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Self care and coping mechanisms

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By *naswingdress OP   Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

What are some concrete techniques that you use when your mental health is dipping? Share what you think might help others who are also struggling, things to try.

I'm personally finding it helpful to divide my techniques between distraction, wallowing, and proactive self care.

Of course there's no panacea, but we can share resources.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Physical exercise. Doesnt have to be outside, and doesn't have to be formal, so online videos, also gardening, painting that kind of thing, something to occupy the body x

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Meditation in a hot bubble bath for me

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

I’ve found physical exercise not to help at all. I get a real emotional drop at the end of my run

Just shows that nothing is guaranteed to work and you need to keep looking for something that works for you

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By *naswingdress OP   Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Definitely. Exercise is really good for mental health. Getting a routine is lifting my endorphins, making me feel stronger, making me feel more level.

(And if anyone can't or it isn't working, then you do you)

I think I might grab my MP3 player and dance in the parking lot of my apartment complex later

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By *naswingdress OP   Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I’ve found physical exercise not to help at all. I get a real emotional drop at the end of my run

Just shows that nothing is guaranteed to work and you need to keep looking for something that works for you "

Sorry, didn't see the post.

Self care is definitely an individual thing xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Physical DIY kind of work around the house. Unfortunately can't do it now as can't get to the dump to dispose of things nor browse in the building materials supply shops.

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By *naswingdress OP   Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Meditation is huge for me too. It's the main weapon I have for managing my anxiety.

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

Exercise and a self audit.

What can I change?

What can I live with?

What helps?

What’s triggers?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Masturbate

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By *naswingdress OP   Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Exercise and a self audit.

What can I change?

What can I live with?

What helps?

What’s triggers?

"

I think it's that kind of self audit I'm trying to encourage here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Writing works for me, along with chatting to family and friends, playing games with my kids or just finding something to get lost in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Crafting is helping me lots!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1. Mutual disclosure - connecting with and sharing how you are feeling with friends and family, Reconnecting with friends.

2. Writing a journal or blog

3. Exercising, walking, running, cycling, workouts using online or TV encouragement.

4. Cleaning, gardening, household and car maintenance,

5. Personal grooming

6. Creative work pursuits, new online profiles, web site updates, virtual services, future planning

7. Cooking and baking

8. Virtual socials and parties

9. Mucking about on Fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A good night's sleep helps me look at the world differently.

Cooking and eating obvs

Bike rides in the sunshine.

A good film

Bubble baths

Pampering

Looking at old photos

Housework / DIY to music

YouTube

Reading

Meditation

Masturbation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Masturbate"

I haven’t done that once since lockdown

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By *naswingdress OP   Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Masturbate

I haven’t done that once since lockdown "

Me neither

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh yeah I’m sleeping really well too.

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By *naswingdress OP   Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Oh yeah I’m sleeping really well too."

My sleep has gone to shit.

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield


"Masturbate

I haven’t done that once since lockdown "

Yeah I’ve lost interest, too.

I’ve been learning - music, languages.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

Have a day or two without watching the news about corona on TV

Keeping the mind busy doing normal things really helps.

Go through your mobile phone contact list from A to Z and phone everyone on it maybe 1 or 2 a day even if you've not spoke for years and can't remember who some are

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By *kblokenorthMan
over a year ago

Any


"1. Mutual disclosure - connecting with and sharing how you are feeling with friends and family, Reconnecting with friends.

2. Writing a journal or blog

3. Exercising, walking, running, cycling, workouts using online or TV encouragement.

4. Cleaning, gardening, household and car maintenance,

5. Personal grooming

6. Creative work pursuits, new online profiles, web site updates, virtual services, future planning

7. Cooking and baking

8. Virtual socials and parties

9. Mucking about on Fab"

Good summary - when you live alone this applies most of the time!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Masturbate

I haven’t done that once since lockdown

Yeah I’ve lost interest, too.

I’ve been learning - music, languages. "

I’m going to do some music recording and production just haven’t got round to it yet. I might start brushing up my French as well.

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By *llaboutthewifeCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Distraction for me completely change what I'm doing before that downward spiral takes hold.

My dog is great for this, he senses too when he's needed.

Also knowing your triggers can help.

So keeping a mood diary can be a good idea, think you can get apps, I can do it on my fit bit app if I need to.

Oh, and massively lowering your expectations, especially of yourself, we are too hard on ourselves and often expect too much.

Sorry, bit lengthy x

Take care and stay safe all

Jo x

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By *naswingdress OP   Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Distraction for me completely change what I'm doing before that downward spiral takes hold.

My dog is great for this, he senses too when he's needed.

Also knowing your triggers can help.

So keeping a mood diary can be a good idea, think you can get apps, I can do it on my fit bit app if I need to.

Oh, and massively lowering your expectations, especially of yourself, we are too hard on ourselves and often expect too much.

Sorry, bit lengthy x

Take care and stay safe all

Jo x"

Yes. I began my climb out of my deep dark pit when I stopped demanding that I do better. Feed myself, bathe, climb out of pit. Once out of pit, do more.

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By *llaboutthewifeCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Distraction for me completely change what I'm doing before that downward spiral takes hold.

My dog is great for this, he senses too when he's needed.

Also knowing your triggers can help.

So keeping a mood diary can be a good idea, think you can get apps, I can do it on my fit bit app if I need to.

Oh, and massively lowering your expectations, especially of yourself, we are too hard on ourselves and often expect too much.

Sorry, bit lengthy x

Take care and stay safe all

Jo x

Yes. I began my climb out of my deep dark pit when I stopped demanding that I do better. Feed myself, bathe, climb out of pit. Once out of pit, do more."

Having done this more than once but less than 7 times, it gets easier.

I don't know if that's consolation to anyone.

Now, I'm lucky I use my experiences to help others through, with a charity I work for and in some work with the NHS.

I'm a better person because of it, even though it was pure hell at the time

Jo x

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By *naswingdress OP   Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

It is hell. It's not my first rodeo either, but the first I've done without professional help.

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By *llaboutthewifeCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff


"It is hell. It's not my first rodeo either, but the first I've done without professional help."

It's tough, really tough, but you sound like you are in control of it. Can offer an ear if you need one. Take care x

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By *naswingdress OP   Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"It is hell. It's not my first rodeo either, but the first I've done without professional help.

It's tough, really tough, but you sound like you are in control of it. Can offer an ear if you need one. Take care x"

Thank you. Yes, I've got this now, I think x

And likewise.

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight

We are trying to replace normal working times with doing jobs around the house, relaxation time doing normal stuff and also trying to learn something new, Mr is learning guitar and Mrs is researching and doing online courses to do with her work.

The other thing is that we are making sure that we have a period of me time to be alone, if we want it to pamper ourselves doing whatever we want to do.

Routine can be your friend with this.

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By *annyboy379Man
over a year ago

blackheath

Meditation and exercise as a martial art instructor i seem to be more busy now than before with online stuff lol if anyone needs any tips on what to do or a schedule drop me a message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep busy, music, dance and meditation...don't let the brain slumber..if it is focused on a task it struggles to focus on demons..beware of too much time in silence

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