FabSwingers.com forum: Is humour really attractive. Humour gets you to the friendzone not the end zone. :-)

By *iddlesticks OP Man
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

We often hear about humour being important but where is it really on the list of what makes us attractive.

I’ve been told I’m funny although like a teenager drinking real ale, I’m definitely an acquired taste, but unfortunately I have a face and body that is spawned from the sperm and ova of Bernard Manning and Jo Brand.

Anyway where does humour come in the pecking order of initial attractiveness.

I reckon that for most it’s physical, then material, then intelligence and humour joint third.

Health, Wealth then fun.

I know that everyone has their own preferences, I just wanted to get, humour gets you to the friendzone not the end zone into a thread.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Fun then health. never wealth x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to believe you can laugh someone into bed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Funny gets ya fanny!

Not everyone gets my humour but the ones who do seem to like it and it's worked for me. I dont think I'm the best looking guy out there but I do ok with girls and they tend to find me funny!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been laughed into bed before. Definitely important to me!

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By *eeBee67Man
over a year ago

Masked and Distant

For my sake I hope its,

Fun, wealth, health in that order.

And when I say wealth and health I mean wealth of good healthy humour.

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

It’s definitely very important to me

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By *iddlesticks OP Man
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

"I've been laughed into bed before. Definitely important to me! "

I fell out of bed laughing once, I don’t think that counts though.

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

I find humour to be an extremely attractive quality. I’m quite a cheeky sarcastic wotsit and some seem to like that so it works for me. To be honest the goal on here isn’t always the ‘end zone’ for me. I’m often quite happy with the friend zone too.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

It's just the overall package I think.

If someone is not attracted to you but you're funny, friend zone. If you are attractive to someone, and are funny then that will increase your attractiveness to them.

This is just on initial or early meeting though. If you work with someone or get to know them, attraction can grow from anywhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have to believe you can laugh someone into bed

It’s far better for your ego than them laughing at you after.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s definitely very important to me

It's a good job you find me hilarious then!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone told me my profile was a joke once. I took it as a compliment.

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By *iddlesticks OP Man
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

"I find humour to be an extremely attractive quality. I’m quite a cheeky sarcastic wotsit and some seem to like that so it works for me. To be honest the goal on here isn’t always the ‘end zone’ for me. I’m often quite happy with the friend zone too. "

In reality I’m with you all the way there, my humorous so and so you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was younger my dad said to me son if you can make a woman laught and smile your half way to getting her into bed.

That bastard never told me I'd get stuck half way all the fucking time though.

Feind zone is my stop

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Humour is the creator of smiles and smiles help the chemistry flow.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Humour gets me everytime. And it does work.

If I couldn't sit and laugh about random shit with a guy then no way could I sleep with him.

My fwb told me it was a trait he loved about me.

I never take myself seriously, narcissm is a horrible trait

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone who shares a similar sense of humour gets into my fanny zone

The friend zone is an imaginary concept

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

I dont do humour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have humour for different occasions, lighthearted silly humour along with some flirting generally could get one laid.

But my actual sense of humour (reserved for close friends and family), would probably get me drinks thrown over me if with a lass I'd just recently met

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find laughter stimulates my brain which in turn stimulates the rest of me.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Being able to laugh *with* someone is a wonderful and attractive quality in itself and is all part of the overall picture - the people from here who I've related to the most have been those that I can have a laugh with so humour is a very important factor - but like any other quality of attractiveness it's very subjective and you can't expect *your* humour to match with everyone's

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By *iddlesticks OP Man
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

"Humour gets me everytime. And it does work.

If I couldn't sit and laugh about random shit with a guy then no way could I sleep with him.

My fwb told me it was a trait he loved about me.

I never take myself seriously, narcissm is a horrible trait "

You really should see my Tommy Cooper impression and my Frank Spencer is a tour de force.

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By *avhonaWoman
over a year ago

Away with the faeries

For me it's a lovely little cocktail of humour, filth, marginal intelligence and just good old fashioned animal-style chemistry. Pheremones never lie

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

"Humour is the creator of smiles and smiles help the chemistry flow.

