FabSwingers.com forum: Do you think we might be bringing some of the bad moods depressive thoughts on ourselves?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Was thinking this the other day. Every morning I have a shower, get dressed, put make up on etc , even though I mostly work from home anyway. I often have another shower before bed or if I go the gym. Haven’t worn make up for about 2 weeks, been wearing crappy clothes round the house, hair piled up in a mess on top of my head. I’ve even not bothered getting dressed some days. Caught myself in the mirror a few times and thought Jesus what the fuck!! So on Friday I thought nah this needs to change and went back to my normal routine and I feel so much better for it.

Anyone else not bothering much or is it just me?

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"Was thinking this the other day. Every morning I have a shower, get dressed, put make up on etc , even though I mostly work from home anyway. I often have another shower before bed or if I go the gym. Haven’t worn make up for about 2 weeks, been wearing crappy clothes round the house, hair piled up in a mess on top of my head. I’ve even not bothered getting dressed some days. Caught myself in the mirror a few times and thought Jesus what the fuck!! So on Friday I thought nah this needs to change and went back to my normal routine and I feel so much better for it.

Anyone else not bothering much or is it just me?

Probably just you. Wanting to scare people off from meeting you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Anyone else not bothering much or is it just me?

Probably just you. Wanting to scare people off from meeting you?

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Nobody has seen me in this state believe me!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am keeping routine, just not wearing makeup much. Or bras!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I am keeping routine, just not wearing makeup much. Or bras!"

Yeah the bra thing is nice. Keeping my knees warm anyway!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Routine is really important when it comes to working from home and spending lots of time in the house. There is a discipline to it. It's not one that I find easy which is why I rarely worked from home in the past.

I think there also has to be an acceptance that this is a bit of an odd time and we need to give ourselves a break now and then

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

Anyone else not bothering much or is it just me?

Probably just you. Wanting to scare people off from meeting you?

. Says he

Nobody has seen me in this state believe me!! "

Really? Hmmmm....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Routine is really important when it comes to working from home and spending lots of time in the house. There is a discipline to it. It's not one that I find easy which is why I rarely worked from home in the past.

I think there also has to be an acceptance that this is a bit of an odd time and we need to give ourselves a break now and then "

That’s true. I’ve worked from home for years and I’ve learned that. Usually I’m very organised and have a routine. This is just not me and I think I’ve realised it was getting me down x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Anyone else not bothering much or is it just me?

Probably just you. Wanting to scare people off from meeting you?

. Says he

Nobody has seen me in this state believe me!!

Really? Hmmmm....

Hahahahaha.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am keeping routine, just not wearing makeup much. Or bras!

Yeah the bra thing is nice. Keeping my knees warm anyway!"

I've not been wearing a bra either its quite liberating lol.

Oh wait hold on this is a public thread

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I think this is going to be very much a mileage may vary thing. Depends on what your mental health is like otherwise at the moment, and how susceptible you are to routine and grooming as a form of self care.

Working out your best self care can be half the battle, particularly when some of our options are eliminated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah, I’ve been slacking back too. Getting up later, not doing my hair etc If I’m not going off, I don’t need to look my best but I guess I should. If it helped you, having some routine would help me too

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think this is going to be very much a mileage may vary thing. Depends on what your mental health is like otherwise at the moment, and how susceptible you are to routine and grooming as a form of self care.

Working out your best self care can be half the battle, particularly when some of our options are eliminated."

I agree. Like I said before somewhere, I’m usually so organised and in control of life, but this is knocking me for six and I can feel myself getting more down. I’m struggling with it all to be honest and I’m usually pretty strong

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I've been sticking to my usual routine as much as possible. I even painted my toenails the other day!

It does make you feel better. I think there's been one day when I couldn't be bothered to have a shower and I felt sluggish all day x

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I think that it can definitely lower your mood. Sometimes though it's a lot of effort getting ready isn't it? These are odd times and cutting yourself some slack is allowed. At the same time I am about to do my hair properly for the first time in a good few days or so because it lifts the mood. Even a simple thing like wearing matching lingerie makes me smile and feel better about the day.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've been sticking to my usual routine as much as possible. I even painted my toenails the other day!

