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"If you've posted it in the last one towards the end (and it's now closed) please do post again. *not stepping on Inc's toes hopefully" As if I’d ever mind you stepping in for me   | |||
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"As requested by several lovelies. A non judgemental space to say whatever you want, however you want, about whoever or whatever you want. Off we go again then... " Thank you OP | |||
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"I’m just popping in to say ‘Hello’ ladies and I hope you’re all bearing up well Sending you all hugs xx " Hugs to you as well DC. | |||
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"It's crazy as I thought I was the only one to be having good and bad days!! The worry of still working and their health, kids and parents. And on top of that missing male adult touches and cock! Grrrr On a good note tho, new strap on came, had to try out the dildo myself of course and wow... squirtie squirt!! I dont normally on my own "The missing of cock is a real thing.  A lot of us are having good and bad days and doing the best we can to get through.
Did you just squirt through dildo usage? I want to order that toy from Amazon everyone raves about but I'll probably end up staying in bed for a few weeks with it. | |||
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"Thanks Meli xx Sending so many hugs to those above! Mine sounds minimal, but I'm going to take the opportunity to spill anyway. My boyfriend and I are very piss takey of each other, and can cut pretty close to the bone sometimes. I am able to handle it 99% of the time, but I guess we are all a little more stressed right now. At dinner tonight he was making some sexist comments about the title Dr and PC (to wind me up, not because he thinks it), and my daughters were there so I wanted to argue back and put him right, and be a good role model, and feminist, and Yadda Yadda. Instead, I got so frustrated I couldn't articulate, burst into tears, told him he was being cunty, and then stropped off. So much for not being a hysterical woman..." I think it’s called being human | |||
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"Thanks Meli xx Sending so many hugs to those above! Mine sounds minimal, but I'm going to take the opportunity to spill anyway. My boyfriend and I are very piss takey of each other, and can cut pretty close to the bone sometimes. I am able to handle it 99% of the time, but I guess we are all a little more stressed right now. At dinner tonight he was making some sexist comments about the title Dr and PC (to wind me up, not because he thinks it), and my daughters were there so I wanted to argue back and put him right, and be a good role model, and feminist, and Yadda Yadda. Instead, I got so frustrated I couldn't articulate, burst into tears, told him he was being cunty, and then stropped off. So much for not being a hysterical woman..." Role models are allowed to have a good cry , hopefully he will see you’re upset and give you a big hug , sending you one as well x | |||
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"I’m just popping in to say ‘Hello’ ladies and I hope you’re all bearing up well Sending you all hugs xx Hugs to you as well DC." Thanks Lorraine x | |||
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"I've had a really bad few days, pondering life, love and the point that it's just so fucking painful. I couldn't see the sun... the black dog was coming for me. Now my period has fucked off it seems bearable and dare I say it even doable. I've not been on much coz of it, plus seeing people posting who I could quite easily bop on the snout with a shovel has had me thinking it ain't worth coming on. I'm feeling as though people don't understand me, and I'm aware I'm looking like a whinging cunt all the time which tells me I need to make changes in my life. P" Oh stop it. You’re you and you’re loved for it. Give yourself a slap and post away.. | |||
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"I've had a really bad few days, pondering life, love and the point that it's just so fucking painful. I couldn't see the sun... the black dog was coming for me. Now my period has fucked off it seems bearable and dare I say it even doable. I've not been on much coz of it, plus seeing people posting who I could quite easily bop on the snout with a shovel has had me thinking it ain't worth coming on. I'm feeling as though people don't understand me, and I'm aware I'm looking like a whinging cunt all the time which tells me I need to make changes in my life. P" Everyone is allowed to whinge it’s normal , sorry to hear you’re feeling crap sending love x | |||
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"I had tear trough treatment back in November (fillers under my eyes) now they’ve dissolved I’m noticing that my eye bags look worse than before I had the filler. I know they say the more you have it done the longer the results will last each time but I can’t be shelling out £250 every 6 months ongoing. They probably look the same as they did before I had them but now the volume underneath has gone I’m noticing the bags again. " You know what? Everyone around me suddenly has huge bags under their eyes. I kid you not... | |||
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"I've had a really bad few days, pondering life, love and the point that it's just so fucking painful. I couldn't see the sun... the black dog was coming for me. Now my period has fucked off it seems bearable and dare I say it even doable. I've not been on much coz of it, plus seeing people posting who I could quite easily bop on the snout with a shovel has had me thinking it ain't worth coming on. I'm feeling as though people don't understand me, and I'm aware I'm looking like a whinging cunt all the time which tells me I need to make changes in my life. P" This is completely me, except the last bit as don’t care if people get me or not. The urge to thump people every day is growing as is the inability to bite my tongue and keep my thoughts to myself Stay away or let rip is still to be decided | |||
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"I had tear trough treatment back in November (fillers under my eyes) now they’ve dissolved I’m noticing that my eye bags look worse than before I had the filler. I know they say the more you have it done the longer the results will last each time but I can’t be shelling out £250 every 6 months ongoing. They probably look the same as they did before I had them but now the volume underneath has gone I’m noticing the bags again. You know what? Everyone around me suddenly has huge bags under their eyes. I kid you not..." I’ve been doing face treatments every day to make myself feel better and I swear they’ve done bugger all , think I need something more industrial! | |||
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"Thanks Meli xx Sending so many hugs to those above! Mine sounds minimal, but I'm going to take the opportunity to spill anyway. My boyfriend and I are very piss takey of each other, and can cut pretty close to the bone sometimes. I am able to handle it 99% of the time, but I guess we are all a little more stressed right now. At dinner tonight he was making some sexist comments about the title Dr and PC (to wind me up, not because he thinks it), and my daughters were there so I wanted to argue back and put him right, and be a good role model, and feminist, and Yadda Yadda. Instead, I got so frustrated I couldn't articulate, burst into tears, told him he was being cunty, and then stropped off. So much for not being a hysterical woman..." It is the tension right now, you're right about that. You're human, you're going to get upset. Do you angry cry? I do that and then get even angrier that I am and cry a bit more. For the next few weeks just say you want to dial back on the piss taking and instead be kinder to each other. Also, make sure you're keeping your refreshers supply up because that will have an effect as well (I'm really hoping I have the right sweets! ). You both love each other a lot, that much is clear. Also, being a woman who expresses her emotions is a win. Fuck the hysterical. | |||
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"It's crazy as I thought I was the only one to be having good and bad days!! The worry of still working and their health, kids and parents. And on top of that missing male adult touches and cock! Grrrr On a good note tho, new strap on came, had to try out the dildo myself of course and wow... squirtie squirt!! I dont normally on my own
The missing of cock is a real thing. A lot of us are having good and bad days and doing the best we can to get through.
