FabSwingers.com forum: Sexless marriage

By *areToBe43 OP Man
over a year ago

Surrey

Anyone else in one of these?

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Probably loads. You have 2 choices stay or leave. That choice is yours alone but i get fed up with guys moaning about it when they dont have the balls to walk away.

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By *ection212Man
over a year ago

London

I’m in the that situation, it’s not as simple as walking away. My girlfriend is financially independent and lives in my house but she won’t leave, I’ve asked her several times but she thinks I’m joking even though I’ve told her I’m serious. This is why I’m looking to have an intimate relationship elsewhere, not having much luck on here though

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

"I’m in the that situation, it’s not as simple as walking away. My girlfriend is financially independent and lives in my house but she won’t leave, I’ve asked her several times but she thinks I’m joking even though I’ve told her I’m serious. This is why I’m looking to have an intimate relationship elsewhere, not having much luck on here though

So if the house is in your name and you want her out does she really have the right to stay??. I would be seeking legal advice about where you stand in this situation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So if the house is in your name and you want her out does she really have the right to stay??. I would be seeking legal advice about where you stand in this situation"

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By *ection212Man
over a year ago

London

We’ve been together a long time, I don’t want it to get nasty, will have to play the long game, I think that’s for the best

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

Mate, I sympathise, but are you sure you've been clear?

I'm yet to meet a woman who, when told her partner doesn't love her, wants to break up and asks her to leave, takes that as a joke!

Sounds like you need a serious conversation pretty quickly as that's not a particularly healthy situation...

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By *ection212Man
over a year ago

London

I completely agree with you

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By *areToBe43 OP Man
over a year ago

Surrey

My takeaway from this is that, from the outside looking in, it’s always pretty easy to offer pat, clean-cut ‘solutions’ to what can often be an insoluble problem.

My second takeaway is: Don’t expect a fab audience for anything approaching sympathy. You won’t get it. Hehe.

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By *ection212Man
over a year ago

London

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By *heislanderMan
over a year ago

cheshunt

"Probably loads. You have 2 choices stay or leave. That choice is yours alone but i get fed up with guys moaning about it when they dont have the balls to walk away."

Maybe it takes bigger balls to stay?? Every situation is different, walking away is not always the answer for either party.

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By *ondcpl4meetCouple
over a year ago

North of the river

What's the long game?? surely the longer you leave it the harder it gets,emotionally and financially.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go and see a relationship therapist because your situatiin seems to have little to do with a sexless relationship and possibly more to do with your inability to transition into singledom and the 'loss' that may trigger other losses and debilitating feelings...Read: feel the fear and do it anyway by Susan Jeffers...Otherwise you stay in the cycle of feeling the victim and then being angry when people don't give you 'sympathy'..Try the Samaritans.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well said.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Probably loads. You have 2 choices stay or leave. That choice is yours alone but i get fed up with guys moaning about it when they dont have the balls to walk away."

Oh straight to point bluebell , no pissing about here !! I’m pretty sure you’d be the one with the balls telling them to pack up and get out ????

See ya pal ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *agenta400Woman
over a year ago

All over the shop

Forgive me, but if I had a pound for every guy claiming to be in a sexless marriage on here I'd be a milluuuuunaire.

Most are bloody lying just to get a shag, in my experience.

I do appreciate there are some genius cases. But they're in the minority..

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By *agenta400Woman
over a year ago

All over the shop

I meant genuine!

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Life’s Too short.

I made a break from someone who wasn’t satisfying me (in various aspects of life). It was hard as hell to do and for a while after but life is WAY better for it

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By *ySweetLadyWoman
over a year ago

London

I am in a sexless marriage.

Hubby stopped being intimate and having sex with me once we had our child (about a decade ago).

He prefers gaming (as in video games) and his gadgets.

To the outside world he's a great husband but the reality is that I have been ignored for many years and, for many years, we have been simply housemates (and haven't slept in the same bed for years too).

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By *areToBe43 OP Man
over a year ago

Surrey

I’m a genius... I mean genuine case

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Harsh on here. All have there reason or reasons so I guess it’s a respect point of view.

I’m married. Love my wife and family but no libido so no sex life. I choose to stay and I’ve found fab friends who full accept and respect why I swing... for that I’m grateful.

Yes I’ve had advice along the lines of you should go, leave, see relate etc but I just see it as my issue and I’ve found a place and a way I can deal with it.