It does make you feel better. I think there's been one day when I couldn't be bothered to have a shower and I felt sluggish all day x"

Yeah my nails are crap too. I have them done every 2 weeks. I’ve just left them and they’re awful. Need to try myself. (1st world problems eh!) I need to make an effort I think!

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Also Nora, sorry you're struggling right now. It's tough but from what I know of you, you're a fighter and you'll see it through x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve been getting dressed each day even if it’s just fresh pj bottoms and a t shirt , trying to do something around the house so I’ve achieved something and doing some kind of beauty treatment each day !

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think that it can definitely lower your mood. Sometimes though it's a lot of effort getting ready isn't it? These are odd times and cutting yourself some slack is allowed. At the same time I am about to do my hair properly for the first time in a good few days or so because it lifts the mood. Even a simple thing like wearing matching lingerie makes me smile and feel better about the day."

Yes! You’re right. I’ve even been wearing all the crappy knickers at the back of the drawer!

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

My routine has remained unchanged though I think I might be in need of some manscaping now...slacking there atm

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Working out your best self care can be half the battle, particularly when some of our options are eliminated.

I'll repeat myself, but we're going through a global trauma. This is so, so normal. I'm technically recovered and I've been flat on my back with fucking flashbacks (I think I'm beginning to find my equilibrium again. Maybe. Progress is non linear).

If you need to talk, you know where I am. My recovery won't be yours, but I can steer you in the right direction. In the meantime, be kind to yourself. This shit is hard.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Also Nora, sorry you're struggling right now. It's tough but from what I know of you, you're a fighter and you'll see it through x"

Yeah I will. Just being feeling a bit meh lately (like everyone has!) I suppose I don’t usually do posts like this either. I’ll be fine. Just feeling sorry for myself haha. Need a hug I think! Xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My routine has remained unchanged though I think I might be in need of some manscaping now...slacking there atm

Oh jeeeez. Hairy balls would depress anyone!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Working out your best self care can be half the battle, particularly when some of our options are eliminated.

If you need to talk, you know where I am. My recovery won't be yours, but I can steer you in the right direction. In the meantime, be kind to yourself. This shit is hard."

Thanks lovely x

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"My routine has remained unchanged though I think I might be in need of some manscaping now...slacking there atm

Oh jeeeez. Hairy balls would depress anyone! "

Yep I feel sad reading this. The stallion Chillout has succumbed to laziness.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Don’t get me wrong I’m not out looking for sympathy. I’m having a great time with the family. My girls are being amazing, we’ve had so much fun. Had a little party in the garden yesterday. I can still work etc. So many people worse off than me. I was just saying about the “letting yourself go” part of it. I think it helps to still make an effort. x

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By *erdyWoman
over a year ago

wiltshire

I have a routine as it keeps me sane. Weekend will relax things but definitely important for mental health to establish a routine. Keeping on top of my regular grooming routine as I always do mani/ pedi, hair removal, roots etc

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have a routine as it keeps me sane. Weekend will relax things but definitely important for mental health to establish a routine. Keeping on top of my regular grooming routine as I always do mani/ pedi, hair removal, roots etc

Yes. I think it’s important. I said to the kids right from now on PJ days are still gonna be weekend days only.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Don’t get me wrong I’m not out looking for sympathy. I’m having a great time with the family. My girls are being amazing, we’ve had so much fun. Had a little party in the garden yesterday. I can still work etc. So many people worse off than me. I was just saying about the “letting yourself go” part of it. I think it helps to still make an effort. x "

Different strokes

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Different strokes

Strokes

. Stop bringing sex into it!! Or is it my mind. God I need sex!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I miss my daily routine even if it meant having to work and I do think it's important for a balanced and healthy lifestyle, for me anyway. As it is I've made a new routine to keep me occupied and, failing that, I'm lucky enough to share a gaff with friends

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Different strokes

Strokes

. Stop bringing sex into it!! Or is it my mind. God I need sex!!!"