Did you just squirt through dildo usage? I want to order that toy from Amazon everyone raves about but I'll probably end up staying in bed for a few weeks with it."Dildo and vib on clit tbf (as per video) Ohh which toy is everyone racing about - I may have missed this lol | |||
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"I’m just popping in to say ‘Hello’ ladies and I hope you’re all bearing up well Sending you all hugs xx " Sending hugs DC! When this is over we are nursing a bottle of gin 'til it runs dry. | |||
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"Thanks Meli xx Sending so many hugs to those above! Mine sounds minimal, but I'm going to take the opportunity to spill anyway. My boyfriend and I are very piss takey of each other, and can cut pretty close to the bone sometimes. I am able to handle it 99% of the time, but I guess we are all a little more stressed right now. At dinner tonight he was making some sexist comments about the title Dr and PC (to wind me up, not because he thinks it), and my daughters were there so I wanted to argue back and put him right, and be a good role model, and feminist, and Yadda Yadda. Instead, I got so frustrated I couldn't articulate, burst into tears, told him he was being cunty, and then stropped off. So much for not being a hysterical woman..." You’re allowed. Being a strong women doesn’t necessarily mean 24/7 but you sound like a very strong women to me. | |||
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"Thanks Meli xx Sending so many hugs to those above! Mine sounds minimal, but I'm going to take the opportunity to spill anyway. My boyfriend and I are very piss takey of each other, and can cut pretty close to the bone sometimes. I am able to handle it 99% of the time, but I guess we are all a little more stressed right now. At dinner tonight he was making some sexist comments about the title Dr and PC (to wind me up, not because he thinks it), and my daughters were there so I wanted to argue back and put him right, and be a good role model, and feminist, and Yadda Yadda. Instead, I got so frustrated I couldn't articulate, burst into tears, told him he was being cunty, and then stropped off. So much for not being a hysterical woman... It is the tension right now, you're right about that. You're human, you're going to get upset. Do you angry cry? I do that and then get even angrier that I am and cry a bit more. For the next few weeks just say you want to dial back on the piss taking and instead be kinder to each other. Also, make sure you're keeping your refreshers supply up because that will have an effect as well (I'm really hoping I have the right sweets! ). You both love each other a lot, that much is clear. Also, being a woman who expresses her emotions is a win. Fuck the hysterical. "Thank you ladies. Meli, you were close... it's all about the Wham bars! And I am an angry crier. Yeah, I'll suggest a bit of an entente cordiale for now perhaps. In fairness, he did come after me, apologise, give me a hug, and serve up an amazing vegan dessert that he and my eldest had made for me, so I do feel much better now. Xxx | |||
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"I've had a really bad few days, pondering life, love and the point that it's just so fucking painful. I couldn't see the sun... the black dog was coming for me. Now my period has fucked off it seems bearable and dare I say it even doable. I've not been on much coz of it, plus seeing people posting who I could quite easily bop on the snout with a shovel has had me thinking it ain't worth coming on. I'm feeling as though people don't understand me, and I'm aware I'm looking like a whinging cunt all the time which tells me I need to make changes in my life. P This is completely me, except the last bit as don’t care if people get me or not. The urge to thump people every day is growing as is the inability to bite my tongue and keep my thoughts to myself Stay away or let rip is still to be decided " Stay away and bite your tongue Chickie. It’s just not worth it... | |||
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"I've spent the last 10 days in solitude and actually enjoyed it. If anyone is struggling, I'm here to lend a friendly ear/typing finger. If anyone could find it in their powers to wind back to yesterday, so I could spend another few hours taking pics with the HIGH RES settings in my camera, I'd be grateful, thanks." I’m good but not that good | |||
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"OK, was trying not to moan, but I suppose it's good to get it out? I've done lots of standing up today - baking bread and biscuits with my kids helped make tea etc because S is ill. I also put the shopping away last night and cooked on my own yesterday. Problem is, I really can't do it anymore because now my bad leg is so fucking painful. It's neuropathic pain, so burning, stinging and a feeling like insects are crawling up my leg. My leg is also swollen and my foot a fucking weird colour. It's just a reminder to me of how bloody useless I am when it comes to doing anything productive and useful for my family. I can't do housework unless it's seated, can't load/unload the dishwasher etc. I did the laundry yesterday and that's another thing I shouldn't be doing and I'm paying for it now. On a normal weekend, I can go out and do stuff with my family in my wheelchair, my house isn't adapted and there's no room for the chair and the kitchen is still a normal standing height kitchen, so the wheelchair is useless. There's no financial aid for adaptations in my situation. My son has been trying to help me more, but his sister plays up for him and so he sometimes finds it hard to do things. I feel like shit mum of the year and feel like I can't look after S when he needs it. He should be in bed, but he's currently doing toddler bath and PJs to let me sit down. So a shit wife too. Rant over folks and sorry for whining. " Sorry for whining? You’re mad you are. You’re like frigging Wonder Woman and you’re sorry for whining?  . Just don’t overdo things you. You have to think of your own health as it won’t do any of you good if you’re carried off to hospital. Sending hugs | |||
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"OK, was trying not to moan, but I suppose it's good to get it out? I've done lots of standing up today - baking bread and biscuits with my kids helped make tea etc because S is ill. I also put the shopping away last night and cooked on my own yesterday. Problem is, I really can't do it anymore because now my bad leg is so fucking painful. It's neuropathic pain, so burning, stinging and a feeling like insects are crawling up my leg. My leg is also swollen and my foot a fucking weird colour. It's just a reminder to me of how bloody useless I am when it comes to doing anything productive and useful for my family. I can't do housework unless it's seated, can't load/unload the dishwasher etc. I did the laundry yesterday and that's another thing I shouldn't be doing and I'm paying for it now. On a normal weekend, I can go out and do stuff with my family in my wheelchair, my house isn't adapted and there's no room for the chair and the kitchen is still a normal standing height kitchen, so the wheelchair is useless. There's no financial aid for adaptations in my situation. My son has been trying to help me more, but his sister plays up for him and so he sometimes finds it hard to do things. I feel like shit mum of the year and feel like I can't look after S when he needs it. He should be in bed, but he's currently doing toddler bath and PJs to let me sit down. So a shit wife too. Rant over folks and sorry for whining. " You're doing a lot better than many of us. Take care of yourself. You're allowed to complain, and please do take care of your body too. | |||
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"I've had a really bad few days, pondering life, love and the point that it's just so fucking painful. I couldn't see the sun... the black dog was coming for me. Now my period has fucked off it seems bearable and dare I say it even doable. I've not been on much coz of it, plus seeing people posting who I could quite easily bop on the snout with a shovel has had me thinking it ain't worth coming on. I'm feeling as though people don't understand me, and I'm aware I'm looking like a whinging cunt all the time which tells me I need to make changes in my life. P" Ahh mate whinge away on here, better to let it out than keep it in. You know you’ve gone through worse stuff than what you’re feeling lately. Watch the Roger Sanchez ~ Another Chance video on YouTube. That’s our problem, our fucking hearts are too big, we’d both benefit from being a little colder I think. | |||