Life’s too short so don’t fall out guys just be understanding that not everything is black or white there’s always a little grey

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By *wingsingMan
over a year ago

Berkshire/London

"Harsh on here. All have there reason or reasons so I guess it’s a respect point of view.

I’m married. Love my wife and family but no libido so no sex life. I choose to stay and I’ve found fab friends who full accept and respect why I swing... for that I’m grateful.

Yes I’ve had advice along the lines of you should go, leave, see relate etc but I just see it as my issue and I’ve found a place and a way I can deal with it.

Life’s too short so don’t fall out guys just be understanding that not everything is black or white there’s always a little grey

Absolutely this. Life is too short. I don't feel I am in a position to judge anyone unless I have gotten to know over long period of time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Harsh on here. All have there reason or reasons so I guess it’s a respect point of view.

I’m married. Love my wife and family but no libido so no sex life. I choose to stay and I’ve found fab friends who full accept and respect why I swing... for that I’m grateful.

Yes I’ve had advice along the lines of you should go, leave, see relate etc but I just see it as my issue and I’ve found a place and a way I can deal with it.

Life’s too short so don’t fall out guys just be understanding that not everything is black or white there’s always a little grey

Absolutely this. Life is too short. I don't feel I am in a position to judge anyone unless I have gotten to know over long period of time.

Then again you know me so you understand

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By *areToBe43 OP Man
over a year ago

Surrey

Same issue here, Vapour. Wife has zero interest in sex - although I’m pretty sure that’s down to things getting stale in our marriage. If another guy came along I imagine it would rekindle her interest. And I don’t think I’d have a problem with that.

We’ve discussed it and I’ve been quite open with her: if she wanted to have an affair or if she wanted to try something new I’d be okay with it. But it’s almost as if she has zero need for sex while I definitely do.

I still love her and am very happy with our home life otherwise - but there’s no getting away from the fact that I want physical contact and that I want to be wanted. She doesn’t (Or at least she doesn’t on my day-to-day experience. Who knows what she’s really thinking.)

For me, the metaphor for a healthy libido is a flowing river. You can’t just put a dam across it. The water will/has to end up somewhere. Hence using this site and other extra-curricular activities.

Hugely frustrating. A problem with no easy solution.

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By *onysevenoaksMan
over a year ago

sevenoaks

"I am in a sexless marriage.

Hubby stopped being intimate and having sex with me once we had our child (about a decade ago).

He prefers gaming (as in video games) and his gadgets.

I’m pretty much in that same position,

My wife has just about given up having sex. Whenever I try to instigate anything sexual , she brushes it off ,

Although we still sleep in the same bed, that’s all we do in the same bed, sleep.

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By *adbury girlWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

When I was married I hated sex, found it a chore and due to me foreplay was 'want to roll over'

My ex had a couple of affairs but he was mainly trying to make me jealous which didn't work and he would never leave. At the time I couldn't force him as the repercussions would have been major due to his personality disorder.

Anyway extremely long story short when it got too bad for him to be around our kids I made him leave and fast forward a few years I actually love sex and I often think about what my ex would say if he found out I was on fab!!

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By *reykiwi500Man
over a year ago

West Kent (near Tonbridge)

"Forgive me, but if I had a pound for every guy claiming to be in a sexless marriage on here I'd be a milluuuuunaire.

Most are bloody lying just to get a shag, in my experience.

I do appreciate there are some genius cases. But they're in the minority.."

What about the women who say they are in a sexless marriage? Do you think most of them lying to get a shag too?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He’s probably on here! Lol

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By *ussieInDubMan
over a year ago

Raheny

I am on that same boat. Sexless marriage , tried but nothing seems to work.

Still love each other and we have 3 amazing kids and a very good life so all that outweighs me leaving her just to satisfy sex !

Yes I’m on here , take a look around see possibly meet someone , but won’t leave the relationship .

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

"Probably loads. You have 2 choices stay or leave. That choice is yours alone but i get fed up with guys moaning about it when they dont have the balls to walk away.

Oh straight to point bluebell , no pissing about here !! I’m pretty sure you’d be the one with the balls telling them to pack up and get out ????

See ya pal ??

I was in a sexless relationship. One day i just thought to hell with this and left. My kids hated me and i became alot poorer but at the end of the day i am much happier. Life is too short to be messed about. It was the hardest thing i ever done but also the best. My kids still love me and my partner remains a friend so all very much worth it.