And you do that in bucket loads

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dont do humour

Hahaha

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

I've found that humour is a much appreciated quality. Usually a combination of humour, wit, charm and physical attractiveness seems to be the golden elixir here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Humour gets me everytime. And it does work.

If I couldn't sit and laugh about random shit with a guy then no way could I sleep with him.

My fwb told me it was a trait he loved about me.

I never take myself seriously, narcissm is a horrible trait

You really should see my Tommy Cooper impression and my Frank Spencer is a tour de force.

Yes yes but how many doughnuts can you fit in your mouth at any given time??

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

It's really important for me, love a lady who can make me laugh and smile.

Life's to short to spend it being miserable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Humour is very important, it's part of the overall package and for me it doesn't affect friendzoning. I'd rather have someone that makes me laugh too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh fuck what about, increasingly impoverished, unhealthy, old blokes with a sense of humour triple bypass?

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

"It’s definitely very important to me

It's a good job you find me hilarious then!

Your just a fecking egit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure I'm friend zoned on this thread already

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me the humour has to be there or there is no attraction.

Not helped by my very dark sarcastic sense of humour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s definitely very important to me

It's a good job you find me hilarious then!

Your just a fecking egit

I prefer to be called a childish clown actually. Sounds more mature than egit

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

Humour is definitely important, for me that way of looking at things slightly differently is extremely attractive.

However it won’t overcome every other drawback and, importantly, you’ve got to know when to switch it off.

I guess it’s all part of general emotional intelligence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they can’t make me laugh then I’m not even looking at the bed!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If they can’t make me laugh then I’m not even looking at the bed!

What about telling you old stories of being a naughty lad back in the day?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If they can’t make me laugh then I’m not even looking at the bed!

Does that mean if I tickle you we might end up in bed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If they can’t make me laugh then I’m not even looking at the bed!

What about telling you old stories of being a naughty lad back in the day?

That could work!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I definitely think funny is important, on both sides! Got to be able to laugh at yourself, not take yourself too seriously, and also be witty! At least that's what I tell myself when I look at my skinny ankles and knobbly knees!,

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By *carlet_woman_xxWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

"I have to believe you can laugh someone into bed

That's my saying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah I definitely think funny is important, on both sides! Got to be able to laugh at yourself, not take yourself too seriously, and also be witty! At least that's what I tell myself when I look at my skinny ankles and knobbly knees!, "

Stop it!! You are gorgeous xx

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

"It’s definitely very important to me

It's a good job you find me hilarious then!

Your just a fecking egit

I prefer to be called a childish clown actually. Sounds more mature than egit

I’m sticking with egit

is it because it’s difficult for you to say

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By *iddlesticks OP Man
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

"Humour gets me everytime. And it does work.

If I couldn't sit and laugh about random shit with a guy then no way could I sleep with him.

My fwb told me it was a trait he loved about me.

I never take myself seriously, narcissm is a horrible trait

You really should see my Tommy Cooper impression and my Frank Spencer is a tour de force.

Yes yes but how many doughnuts can you fit in your mouth at any given time??

NommmmMmmmuuurgghhh thwee

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If they can’t make me laugh then I’m not even looking at the bed!

Does that mean if I tickle you we might end up in bed

God NO I hate being tickled!!!!

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By *llaboutthewifeCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Humour is massively important.

It's where it starts for me.

Also very useful whilst playing as sometimes as a three things don't quite go to plan and its good if you can laugh it off rather than have embarrassment

Jo x

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By *rMrsBrightsideCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

Humour is really important, as long as it's my kind of humour and I get it! Somebody being in the friendzone would be because I just don't feel a sexual attraction to them which could be for a variety of reasons.

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

I love it when you belly laugh with someone..... definitely a good quality

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

What’s wrong with being friend-zoned?

There’s a lot of us on here looking for friends with benefits.

If I can’t enjoy good conversation and have a laugh with someone then they will never even get close to my bed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's my only weapon so it best work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes! Laughing makes my knickers fall off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If they can’t make me laugh then I’m not even looking at the bed!