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"Thank you ladies. Meli, you were close... it's all about the Wham bars! And I am an angry crier. Yeah, I'll suggest a bit of an entente cordiale for now perhaps. In fairness, he did come after me, apologise, give me a hug, and serve up an amazing vegan dessert that he and my eldest had made for me, so I do feel much better now. Xxx" Wham Bars! So close. I'll remember that. Okay, so this might be a bit daft but you using entente cordiale has made me smile so much. x | |||
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"Oh. My family. Those who know the elephant in the room will slightly understand this. Government decisions both putting them at higher risk in the short to medium term... but also mean it might be *years* before I see them again. My parents aren't in great health..." I’m in a similar position but what can you do? WhatsApp and don’t feel guilty. | |||
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"I've had a really bad few days, pondering life, love and the point that it's just so fucking painful. I couldn't see the sun... the black dog was coming for me. Now my period has fucked off it seems bearable and dare I say it even doable. I've not been on much coz of it, plus seeing people posting who I could quite easily bop on the snout with a shovel has had me thinking it ain't worth coming on. I'm feeling as though people don't understand me, and I'm aware I'm looking like a whinging cunt all the time which tells me I need to make changes in my life. P This is completely me, except the last bit as don’t care if people get me or not. The urge to thump people every day is growing as is the inability to bite my tongue and keep my thoughts to myself Stay away or let rip is still to be decided Stay away and bite your tongue Chickie. It’s just not worth it..." Oh I don’t know could be a lot of fun ! | |||
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"Oh. My family. Those who know the elephant in the room will slightly understand this. Government decisions both putting them at higher risk in the short to medium term... but also mean it might be *years* before I see them again. My parents aren't in great health... I’m in a similar position but what can you do? WhatsApp and don’t feel guilty. " It sucks. It sucks so much  | |||
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" Stay away or let rip is still to be decided Stay away and bite your tongue Chickie. It’s just not worth it... Oh I don’t know could be a lot of fun ! " Now I’ve witnessed how hard your head is (literally) and how feisty you are but there are bad uns out there who are meaner than you are and won’t care smashing you one. Stay away | |||
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"Oh. My family. Those who know the elephant in the room will slightly understand this. Government decisions both putting them at higher risk in the short to medium term... but also mean it might be *years* before I see them again. My parents aren't in great health... I’m in a similar position but what can you do? WhatsApp and don’t feel guilty. It sucks. It sucks so much " | |||
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"Oh. My family. Those who know the elephant in the room will slightly understand this. Government decisions both putting them at higher risk in the short to medium term... but also mean it might be *years* before I see them again. My parents aren't in great health... I’m in a similar position but what can you do? WhatsApp and don’t feel guilty. It sucks. It sucks so much "Awwww Swing, I hope you can go and see your family as soon as possible, that's really rough | |||
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"Don't worry, the chances of me being taken to hospital or doing anything other than having a shit ton of pain abd swelling is zero. Pain doesn't kill you. I haven't had to do so much in the house for a long time, and spending so much time in my unadapted home have conspired to remind me that I'm broken, I'm no longer my old normal (ie able bodied). I hesitate to really describe myself as disabled though. Then the massive elephant in the room is now my injury happened. It was caused by my second pregnancy with my daughter. Trying not to be resentful is hard, especially when I'm feeling fragile. And how the fuck could I be resentful of a little loving girl who didn't ask to be born? Urgh. Can of worms opened there "Oh sweetheart I’m so sorry.... can you not get some counselling for how to deal with this? I’m a qualified one but not for your needs | |||
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"My last post on the other thread was to Mina: "Ok I'm just here on this site out of curiosity but would like the courage to meet at least one bloke from here casually! Well there’s no better time than choosing one now. Time enough to get to know them properly. Go on, send some first messages Thanks Op, you're like super gorgeous though. I guess the men look super hot at times so bit daunting for me to take the plunge. Really feel like I have to do this before I'm old!" Do it! I joined in a panic last year thinking I don’t have long left before I lose whatever’s left of my looks and dry up, I didn’t expect much but it’s been great and given me a lot of confidence." Thank you for your advice! I might pluck up the courage when all this is over! | |||
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" Stay away or let rip is still to be decided Stay away and bite your tongue Chickie. It’s just not worth it... Oh I don’t know could be a lot of fun ! Now I’ve witnessed how hard your head is (literally) and how feisty you are but there are bad uns out there who are meaner than you are and won’t care smashing you one. Stay away "I know I don't know you Spurs, and this goes for all of you, if something is winding you up and if it helps, whatever you want to type on a post you can send to my inbox. It is open for any rants. You can even use the subject rant please delete and I won't even read it. Sometimes just hitting a send button can help. Never let anyone on here get the better of you. They don't deserve it. | |||
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"OK, was trying not to moan, but I suppose it's good to get it out? I've done lots of standing up today - baking bread and biscuits with my kids helped make tea etc because S is ill. I also put the shopping away last night and cooked on my own yesterday. Problem is, I really can't do it anymore because now my bad leg is so fucking painful. It's neuropathic pain, so burning, stinging and a feeling like insects are crawling up my leg. My leg is also swollen and my foot a fucking weird colour. It's just a reminder to me of how bloody useless I am when it comes to doing anything productive and useful for my family. I can't do housework unless it's seated, can't load/unload the dishwasher etc. I did the laundry yesterday and that's another thing I shouldn't be doing and I'm paying for it now. On a normal weekend, I can go out and do stuff with my family in my wheelchair, my house isn't adapted and there's no room for the chair and the kitchen is still a normal standing height kitchen, so the wheelchair is useless. There's no financial aid for adaptations in my situation. My son has been trying to help me more, but his sister plays up for him and so he sometimes finds it hard to do things. I feel like shit mum of the year and feel like I can't look after S when he needs it. He should be in bed, but he's currently doing toddler bath and PJs to let me sit down. So a shit wife too. Rant over folks and sorry for whining. " You are a bloody superstar woman (and a sexy one at that  )
You are doing everything you can and that's all anyone can ask or expect, you can't push yourself beyond your limits and not expect to pay for it. Does not mean you are useless in any SNES of the word! Be gentle with yourself and whinge away as much as you would like. You no where I am if you need me xxx | |||
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"OK, was trying not to moan, but I suppose it's good to get it out? I've done lots of standing up today - baking bread and biscuits with my kids helped make tea etc because S is ill. I also put the shopping away last night and cooked on my own yesterday. Problem is, I really can't do it anymore because now my bad leg is so fucking painful. It's neuropathic pain, so burning, stinging and a feeling like insects are crawling up my leg. My leg is also swollen and my foot a fucking weird colour. It's just a reminder to me of how bloody useless I am when it comes to doing anything productive and useful for my family. I can't do housework unless it's seated, can't load/unload the dishwasher etc. I did the laundry yesterday and that's another thing I shouldn't be doing and I'm paying for it now. On a normal weekend, I can go out and do stuff with my family in my wheelchair, my house isn't adapted and there's no room for the chair and the kitchen is still a normal standing height kitchen, so the wheelchair is useless. There's no financial aid for adaptations in my situation. My son has been trying to help me more, but his sister plays up for him and so he sometimes finds it hard to do things. I feel like shit mum of the year and feel like I can't look after S when he needs it. He should be in bed, but he's currently doing toddler bath and PJs to let me sit down. So a shit wife too. Rant over folks and sorry for whining. You are a bloody superstar woman (and a sexy one at that )