Don't look at me, my libido has fucked off.

Hooray anxiety has an upside

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My hair has ended up looking like dreadlocks some days , it’s curly and hard work so some days I just put it in a bun and not touch it , when I eventually take it out I look like Medusa !

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I miss my daily routine even if it meant having to work and I do think it's important for a balanced and healthy lifestyle, for me anyway. As it is I've made a new routine to keep me occupied and, failing that, I'm lucky enough to share a gaff with friends

Ah that’s nice that you’re with friends. I miss my friends. FaceTimes not the same x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

My hair has ended up looking like dreadlocks some days , it’s curly and hard work so some days I just put it in a bun and not touch it , when I eventually take it out I look like Medusa !"

Me too!!! Couldn’t get a brush through it the other day!!

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"My routine has remained unchanged though I think I might be in need of some manscaping now...slacking there atm

Oh jeeeez. Hairy balls would depress anyone!

Yep I feel sad reading this. The stallion Chillout has succumbed to laziness.

Needs rectifying asap

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

My hair has ended up looking like dreadlocks some days , it’s curly and hard work so some days I just put it in a bun and not touch it , when I eventually take it out I look like Medusa !"

I'm plopping mine today so I'm hoping for some snake vibes when I de-turban

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Different strokes

Strokes

. Stop bringing sex into it!! Or is it my mind. God I need sex!!!

Don't look at me, my libido has fucked off.

Hooray anxiety has an upside

Really? Oh mine hasn’t. Would take a lot to make that happen lol x

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

Different strokes

Strokes

. Stop bringing sex into it!! Or is it my mind. God I need sex!!!"

Tart

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah that’s nice that you’re with friends. I miss my friends. FaceTimes not the same x"

I miss my mum but am thankful for FaceTime. It isn't the same though is right but it's better than not being able to see folk at all

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Different strokes

Strokes

. Stop bringing sex into it!! Or is it my mind. God I need sex!!!

Tart

Moi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you blaming your discrepancies on a world event?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Different strokes

Strokes

. Stop bringing sex into it!! Or is it my mind. God I need sex!!!

Don't look at me, my libido has fucked off.

Hooray anxiety has an upside

Really? Oh mine hasn’t. Would take a lot to make that happen lol x"

I've been really in the s mental health wise, and when that happens a lot of shit shuts down. Shrug.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

I went a couple of days without getting dressed, even had a couple of Skype meetings in my pjs, but I felt crappy, so I shower, get dressed, put on lippy and perfume and feel me again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love going Ferrell ! It’s great to not have to brush ya hair before 12 o’clock !

Nowt wrong with the odd pj day not that I get many !

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Are you blaming your discrepancies on a world event?

. Suppose I am. I need a kick up the arse don’t I?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Different strokes

Strokes

. Stop bringing sex into it!! Or is it my mind. God I need sex!!!

Don't look at me, my libido has fucked off.

Hooray anxiety has an upside

Really? Oh mine hasn’t. Would take a lot to make that happen lol x

I've been really in the s mental health wise, and when that happens a lot of shit shuts down. Shrug."

Yes I can understand that. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are you blaming your discrepancies on a world event?

. Suppose I am. I need a kick up the arse don’t I? "
KICK! learn to slob!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I love going Ferrell ! It’s great to not have to brush ya hair before 12 o’clock !

Nowt wrong with the odd pj day not that I get many ! "

Yeah but after a week of it it got to me

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside

If you are working from home, instead of mobile and email try to set up a few video conferences.

Once you see yourself on a screen it tends to focus the mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i always stick to my routine of getting ready for the day ahead, even if it is just to stay inside the house.

showered, dressed, hair done, cologne on and good to go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are you blaming your discrepancies on a world event?

. Suppose I am. I need a kick up the arse don’t I? KICK! learn to slob!

