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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I like to think I’m open minded and when I don’t understand something I like to learn about it so can anyone explain the humiliation kink?

I partake in a bit of degradation, spitting on my face and pissing in my mouth etc. But I don’t understand what people get out of it when they want to be called ugly and pathetic and words to that effect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wonder if it's because they already have a shit opinion of themselves and hearing other people share that shit opinion justifies that opinion and gives them the warm and fuzzies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like to think I’m open minded and when I don’t understand something I like to learn about it so can anyone explain the humiliation kink?

I partake in a bit of degradation, spitting on my face and pissing in my mouth etc. But I don’t understand what people get out of it when they want to be called ugly and pathetic and words to that effect. "
You must be joking! A bit of name calling is mild compared the depths of your depravity!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like to think I’m open minded and when I don’t understand something I like to learn about it so can anyone explain the humiliation kink?

I partake in a bit of degradation, spitting on my face and pissing in my mouth etc. But I don’t understand what people get out of it when they want to be called ugly and pathetic and words to that effect. You must be joking! A bit of name calling is mild compared the depths of your depravity!! "
to..etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like to think I’m open minded and when I don’t understand something I like to learn about it so can anyone explain the humiliation kink?

I partake in a bit of degradation, spitting on my face and pissing in my mouth etc. But I don’t understand what people get out of it when they want to be called ugly and pathetic and words to that effect. "

I'm assuming they'll get the same feeling as you perhaps do when you're being spat at, or having someone piss on your mouth??

But I'm just assuming this, rightly or wrongly

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By *oirinMarkusCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands and West London

I imagine it's like being Sub (for me). I spend a lot of time being in charge and feeling like I have to make a lot of important decisions and people expect me to be intelligent, have my act together, etc.

So the freedom to be the opposite of that is a turn on, it's release from the expectations, it's escapism. And it's very sexy that someone sees you in a different way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I imagine it's like being Sub (for me). I spend a lot of time being in charge and feeling like I have to make a lot of important decisions and people expect me to be intelligent, have my act together, etc.

So the freedom to be the opposite of that is a turn on, it's release from the expectations, it's escapism. And it's very sexy that someone sees you in a different way. "

Exactly. In my case, I grew up in a patriarchal society and family. I always admired women and never wanted to be the more dominant or powerful one. But while growing up, I never had a chance to express myself in this regard. It essentially became my kink. I love to be dominated by women.

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By *eniorsxMan
over a year ago

Coggeshall

If this is re the postings I think your on about, I don't believe it goes to a level like that mentioned. I have an honest belief the person in question is making a statement saying f "I'm an ugly fucker, but check my cock"

I get the feeling he is getting excactly what he wants, and that is positive comments about his ball bat dobber

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Dominated and all that I understand but it’s when people want other people to make fun of their willy or say they look like the elephant man or that they’re disgustingly ugly and pathetic and all things like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's psychological. When you've done bad things and haven't been punished, sometimes you need to atone.

And a dom is the best tool for that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's psychological. When you've done bad things and haven't been punished, sometimes you need to atone.

And a dom is the best tool for that.

"

You mean walk down my street naked with someone ringing a bell behind me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dominated and all that I understand but it’s when people want other people to make fun of their willy or say they look like the elephant man or that they’re disgustingly ugly and pathetic and all things like that. "

Actually, thanks for bringing up this topic. I had to do some research to figure it out even though I enjoy humiliation.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Erotic_humiliation

The wiki page has a good explanation of various reasons why people enjoy humiliation and they do sound right for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's something I have explored but often my issue is finding out what does humiliate me within my limits

Name calling can but often called myself worse

It's a very individual thing

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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

See name calling I dont think to bad but someone actually spitting on my face a deffo no no that is one form of beening degraded beyond name calling

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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

Perhaps u can explain what it is that u like beening spat at in the face as I cant quite work out what u actually get from it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think quite often with kinks it's the fact that they're things you're not supposed to enjoy. So part of the thrill is in being a bit taboo and being different to the norm.

With humiliation it's a bit like those who like receiving pain only the pain is psychological.

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By *oirinMarkusCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands and West London

I always, always thought I'd be disgusted...

Until a gentleman told me to open my mouth, he spat in my mouth, and then told me to swallow it.

I found it so hot and played with myself to that memory for months. I can't verbalise why it was so sexy, but again, that he had the bravery and arrogance to do that to me, and I complied.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like to think I’m open minded and when I don’t understand something I like to learn about it so can anyone explain the humiliation kink?