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By *adbury girlWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

"He’s probably on here! Lol"

Ha ha I don’t think he would be on fab it’s hard to explain but not his thing

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By *ootall2920Man
over a year ago

Linlithgow

A sexless relationship is regarded as sex less than 10 per year. I've had sex 10 times in the last 4.i was shocked to understand this is where I am. I am going to relationship counselling.

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By *irkydirkyMan
over a year ago

Stevenage

A sexless marriage is still a marriage.. you have 2 simple choices..

leave the marriage and stay here or leave here and work on the marriage, most want both but that just says a lot about you as opposed the marriage.. it is that simple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A sexless marriage is still a marriage.. you have 2 simple choices..

leave the marriage and stay here or leave here and work on the marriage, most want both but that just says a lot about you as opposed the marriage.. it is that simple. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was in a similar situation then the GF started to get abusive. I put the house up for sale and started ignoring her. I packed her bags a couple of times. Horrible time but paid off in the end. Life is just to short. As only a girlfriend they have no cohabitation rights.

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By *yesgreenMan
over a year ago

north and south

"Forgive me, but if I had a pound for every guy claiming to be in a sexless marriage on here I'd be a milluuuuunaire.

Most are bloody lying just to get a shag, in my experience.

I do appreciate there are some genius cases. But they're in the minority.."
Genius sounds better then genuine but it's about chasing fabulous ladies, not just fucking

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By *ootall2920Man
over a year ago

Linlithgow

"A sexless marriage is still a marriage.. you have 2 simple choices..

leave the marriage and stay here or leave here and work on the marriage, most want both but that just says a lot about you as opposed the marriage.. it is that simple. "

No, it's not. There's a lot more to it. People assume you haven't worked on your marriage and this is an easy out. It isn't. It's easy to give advice from the sidelines, especially when you don't know the full story.

Simple.

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By *ingdonMan
over a year ago

Hornchurch

I am

She lost interest about 5 years ago

She was a good fuck wet pussy big tits

Luv anal and big toys

But alas no more ..........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Forgive me, but if I had a pound for every guy claiming to be in a sexless marriage on here I'd be a milluuuuunaire.

Most are bloody lying just to get a shag, in my experience.

I do appreciate there are some genius cases. But they're in the minority.."

Totally agree.. seems I’m the only one who’s just greedy lol

Sometimes other elements in a relationship are good you just need to release some sexual energy and have some fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Forgive me, but if I had a pound for every guy claiming to be in a sexless marriage on here I'd be a milluuuuunaire.

Most are bloody lying just to get a shag, in my experience.

I do appreciate there are some genius cases. But they're in the minority..

Totally agree.. seems I’m the only one who’s just greedy lol

Sometimes other elements in a relationship are good you just need to release some sexual energy and have some fun

Key word here is fun... I am definitely having that now

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By *onestjohn1962Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

"Forgive me, but if I had a pound for every guy claiming to be in a sexless marriage on here I'd be a milluuuuunaire.

Most are bloody lying just to get a shag, in my experience.

I do appreciate there are some genius cases. But they're in the minority..

Totally agree.. seems I’m the only one who’s just greedy lol

Sometimes other elements in a relationship are good you just need to release some sexual energy and have some fun

I agree with you. My marriage has been sexless for about 5 years ever since my wife started going through the menopause. She has no interest in sex. But we love each other, she has been my best mate for over 40 years, we have lovely kids and a nice lifestyle. I don’t want to leave all that.

So trolling through this and other dating sites to find sex - with my wife knowing nothing about it. - I realised that I was in fact bisexual. And found that I was interested and sexually attracted to men and women. A bit of a surprise but very liberating.

Whilst it is by no means ideal, if I admitted what I am doing to my family all hell would break loose and I would put everyone through lots of anguish. So why should I do that?

I am in a job that takes me around the world and I stay in lots of very nice hotels and I fit in sex dates around this itinerary.

I’m 57 now and maybe I will stop but as long as I can continue to find lovely people who want to play and keep it discrete then I think I will carry on.

Judge me if you like, call me a cheating bastard if you like, I know what I am and I think that I am making the best of a sad situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't buy this 'they are my best friend' stuff....I treat my best friend with respect and honesty. If you can't manage that, then I'm sorry you have no right to claim to be friends.

I try not to judge, I've been married and not faithful, but let's be honest about what it is. Cake and eat it.

I also got completely duped by a guy on here who claimed to have a sexless marriage, he broke my heart.

