

Remember when you could display your friends list?

Caused lots of problems that did "

I’m sure you can still display it??

What sort of problems did it cause??

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By *obbychick OP Woman
over a year ago

Essex

"Pick me, pick me!

Don’t do it!!! It’s a trap!!!!

Lol have you fallen into the trap queenie

I has majicull powers innit....

Powers such as?? Lol

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over a year ago

It’ll usually be someone I’ve gotten to know, speaking to either from the forums or elsewhere. Someone I’m interested in meeting and taking things further.

My friends pic has my face picture and other ‘naughty’ pictures. So, I won’t just add everyone and anyone.

Saying that, my friends list is quite small - only got a few at the moment.

Most of those who take my fancy are on my hotlist - it’s usually their call if they’d like to add me as a friend.

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By *obbychick OP Woman
over a year ago

Essex

"My advise don’t add friends , it leads to guys spitting their dummy’s out x if u like someone put them on your hot list x I had friends on here then deleted most of them as they didn’t engage them when they noticed they had been removed all hell broke lose, so I don’t add people now it’s not worth the hassle"

That is a clever way of doing it u supposed. My hotlist is pretty empty too tho :/

Maybe I’m doing something wrong lol

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By *obbychick OP Woman
over a year ago

Essex

"I only have forumites on my friends list. Two are local to be and I want to eventually meet. Not sure they’ll be keen though, now that I’m bald

I’m sure they’ll still be keen

Bloody hope so, but sadly doubt it!"

Maybe ask, or you’ll never know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That is a clever way of doing it u supposed. My hotlist is pretty empty too tho :/

Maybe I’m doing something wrong lol"

Guys say we have all the power but in reality we don’t it’s like finding that needle in a haystack on here , I’m still looking for my needle

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By *obbychick OP Woman
over a year ago

Essex

"It’ll usually be someone I’ve gotten to know, speaking to either from the forums or elsewhere. Someone I’m interested in meeting and taking things further.

My friends pic has my face picture and other ‘naughty’ pictures. So, I won’t just add everyone and anyone.

Saying that, my friends list is quite small - only got a few at the moment.

Most of those who take my fancy are on my hotlist - it’s usually their call if they’d like to add me as a friend.

Are you the one sending a request or do you wait for them to send a request?

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By *obbychick OP Woman
over a year ago

Essex

That is a clever way of doing it u supposed. My hotlist is pretty empty too tho :/

Maybe I’m doing something wrong lol

Guys say we have all the power but in reality we don’t it’s like finding that needle in a haystack on here , I’m still looking for my needle "

Aww bless hun, hope you find your needle

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over a year ago

"It’ll usually be someone I’ve gotten to know, speaking to either from the forums or elsewhere. Someone I’m interested in meeting and taking things further.

My friends pic has my face picture and other ‘naughty’ pictures. So, I won’t just add everyone and anyone.

Saying that, my friends list is quite small - only got a few at the moment.

Most of those who take my fancy are on my hotlist - it’s usually their call if they’d like to add me as a friend.

Are you the one sending a request or do you wait for them to send a request?"

I wait for them to send me a friends request. I don’t usually send any unless they ask me to send one.

Some people make a big deal out of friends request - it doesn’t really matter to me, we can still talk through messages and send pictures through that.

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By *obbychick OP Woman
over a year ago

Essex

"It’ll usually be someone I’ve gotten to know, speaking to either from the forums or elsewhere. Someone I’m interested in meeting and taking things further.

My friends pic has my face picture and other ‘naughty’ pictures. So, I won’t just add everyone and anyone.

Saying that, my friends list is quite small - only got a few at the moment.

Most of those who take my fancy are on my hotlist - it’s usually their call if they’d like to add me as a friend.

Are you the one sending a request or do you wait for them to send a request?

I wait for them to send me a friends request. I don’t usually send any unless they ask me to send one.

Some people make a big deal out of friends request - it doesn’t really matter to me, we can still talk through messages and send pictures through that.

I don’t see a big deal in it either. Those I want to talk to, I’ll still chat to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You should see the status updates that some people put when it comes to friends request and being added/deleted.

Bloody hell!

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By *obbychick OP Woman
over a year ago

Essex

"You should see the status updates that some people put when it comes to friends request and being added/deleted.

Bloody hell!

"
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Lol are these all women??

I’ve thankfully not come across those just yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pick me, pick me!

Don’t do it!!! It’s a trap!!!!

Lol have you fallen into the trap queenie

I has majicull powers innit....

Powers such as?? Lol"

Wand?

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By *rouble1998Woman
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

I only accept request from people I’ve met in real life or have a planned meet with. Otherwise just end up with loads of random pic collectors

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By *obbychick OP Woman
over a year ago

Essex

"Pick me, pick me!

Don’t do it!!! It’s a trap!!!!

Lol have you fallen into the trap queenie

I has majicull powers innit....

Powers such as?? Lol

Wand?"

Lol that’s useful only if you know how to use it

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By *oneyjule65Couple
over a year ago

Halifax

"We do not accept friend requests from anyone who we haven't already spoken to. "

Us either...just delete the request...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone who sends me one

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

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By *oneyjule65Couple
over a year ago

Halifax

"We do not accept friend requests from anyone who we haven't already spoken to.

Us either...just delete the request...

We do if we want to perv their friends only pics. But we wait until they are offline and then block them afterwards

Lol...

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

"Most of mine I have met, the others I would like to meet. Some just want to perve my pics which I'm ok with.

Random requests I accept when they're off line, have a quick perve then they might get deleted or stay if they have good pics

That is very cheeky

We do that as well, accept, perv, block.

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By *nvisible_beardMan
over a year ago

near newbridge, wales

Soooooo fwiends

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By *rHornyGentMan
over a year ago

South East London

"I only have forumites on my friends list. Two are local to be and I want to eventually meet. Not sure they’ll be keen though, now that I’m bald

If you don’t mind me asking, was fashion or fundraising the reason you went bald?

I’ve wanted to do it for years, so thought ‘fuck it’ last Sunday and just went for it"

Well done you

I did the same about 5 years ago in February but left my beard on. Looked proper dodgy

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

"I ask people who are either unbelievably sexy or make me laugh, which makes them unbelievably sexy.

Would you be offended if they said no??"

Some do say no. I’m not offended although sometimes a bit hurt, initially.

It’s fine - a friendship is their choice too

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By *obbychick OP Woman
over a year ago

Essex

"I ask people who are either unbelievably sexy or make me laugh, which makes them unbelievably sexy.

Would you be offended if they said no??

Some do say no. I’m not offended although sometimes a bit hurt, initially.

It’s fine - a friendship is their choice too

Well that’s exactly it, you can still be friends with someone without them being in your friends list. Those who I really want more with would anyways move from this site on to a more personal level like giving out numbers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes I accept them when they aren't online, peek at the friends pics then remove them

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By *uriousMe2018Couple
over a year ago

Aldershot

We only accept friends requests from people we have chatted to and where we see there is a real potential for a meet. We never accept random friends requests or friends requests without pictures on the profile. We keep our list small and only focus on those that stay in contact

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