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"Stag/vixen is totally different to cuckolding. There is no humiliation involved in a stag vixen lifestyle. I really struggle to understand where people think there are the same. Yes that is our opinion but i have asked on this thread for it to be stag/vixens not cuckolds as they dynamic is different. " Humiliation could be subjective. To one guy it might be expected yet to another it might be a mind blowing. I caveat this by sayimg I'm following a stag/vixen lifestyle which is insightful but it's their story amd nobody elses. I also fully comprehend it is not similar to the lifestyle name I now dare not say (out of respect of the thread's purpose) nevertheless the tiniest of kinks make each stag/vixen lifestyle bespoke and possibly not a one size fits all dynamic. What makes it a one size fits all dynamic? Playing together? Complete control from hubbs? 75% Control from hubbs? 50% control? Any less, what's that then? By the way, either way I think it's bloody thrilling regardless of my view. x | |||
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"Stag/vixen is totally different to cuckolding. There is no humiliation involved in a stag vixen lifestyle. I really struggle to understand where people think there are the same. Yes that is our opinion but i have asked on this thread for it to be stag/vixens not cuckolds as they dynamic is different. Humiliation could be subjective. To one guy it might be expected yet to another it might be a mind blowing. I caveat this by sayimg I'm following a stag/vixen lifestyle which is insightful but it's their story amd nobody elses. I also fully comprehend it is not similar to the lifestyle name I now dare not say (out of respect of the thread's purpose) nevertheless the tiniest of kinks make each stag/vixen lifestyle bespoke and possibly not a one size fits all dynamic. What makes it a one size fits all dynamic? Playing together? Complete control from hubbs? 75% Control from hubbs? 50% control? Any less, what's that then? By the way, either way I think it's bloody thrilling regardless of my view. x " Please don’t take this the wrong way....but I have no idea what you’re talking about. It literally makes zero sense!! | |||
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"Stag/vixen is totally different to cuckolding. There is no humiliation involved in a stag vixen lifestyle. I really struggle to understand where people think there are the same. Yes that is our opinion but i have asked on this thread for it to be stag/vixens not cuckolds as they dynamic is different. Humiliation could be subjective. To one guy it might be expected yet to another it might be a mind blowing. I caveat this by sayimg I'm following a stag/vixen lifestyle which is insightful but it's their story amd nobody elses. I also fully comprehend it is not similar to the lifestyle name I now dare not say (out of respect of the thread's purpose) nevertheless the tiniest of kinks make each stag/vixen lifestyle bespoke and possibly not a one size fits all dynamic. What makes it a one size fits all dynamic? Playing together? Complete control from hubbs? 75% Control from hubbs? 50% control? Any less, what's that then? By the way, either way I think it's bloody thrilling regardless of my view. x Please don’t take this the wrong way....but I have no idea what you’re talking about. It literally makes zero sense!! " I won't; no problem. I await the enlightenment so for now less said the better. x | |||
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"Anyone who believes that humiliation HAS to be part of a cuckold relationship doesn't truly understand cuckolding. Cuckolding has many facets, that different cuckold couples enjoy to a different degree " That’s cool but this is a thread for hot wife stag vixen stuff. Plenty of cuckold threads to enjoy | |||
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"In a stag/vixen relationship with my FWB. Also happy to contribute here " | |||
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"Anyone who believes that humiliation HAS to be part of a cuckold relationship doesn't truly understand cuckolding. Cuckolding has many facets, that different cuckold couples enjoy to a different degree That’s cool but this is a thread for hot wife stag vixen stuff. Plenty of cuckold threads to enjoy " Simply responding to your comments about cuckold and humiliation..... | |||
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"I'm a Stag and my long term girlfriend is my vixen. Works perfectly for us." OK, a girlfriend, and a long term one at that (long term being relatively subjective too) so how would you respond to anyone saying that it's just a FWB relationship? You both living together would knock that ridiculous question out the park, right? | |||
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"I’m trying to get into this lifestyle as a bull for a cuckold couple, can anyone give me any pointers " I would from our experience that its the sort of thing that you are either a bull or not. There is a common misconception that bulls just rock up and fuck her senseless telling her what to do... I have no doubt there are people who know better than me on this topic, but thats just my perspective. | |||