Does that mean if I tickle you we might end up in bed

God NO I hate being tickled!!!!

Ok you tickle me I'll laugh and get in to bed if you dont get in it's ok I could use a sleep

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s definitely very important to me

It's a good job you find me hilarious then!

Your just a fecking egit

I prefer to be called a childish clown actually. Sounds more mature than egit

I’m sticking with egit

is it because it’s difficult for you to say

Busty put me in the friend zone because I was scared of her mask lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes! Laughing makes my knickers fall off

Knock knock....

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I love a quick wit, someone on my wave length who gets me when I’m trying to be funny

someone who makes me roar laughing or has me eye rolling at their daft humour would be high on my priority list

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s definitely very important to me

It's a good job you find me hilarious then!

Your just a fecking egit

I prefer to be called a childish clown actually. Sounds more mature than egit

I’m sticking with egit

is it because it’s difficult for you to say

Busty put me in the friend zone because I was scared of her mask lol"

I'm in bustys "bed"zone!

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

If you can make me laugh you're already halfway there.

Jo.Xx

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

I’m unsure which I think is most important for my mental health! Sex and laughter are both needed on a daily basis and it’s belly laughs that are needed, I have friends (and a wife) who’s laughs are extremely contagious so I target them everyday

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my experience humour has led to me getting to know one or two girls better and then from there we went on to have sex. Humour is the introducer in my opinion

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

"It’s definitely very important to me

It's a good job you find me hilarious then!

Your just a fecking egit

I prefer to be called a childish clown actually. Sounds more mature than egit

I’m sticking with egit

is it because it’s difficult for you to say

Busty put me in the friend zone because I was scared of her mask lol"

No one has ever called me scary

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

"It’s definitely very important to me

It's a good job you find me hilarious then!

Your just a fecking egit

I prefer to be called a childish clown actually. Sounds more mature than egit

I’m sticking with egit

is it because it’s difficult for you to say

Busty put me in the friend zone because I was scared of her mask lol

I'm in bustys "bed"zone!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s definitely very important to me

It's a good job you find me hilarious then!

Your just a fecking egit

I prefer to be called a childish clown actually. Sounds more mature than egit

I’m sticking with egit

is it because it’s difficult for you to say

Busty put me in the friend zone because I was scared of her mask lol

I'm in bustys "bed"zone!

I almost got in her bed but I stubbed my toe on her dresser tripped over and farted. She hasn't invited me back since

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"If you can make me laugh you're already halfway there.

Jo.Xx "

Knock, knock....

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

"If you can make me laugh you're already halfway there.

Jo.Xx "

And that's where they will remain until restrictions are lifted

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By *edGrayCouple
over a year ago

Swindon

Humour is part of our personalities and therefore can be used as a filtering tool. If your humour is not compatible, it's safe to say you won't be right for each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you can make me laugh you're already halfway there.

Jo.Xx "

As I said with my earlier post jo never worked out how to get further than half way

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Humour is highly subjective though, I used to work with a bloke who told endless crumby "jokes" in the canteen and he was the only one that laughed at most of them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Humour and brains are the easiest way to get in my knickers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s definitely very important to me

It's a good job you find me hilarious then!

Your just a fecking egit

I prefer to be called a childish clown actually. Sounds more mature than egit

I’m sticking with egit

is it because it’s difficult for you to say

Busty put me in the friend zone because I was scared of her mask lol

No one has ever called me scary

Oh busty does that mean I was your first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Humour and brains are the easiest way to get in my knickers"

See once again I'm only getting half way I'm funny but I'm like forest Gump stupid is as stupid does

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By *uke OzadeMan
over a year ago

Ho Chi Minge City

Humour is the best way to connect with someone. If you can make them laugh they get the feel good factor from the endorphins flowing through them and they attribute that to you as a personal connection. Personally I think it’s one of the most important things you can have and wealth counts for absolutely nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Humour is highly subjective though, I used to work with a bloke who told endless crumby "jokes" in the canteen and he was the only one that laughed at most of them

Ah a kindred spirit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope humour is a necessity

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Humour, the ability to laugh with someone and just be on the same wavelength goes a long way.

