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By *naswingdress OP   Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

How do you practice self care?

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Merton

by not putting things to late

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sleep.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I have just spent 2 weeks being miserable. Just kicked myself up the arse, got my dumbbells out and did a workout. For me exercise is self care.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Trying to do something for myself every day at the moment , face masks, feet treatments, even shaved my legs today !

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

By taking care of myself, naturally

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By *oneyBear100Couple
over a year ago

Gatwick area


"Trying to do something for myself every day at the moment , face masks, feet treatments, even shaved my legs today !"

Should we ask which one of you is writing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Daily exercise, a good night’s sleep, work in the garden, relaxation, doing things I enjoy and having treats every now and again.

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By *naswingdress OP   Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I have just spent 2 weeks being miserable. Just kicked myself up the arse, got my dumbbells out and did a workout. For me exercise is self care. "

I think in a situation like this, or any major psychological knock, we need to rest and remember that progress isn't always linear x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Trying to do something for myself every day at the moment , face masks, feet treatments, even shaved my legs today !

Should we ask which one of you is writing "

Always me on the forums L , though D does enjoy some male grooming too !

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By *oneyBear100Couple
over a year ago

Gatwick area

Four adults in the house... the challenge is number of flights of stairs in a day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try to put myself in the company of positive friends and keep upbeat whatever the weather. If your mind is healthy its easy for the body to follow I think

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By *naswingdress OP   Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I need to order more masks.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Physically I maintain a level of grooming, won't wear scruffy clothes always wear lipstick, jewellery etc. I eat well but don't deny myself treats and exercise daily.

Mentally I make sure I keep in touch with friends and family and that conversations don't focus solely on the current situation. I garden, a lot and do things like sewing, embroidery etc. I try and avoid Facebook conspiracy and people who concentrate on criticising other people

I think it's something I do without thinking about it too much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I need to order more masks."

I used a NipFab vitamin C one a few days ago it was lovely!

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By *edHeadedFunWoman
over a year ago

Didsbury

Dancing is self care for my mind, but at the moment my body needs rest which I am listening to and relaxing. I will style my hair instead of just having it pinned on my head and a scarf round it, every little helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dancing. Chocolate, speaking to friends and being kind to myself. There's enough people who aren't so Im going to try harder to be good to myself

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By *imply_SensualMan
over a year ago

warrington

Exercise for me, heading out on my bike and trying to stay within the reasonable limits allowed of us at the moment.

Mentally, its about staying in touch with people, I am just glad this happened in this era, imagine if it was the 80s when video calls were just science fiction, and phone were fixed land lines that were expensive with some households have a lock on them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Music always fixes my soul no matter how broken it is.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"Music always fixes my soul no matter how broken it is."

Your username always makes me sing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Music always fixes my soul no matter how broken it is.

Your username always makes me sing "

brilliant, sorry about that lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Exercise, eat well, look after our mental health by doing things that are creative

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By *naswingdress OP   Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I need to order more masks.

I used a NipFab vitamin C one a few days ago it was lovely!"

I've got Quick Fix Facials. I also use serums and stuff from The Ordinary.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"Music always fixes my soul no matter how broken it is.

Your username always makes me sing

brilliant, sorry about that lol "

I like it! Best theme song ever.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Music always fixes my soul no matter how broken it is.

Your username always makes me sing

brilliant, sorry about that lol

I like it! Best theme song ever. "

It's my ringtone and I have it on a tv theme tunes playlist on spotify

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Today I pop some brown clay face mask on.. and danced to Daft Punk so inner and outer care. Just doing little bits when I do feel I Need them.

Off to walk later to a nature reserve. And baking. And planking. New goals

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By *naswingdress OP   Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Today I pop some brown clay face mask on.. and danced to Daft Punk so inner and outer care. Just doing little bits when I do feel I Need them.

Off to walk later to a nature reserve. And baking. And planking. New goals "

I'm finding my clay mask painfully drying at the moment. Don't know why. Need another hydrating one. Damn combo skin.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"By taking care of myself, naturally "

This pretty much - which may sound glib but is actually spot on - putting yourself and your needs first and foremost and doing the things that help keep you away from the precipice is pretty much what I do if I feel myself heading in a downwards direction.

I know it isn't as easy as that for everyone, but being a generally positive and pragmatic person it's what works for me

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"I have just spent 2 weeks being miserable. Just kicked myself up the arse, got my dumbbells out and did a workout. For me exercise is self care.

I think in a situation like this, or any major psychological knock, we need to rest and remember that progress isn't always linear x"

That is very true, and the will be peaks and troughs with this situation. And that's ok, deal with each day as it comes x

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By *naswingdress OP   Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I have just spent 2 weeks being miserable. Just kicked myself up the arse, got my dumbbells out and did a workout. For me exercise is self care.