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Your not wrong how we look does impact mood.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"i always stick to my routine of getting ready for the day ahead, even if it is just to stay inside the house.

showered, dressed, hair done, cologne on and good to go

This is gonna be me from now on!!

I CAN DO THIS!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I also used to feel depressed getting up everyday, dressing up and going to work. Forgive me if I’m misunderstanding but I don’t think depression can be pinned to a lack of routine. Otherwise I’d hope to no longer have it.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Routine gone to pot, not that I had one much before.

Life is basically up, feed the lad three times a day, school work (trying not to lose the plot) and a bit of cleaning. When he’s not here it’s a big fat zero haha

Ironically my outplacement service called today saying we need to get started, I just laughed and said nope you can put that on hold for another month as can’t actively use the service as it should be used

Life will get some normality again at some point

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No, I also used to feel depressed getting up everyday, dressing up and going to work. Forgive me if I’m misunderstanding but I don’t think depression can be pinned to a lack of routine. Otherwise I’d hope to no longer have it.

That’s why I particularly didn’t use the word “depression” I know depression is a totally different thing and I’m not undermining that. That’s not what I meant by this post x

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Im very happy this week, I hit rock bottom last week. I stay in my pjs as it helps me stay in, if I get dressed able to go out then I get frustrated because I can't go out

Hope you feel in a better mind space soon

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Depression can be caused or exacerbated by many things. As can subclinical psychological disturbance.

Hang in there x

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

I'm doing ok. This situation hasn't really changed my routine drastically. Just made me think outside the box in terms of how to live as normally as possible. I never thought I'd actually be relieved that I'm emotionally shallow.

Lots of love to everyone who is in a glum space. It won't last. It will get brighter and we need you xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm doing ok. This situation hasn't really changed my routine drastically. Just made me think outside the box in terms of how to live as normally as possible. I never thought I'd actually be relieved that I'm emotionally shallow.

Lots of love to everyone who is in a glum space. It won't last. It will get brighter and we need you xx"

Yes it does make you think more and put things into perspective. For how long I don’t know but I’m hoping I’ll come out of it a better person.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

In the meantime. Waynetta the explorer sounds quite catchy and apt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i always stick to my routine of getting ready for the day ahead, even if it is just to stay inside the house.

showered, dressed, hair done, cologne on and good to go

This is gonna be me from now on!!

I CAN DO THIS!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"i always stick to my routine of getting ready for the day ahead, even if it is just to stay inside the house.

showered, dressed, hair done, cologne on and good to go

This is gonna be me from now on!!

I CAN DO THIS!!!

She says in her onesie with her 5th cup of tea

Just one more cuppa then shower! Haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i always stick to my routine of getting ready for the day ahead, even if it is just to stay inside the house.

showered, dressed, hair done, cologne on and good to go

This is gonna be me from now on!!

I CAN DO THIS!!!

She says in her onesie with her 5th cup of tea

Just one more cuppa then shower! Haha "

got to start somewhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont think we bring them on ourselves. It's what we are being exposed to now. But we can definitely try and do more to shush those thoughts up. To kick their ass.. not our own. We control our reactions.. so yes.. get that make up on Nora

not everyday but one evening can be a make up fun with your girls if you are into it. Promised my girl some nail and make up fun over the weekend and hair colouring with chalks. Not the same but doing SOMETHING keep me sane. Just adjusting..

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I am having two or three videocon meetings a day with work - I have to put a bit of grooming in or they'd think Bill Oddie had joined the team.

I have my own issues and have to watch not to let self-care turn into compulsion. Right now anxiety is triggering OCD and I have to really watch what I'm doing and what habits I'm creating to make sure I'm doing things because they're necessary, not because it's an effective though unhealthy outlet for my stress.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The first 2 weeks since all my work just stopped i was very bad at letting my depression and laziness get the better of me but it was a little bit to be expected as work over the last few years has been one of the main motivators in my life. The stress coming from 4-5 months worth of work and income lost is difficult to deal with, along with the uncertainty.