I partake in a bit of degradation, spitting on my face and pissing in my mouth etc. But I don’t understand what people get out of it when they want to be called ugly and pathetic and words to that effect. "
they have low self esteem so it gives them a niche in the kink they've chosen to live in and also they feel comfortable with the people that chose them to associate with, they are accepted by them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like to think I’m open minded and when I don’t understand something I like to learn about it so can anyone explain the humiliation kink?

I partake in a bit of degradation, spitting on my face and pissing in my mouth etc. But I don’t understand what people get out of it when they want to be called ugly and pathetic and words to that effect. they have low self esteem so it gives them a niche in the kink they've chosen to live in and also they feel comfortable with the people that chose them to associate with, they are accepted by them "

Not all those into humiliation have low esteem. I know some very confident people who explore as a change of pace

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like to think I’m open minded and when I don’t understand something I like to learn about it so can anyone explain the humiliation kink?

I partake in a bit of degradation, spitting on my face and pissing in my mouth etc. But I don’t understand what people get out of it when they want to be called ugly and pathetic and words to that effect. they have low self esteem so it gives them a niche in the kink they've chosen to live in and also they feel comfortable with the people that chose them to associate with, they are accepted by them

Not all those into humiliation have low esteem. I know some very confident people who explore as a change of pace"
really i don't think you choose humiliation i think it chooses you, some people naturally are timid and some are naturally dominant, in the same way that bullies only succeed if the person being bullied doesn't stand up to them

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Humiliation can take on many forms and many levels and not just within a D/s context for some it's not so much a kink as a lack of self-worth that drives them almost to seek affirmation of their self-perception or in some cases to hope someone will say the opposite

To give an example - you quite often see posts like "I'll just sit here unnoticed" when you know full well they're hoping people will respond with "I notice you"

There are of course variants on that but you get the gist

So in those instances it's not a kink as such more a state of mind.

Where it is a kink, it's usually from a D/s perspective and can again take on many forms - name calling, being degraded, being made to feel useless and more besides all play into a submissive mindset and can help put a submissive into that mindset - what level it goes to is of course all down to boundaries.

As a submissive I enjoy mild humiliation and being made to squirm or feel awkward but the "pathetic little worm" school of humiliation is just not for me nor is some of the more degratory aspects - and it can be a very fine line and one that should be carefully trodden, as it can have some very deep psychological impacts if not.

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By *oirinMarkusCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands and West London


"Not all those into humiliation have low esteem. I know some very confident people who explore as a change of pace"

Exactly, it's the classic story of a high powered business person enjoying relinquishing everything in the bedroom...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure many people think the things you like ...being spat and pissed on are disgusting and cannot work out why you like them.

However....the point is.....you do in certain circumstances.

I don't fully understand why some people like being called horrible names....but they do...in certain circumstances.

I have participated in things for others that Didn't really arouse me but I did it because it aroused them so much....and that triggered my arousal.

I don't think this answers your question but I've written it now

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"I imagine it's like being Sub (for me). I spend a lot of time being in charge and feeling like I have to make a lot of important decisions and people expect me to be intelligent, have my act together, etc.

So the freedom to be the opposite of that is a turn on, it's release from the expectations, it's escapism. And it's very sexy that someone sees you in a different way. "

You have expressed how I (N) feel about being sub, very eloquently, thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have found this thread very interesting, and this is why I love this site.

People sharing thoughts, opinions, listening and learning in an adult way about things that they may or may not be "into" or ever experience.

Anyway just wanted to say x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have found this thread very interesting, and this is why I love this site.

People sharing thoughts, opinions, listening and learning in an adult way about things that they may or may not be "into" or ever experience.

Anyway just wanted to say x

"

Yes it's nice to see a lack of the 'judgementalists'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have found this thread very interesting, and this is why I love this site.

People sharing thoughts, opinions, listening and learning in an adult way about things that they may or may not be "into" or ever experience.

Anyway just wanted to say x

Yes it's nice to see a lack of the 'judgementalists' "

Exactly

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By *oppolocosTV/TS
over a year ago

inverurie

Everybody had different fetishes and limits. Quite enjoy being dommed, bit of humiliation. Don't fancy someone spitting in my mouth. That said in the heat of the moment / passion I've done things that before or after I find rather eugh! Sometimes you need to try things to find out what you like and what your limits are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally love when my Mrs tells me my cocks tiny. I don't know why but it really gets me off.