You are doing everything you can and that's all anyone can ask or expect, you can't push yourself beyond your limits and not expect to pay for it. Does not mean you are useless in any SNES of the word! Be gentle with yourself and whinge away as much as you would like. You no where I am if you need me xxx"Sense FFS!!!  | |||
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"Oh. My family. Those who know the elephant in the room will slightly understand this. Government decisions both putting them at higher risk in the short to medium term... but also mean it might be *years* before I see them again. My parents aren't in great health..." Hugs xx | |||
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"Don't worry, the chances of me being taken to hospital or doing anything other than having a shit ton of pain abd swelling is zero. Pain doesn't kill you. I haven't had to do so much in the house for a long time, and spending so much time in my unadapted home have conspired to remind me that I'm broken, I'm no longer my old normal (ie able bodied). I hesitate to really describe myself as disabled though. Then the massive elephant in the room is now my injury happened. It was caused by my second pregnancy with my daughter. Trying not to be resentful is hard, especially when I'm feeling fragile. And how the fuck could I be resentful of a little loving girl who didn't ask to be born? Urgh. Can of worms opened there
Oh sweetheart I’m so sorry.... can you not get some counselling for how to deal with this? I’m a qualified one but not for your needs "I did counselling the year after it happened because I had a massive head fuck just around the 1yr anniversary. I'm more able normally to suppress those feelings, but all the staying home and away from work and my usual activities have probably re-opened the thoughts. Ironically, my house is the least accessible place to spend my time, but normally I'm not home so much. This situation is also reinforcing that we either need to remortgage and adapt the house or fix it up a bit and move. But obviously that's pretty much impossible currently and will probably be so for ages to come. Trying not to think about it tbh. I have pretty robust mental abilities to kick myself up the arse, so I just need to grit my teeth and stop being nesh and a fucking twat | |||
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"Meli, let me know how you get on with the hair. I’ve never been able to get lighter, my hair is impenetrable, it’s Mediterranean hair from my Spanish great grandmother so naturally jet back and very thick. I managed to get the ends a tiny bit blonde after 18 months of foils and balayage bleaching. I’d love caramel hair as well but my hair never lifts tidy!" Ah Spanish! I did wonder. I have Mediterranean heritage as well and all the joys of thick dark hair. I'll keep you updated, going to order it in a bit! x | |||
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"N, this is testing us all psychologically. Don't be hard on yourself (yes I'm a hypocrite). Much love, and you know where I am" Thanks, Ms Hypocrite (ya knows I'm joking ) And yes, I do know where you are, lovely lady | |||
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"Time to reflect Thinking what I'm I getting out of here. Yes it's a place to talk where nobody knows me But I'm thinking iv been a right slut. Just meeting guys and fucking them. And it doesn't make me feel good afterwards. I feel cheap like a whore. Iv ruined my marriage. Lost everything for what??? " Don't be too hard on yourself but do stop doing behaviour that makes you so unhappy. You're worth so much more, you really are. Use the time now to take some time out and focus on your marriage; reflecting is always good. Just don't beat yourself up and work on improving you and your relationships. | |||
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"Hello ladies, hoping everyone is doing ok. I've had a shit load of crap this week. And I am stressed to hell. I relish my one trip out with my dog everyday, but today I despaired of the humans I live beside that are not complying with the restrictions. It has angered me so much and I am sick to the stomach of seeing them today. I have no income just now, and no money, benefits or otherwise coming in for me and my daughter and these people not complying could make that agony for me last longer. It saddens me that I am many of thousands in the same boat and no one gives a shit. I cannot get through on phone lines, emails are unanswered. I am so alone and scared. " I’m so sorry to hear this and yes, I had feelings of despair too a couple of days ago. A lovely fella on here helped me out of it as did my bestie. Do you have someone to chat to? Either from here or elsewhere? | |||
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"Time to reflect Thinking what I'm I getting out of here. Yes it's a place to talk where nobody knows me But I'm thinking iv been a right slut. Just meeting guys and fucking them. And it doesn't make me feel good afterwards. I feel cheap like a whore. Iv ruined my marriage. Lost everything for what??? Oh dear, so sorry to read this. Firstly, please don't beat yourself up about things. Secondly, maybe take this time to have a think about what you really want and how you can make changes to achieve it. Good luck to you. It's over, he wants a divorce. Doesn't love me anymore. He found out I'd cheated on him We broke up september last year. Iv tried to get him back but it's not what he wants So 5 weeks ago I joined here and just been a massive slut. " Massive hugs. | |||
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"Time to reflect Thinking what I'm I getting out of here. Yes it's a place to talk where nobody knows me But I'm thinking iv been a right slut. Just meeting guys and fucking them. And it doesn't make me feel good afterwards. I feel cheap like a whore. Iv ruined my marriage. Lost everything for what??? Oh dear, so sorry to read this. Firstly, please don't beat yourself up about things. Secondly, maybe take this time to have a think about what you really want and how you can make changes to achieve it. Good luck to you. It's over, he wants a divorce. Doesn't love me anymore. He found out I'd cheated on him We broke up september last year. Iv tried to get him back but it's not what he wants So 5 weeks ago I joined here and just been a massive slut. Massive hugs." And pleasr don't call yourself a slut. You really aren't. It sounds like you are reacting to the situation in very common way. You are trying to fill the void that your marriage breaking down has left you with. There is no easy answer, but please go easy on yourself, and time will help ease any hurt you are experiencing. | |||
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"Hello ladies, hoping everyone is doing ok. I've had a shit load of crap this week. And I am stressed to hell. I relish my one trip out with my dog everyday, but today I despaired of the humans I live beside that are not complying with the restrictions. It has angered me so much and I am sick to the stomach of seeing them today. I have no income just now, and no money, benefits or otherwise coming in for me and my daughter and these people not complying could make that agony for me last longer. It saddens me that I am many of thousands in the same boat and no one gives a shit. I cannot get through on phone lines, emails are unanswered. I am so alone and scared. " Oh lovely. I really felt for you reading this and it echos what many others are feeling. These are scary times, uncertain and lonely. I can't comment on your financial situation and I don't want to come across as patronising but please look at taking advice. HMRC, universal credit Maybe get some rest, have a chance to breathe, sleep and then focus on an action plan. Message if you need too. But please just keep in mind that this will not last forever, you are strong and can do this. One step at a time
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" It's over, he wants a divorce. Doesn't love me anymore. He found out I'd cheated on him We broke up september last year. Iv tried to get him back but it's not what he wants So 5 weeks ago I joined here and just been a massive slut. Massive hugs. And pleasr don't call yourself a slut. You really aren't. It sounds like you are reacting to the situation in very common way. You are trying to fill the void that your marriage breaking down has left you with. There is no easy answer, but please go easy on yourself, and time will help ease any hurt you are experiencing." This. 100% | |||