Non the less this last week or so I have started doing yoga gardening and exercising and showering more and it does certainly help lift the move and help with a more positive outlook.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone else not bothering much or is it just me?

Just you...

...they’re removing make up from shelves in some stores as it’s not an essential

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been sticking to my routine, not only because it keeps me from getting low in mood but I have a dog who very much likes her routine. Though I have to admit I have have been getting far too used to my siesta time. Not had that since I lived in Cyprus many years ago. But I'm not being too hard on myself, I feel very alone and isolated but that's the point is it not? Just me and BOB (battery operated boyfriend)

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

I get showered and dressed etc but then I drift through my day. I’m easily distracted and I lack focus until I properly get into my work and then I’m ok, the day breezes by.

What I find necessary for me is to differentiate week days to weekends.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

To be honest my routine hasn't changed much from how it's been for years on a weekday - about the only difference is that I haven't shaved or had my haircut for a lot longer than normal but I'm embracing that and actually intrigued to see how long my beard/head hair will grow unchallenged.

The time I have felt it most though has been weekends where normally I'd go out and do stuff and now can't and am really "feeling" doing nothing but as is my way, accept it for what it is and try and stay strong and positive and just keep putting one foot in front of the other until we come out the other side.

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By *irth.Minge.FireMan
over a year ago

Seen in far off places

It has to be the usual routine for me - with daily video conferencing calls / meetings, an unkempt GMF - or even nakedness - just wouldn't do...

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I think a lot of people started this period of lockdown on a pessimistic note anyway and saw it as a reason to not bother. I have always believed that outward appearance reflects a person's state of mind to an extent and that sometimes improvement to one can encourage improvement to the other. I do know that just putting a nice frock on won't cure depression though.

For myself I'm one of the lucky people that have a partner, loads to do, enough food to eat and no pressing financial worries so keeping positive and motivated to pluck the hairs out of my chin is easier for me than many . It isn't the same for loads of people and I don't know how we as a society can support them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are you blaming your discrepancies on a world event?

. Suppose I am. I need a kick up the arse don’t I? "

Doesn't have to be a kick....just saying..

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I've been playing with my face much more since lockdown. Using it as self care. Did rainbow eyeshadow yesterday, made a right mess

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By *essie.Woman
over a year ago

Serendipity

I’ve been dressing more casual as working from home but did dress for the office on Friday.

Been trying to stick to similar to my usual work hours as well.

Finding lack of time to myself the weirdest part.

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside

Garden never looked so good.

Shed emptied out, power washed, painted and good throw away of unwanted shit, my favourite pastime, throwing stuff away, love it.

Kitchen cupboards emptied, scrubbed and refilled with stuff we actually use, the appliances right at the back...in the bin, even if they are Christmas presents.

Seems to be a never ending stream of jobs, how did we do them all before working from home or at least trying to do a bit of work.

I work away quite a bit, never again will I complain of waits in airports and being away from home, well not for a few weeks anyway, it will all be back to normal soonish.

Stay safe.

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over a year ago

"Are you blaming your discrepancies on a world event?

. Suppose I am. I need a kick up the arse don’t I?

Doesn't have to be a kick....just saying.."

I’m partial to a gentle slap

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The brain adapts constantly to our lifestyles..believe me I have studied my own problems extensively..noticed the other day my gf was getting quieter and quieter, her sleep pattern was all over the place, because she was napping in the day..she was withdrawing into her own space..not getting out of her pyjamas etc..getting conversation from her was like pulling teeth..we had a chat and I'm taking a day off work every 3 or 4 days, she's getting up at 9 now and keeping busy all day and she s back to the girl I knew before lock down. ..if you re not used to being alone it can be quite a shock to the system and be very stealthy in its impact.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmmm you might be onto something .. I've been in jeans for 3 weeks, slippers, no makeup, not even brushed my hair

Might try and be my normal self tomorrow.. Wonder which heels to wear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hmmm you might be onto something .. I've been in jeans for 3 weeks, slippers, no makeup, not even brushed my hair