No one comes out of this well.

It is simple - life is about compromise and if sex is that important then leave the relationship. It causes far less turmoil that the spouse finding out. Either talk to them and get their approval, don't cheat or leave.

I now know that sex is too important to me to compromise on and will not contempt a relationship with someone who doesn't feel the same way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mate, I sympathise, but are you sure you've been clear?

I'm yet to meet a woman who, when told her partner doesn't love her, wants to break up and asks her to leave, takes that as a joke!

Sounds like you need a serious conversation pretty quickly as that's not a particularly healthy situation..."

Or a locksmith !!

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By *onestjohn1962Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

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By *onestjohn1962Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

"I don't buy this 'they are my best friend' stuff....I treat my best friend with respect and honesty. If you can't manage that, then I'm sorry you have no right to claim to be friends.

I try not to judge, I've been married and not faithful, but let's be honest about what it is. Cake and eat it.

I also got completely duped by a guy on here who claimed to have a sexless marriage, he broke my heart.

No one comes out of this well.

I now know that sex is too important to me to compromise on and will not contempt a relationship with someone who doesn't feel the same way.

So you knew the guy was married but still had an affair with him. And the justification to yourself was that he said he was in a sexless marriage and that made it OK ?? So it was you that got hurt and not him and his wife?

I have no desire to find a new life - and the married ladies - and men - whom I have met up with, feel the same way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Probably loads. You have 2 choices stay or leave. That choice is yours alone but i get fed up with guys moaning about it when they dont have the balls to walk away."

Not as easy as that for men . As all men who have been through a divorce will tell you

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead

Same here. Hoping my sex drive will die but found a fb 6 months ago now realised what I have been missing. If it keeps going the way it is the shit will hit the fan in a while.

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By *istress CockneyWoman
over a year ago

LONDON

I judge no one for the choices they make.

However, why do men in a relationship pursue women who clearly state they are only interested in single men?

Happened countless times and find it infuriating that I have invested time and energy only to find out they are not single.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I judge no one for the choices they make.

However, why do men in a relationship pursue women who clearly state they are only interested in single men?

Happened countless times and find it infuriating that I have invested time and energy only to find out they are not single.

Lol because they don’t read... lol

Worst ones are those who lie about it... say single when clearly they’re not...

I’m the opposite only meet married men or those in LTR

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By *areToBe43 OP Man
over a year ago

Surrey

And it’s an attitude, like that, Classy, that makes the world a slightly happier, slightly less sexually frustrated place. For which service we thank you...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't buy this 'they are my best friend' stuff....I treat my best friend with respect and honesty. If you can't manage that, then I'm sorry you have no right to claim to be friends.

I try not to judge, I've been married and not faithful, but let's be honest about what it is. Cake and eat it.

I also got completely duped by a guy on here who claimed to have a sexless marriage, he broke my heart.

No one comes out of this well.

I now know that sex is too important to me to compromise on and will not contempt a relationship with someone who doesn't feel the same way.

I have no desire to find a new life - and the married ladies - and men - whom I have met up with, feel the same way.

No, when we met he said he was single. Then when I found out, he did the whole sexless marriage excuse....

My point is you can justify cheating as much as you like, but let's just be honest. If your wife is your best friend, then the last thing you would want to do is hurt her. Instead you are choosing to be deceitful and risk doing that for a shag. Of course you don't want a new life, you are having your cake and eating it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I judge no one for the choices they make.

However, why do men in a relationship pursue women who clearly state they are only interested in single men?

Happened countless times and find it infuriating that I have invested time and energy only to find out they are not single.

This!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I judge no one for the choices they make.

However, why do men in a relationship pursue women who clearly state they are only interested in single men?

Happened countless times and find it infuriating that I have invested time and energy only to find out they are not single.

I’m with you on that _istress cockney. Annoys the shit out of me. When I asked them why they ignored what i put, they said I wouldn’t have met them if they had told me. Errr, very true and a good reason for that. So much hassle I don’t need.

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By *rMister40Man
over a year ago

Kingston

In France. In a long life time marriage. It is privately accepted that another partner other than your husband / wife is the key to a long happy and intimately satisfying marriage.