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"I’m trying to get into this lifestyle as a bull for a cuckold couple, can anyone give me any pointers " Yes, go to a club and get experience getting caught in the headlights of a party. Embrace many aspects of the swinging lifestyle. Inform yourself. Go through what appears to be a normal passage of play and chill the hell out. A cuckold couple has no time for wannabes as their time is terribly precious. You fail to deliver and you have literally screwed yourself alongside binning whatever self proclaimed reputation you held. A cuckold couple having done due diligence would rule you out immediately. A cuckold couple who doesn't seriously puts at risk their relationship if they are chatting to someone who is looking for pointers at this stage. | |||
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"We are a hotwife couple. Mr Alice (Chris) is no way a cuckold. Sharing me with men turns him on...Big Time! He loves it! I don't have the same inclinations re sharing him. I have my own personal kinks, we are all wired differently. Most men we meet for MMf/MMMMf etc get it! And I love the way they all hug and shake hands and thank my other half for his generosity after we've all had a good time." Bumped into yourself several times and you as a couple,and whatever the set up it seems to work for both of you as you’ve both always been happy all the time I’ve seen you.. | |||
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"Pictures of the meet are going up slowly. " Sounds great, hope you don't mind us men perving on them | |||
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"Stag/vixen is totally different to cuckolding. There is no humiliation involved in a stag vixen lifestyle. I really struggle to understand where people think there are the same. Yes that is our opinion but i have asked on this thread for it to be stag/vixens not cuckolds as they dynamic is different. " We don’t get the confusion either, stag / vixen is completely different to the cuckold scenario, well put op. | |||
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"Stag/vixen is totally different to cuckolding. There is no humiliation involved in a stag vixen lifestyle. I really struggle to understand where people think there are the same. Yes that is our opinion but i have asked on this thread for it to be stag/vixens not cuckolds as they dynamic is different. We don’t get the confusion either, stag / vixen is completely different to the cuckold scenario, well put op." Almost always clear cut. Great profile btw | |||
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"Can call yourselves what ever you want. We just started a thread that for once wouldn’t involve cuckolding. " Absolutely, they are just labels and we wouldn’t class ourselves as any one as our dynamic changes as our mood does! Just curious as definitions vary so much! | |||
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"Stag and vixen here. I (mr) get totally turned on by my vixen flirting and playing and love that she gets treated well and gets to be so sexual. For me it’s a million miles from the humiliation involved in cuckolding" Exactly the same here. More than happy to let her play on her own or join in. Just depends what mood I’m in. | |||
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"Were completely new this but Jay absolutely loves me with other men. Weve strayed away from couples in favour of two males and I've even attended meets alone and come back with stories and pictures for Jay. In no way is he a cuckold and in no way is there any humiliation. Am I right in thinking we may be starting to fall into the stag and vixen lifestyle? X" Sounds about right to us. | |||
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"Hey everyone! Great idea for a thread! We have a couple of questions, the first is somewhat rhetorical! 1. Why when someone says something like: “Let’s not discuss cuckolding”, does everyone then start saying: “Yeah, but cuckold...” 2. Definitions of Stag / Vixen / Hotwife/husband... Are we right on thinking that in general these are: Stag - a husband of a vixen who has sexual relations with others while his partner is there. Vixen - a wife who has sexual relations with others while her partner is there. No humiliation in either case but both could be playing with others at the same time, or just watching, but they would be present. Stag/Vixen doesn’t really describe if it’s only the husband or only the wife that plays in the way that cuckolding/cuckqueaning does? Hotwife - a wife who has sex with others without their husband being present but possibly sending photos etc Hothusband - same as Hotwife but it’s the husband who has sex with others without the wife present. Would this be accurate?" Well if it is an accurate definition that makes sense to me - so it would indicate that in the two meets we have had with the same chap its in a Stag/Vixen role as the two of us enjoyed sexual relations with Spice with no one being humiliated or pushed away. In my day it was just called a 3some | |||
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"I’m a hotwife and my partner is a stag - he doesn’t play with others but his kink is to get off on watching me with other guys, sometimes joining in. We’ve been together 2 years and it’s a constantly evolving thing. I think at first he wanted to be more of a ‘dom’ but soon realised I’m not very good at doing what I’m told . Our relationship is very equal - we are very open with communication and both express what we need. He likes to be the one to organise meets so largely I leave that to him as it makes him happy, although I do have input. I like clubs and the element of mystery of not knowing who will be there, so that keeps me happy too. He’s got to know very well what I like, what kind of guys I like...he will step in at meets if he knows I’ll be unhappy about something, and he’s my quality control at clubs too! I feel very safe with him there, and it’s really hot kissing him or holding his hand while I’m being fucked. It took me a while to get my head around the fact that he was REALLY ok with me having sex with other people and him not doing that (I personally couldn’t deal with that which is why I’ve only played when single before we got together). But now I can see he is, and oddly each meet/club trip makes our relationship stronger and we’re even more in love. And the reclaim sex afterwards is always great " Our dynamic is the same | |||