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"Hello ladies, hoping everyone is doing ok. I've had a shit load of crap this week. And I am stressed to hell. I relish my one trip out with my dog everyday, but today I despaired of the humans I live beside that are not complying with the restrictions. It has angered me so much and I am sick to the stomach of seeing them today. I have no income just now, and no money, benefits or otherwise coming in for me and my daughter and these people not complying could make that agony for me last longer. It saddens me that I am many of thousands in the same boat and no one gives a shit. I cannot get through on phone lines, emails are unanswered. I am so alone and scared. I’m so sorry to hear this and yes, I had feelings of despair too a couple of days ago. A lovely fella on here helped me out of it as did my bestie. Do you have someone to chat to? Either from here or elsewhere?" Sadly not. I thought I had friends both from here and other places. Tried reaching out but to no avail. They simply don't want to know and couldn't give a shit. I realise they have their own problems to deal with but I thought we were friends. Just another slap in the face for me. But it's ok. I will survive. I have to. | |||
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"Time to reflect Thinking what I'm I getting out of here. Yes it's a place to talk where nobody knows me But I'm thinking iv been a right slut. Just meeting guys and fucking them. And it doesn't make me feel good afterwards. I feel cheap like a whore. Iv ruined my marriage. Lost everything for what??? Oh dear, so sorry to read this. Firstly, please don't beat yourself up about things. Secondly, maybe take this time to have a think about what you really want and how you can make changes to achieve it. Good luck to you. It's over, he wants a divorce. Doesn't love me anymore. He found out I'd cheated on him We broke up september last year. Iv tried to get him back but it's not what he wants So 5 weeks ago I joined here and just been a massive slut. " Break ups can make us behave out of character, whatever you did or didn't do and the mechanics of it it was obviously what you needed at that point in time. Don't beat yourself up honestly. Focus on moving forward, whatever that means for you, good luck lovely | |||
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"Hello ladies, hoping everyone is doing ok. I've had a shit load of crap this week. And I am stressed to hell. I relish my one trip out with my dog everyday, but today I despaired of the humans I live beside that are not complying with the restrictions. It has angered me so much and I am sick to the stomach of seeing them today. I have no income just now, and no money, benefits or otherwise coming in for me and my daughter and these people not complying could make that agony for me last longer. It saddens me that I am many of thousands in the same boat and no one gives a shit. I cannot get through on phone lines, emails are unanswered. I am so alone and scared. I’m so sorry to hear this and yes, I had feelings of despair too a couple of days ago. A lovely fella on here helped me out of it as did my bestie. Do you have someone to chat to? Either from here or elsewhere? Sadly not. I thought I had friends both from here and other places. Tried reaching out but to no avail. They simply don't want to know and couldn't give a shit. I realise they have their own problems to deal with but I thought we were friends. Just another slap in the face for me. But it's ok. I will survive. I have to. " Massive hugs to you xxxx | |||
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"Hello ladies, hoping everyone is doing ok. I've had a shit load of crap this week. And I am stressed to hell. I relish my one trip out with my dog everyday, but today I despaired of the humans I live beside that are not complying with the restrictions. It has angered me so much and I am sick to the stomach of seeing them today. I have no income just now, and no money, benefits or otherwise coming in for me and my daughter and these people not complying could make that agony for me last longer. It saddens me that I am many of thousands in the same boat and no one gives a shit. I cannot get through on phone lines, emails are unanswered. I am so alone and scared. I’m so sorry to hear this and yes, I had feelings of despair too a couple of days ago. A lovely fella on here helped me out of it as did my bestie. Do you have someone to chat to? Either from here or elsewhere? Sadly not. I thought I had friends both from here and other places. Tried reaching out but to no avail. They simply don't want to know and couldn't give a shit. I realise they have their own problems to deal with but I thought we were friends. Just another slap in the face for me. But it's ok. I will survive. I have to. Massive hugs to you xxxx " Thank you and right back at you. x | |||
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"Thanks for the opportunity to let off steam. It's not easy is it? My son and I are on the vulnerable list, so can't go out, and that's what I'd do when feeling blue. My daughter's mental health is in crisis, and my workload has just quadrupled (I'm not particularly 'techy' so very out of my comfort zone wfh). I know I'm lucky to have a garden, to have company and to be safe. I'll stop whinging now. "Whinge away lovely, it's all allowed here, this is a safespace that our amazing OP has given us so we can help eachother even if it's just with a huge virtual hug. I'm sorry it's not much help or that it's not a real one. How old is your daughter? Does she have friends she can chat with to let of steam? Does she have a counsellor that can do phone appointments maybe? | |||
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"I’m just popping in to say ‘Hello’ ladies and I hope you’re all bearing up well Sending you all hugs xx Sending hugs DC! When this is over we are nursing a bottle of gin 'til it runs dry. "To right Meli x | |||
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"Is anyone else feeling more tearful than usual? It's not often I cry, but I have cried more this month than I have in a long time. Feeling over sensitive to everything, good and bad." Oh god, so much. I cry pretty easily anyway but right now it’s at least once a day. | |||
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"Is anyone else feeling more tearful than usual? It's not often I cry, but I have cried more this month than I have in a long time. Feeling over sensitive to everything, good and bad. Oh god, so much. I cry pretty easily anyway but right now it’s at least once a day." Really really normal. | |||
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"Hi ladies This is C (her), I can't thank the OP enough for such a truly wonderful thread. I have hardly been online today, instead I have been busy at home with my boys (Mr and my 12 yo son). We had a Sunday roast and I baked a cake, which we all enjoyed. Then the boys had a haircut.... not to their usual standards but hey who cares, they are gorgeous to me. But I have felt odd all day, I may be hormonal, perimenopausal but more than likely anxious and afraid of this current situation. My mind has been trying it's best to not let negativity in, but this evening I thought about what if... what if I caught this virus? What if I was taken away from the people who love me? And I even thought "C maybe you need to declutter your wardrobe" ... to make it easier for P (Mr) to pack my belongings should the worst happen to me. I don't want this feeling to consume me, I want to live by the rules, continue to be strong for my family, maintain my health and fitness and continue to work hard doing my little bit to keep this country moving forward. Fab is my escape from the real world, and this week I have seen lots of threads which have made my eyes roll but this thread (and the previous which I read) has filled my heart with hope and I am so grateful to all of you for showing the honest beauty of your compassion and kindness to each other... thank you so much ladies, I needed this thread. Huge cwtches to everyone before and after my post. C Xxx xxx"We’re here for each other. | |||
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"Thanks for the opportunity to let off steam. It's not easy is it? My son and I are on the vulnerable list, so can't go out, and that's what I'd do when feeling blue. My daughter's mental health is in crisis, and my workload has just quadrupled (I'm not particularly 'techy' so very out of my comfort zone wfh). I know I'm lucky to have a garden, to have company and to be safe. I'll stop whinging now.