Might try and be my normal self tomorrow.. Wonder which heels to wear

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The brain adapts constantly to our lifestyles..believe me I have studied my own problems extensively..noticed the other day my gf was getting quieter and quieter, her sleep pattern was all over the place, because she was napping in the day..she was withdrawing into her own space..not getting out of her pyjamas etc..getting conversation from her was like pulling teeth..we had a chat and I'm taking a day off work every 3 or 4 days, she's getting up at 9 now and keeping busy all day and she s back to the girl I knew before lock down. ..if you re not used to being alone it can be quite a shock to the system and be very stealthy in its impact.

I’m used to being alone all day though and I love it. I’m struggling with the not being alone if I’m honest!! X

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over a year ago

"Hmmm you might be onto something .. I've been in jeans for 3 weeks, slippers, no makeup, not even brushed my hair

Might try and be my normal self tomorrow.. Wonder which heels to wear

Do it!

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By *nvisible_beardMan
over a year ago

near newbridge, wales

No routine

Lost that when lost job a month or so before lockdown/pandemic.

So it's been alot longer than most being isolated/ at home.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

I've been get up, showering early and dressing decently to work from home (blouse on top but leggings or jeggings on the bottom!) At the weekend, we have been slobbing around in PJs, but we sometimes do that anyway. I do keep forgetting to have lunch, but I forget at work often too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been really ill the past week, been in bed and not bothered about my hair or makeup or even getting dressed. Today was the 1st day I got dressed as I felt upto it, even did my hair and put a bit of face on as I popped to the the shop. I definitely felt better for it.

I will be making a little more effort each day, just for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I actually got up early today, did my hair and make up and on my daily exercise walk, with my daughter a very handsome neighbour I have never met before was 100% flirting with me whilst walking on the other side of the road!!! Motivation to stay out of leggings and keep on top of appearance right there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just finished 6th day working in a row. I currently couldn't give a rats arse what I look like but sleep would be nice

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just finished 6th day working in a row. I currently couldn't give a rats arse what I look like but sleep would be nice "

Hey you!!! Good to see you back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My everyday routine is the same ..up .. training... breakfast ..work .. l try to stick to that routine as best l can only when gone to a concert or on holiday.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

We create and then recreate ourselves each day, down to, at a micro-level, our posture, emotions and associated bags of associated beliefs, limits and habits etc.

Well worn paths can be followed as if on autopilot. Humans are creatures of habit, it provides some comfort to us and it's less challenging.

The Importance of asking ourselves the right things on an ongoing basis is huge. We can get to check ourselves and change what we can.

There are many fairly easy to do things that can uplift ourselves, if we sank a bit, stuck in a rut. Singles especially so, as no one may be around and able to see the things we're up to for a long time atm.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hmmm you might be onto something .. I've been in jeans for 3 weeks, slippers, no makeup, not even brushed my hair

Might try and be my normal self tomorrow.. Wonder which heels to wear

Any that would look good on my shoulders

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By *elloIntrigueMan
over a year ago

North West UK

Routine is important. I'm trying to work from home and on the work days slip a workshirt on. I'm generally getting up at a similar sort of time as I did for work.

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By *horltzMan
over a year ago

heysham

I have made a conscious effort to do all the jobs I’ve been putting off , so far so good ! If I carry on like this then all this will have worked out well for my quest for DIY closure

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

My routine has changed to much just home from work a bit earlier on occasions.

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay

It depends how you perceive it. Letting go, being present with the challenges sometimes means not being arsed about things that are usually important to you.

Riding the waves and the ups and downs .. not feeling like we 'should' be one way or another is probably more useful to me than judging my responses.

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay

Positivity in the face of adversity has it's place .. it certainly feels better when we can get to that place. For some it's easier than it is for others. I entered into a grieving process over the losses and challenges we are facing right now, personally and collectively. I know that entails a process.

I've been well dressed, slobby, in tears, laughing, strong, fragile .. it's all ok.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

I’d already been working from home a week before lockdown happened. This is week 4 for me.

