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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

When you're meeting someone new do you like to discuss how things will go beforehand?

How much planning do you do? Do you just let things happen naturally or do you have an idea of how you want things to go? How detailed are the plans if you do make them?

Have you ever been really shocked by how good or how bad things have gone?

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

I normally just see how we want things to go at the time, unless we’ve been talking about something specific beforehand that we want to do

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By *eddyBearBazMan
over a year ago

St Helens

I dont plan on anything rubi much rather have no expectations just in case they dont like me in person

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

How about you, OP? Is it a spreadsheet with tasks or a Microsoft Project plan with jobs and timescales?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No expectations OP. That way I can't be disappointed. Having said that I do keep my fingers crossed.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

If is a specific role play fantasy we are acting out, we would have discussed at length in sexting how it will go.

Just a sex meet is natural and go with the flow of our chemistry and passion

Not had any surprises because I chat for ages before even considering meeting, so will get to know them pretty well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only thing we plan is the things we don’t want to do which we agree before hand , after that we like to go with the flow and enjoy the element of surprise lol !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unless its dirty chat pre meet designed to build anticipation, I generally dont talk about what I'm planning to do on a meet. I much prefer to meet and let whatever happens happen

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire


"How about you, OP? Is it a spreadsheet with tasks or a Microsoft Project plan with jobs and timescales? "

She normally uses a pencil and a post-it note

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"How about you, OP? Is it a spreadsheet with tasks or a Microsoft Project plan with jobs and timescales? "

I do like organising things

With me it depends, I have several sides to my sexuality so if I pick up something specific with someone I might stear things a bit in our chats beforehand to test the water and see if things could take a certain route.

Generally though I like to just see how things go, half the fun is in finding out how you click and work together.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"How about you, OP? Is it a spreadsheet with tasks or a Microsoft Project plan with jobs and timescales?

She normally uses a pencil and a post-it note "

That's just so I can rub out the evidence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How about you, OP? Is it a spreadsheet with tasks or a Microsoft Project plan with jobs and timescales?

I do like organising things

With me it depends, I have several sides to my sexuality so if I pick up something specific with someone I might stear things a bit in our chats beforehand to test the water and see if things could take a certain route.

Generally though I like to just see how things go, half the fun is in finding out how you click and work together. "

I think the sending photos, flirty texts and other imposed rules make the meet more fun. If its hastily arranged I have noticed it’s either phenomenal or you are going through the motions, as it were.

Something thats taken some planning I find more sexy as then you are both aware of each others likes and dislikes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only to the extent of ensuring we have all the logistics needed: arrangements, supplies, toys etc. As for the sex itself just agreeing boundaries, limits and sharing some desires. Then it’s all about meeting and letting the moment and chemistry determine what we do. Good communication is more important for me than a plan. However I have noticed other men I have met or seriously talked to about meeting like to get into more detail than I need. That said it’s a limited sample.

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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

I dontpkan I just go with the flo bit I always have a social first

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

The build up chat prior sets the scene, but nothing is specifically planned, just go with the flow and see where the mood takes you both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mostly just go with the flow. Only if it’s a specific thing we all want to try does it get planned x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i don't plan sex lol i just go with flow, how can you plan sex?

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By *unsexual MemelordWoman
over a year ago

Midlothian

I like to know what's going to happen, maybe not a rigid plan but certainly a clear idea, I'd hate to go in totally blind and risk someone's comfort zone being compromised. When I see profiles that mention pushing or breaking boundaries, I know those people aren't for me. Boundaries should be respected, and it's ok to have them. I have a couple I always mention right off the bat, and I'm keen to know other people's. Enthusiastic consent is sexy!

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By *igboobstCouple
over a year ago

barrow

Tend to just let whatever is going to happen organically, but have generally had a chat before hand about things we are into and limits etc but if we meet someone in a club away from here it's just roll with the flow xx

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I don’t plan anything as such, more likely to discuss things that are out of bounds rather than all the things I would do, sex chat just feeds the wank bank sometimes and I would rather be doing then talking about it

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"When you're meeting someone new do you like to discuss how things will go beforehand?

How much planning do you do? Do you just let things happen naturally or do you have an idea of how you want things to go? How detailed are the plans if you do make them?

Have you ever been really shocked by how good or how bad things have gone? "
I hate planning things. I dont even like agreeing to play as who knows... so I basically just go to clubs with the only promise being I will say hi if I see people x

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By *llaboutthewifeCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

I do usually have something in mind and I generally take the upper hand.

The build up really helps and I love the teasing that comes with it

Jo x

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By *aptainHooookMan
over a year ago

Leicester/London

Very much so.

I love the anticipation of it all. Obviously not everything but knowing my boundaries and what we are both into when we meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only in so much as saying off limit things and asking theirs the rest I just like to happen.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

The only planning I do is. What pub do you want to meet at? What time? Do you want to meet car park or outside?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to do a bit of intelligence gathering but not so much planning.

Just that we both k is what we like and dislike.

I once met a women that told me she was having a stressful time at work so I thought I’d have relaxing music, warmed massage oil, low lighting ready to massage the stresses away.

I naively assumed everyone loves massage....for her massage was her worst nightmare and made her shiver in a bad way haha . If only I had asked!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah, there’s a bit of planning.....

Skincare first, as feeling good is paramount; cleanse and moisturise. Then I make sure I stay injury-free, so I warm my muscles up and stretch.

Finally, a quick crack of the knuckles and my right hand is ready to go......fun time!

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