Does it friend zone you, not sure, having thought about it and thinking back, I’ve been friends with most blokes before any sexual feelings

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Humour is important to me. Not enough on its own though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have to have a sense of. Humour. It's 80 percent the attactin. Hubbies pic up line when we met was (handing me a handkerchief) "does this smell of chloroform to you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You have to have a sense of. Humour. It's 80 percent the attactin. Hubbies pic up line when we met was (handing me a handkerchief) "does this smell of chloroform to you? "

I use that one to get my kids to sleep when I want some peace lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You have to have a sense of. Humour. It's 80 percent the attactin. Hubbies pic up line when we met was (handing me a handkerchief) "does this smell of chloroform to you? "

Mind you that sounds a bit like saying does shouting surprise count as concent

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

For casual sex I have to like how someone looks, their sense of humour needs to be similar to mine and I need to like them on a superficial level.

if I was looking for a long term relationship financial security would be a basic requirement and a deep compatibility too. I'm too damn old to be wondering if we can afford to go out for coffee, I've been there and done it.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"I've found that humour is a much appreciated quality. Usually a combination of humour, wit, charm and physical attractiveness seems to be the golden elixir here."

A nice arse can't hurt either

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By *imon_hydeMan
over a year ago

Stockport

"I've found that humour is a much appreciated quality. Usually a combination of humour, wit, charm and physical attractiveness seems to be the golden elixir here.

A nice arse can't hurt either

It can so, spank with care people x

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"I've found that humour is a much appreciated quality. Usually a combination of humour, wit, charm and physical attractiveness seems to be the golden elixir here.

A nice arse can't hurt either

It's served me well i'll admit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Timing and situation plays a big part of if you are going to get the ride or be a shoulder to cry on.

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By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis

A sense of humour is vital for me!!

As a single woman on here, I need to know that any meets I arrange are going to be relaxed, and good humour can help me judge that. It also shows alot about someone's personality. Even though it's not the main factor, it's important.

Too much the other way though, makes me think a guy is insecure about other aspects of himself which he is hiding with jokes.

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Merton

"We often hear about humour being important but where is it really on the list of what makes us attractive.

Anyway where does humour come in the pecking order of initial attractiveness.

I reckon that for most it’s physical, then material, then intelligence and humour joint third.

Health, Wealth then fun.

I know that everyone has their own preferences, I just wanted to get, humour gets you to the friendzone not the end zone into a thread.

Humour is very subjective rather if you can make someone smile and they can make you smile, that is what you are looking for. You can make someone smile without saying a word, all in the cheeks, lips, eye, nose, to put simple a pretty face with a dashing spirit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Someone told me my profile was a joke once. I took it as a compliment.

Top banana

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By *esireXposedMan
over a year ago

East sussex

I prefer the laughter before, as opposed to after, but it's not a deal breaker.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

I do find humour attractive. I don’t think humour necessarily gets you friend zoned though.

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Merton

About the friend zone, you only get friend zone if you are not assertive of what you want very different to humour I would think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think depends on the humour really, you need a good dollop of heavy flirting too to avoid the friendzone. I can laugh a man into bed easily. I'm hideous so need a sense of humour.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"What’s wrong with being friend-zoned?

There’s a lot of us on here looking for friends with benefits.

If I can’t enjoy good conversation and have a laugh with someone then they will never even get close to my bed."

Exactly that

For me the friendship always comes first and foremost, and laughter and humour are a big part of that - having sex with those friends, where we mutually agree to do so, is just the icing on the cake

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very very important to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Humour is definitely up there for me.

Obviously, especially on here a physical attraction is generally the initial attraction followed closely by personality (humour included). If you've not got a sense of humour or a personality, it's not going any further.

Wealth has nothing to do with it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find a similar sense of humour attractive. But there’s more to it to make them attractive to me. As for friend zoning someone I think it’s looks, explains why I’m in their so much x

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By *iddlesticks OP Man
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

"Yes! Laughing makes my knickers fall off

That must have been awkward at the Peter Kay gig.

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