I’ve maintained a routine as much as possible. My face to face appointments switched to Skype, usual meetings where we can Skype have continued and I’ve also been seconded to assist in another role a couple of afternoons per week.

I haven’t dropped into scruffs mode just because I’m at home although I’m clearly not sat at my desk in a suit! Just because I can’t do what I did doesn’t mean I shouldn’t do what I can! I’m just doing it differently.

If you let your state of mind get the better of you it’s all downhill and difficult to get yourself out of ...

Stay safe | Protect the NHS | Save lives!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey at least you’re wearing knickers!

I’ve got to admit apart from the two night shifts I do a week where I try and look decent I haven’t been making an effort. Haven’t been wearing make up or doing my hair. I have been showering every day though cos I’m paranoid about washing the outside off me, I normally only have 4 a week I know I sound like a savage!

I went to Superdrug today though bought hair dye, bought some nail polishes cos I can’t have my gels done, bought face masks and some new make up and I’m gonna try making effort. See so many people in the queue outside Asda now and can’t just nip in and out so I’ll make effort to look tidy.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"It depends how you perceive it. Letting go, being present with the challenges sometimes means not being arsed about things that are usually important to you.

Riding the waves and the ups and downs .. not feeling like we 'should' be one way or another is probably more useful to me than judging my responses.

Absolutely

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

"It depends how you perceive it. Letting go, being present with the challenges sometimes means not being arsed about things that are usually important to you.

Riding the waves and the ups and downs .. not feeling like we 'should' be one way or another is probably more useful to me than judging my responses.

Absolutely"

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

Yeah I have a tendency to wallow in self pity so if this has taught me anything it’s to be great full for what u have xx

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By *emma HoldenTV/TS
over a year ago

Ramsey

I've fought so hard through all manner of emotions with being Gemma & my divorce last year. I've been to allsorts of places in my head. This lockdown & loss of daily routine is another challenge of similar scale. Or it feels like it. The biggest mistake I made many times was not listening to music. Don't care if it makes me smile, cry or gives me goose bumps, it's vital to our soul & wellbeing. Don't stop your music. Today I washed some windows & then the car. Not much but I'm spacing my jobs out to make then last. I'm kinda used to being on my own now so getting by ok, but it's not easy for others I know. Don't drive yourselves mad watching the news 24/7 either. Take a break & it'll still all be there a few hours later.

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over a year ago

I'm quite lucky that my routine hasn't changed too much as I'm still in the office everyday. As I'm almost alone in there, casual clothes and music while far from the norm are keeping me relaxed. I also get to keep some of my exercise routine which is helping.

I've cut out news other than what is fed down to us at work and essential to my job, muted negative people on facebook, left lots of political groups. Just trying to avoid the constant noise.

Most of the time I'm probably doing better than okay. One of my quirks is I cope well in a crisis, not really sure how or why, I think it's a leveller when everyone else is frantic and panicing that is so often my norm so I can cope with it while others can't.

Oh and I put wax in my hair for the first time in 2 weeks today because i realised i needed to make an effort. But equally I had a shower this morning having not got dressed since Saturday. How I cope and what's a coping method is always fluid

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over a year ago

"I'm quite lucky that my routine hasn't changed too much as I'm still in the office everyday. As I'm almost alone in there, casual clothes and music while far from the norm are keeping me relaxed. I also get to keep some of my exercise routine which is helping.

I've cut out news other than what is fed down to us at work and essential to my job, muted negative people on facebook, left lots of political groups. Just trying to avoid the constant noise.

This..especially the part about following govern mentioned guidelines only and leaving the media part alone..had to sit a friend down and talk to her..she never trusted, actually hated the medias love of hype then suddenly she was watching every report, hanging on every last word and just getting deeper into the fear side instead of listening to the facts. It was a heated debate between two very close friends..the following day she text to say you re right. She stopped with the media and has now calmed down and is just doing what she needs to do..we all know the media will say pretty much anything to make a story.

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