I think in a situation like this, or any major psychological knock, we need to rest and remember that progress isn't always linear x

That is very true, and the will be peaks and troughs with this situation. And that's ok, deal with each day as it comes x"

I posted a thread you might like

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By *naswingdress OP   Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"By taking care of myself, naturally

This pretty much - which may sound glib but is actually spot on - putting yourself and your needs first and foremost and doing the things that help keep you away from the precipice is pretty much what I do if I feel myself heading in a downwards direction.

I know it isn't as easy as that for everyone, but being a generally positive and pragmatic person it's what works for me "

It is a bit glib I was thinking more, what does that look like for you

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"By taking care of myself, naturally

This pretty much - which may sound glib but is actually spot on - putting yourself and your needs first and foremost and doing the things that help keep you away from the precipice is pretty much what I do if I feel myself heading in a downwards direction.

I know it isn't as easy as that for everyone, but being a generally positive and pragmatic person it's what works for me

It is a bit glib I was thinking more, what does that look like for you"

It's only glib if you choose to see it that way - it doesn't look like anything particularly beyond what I said - self-care for me is a put one foot in front of the other, maintain a positive attitude and things will come right type of picture.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Today I pop some brown clay face mask on.. and danced to Daft Punk so inner and outer care. Just doing little bits when I do feel I Need them.

Off to walk later to a nature reserve. And baking. And planking. New goals

I'm finding my clay mask painfully drying at the moment. Don't know why. Need another hydrating one. Damn combo skin."

I have combination skin too. That mask was bought in another country so cant recommend it sadly. I do get that dryness with some as well. I started using superfacialist oil for cleansing and that helps.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"I need to order more gas masks."

Kinky

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

It more important now than ever to laugh, it can help to carry things. Robin Williams is very good medicine for times like these.

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By *rMrsBrightsideCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

I try to get dressed nicely some days as sitting in leggings and a hoodie doesn't make me feel very sexy. I've been having a lot of bubble baths so I can shut the door on everyone else and get some peace. Putting some feel good music on and having a dance about with my daughter always lifts my spirits x

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"By taking care of myself, naturally

This pretty much - which may sound glib but is actually spot on - putting yourself and your needs first and foremost and doing the things that help keep you away from the precipice is pretty much what I do if I feel myself heading in a downwards direction.

I know it isn't as easy as that for everyone, but being a generally positive and pragmatic person it's what works for me

It is a bit glib I was thinking more, what does that look like for you

It's only glib if you choose to see it that way - it doesn't look like anything particularly beyond what I said - self-care for me is a put one foot in front of the other, maintain a positive attitude and things will come right type of picture."

That about sums it up for me too. I always feel I shouldn't post on threads like this because it seems to come naturally to me but I don't think I should feel wrong or bad about being lucky in that way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"By taking care of myself, naturally

This pretty much - which may sound glib but is actually spot on - putting yourself and your needs first and foremost and doing the things that help keep you away from the precipice is pretty much what I do if I feel myself heading in a downwards direction.

I know it isn't as easy as that for everyone, but being a generally positive and pragmatic person it's what works for me

It is a bit glib I was thinking more, what does that look like for you

It's only glib if you choose to see it that way - it doesn't look like anything particularly beyond what I said - self-care for me is a put one foot in front of the other, maintain a positive attitude and things will come right type of picture."

Same for me

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

Exercise for me. I feel great after it. I’m going out now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m feeling frumpy & fat at the moment!

Self esteem is very low.

I know my triggers and i’m Very very near but I just can’t shake it off

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"I’m feeling frumpy & fat at the moment!

Self esteem is very low.

I know my triggers and i’m Very very near but I just can’t shake it off "

It's really difficult right now Pixie. You being aware of your triggers is a big, positive thing. Even if it's just doing a little baby step of self love and esteem building, it's a step in the right direction. If you need to talk and don't feel like you can reach out to anyone as such, my inbox is always open, x

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"By taking care of myself, naturally

This pretty much - which may sound glib but is actually spot on - putting yourself and your needs first and foremost and doing the things that help keep you away from the precipice is pretty much what I do if I feel myself heading in a downwards direction.

I know it isn't as easy as that for everyone, but being a generally positive and pragmatic person it's what works for me

It is a bit glib I was thinking more, what does that look like for you

It's only glib if you choose to see it that way - it doesn't look like anything particularly beyond what I said - self-care for me is a put one foot in front of the other, maintain a positive attitude and things will come right type of picture.