Whinge away lovely, it's all allowed here, this is a safespace that our amazing OP has given us so we can help eachother even if it's just with a huge virtual hug. I'm sorry it's not much help or that it's not a real one. How old is your daughter? Does she have friends she can chat with to let of steam? Does she have a counsellor that can do phone appointments maybe? "Thanks, hug gratefully received! She's 21, already on medication and has a great group of friends but is having to ignore them because of the number of looming deadlines. She has an emergency video counselling appt on Weds. | |||
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"Time to reflect Thinking what I'm I getting out of here. Yes it's a place to talk where nobody knows me But I'm thinking iv been a right slut. Just meeting guys and fucking them. And it doesn't make me feel good afterwards. I feel cheap like a whore. Iv ruined my marriage. Lost everything for what??? " I’m sorry you’re going through that. But please don’t think you’re a slut or anything else negative like that. I don’t think what you’re doing is so unusual for someone in your position. But about feeling cheap afterwards - I don’t know if it’s for the same reasons but I’ve felt like that sometimes after meets. For me it’s been when the meets haven’t gone well and I’ve regretted them - when the men have been selfish and I’ve come away feeling used and worthless. That happened a few times in my first month here, but since then I’ve become much fussier and more uncompromising and I now only meet people I’ve talked to for a while and don’t have any doubts about. Maybe this enforced break will give you time to reevaluate what you’re looking for and how you want to go about it - and if it helps, you can send me a message anytime if you need to talk. | |||
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"Hi ladies This is C (her), I can't thank the OP enough for such a truly wonderful thread. I have hardly been online today, instead I have been busy at home with my boys (Mr and my 12 yo son). We had a Sunday roast and I baked a cake, which we all enjoyed. Then the boys had a haircut.... not to their usual standards but hey who cares, they are gorgeous to me. But I have felt odd all day, I may be hormonal, perimenopausal but more than likely anxious and afraid of this current situation. My mind has been trying it's best to not let negativity in, but this evening I thought about what if... what if I caught this virus? What if I was taken away from the people who love me? And I even thought "C maybe you need to declutter your wardrobe" ... to make it easier for P (Mr) to pack my belongings should the worst happen to me. I don't want this feeling to consume me, I want to live by the rules, continue to be strong for my family, maintain my health and fitness and continue to work hard doing my little bit to keep this country moving forward. Fab is my escape from the real world, and this week I have seen lots of threads which have made my eyes roll but this thread (and the previous which I read) has filled my heart with hope and I am so grateful to all of you for showing the honest beauty of your compassion and kindness to each other... thank you so much ladies, I needed this thread. Huge cwtches to everyone before and after my post. C Xxx xxx"A beautiful post and very human. Thank you for sharing and accept what you’re feeling. I don’t know why we think we all have to be Super women who can’t have negative feelings. How can you have positive without negative? | |||
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"Thanks for the opportunity to let off steam. It's not easy is it? My son and I are on the vulnerable list, so can't go out, and that's what I'd do when feeling blue. My daughter's mental health is in crisis, and my workload has just quadrupled (I'm not particularly 'techy' so very out of my comfort zone wfh). I know I'm lucky to have a garden, to have company and to be safe. I'll stop whinging now.
Whinge away lovely, it's all allowed here, this is a safespace that our amazing OP has given us so we can help eachother even if it's just with a huge virtual hug. I'm sorry it's not much help or that it's not a real one. How old is your daughter? Does she have friends she can chat with to let of steam? Does she have a counsellor that can do phone appointments maybe?
Thanks, hug gratefully received! She's 21, already on medication and has a great group of friends but is having to ignore them because of the number of looming deadlines. She has an emergency video counselling appt on Weds. "Please let us know how it goes on Wednesday | |||
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"This kind of hypervigilance, constant anxiety and sense of threat, can really do a number on you. It's very very normal to feel upset and powerless. Don't beat yourself up over it, if you're emotional and struggling to function. We're all going through this trauma." Very well put. | |||
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"I know this possibly defeats part of the reason people are here so mostly I ignore my messages. I really don't want to provide anyone with wank bank chat. Especially not people who contact me because I once met them and they have tried their luck with everyone. " Oh this isn’t petty at all. This can be soul destroying. Fab is real for many of us as it’s an escape from our reality. Hurts on here are sometimes very painful as we’ve given parts of us to the person involved that not many see. When they then hurt us, for whatever reason, it’s hard to bear and all consuming. All I can say is give it time... | |||
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"I just feel so angry at the moment that isn't in my remit usually. I'm still dragging my arse to work each day, I'm not currently front line but redeployment looms over me and I'm terrified about getting the call. I'm angry at people moaning about being on furlough especially when we in the NHS are advertising hundreds of temp jobs. I'm angry that I've had to cancel my UK holiday and all NHS annual leave has been cancelled until at least June - I understand and support my trusts reason why but I'm exhausted I've not had a week off since October. I'm angry at people flouncing the rules which in turn will put my colleagues at risk and put me a close stager to being moved front line. I'm frustrated without sex. Sorry I had to get all that off my chest " When I listen to what both NHS and other frontline job holders are expected to do, I get angry too! So to say you are is really no big surprise.. I don’t know how you’re all coping, with more and more expected from you. Ok many are showing their support, many more than are breaking the rules but of course it’s the latter we focus on. Please let your anger run its course. It’s 100% normal as we all need to vent. Would have been better through a long sex session but that’ll be back too, one day. | |||
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"Ok I was asked the question not so long ago of do I feel I get on with the female forum participants on here. My answer was no, not so much as the men I've became known to but that is probably due to flirtatious nature. Yet in reality it is the female I seek for such a connection. *sighs*" I’m definitely more a man sort of woman but have met some great ladies on here that I’m happy to call my friends. My tip to you? Message someone from this thread who you feel you’ll get on with and start chatting | |||
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"I want to order that toy from Amazon everyone raves about but I'll probably end up staying in bed for a few weeks with it." May have to ask you to pm me the details if you can't say on the forums.. The missing of cock is starting to hit hard now.. I'm far me grumpy that's for sure.. My level of patience is also getting lower and lower... Need something to cheer me up. | |||
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"I want to order that toy from Amazon everyone raves about but I'll probably end up staying in bed for a few weeks with it. May have to ask you to pm me the details if you can't say on the forums.. The missing of cock is starting to hit hard now.. I'm far me grumpy that's for sure.. My level of patience is also getting lower and lower... Need something to cheer me up. " Hello lovely. Welcome to the club and if that toy works, please let me know as I swear to god, the strangest things are starting to look sexy | |||
