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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Right sorry I don’t mean every single Male of course and I understand that it’s tough for them on here - the Male half of us has been in here before as a single so he knows! - but some of them are so rude. I realise we are relatively new and so have no verifications yet but god knows we have tried to meet but been let down by single men 3 times in less than a month. We are now just looking for Couples for a while until our confidence has returned. However tonight we have been called timewasters by one single guy because we wouldn’t meet him despite telling him we are not interested and then blocked by another because the Female half of us wouldn’t speak on the phone to another single Male less than ten minutes after he sent a message! Again I know it’s far from all of you but there are certainly a lot of bad apples in the fabs cart.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry you have come across a common situation on here but persevere,

there are some genuine decent and not time waster gents to be found..

I’ve bumped into a few at social’s and parties where it’s a little more monitored so maybe look into dipping your toes in them..

But I’m sure a few diamonds will come your way

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

The one that called us ‘timewasters’ has replied again after we sent a message trying to explain the situation. We are now, apparently, ‘Dumb Fuckers’ need ‘to educate’ ourselves and are ‘thick Krishnas’ He then blocked us , which as you can see is no great lost.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sorry you have come across a common situation on here but persevere,

there are some genuine decent and not time waster gents to be found..

I’ve bumped into a few at social’s and parties where it’s a little more monitored so maybe look into dipping your toes in them..

But I’m sure a few diamonds will come your way"

Thank you so much for your kind words. It does help as it’s been a pretty upsetting night. ??

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sorry you have come across a common situation on here but persevere,

there are some genuine decent and not time waster gents to be found..

I’ve bumped into a few at social’s and parties where it’s a little more monitored so maybe look into dipping your toes in them..

But I’m sure a few diamonds will come your way

Thank you so much for your kind words. It does help as it’s been a pretty upsetting night. ??"

Sorry, the question mark at the end was supposed to be a heart.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anytime..and no worries bout the question mark..

Sorry it’s been an upsetting evening hope I’ve helped a wee bit..

Get in touch if anything else

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By *rNordicMedMan
over a year ago

Wandsworth

I hear you - also play with my OH (our main reason for being on here).

I have seen it from both sides of the fence, but the abuse some people have hurled at us for simply politely pointing out they were not our type is amazing. One bombarded us (instant block) and called us a few choice words because we were apparently up ourselves for him not being what we were after No excuses for people not turning up (genuine emergencies excepted of course).

It can smart, but you just have roll with it sadly.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I hear you - also play with my OH (our main reason for being on here).

I have seen it from both sides of the fence, but the abuse some people have hurled at us for simply politely pointing out they were not our type is amazing. One bombarded us (instant block) and called us a few choice words because we were apparently up ourselves for him not being what we were after No excuses for people not turning up (genuine emergencies excepted of course).

It can smart, but you just have roll with it sadly. "

Again, kind words, very much appreciated. Proves everybody is not bad. Thank you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to hear this folks..great photos btw..keep looking. they are out there. weve been more lucky so have no complaints.

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton


"Right sorry I don’t mean every single Male of course and I understand that it’s tough for them on here - the Male half of us has been in here before as a single so he knows! - but some of them are so rude. I realise we are relatively new and so have no verifications yet but god knows we have tried to meet but been let down by single men 3 times in less than a month. We are now just looking for Couples for a while until our confidence has returned. However tonight we have been called timewasters by one single guy because we wouldn’t meet him despite telling him we are not interested and then blocked by another because the Female half of us wouldn’t speak on the phone to another single Male less than ten minutes after he sent a message! Again I know it’s far from all of you but there are certainly a lot of bad apples in the fabs cart. "
. Sorry to hear that you have been let down by time wasters single guys and even worse been messaged by a abusive / possibily racist guy.When you feel ready to meet single guys perhaps you may want to consider Heathrow AbFabs or Heathrow Kestrels.As looking at your location it may be near to you.Until then go at your pace and try not to let the experience you have gone through cloud your judgment on single guys on Fabs.

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By *ser574Man
over a year ago

London

What idiots...

You should not do anything you do not feel comfortable with.

I am sure you can find some nice single males (Spoiler: Feel free to contact me hehe)

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

OP, don't reply to the ones you aren't interested in meeting. Fab faq section does state no reply is no interest. This also means you won't get pestered or abuse, however if you do experience this, report to admin and block them. These things are unfortunately to frequent on here by not replying in the first place you can avoid it in most cases. I've found this works for me. Hope you are both OK and not to disheartened. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry you have come across a common situation on here but persevere,

there are some genuine decent and not time waster gents to be found..

I’ve bumped into a few at social’s and parties where it’s a little more monitored so maybe look into dipping your toes in them..

But I’m sure a few diamonds will come your way

Thank you so much for your kind words. It does help as it’s been a pretty upsetting night. ??

Sorry, the question mark at the end was supposed to be a heart. "

Are you still looking?