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"Hey everyone! Great idea for a thread! We have a couple of questions, the first is somewhat rhetorical! 1. Why when someone says something like: “Let’s not discuss cuckolding”, does everyone then start saying: “Yeah, but cuckold...” 2. Definitions of Stag / Vixen / Hotwife/husband... Are we right on thinking that in general these are: Stag - a husband of a vixen who has sexual relations with others while his partner is there. Vixen - a wife who has sexual relations with others while her partner is there. No humiliation in either case but both could be playing with others at the same time, or just watching, but they would be present. Stag/Vixen doesn’t really describe if it’s only the husband or only the wife that plays in the way that cuckolding/cuckqueaning does? Hotwife - a wife who has sex with others without their husband being present but possibly sending photos etc Hothusband - same as Hotwife but it’s the husband who has sex with others without the wife present. Would this be accurate?" This sums it up for me | |||
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"Yeah the only difference is that in many stag / vixen relationships the vixen meets guys on her own and not just (if at all) with her stag. We love both x" Still trying to work this out Stag /Vixen or hotwife. Ours started by accident we had arranged a MMF meet but I was ill rather than disappoint them both (we had meet the other man a few times as a couple) I told her to go on her own. At first she was reluctant but did agree I can only say it was great for both of us. We still enjoy this sort of arrangement and there's no humiliation at all I love the fact that it turns her on so much but is she a hot wife or vixen? | |||
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"Yeah the only difference is that in many stag / vixen relationships the vixen meets guys on her own and not just (if at all) with her stag. We love both x Still trying to work this out Stag /Vixen or hotwife. Ours started by accident we had arranged a MMF meet but I was ill rather than disappoint them both (we had meet the other man a few times as a couple) I told her to go on her own. At first she was reluctant but did agree I can only say it was great for both of us. We still enjoy this sort of arrangement and there's no humiliation at all I love the fact that it turns her on so much but is she a hot wife or vixen? " sounds like your had amazing meets | |||
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"Yeah the only difference is that in many stag / vixen relationships the vixen meets guys on her own and not just (if at all) with her stag. We love both x Still trying to work this out Stag /Vixen or hotwife. Ours started by accident we had arranged a MMF meet but I was ill rather than disappoint them both (we had meet the other man a few times as a couple) I told her to go on her own. At first she was reluctant but did agree I can only say it was great for both of us. We still enjoy this sort of arrangement and there's no humiliation at all I love the fact that it turns her on so much but is she a hot wife or vixen? sounds like your had amazing meets " Yes we have the hard part is finding the right person some think that a hotwife/vixon will have sex with anyone. Far from it we both have to be comfortable with them and above all he has to tick the right boxes for her. | |||
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"Yeah the only difference is that in many stag / vixen relationships the vixen meets guys on her own and not just (if at all) with her stag. We love both x Still trying to work this out Stag /Vixen or hotwife. Ours started by accident we had arranged a MMF meet but I was ill rather than disappoint them both (we had meet the other man a few times as a couple) I told her to go on her own. At first she was reluctant but did agree I can only say it was great for both of us. We still enjoy this sort of arrangement and there's no humiliation at all I love the fact that it turns her on so much but is she a hot wife or vixen? " We had the same thing happen the other week apart from it was at ours and stag was sick upstairs just before we all went up. He decided to sit it out and leave vixen to play on her own. | |||
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"Yeah the only difference is that in many stag / vixen relationships the vixen meets guys on her own and not just (if at all) with her stag. We love both x Still trying to work this out Stag /Vixen or hotwife. Ours started by accident we had arranged a MMF meet but I was ill rather than disappoint them both (we had meet the other man a few times as a couple) I told her to go on her own. At first she was reluctant but did agree I can only say it was great for both of us. We still enjoy this sort of arrangement and there's no humiliation at all I love the fact that it turns her on so much but is she a hot wife or vixen? sounds like your had amazing meets Yes we have the hard part is finding the right person some think that a hotwife/vixon will have sex with anyone. Far from it we both have to be comfortable with them and above all he has to tick the right boxes for her. " You sound exactly like us vixen won’t play with anyone unless we are both comfortable with them. I used to join in but now I’m more than happy to stay downstairs and enjoy the reclaim sex even more. | |||