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"Ok I was asked the question not so long ago of do I feel I get on with the female forum participants on here. My answer was no, not so much as the men I've became known to but that is probably due to flirtatious nature. Yet in reality it is the female I seek for such a connection. *sighs* I’m definitely more a man sort of woman but have met some great ladies on here that I’m happy to call my friends. My tip to you? Message someone from this thread who you feel you’ll get on with and start chatting "I'm defo more man than woman. I think with my pussy lol High sex drive and watch porn | |||
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"Ok I was asked the question not so long ago of do I feel I get on with the female forum participants on here. My answer was no, not so much as the men I've became known to but that is probably due to flirtatious nature. Yet in reality it is the female I seek for such a connection. *sighs* I’m definitely more a man sort of woman but have met some great ladies on here that I’m happy to call my friends. My tip to you? Message someone from this thread who you feel you’ll get on with and start chatting
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"I just feel so angry at the moment that isn't in my remit usually. I'm still dragging my arse to work each day, I'm not currently front line but redeployment looms over me and I'm terrified about getting the call. I'm angry at people moaning about being on furlough especially when we in the NHS are advertising hundreds of temp jobs. I'm angry that I've had to cancel my UK holiday and all NHS annual leave has been cancelled until at least June - I understand and support my trusts reason why but I'm exhausted I've not had a week off since October. I'm angry at people flouncing the rules which in turn will put my colleagues at risk and put me a close stager to being moved front line. I'm frustrated without sex. Sorry I had to get all that off my chest When I listen to what both NHS and other frontline job holders are expected to do, I get angry too! So to say you are is really no big surprise.. I don’t know how you’re all coping, with more and more expected from you. Ok many are showing their support, many more than are breaking the rules but of course it’s the latter we focus on. Please let your anger run its course. It’s 100% normal as we all need to vent. Would have been better through a long sex session but that’ll be back too, one day. "Thanks lovely xx | |||
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"As requested by several lovelies. A non judgemental space to say whatever you want, however you want, about whoever or whatever you want. Off we go again then... I was a really good girl last night, went to sleep early. Then woke up at 3 for a drink and couldn't get back to sleep. I'm sure it'll be ok when I have my first coffee. I just need some gentle encouragement to get out of bed first "Sending a oh so gentle kick to your arse | |||
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"I want to order that toy from Amazon everyone raves about but I'll probably end up staying in bed for a few weeks with it. May have to ask you to pm me the details if you can't say on the forums.. The missing of cock is starting to hit hard now.. I'm far me grumpy that's for sure.. My level of patience is also getting lower and lower... Need something to cheer me up. " Oh it is called Tracy's dog. Bit of an odd name but I've had a lot of friends rave to me about it. | |||
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"I want to order that toy from Amazon everyone raves about but I'll probably end up staying in bed for a few weeks with it. May have to ask you to pm me the details if you can't say on the forums.. The missing of cock is starting to hit hard now.. I'm far me grumpy that's for sure.. My level of patience is also getting lower and lower... Need something to cheer me up. Oh it is called Tracy's dog. Bit of an odd name but I've had a lot of friends rave to me about it." I’m way too lazy to google. What’s so good about it? | |||
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But I would like to applaud the fact (and completely ruin it ) the males have been super well behaved to not jump in these threads!
And I know once Jo sees them they will have a positive influence on her
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But I would like to applaud the fact (and completely ruin it ) the males have been super well behaved to not jump in these threads!
And I know once Jo sees them they will have a positive influence on her
So I know I’ve ruined the fact I highlighted but I’m doing it for Jo!
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"Sorry you're all writing deep and meaningful posts and I came out with that. The reality is some of the stuff I'm hurting over wouldn't be well recieved so I'm directing my frustration to petty gripes. I hope you are all feeling supported either in the real world or virtually on here. This is a truly shitty time for everyone. Although we are all in the same boat, we are all paddling differently. Xx" I direct my frustration to pettiness as well. I'm anxious and worried and sad - a lot of my family and loved ones are NHS frontline. My routine has changed a lot and fuck knows I miss someone more than I thought I would, to the point where it makes me really sad. I worry about loved ones frequently and I feel like I have no right to complain about things because I'm fortunate so instead it's easier for me to become irritated/ upset by a daft comment on the forum or someone not replying 100% exactly how I'd like them to. Sometimes I just want to give myself a good head wobble and say snap the fuck out of it but it's hard when you're a natural over thinker. Anyway, it's basically a long winded way of saying; you cope with things the best you can. If that's moaning about hair colour, being irked by a boomerang? Fine. If you're doing okay and yet feel bad for doing so? Don't. If you want to spend the day eating mini eggs because your brilliant date had to be cancelled? Make sure you are wearing your comfiest pjs. Being kind to yourself and accepting that you might be finding it tough and others might be too is hard but important right now. Reach out and talk, people on here can be supportive and wonderful if you give them the chance to be. | |||
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"I've missed so much here. You women are all amazing, we're all coping with an unprecedented situation and it's putting us under new stresses and strains. Yet we're all still doing it, we getting up and carrying on. We are strong, we have got this! Hugs to everyone " | |||
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" Stay away or let rip is still to be decided Stay away and bite your tongue Chickie. It’s just not worth it... Oh I don’t know could be a lot of fun ! Now I’ve witnessed how hard your head is (literally) and how feisty you are but there are bad uns out there who are meaner than you are and won’t care smashing you one. Stay away
I know I don't know you Spurs, and this goes for all of you, if something is winding you up and if it helps, whatever you want to type on a post you can send to my inbox. It is open for any rants. You can even use the subject rant please delete and I won't even read it. Sometimes just hitting a send button can help.
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"Good morning to all the wonderful ladies on here and to those of you who may be lurking. We will all get through this together. Reach out if you need it and stay as strong as you can. Remember we are all allowed a wobble at the moment. "Absolutely. I'm wobbling all over the place but I can wobble with you. | |||
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"Good morning to all the wonderful ladies on here and to those of you who may be lurking. We will all get through this together. Reach out if you need it and stay as strong as you can. Remember we are all allowed a wobble at the moment.
Absolutely. I'm wobbling all over the place but I can wobble with you."I am like a weeble with the wobbles | |||
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"Good morning to all the wonderful ladies on here and to those of you who may be lurking. We will all get through this together. Reach out if you need it and stay as strong as you can. Remember we are all allowed a wobble at the moment.
Absolutely. I'm wobbling all over the place but I can wobble with you.
I am like a weeble with the wobbles "A wobble party Gawd the rate I’m going though, there’s going to be a whole lot of me wobbling around | |||
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"Good morning to all the wonderful ladies on here and to those of you who may be lurking. We will all get through this together. Reach out if you need it and stay as strong as you can. Remember we are all allowed a wobble at the moment.
Absolutely. I'm wobbling all over the place but I can wobble with you.