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By *anillaboyMan
over a year ago

london


"Right sorry I don’t mean every single Male of course and I understand that it’s tough for them on here - the Male half of us has been in here before as a single so he knows! - but some of them are so rude. I realise we are relatively new and so have no verifications yet but god knows we have tried to meet but been let down by single men 3 times in less than a month. We are now just looking for Couples for a while until our confidence has returned. However tonight we have been called timewasters by one single guy because we wouldn’t meet him despite telling him we are not interested and then blocked by another because the Female half of us wouldn’t speak on the phone to another single Male less than ten minutes after he sent a message! Again I know it’s far from all of you but there are certainly a lot of bad apples in the fabs cart. "

Im sorry for what happend to you. You must prepare your self because will not be the last one. Allowed me to apologize for them and i do this only because they drag us down, we the true ones with a good heart ,well mannered that knows What means respect for other people and knows What a - Im sorry but we don’t fancy you- or just a simple - No - without no explain.

Again from Deep of my heart i do apologize.

Don’t lose your trust and you will find someone it will be more easy after that because you will have him or them kind play friends

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By *sloverdaveMan
over a year ago

wooham ferrers

Sorry you’ve had a rough time of it. I’ve encountered a few rude message myself. I’ve only got a couple of verifications and most of those have come from people I’ve met at clubs etc who just happen to be on here.

If you’re ever in central London I’d be happy to have a social meet and verify you, there’s also a nightout being organised by a women on for last Friday in sept if that helps you get some more verifications

Dx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Look at it from a different angle. If that is how they react you are better off without them, you had a close escape. Move on to the good ones.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s single men who are hungry and can’t take rejection

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By *urenutsMan
over a year ago

waltham cross/Harrow HA1

There are a few idiots on there that but the bridges for others are just time wasters, block delete report.

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By *onty1971Man
over a year ago

London St Helier Trier


"Look at it from a different angle. If that is how they react you are better off without them, you had a close escape. Move on to the good ones."

This seems to be the best outcome.

A shame this is where we get to. Poor skills. I feel sorry for the Ladies and Couples.

Better to find out online than at the Social Date. Saves your time for the good ones. They are there.

Happy Swinging all.

Disclaimer Yes I claim to be one.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I find going to club saves lot of time, you can see exactly how they appear and have a chat to see if it's worth taking further. You can always arrange to meet out of the club if you feel it is what you are all looking for.

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By *onty1971Man
over a year ago

London St Helier Trier


"I find going to club saves lot of time, you can see exactly how they appear and have a chat to see if it's worth taking further. You can always arrange to meet out of the club if you feel it is what you are all looking for. "

Cannot fault this approach.

Not great for me as a regular London visitor in the West End. That doesn't matter. What we want is a healthy Swinging world with everyone treated with respect.

In Europe the Clubs can be good too. I just prefer fun in private and not being watched. Easier for me to get comfortable, experiment too and let loose.

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By *team7279Couple
over a year ago

London


"OP, don't reply to the ones you aren't interested in meeting. Fab faq section does state no reply is no interest. This also means you won't get pestered or abuse, however if you do experience this, report to admin and block them. These things are unfortunately to frequent on here by not replying in the first place you can avoid it in most cases. "

Totally agree with this. We've stopped replying to guys simply because (other than the sheer amount of time it takes) it means you don't engage unnecessarily with any drama. We've not been at this too long either, and I understand that feeling that you're being rude by ignoring people if you're not interested, but we've learned to be comfortable with it. Better they moan about nobody replying on a forum post than take their frustration out on you!

I would also say that you should try and find yourself an organised social somewhere nearby. They have been revelatory for us, and are a great way of meeting people without the pressure of being in a club. And you can certainly parlay any chemistry into a meet at a later date (as we certainly have ).

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We finally met someone! ( well in actual fact it was someones as there were two of them). Single men still not off the hook yet, but least it proves there are some genuine people on the site.

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By *ivaniaMan
over a year ago

London


"We finally met someone! ( well in actual fact it was someones as there were two of them). Single men still not off the hook yet, but least it proves there are some genuine people on the site. "

There is still genuine single man on here. Just ignore and block abusive once.

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By *anillaboyMan
over a year ago

london


"Right sorry I don’t mean every single Male of course and I understand that it’s tough for them on here - the Male half of us has been in here before as a single so he knows! - but some of them are so rude. I realise we are relatively new and so have no verifications yet but god knows we have tried to meet but been let down by single men 3 times in less than a month. We are now just looking for Couples for a while until our confidence has returned.

However tonight we have been called

timewasters by one single guy because we wouldn’t meet him despite telling him we are not interested and then blocked by another because the Female half of us wouldn’t speak on the phone to another single Male less than ten minutes after he sent a message! Again I know it’s far from all of you but there are certainly a lot of bad apples in the fabs cart. "

Keep going, do not stop . U are not the only one who suffers because of that.

We the rest of the singles suffer too because they drag us down If u know What i mean.

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By *ixieUKMan
over a year ago

MORDEN

Just persevere, ignore the abuse and block them, I do

Not just single men that do it, I have had the same from single women and couples

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By *ishopstippleMan
over a year ago

Purley


"Just persevere, ignore the abuse and block them, I do

Not just single men that do it, I have had the same from single women and couples "

Yep had a quite few of them: Try not to let them knock you back.

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By *ustfun1000Man
over a year ago

hanwell

Keep talking to each other and ignore the idiots they can be couples or singles good luck xx

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