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"Yeah the only difference is that in many stag / vixen relationships the vixen meets guys on her own and not just (if at all) with her stag. We love both x Still trying to work this out Stag /Vixen or hotwife. Ours started by accident we had arranged a MMF meet but I was ill rather than disappoint them both (we had meet the other man a few times as a couple) I told her to go on her own. At first she was reluctant but did agree I can only say it was great for both of us. We still enjoy this sort of arrangement and there's no humiliation at all I love the fact that it turns her on so much but is she a hot wife or vixen? sounds like your had amazing meets Yes we have the hard part is finding the right person some think that a hotwife/vixon will have sex with anyone. Far from it we both have to be comfortable with them and above all he has to tick the right boxes for her. You sound exactly like us vixen won’t play with anyone unless we are both comfortable with them. I used to join in but now I’m more than happy to stay downstairs and enjoy the reclaim sex even more. " I dont go along just enjoy the fact she's having a great time and feeling special | |||
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"Yeah the only difference is that in many stag / vixen relationships the vixen meets guys on her own and not just (if at all) with her stag. We love both x Still trying to work this out Stag /Vixen or hotwife. Ours started by accident we had arranged a MMF meet but I was ill rather than disappoint them both (we had meet the other man a few times as a couple) I told her to go on her own. At first she was reluctant but did agree I can only say it was great for both of us. We still enjoy this sort of arrangement and there's no humiliation at all I love the fact that it turns her on so much but is she a hot wife or vixen? sounds like your had amazing meets Yes we have the hard part is finding the right person some think that a hotwife/vixon will have sex with anyone. Far from it we both have to be comfortable with them and above all he has to tick the right boxes for her. " yes it as too be that way | |||
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"We are a hotwife couple. Mr Alice (Chris) is no way a cuckold. Sharing me with men turns him on...Big Time! He loves it! I don't have the same inclinations re sharing him. I have my own personal kinks, we are all wired differently. Most men we meet for MMf/MMMMf etc get it! And I love the way they all hug and shake hands and thank my other half for his generosity after we've all had a good time." Well put couldn’t agree more | |||
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"I'm a hotwife and for us it is simply that my husband is terribly proud of his wife and wants me to enjoy myself and other people. He gets turned on by my exploits and I love turning him on with stories and little "trophies", i.e. scratches, bruises. No judgement, no jealousy, just fun. " I can certainly attest to you being a hotwife and have partaken in an exploit or two with you! Heres to many more | |||
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"... we were both singles on fab for years before we met.. then fell totally in love... we’ve now been together for two years. ..." Trust me to go looking for a really unusual type of relationship - great to read that someone else has found it successfully, though! This post made me wonder... Q: Stag/vixen couples ... how did you meet? Was it through the lifestyle, or did you meet in vanilla land and discover the dynamic afterwards? - Stag (one day | |||
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"We love the hotwife scene just so hard to find a guy that totally understands the dynamics. But the search goes on." The hotwife scene is very enjoyable for everyone involved. A celebration of the wife attractiveness without any of degradation and humiliation of cuckholding. | |||
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"We've been in the lifestyle over a year now. A Vixen/Stag lifestyle is the Stag expressing he's confident and comfortable in sharing his Vixen with other Men/Women because he likes watching his Vixen having pleasure. Best part of it, is my Stag reclaiming me after I've had sex with someone else xx " It’s always good when others understand the dynamics. | |||
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"This sums up our dynamic. We happily play as a couple with a couple (but it is hard to find a dynamic where there is mutual attraction between all). So we have both agreed to enjoy a hotwife/husband stag/vixen lifestyle too. Ensuring we have the trust and communication in place to allow each-other to go out and have "fun" with regulars or one-offs alone. Post meeting, describing what happened and the reclaim sex has really added spice to our relationship. " Because of my age difference with Mo (60) and I'm (mid 30) we have also found like you that it is easier for us to have fun separately, rather than try and find a couple for us both. We also have a unique circle of friends this way. | |||
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"Stag and Vixen set up here and male led, happy to contribute. x" Exactly the same here! | |||
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