That about sums it up for me too. I always feel I shouldn't post on threads like this because it seems to come naturally to me but I don't think I should feel wrong or bad about being lucky in that way"

Not at all - we all have our ways of dealing with life, and like you I count myself lucky to be able to brush most things off with a little positivity and just getting on with things.

And I certainly feel for those that don't find it that easy to do - which I know for some is a constant struggle against demons, which I hope and pray I never have to face.

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By *naswingdress OP   Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I wasn't criticising you GM, or others. I think we're talking at cross purposes somewhat. For me I have to explicitly seek out coping mechanisms at times like these, and I suppose to me "self care" means specific coping mechanisms. I definitely envy those who can just get on with it.

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By *ackandtheunicornCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

Sex, Exercise and good food for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No self care at the moment. Just trying to keep it together and not show how I truly feel for the sake of the kids.

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By *naswingdress OP   Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I'm meditating, exercising, volunteering (feeling useful/ connecting), and being gentle with myself. My anxiety is giving me a hiding, but that's quite natural. I'm setting small goals but not beating myself if I don't get there.

I have an arsenal for things like this. It's being tested. It is what it is.

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By *naswingdress OP   Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"No self care at the moment. Just trying to keep it together and not show how I truly feel for the sake of the kids."

Self care will help you keep it together. You have needs too xx

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"I wasn't criticising you GM, or others. I think we're talking at cross purposes somewhat. For me I have to explicitly seek out coping mechanisms at times like these, and I suppose to me "self care" means specific coping mechanisms. I definitely envy those who can just get on with it."

Wasn't taken as one

"Self care" can be many things though across a wide spectrum - from those of us lucky enough to be able to dust ourselves off and get on with it (which in itself is a "coping mechanism" even if not necessarily a consciously taken one), to those that need "specific coping mechanisms" and beyond.

They're all very individual specific - I was just expanding on Chill's very valid point way back up there

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest


"By taking care of myself, naturally

This pretty much - which may sound glib but is actually spot on - putting yourself and your needs first and foremost and doing the things that help keep you away from the precipice is pretty much what I do if I feel myself heading in a downwards direction.

I know it isn't as easy as that for everyone, but being a generally positive and pragmatic person it's what works for me

It is a bit glib I was thinking more, what does that look like for you

It's only glib if you choose to see it that way - it doesn't look like anything particularly beyond what I said - self-care for me is a put one foot in front of the other, maintain a positive attitude and things will come right type of picture.

That about sums it up for me too. I always feel I shouldn't post on threads like this because it seems to come naturally to me but I don't think I should feel wrong or bad about being lucky in that way"

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No self care at the moment. Just trying to keep it together and not show how I truly feel for the sake of the kids.

Self care will help you keep it together. You have needs too xx"
Can't think about myself when I have so many other things to worry about. Self care will come when I'll know we've turned the corner (I don't mean just the virus).

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By *naswingdress OP   Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I feel fortunate that I've done this before. Yeah I'm back in the trenches right now. My flashbacks suck. It's exhausting.

But I know what I'm facing and why. I have a grip on it. I know there's a way out and how to get there. Those suffering serious trauma for the first time... I know how fucking hard that is. Solidarity.

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By *naswingdress OP   Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"No self care at the moment. Just trying to keep it together and not show how I truly feel for the sake of the kids.

Self care will help you keep it together. You have needs too xx Can't think about myself when I have so many other things to worry about. Self care will come when I'll know we've turned the corner (I don't mean just the virus)."

I get it. But if you put your own oxygen mask on first, you're better able to help others. Just something to think about. I hope you can make some head space for you.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"By taking care of myself, naturally

This pretty much - which may sound glib but is actually spot on - putting yourself and your needs first and foremost and doing the things that help keep you away from the precipice is pretty much what I do if I feel myself heading in a downwards direction.

I know it isn't as easy as that for everyone, but being a generally positive and pragmatic person it's what works for me "

Spot on from both of you, we have to look after ourselves first, because if you don’t what use are you to anyone else.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"No self care at the moment. Just trying to keep it together and not show how I truly feel for the sake of the kids."

It’s a tough one, most of us have been there trying to hide from the kids how we are truly feeling, as we are supposed to be the strong advisor ones.

But the thing I learnt is you can be all those things and still have a wee cry, let the frustration out. If the kids see it, so what, it’s not a bad thing to show a moment of weakness, it’s a naturally emotion.

So mum isn’t having a great time at the moment, you don’t need to explain why if not old enough. They might just surprise you and well what better medicine right now than a hug from your child

It’s a lesson in life after all we all need to learn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Far far too many people neglect themselves, people should try caring for themselves, and I mean caring for themselves as though they would care after a partner, or a child, family, or pet for that matter

Can be hard to do though, many times in my life have I put others wellbeing way before mine. Don't get me wrong, I'm not telling everyone to be selfish and look after numero uno, just that should try and love/care for yourself as you would with another person, family or pet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No self care at the moment. Just trying to keep it together and not show how I truly feel for the sake of the kids.