I am like a weeble with the wobbles
A wobble party Gawd the rate I’m going though, there’s going to be a whole lot of me wobbling around "You carry yourself so well and look so good in your pics I'm sure it'll be a sexy wobble party. Same goes for all the lovely ladies on here xx | |||
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"This is all very lovely to read thankyou. I am in a weird place where I am feeling totally emotionless about it all, not because I dont care in any way at all, but perhaps it is all just a bit incomprehensible. Ive sort of hit a pause button on all the usual crap in my life too and not sure how to come back from it all. Although writing this just now has made me realise quite how much emotion is backing up. Gulp. " That's a trauma response too xx It's going to be bumpy psychologically for a lot of us. | |||
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"Thanks for the opportunity to let off steam. It's not easy is it? My son and I are on the vulnerable list, so can't go out, and that's what I'd do when feeling blue. My daughter's mental health is in crisis, and my workload has just quadrupled (I'm not particularly 'techy' so very out of my comfort zone wfh). I know I'm lucky to have a garden, to have company and to be safe. I'll stop whinging now.
Whinge away lovely, it's all allowed here, this is a safespace that our amazing OP has given us so we can help eachother even if it's just with a huge virtual hug. I'm sorry it's not much help or that it's not a real one. How old is your daughter? Does she have friends she can chat with to let of steam? Does she have a counsellor that can do phone appointments maybe?
Thanks, hug gratefully received! She's 21, already on medication and has a great group of friends but is having to ignore them because of the number of looming deadlines. She has an emergency video counselling appt on Weds.
Please let us know how it goes on Wednesday "Session yesterday, and this morning. Tears haven't yet stopped. This is hard going for everyone. Hope everyone else is managing to keep their heads above water.... just keep swimming, ladies. | |||
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"Morning all Woke up with a mega wobble after a really bad dream, one of those that goes on even if you wake in between. It made me realise I have to make time for some self care, really been neglecting exercising and not eating well and drinking far too much lately. So, I got up, wrote a list for today and feel a lot more in control, I'm not good at not being in control of anything!! We all have so much to juggle at the moment, the best thing we can do is be kind to ourselves and other people I think. I know I'm not a regular forum poster, hope you don't mind me jumping on your thread. Jo x ". That's amazing Jo. Sounds really positive | |||
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"As some of you already know I'm copeing at all well at the moment. I'm stuck in a hole at the moment and not sure how to get out of it. Iv got my Ash and he's awesome but I think he's finding me hard work. Sorry that I'm being negative. " You're not being negative, you're expressing how you feel and your worries. Sorry to read you're not coping well dear Lorna, sometimes you don't have the energy to talk to people but if you do you know my inbox is open for you always. Best way of getting out of a hole? I'm worried I'll paraphrase Inaswing wrong but I'll add what I've done before. Baby steps. Be kind to yourself - sometimes you might not be in a good place and that's okay. You're doing what you have to to get through and it's not easy right now. Ash is awesome but so are you; we all have our ups and downs and that doesn't make us hard work. It just makes you human. Don't forget that, especially not right now. Sending you love Lorna | |||
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"Morning all Woke up with a mega wobble after a really bad dream, one of those that goes on even if you wake in between. It made me realise I have to make time for some self care, really been neglecting exercising and not eating well and drinking far too much lately. So, I got up, wrote a list for today and feel a lot more in control, I'm not good at not being in control of anything!! We all have so much to juggle at the moment, the best thing we can do is be kind to ourselves and other people I think. I know I'm not a regular forum poster, hope you don't mind me jumping on your thread. Jo x "Always welcome Jo and please post more | |||
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" Session yesterday, and this morning. Tears haven't yet stopped. This is hard going for everyone. Hope everyone else is managing to keep their heads above water.... just keep swimming, ladies. " Do you feel that they’re helping at all? Sending hugs | |||
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"As some of you already know I'm copeing at all well at the moment. I'm stuck in a hole at the moment and not sure how to get out of it. Iv got my Ash and he's awesome but I think he's finding me hard work. Sorry that I'm being negative. " It's hard. It's ok. I mean it's not ok, but it's ok to be struggling. We're all going through this together. You know where I am, too xx | |||
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"As some of you already know I'm copeing at all well at the moment. I'm stuck in a hole at the moment and not sure how to get out of it. Iv got my Ash and he's awesome but I think he's finding me hard work. Sorry that I'm being negative. You're not being negative, you're expressing how you feel and your worries. Sorry to read you're not coping well dear Lorna, sometimes you don't have the energy to talk to people but if you do you know my inbox is open for you always. Best way of getting out of a hole? I'm worried I'll paraphrase Inaswing wrong but I'll add what I've done before. Baby steps. Be kind to yourself - sometimes you might not be in a good place and that's okay. You're doing what you have to to get through and it's not easy right now. Ash is awesome but so are you; we all have our ups and downs and that doesn't make us hard work. It just makes you human. Don't forget that, especially not right now. Sending you love Lorna "Absolutely. | |||
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All we can do is our best, folks and we should be kind to ourselves and others, especially at times of heightened emotion and stress like we are all in now.
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"As some of you already know I'm copeing at all well at the moment. I'm stuck in a hole at the moment and not sure how to get out of it. Iv got my Ash and he's awesome but I think he's finding me hard work. Sorry that I'm being negative. " You’re not being negative Lorna, And you’re not alone. Ash adores you and is there for you and I’m sure he’s not finding you hard work at all. If you need to chat, I’m a great listener and you’re welcome to message me any time, day or night. Big hug.
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" Session yesterday, and this morning. Tears haven't yet stopped. This is hard going for everyone. Hope everyone else is managing to keep their heads above water.... just keep swimming, ladies. Do you feel that they’re helping at all? Sending hugs "Thanks. I think the effect of counselling is often to dredge stuff up which can be hugely upsetting before the root cause of depression /anxiety can be tackled. She's still in the dredging phase, I fear. | |||
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" Session yesterday, and this morning. Tears haven't yet stopped. This is hard going for everyone. Hope everyone else is managing to keep their heads above water.... just keep swimming, ladies. Do you feel that they’re helping at all? Sending hugs
Thanks. I think the effect of counselling is often to dredge stuff up which can be hugely upsetting before the root cause of depression /anxiety can be tackled. She's still in the dredging phase, I fear. "That's very true. It can get worse before it gets better. | |||
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"I love these threads, so supportive and powerful I crashed last week.. The isolation and enormity if the situation hit me really hard.. I let myself cry and felt so much better for it I will be furloughed fairly soon... But it is a relief to have certainty and i can now start to plan my time. I have lots of things planned to keep me happy and sane and this week i can say that i am bursting with positivity. If anyone needs a boost, pm me, i am undentable at the moment and happy to share sone happiness x" I'm glad you've climbed out x | |||
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" Session yesterday, and this morning. Tears haven't yet stopped. This is hard going for everyone. Hope everyone else is managing to keep their heads above water.... just keep swimming, ladies. Do you feel that they’re helping at all? Sending hugs
Thanks. I think the effect of counselling is often to dredge stuff up which can be hugely upsetting before the root cause of depression /anxiety can be tackled. She's still in the dredging phase, I fear. "Yep this is true and can be very traumatic. Keeping my fingers crossed for you all. | |||
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