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By *artyanna16200TV/TS
over a year ago

leeds

In one for me ,we we berate ourselves so much in pur everyday lives , hold ourselves to account to a sometimes impossobly high standard, and continue to punish ourselves for not trying hard enough , when that control is given away , theres a risk , and a theill , but also an expectation amd a desire to trust someone implicitly , and see it through! I think when we can express our shortcomings and failings to justify actsbof serving or adoration of someone else , we can achieve that satisfaction of doing everything we can to please only them, and atone for our faults , by gratifying the wishes of someone else . Does that ml

make any sense?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't explain a lot of shit. I can't explain why I feel better when I stick my face against the face of a sexy woman and do stuff with my lips. It's just technically making us dirty and spreading diseases, but kissing feels good and I enjoy it.... ....ppl like what they like and who am I to stop them enjoying their personal junk....

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Personally being called ugly or fat would be too far for me. You'd have to be very sexure in yourself to enjoy that I imagine. However I have before enjoyed being called pathetic or disgusting when I'm feeling totally wanton and desperate as it kind of eggs me on to become completely undone and give in to it without caring or worrying about it because they're almost reveling in me being the things they say.

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By *artyanna16200TV/TS
over a year ago

leeds

Ive had so many things said with a complete intent to hurt me been threatened woth knives guns , punched kicked hair pulled, spat on in my eyes and face , and that was at work. . But in terms of humiliation its about taking my exposure to fear and pushing it thisbway and that , into places i dont expect and havent prepared for , and need to show wholehearted compliance, an ability to communicate disdain and creating a willing sub , is a very difficult challenge , you dont need to be a narcissistic sadistic predator to fulfil that role , just to create that air of anticipation !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never thought about it before but a woman once said that she would P in my mouth and order me to make her cum with my tounge afterwards and it really did something for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Verbal humiliation for me has been instrumental in overcoming a lot of my sexual guilt and body shame. Not so much generic name-calling but very personalised and intricate insults, surrounding personal issues, past experiences, feeding off actual attacks and hatred I'd received in my past which had affected me very deeply. Some of these carefully curated verbal assaults would hit so close to the bone they would reduce me to tears.

For me this tied into my masochistic tendencies, so I "enjoyed" them in this respect, but ultimately it was a process of catharsis. Over a few years of receiving this "treatment", I've worn down these ideas and reactionary feelings to the point that most of these same insults have no effect on me either in the bedroom or in real life

Since it was mentioned - I think similarly some of the men who are into SPH find in it release from the pressures of "measuring up".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As an owner of a grower I quite like being teased about a small cock, but at 7 inches hard I get excited and it sort of spoils the effect lol.

Perhaps some of my bicurious side is down to wanting to feel violated and dirty.

Men are not attractive to me, but the urge to suck and receive cum is strong.

I think being quite a strong, dominant personality means I feel relief when someone sexually humiliates me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Verbal humiliation for me has been instrumental in overcoming a lot of my sexual guilt and body shame. Not so much generic name-calling but very personalised and intricate insults, surrounding personal issues, past experiences, feeding off actual attacks and hatred I'd received in my past which had affected me very deeply. Some of these carefully curated verbal assaults would hit so close to the bone they would reduce me to tears.

For me this tied into my masochistic tendencies, so I "enjoyed" them in this respect, but ultimately it was a process of catharsis. Over a few years of receiving this "treatment", I've worn down these ideas and reactionary feelings to the point that most of these same insults have no effect on me either in the bedroom or in real life

Since it was mentioned - I think similarly some of the men who are into SPH find in it release from the pressures of "measuring up"."

Did you enjoy the tears? I once knew someone who did.

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By *asha86Couple
over a year ago

walsall

Think this is one of the best ways to learn and understand by asking these questions we can learn more about ourselves too. For me, I enjoy some name calling in the right scenario with right person but humiliation is definitely one of my hard limits for now. I enjoy the relinquishing control and responsibilities during d/s after a day juggling needs and tasks its nice to hand over the reins to someone else and kind of escape to different headspace. xT

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By *cunnylassCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

My most intense experiences as a cuck have involved some degree of humiliation.I had one partner who was very adept at belittling me in front of other people.It is a kink and I'm grateful to have experienced it.

Mike

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By *andyblokeMan
over a year ago

birmingham

i havent done it often but i have found some ladies like being treated "like a whore " and love being sworn at and called old english names... i must say i enjoyed giving it out. but Its not really humiliation i suppose.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah it's fuckinn weird ,I was screamed at by nuns when I was like 4-5 years old .. so I like porn where nuns fuck each other then the pope sticks his pipe in their Irish shitter and goes off about potcheen or somethin.

So I like girls who shout or swear at me ..like the nuns did calling me a Bold Boy Infront of everyone ... Nice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never kink shame people, apart from those into humiliation.

You people are disgusting

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