It’s a tough one, most of us have been there trying to hide from the kids how we are truly feeling, as we are supposed to be the strong advisor ones.

But the thing I learnt is you can be all those things and still have a wee cry, let the frustration out. If the kids see it, so what, it’s not a bad thing to show a moment of weakness, it’s a naturally emotion.

So mum isn’t having a great time at the moment, you don’t need to explain why if not old enough. They might just surprise you and well what better medicine right now than a hug from your child

It’s a lesson in life after all we all need to learn

"

Just feel like if I let myself cry or show any weakness - I'll just fall to pieces and won't be able to pick it up again. I know I'm going to crash one day and will need some recovery time, but won't let myself do it until I know I can afford it.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I wasn't criticising you GM, or others. I think we're talking at cross purposes somewhat. For me I have to explicitly seek out coping mechanisms at times like these, and I suppose to me "self care" means specific coping mechanisms. I definitely envy those who can just get on with it."

I didn’t take it as criticism either. I'm just never sure whether posting that I'm OK and coping is welcome or not. I think too, as others have said that self care comes naturally to some of us

whether that's nature, nurture or life's experiences I don't know

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"No self care at the moment. Just trying to keep it together and not show how I truly feel for the sake of the kids.

It’s a tough one, most of us have been there trying to hide from the kids how we are truly feeling, as we are supposed to be the strong advisor ones.

But the thing I learnt is you can be all those things and still have a wee cry, let the frustration out. If the kids see it, so what, it’s not a bad thing to show a moment of weakness, it’s a naturally emotion.

So mum isn’t having a great time at the moment, you don’t need to explain why if not old enough. They might just surprise you and well what better medicine right now than a hug from your child

It’s a lesson in life after all we all need to learn

Just feel like if I let myself cry or show any weakness - I'll just fall to pieces and won't be able to pick it up again. I know I'm going to crash one day and will need some recovery time, but won't let myself do it until I know I can afford it."

Completely understand, there never seems like a right time. I’ve PM’d you

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By *naswingdress OP   Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I wasn't criticising you GM, or others. I think we're talking at cross purposes somewhat. For me I have to explicitly seek out coping mechanisms at times like these, and I suppose to me "self care" means specific coping mechanisms. I definitely envy those who can just get on with it.

I didn’t take it as criticism either. I'm just never sure whether posting that I'm OK and coping is welcome or not. I think too, as others have said that self care comes naturally to some of us

whether that's nature, nurture or life's experiences I don't know "

All three I imagine. These threads never quite go as predicted. All good.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"No self care at the moment. Just trying to keep it together and not show how I truly feel for the sake of the kids.

It’s a tough one, most of us have been there trying to hide from the kids how we are truly feeling, as we are supposed to be the strong advisor ones.

But the thing I learnt is you can be all those things and still have a wee cry, let the frustration out. If the kids see it, so what, it’s not a bad thing to show a moment of weakness, it’s a naturally emotion.

So mum isn’t having a great time at the moment, you don’t need to explain why if not old enough. They might just surprise you and well what better medicine right now than a hug from your child

It’s a lesson in life after all we all need to learn

"

Actually that's a very good point - I'm a wear my heart on my sleeve kind of guy and not scared to show my emotions and try not to bottle them up - I'd rather air them and get them out there, talked through, and dealt with, if they surface and perhaps that's all part of my own coping mechanism - kind of facing my demons rather than hiding from them.

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham, North Yorkshire and can travel

Ensure we heartedly laugh every day.

Early nights and plenty of sleep

Good food

Look at the positives in life

Oh.....and chocolate always helps.

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By *eachesAndCream99Couple
over a year ago

Outskirts of Cardiff just off the M4


"How do you practice self care?"

Cleaning, spa days and sex, plenty of it with my fella

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After busy weeks on ward today my first of 2 days off so today sleep and playing ps4 to switch off and tomorrow work out shop and cook. Ready for another set of shifts on ward

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m feeling frumpy & fat at the moment!

Self esteem is very low.

I know my triggers and i’m Very very near but I just can’t shake it off

It's really difficult right now Pixie. You being aware of your triggers is a big, positive thing. Even if it's just doing a little baby step of self love and esteem building, it's a step in the right direction. If you need to talk and don't feel like you can reach out to anyone as such, my inbox is always open, x"

Thank you Meli, I really really appreciate this

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