Just not always the easiest set up and I am just pointing out that we all need intimacy and we all need to fuck like a wife will never admit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow this is such an eye opening thread, a window into married life and the wrangles of commitment. Feel like congratulating you all on finding some kind of way to retain some kind of contentment. Its also a fair advert for being single and unattached like myself, but although I'm on here im ultimately wanting to find someone to grow into later life with, but until then im damned if im giving up on what pleasures life can give you in the meantime.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Life with no sex... I just can't do it captain, I don't have the power.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most married men do not have the balls to cheat.... most all mouth..

But ladies and gents.. don’t judge until you’ve been in the same situation.. I was faithful ish for 19 years...

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By *2699Man
over a year ago

maldon

I've had a sexless marriage for 20yrs , had great sex up till then then this problem called the menopause came along a 180 degree tirn in personality,no kissing , no hugs , no holding hands , separate bedrooms , was given permission to have FWB which she's fine with and knows who it is ,who I have fun with and go to clubs with , as I'm still active in that department, she's happy it's all in the open and not behind her back ,although I'd rather have the person I married , heard a lot of guys suffer from this symptom in there marriages ,yet some woman go the other way and turn into nymphomaniac that the guy can't keep up with and the wife then strays

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Perhaps go to citizens advice to get help from them with your situation. Or done legal advice? A lot of solicitors offer a free first consult. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What a great post OP. Loving the toing and froing of varied opinions and suggestions. Seems there is no right or wrong way to approach this. Being upfront at the beginning seems key (chose not to use honest)... all parties in swing have a right to know what’s before them and where it’s at. Then it’s simply a yes or a no. Read a profile and if it’s good it will have enough detail to allow a conversation to be completely open. However always remember (well for us at least) it has to be fun..

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By *oul BrothaMan
over a year ago

A Galaxy far far away

Is it just being in a sexless marriage or do you miss the intimacy, is there any intimacy between you two.

This seems more common than I anticipated...

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead

"Is it just being in a sexless marriage or do you miss the intimacy, is there any intimacy between you two.

This seems more common than I anticipated..."

For me it’s the passion and intimacy. When I am with my fb we both manage to get in to each other’s head so the sex is off the hook.

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By *onestjohn1962Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

Once again I am not making excuses or asking for sympathy or forgiveness. But could you imagine a life without sex? Not just for a week, a couple of months but say 2 years???

So do I go to my wife and say I’m leaving because we don’t have sex?

Or do I carry on being a dutiful husband, pretend it’s not a big deal, and find a fwb who is in the same boat?

Yes it is deceitful and I wish it was not so but it is and I live with it.

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By *onestjohn1962Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

Thought my last post would have had the moral high grounders twitching.

Seems they don’t care.

Live and let live x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep. And it isn't about having the balls to walk away when you have so many other things intertwined with each other. That's a rubbish comment to make.

You try to be all things to her, change your approach, be spontaneous, create fantasies and excitement and at the end of the day you're lying awake thinking of what the next thing to do is.

Only advice I can give is just continue to be the best you can be, but at the same time be nice to yourself.

She married you for a reason, and once upon a time it was probably good and that may come back.

Have a meet or an affair, see if it makes things any better, but to be honest you'll most likely feel empty and the whole thing will stress you out.

Honestly it's so hard to get around it but you have to be awake to the moments where she is ready to talk about it, and use your words wisely.

Ultimatum giving is a big turn off, there's no advantage to that, but you're 50/50 in this. As much as you care for her feelings, she has to care about yours.

Being on fab and asking for advice is probably not the best place and makes you look like a cheater but I have no doubt that you made this profile in the hope that she would join you on a sexual adventure. Fuck the haters and their judgemental shit. No one knows your situation. You love her and want to stay with her. Fab lets you talk to people who might understand you better.

To be honest I'm losing my mind with the lack of sex. Happy to chat via PM.

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over a year ago

What a fantastic well thought out reply.... what he said!!

"Yep. And it isn't about having the balls to walk away when you have so many other things intertwined with each other. That's a rubbish comment to make.

You try to be all things to her, change your approach, be spontaneous, create fantasies and excitement and at the end of the day you're lying awake thinking of what the next thing to do is.

Only advice I can give is just continue to be the best you can be, but at the same time be nice to yourself.

She married you for a reason, and once upon a time it was probably good and that may come back.

Have a meet or an affair, see if it makes things any better, but to be honest you'll most likely feel empty and the whole thing will stress you out.

Honestly it's so hard to get around it but you have to be awake to the moments where she is ready to talk about it, and use your words wisely.

Ultimatum giving is a big turn off, there's no advantage to that, but you're 50/50 in this. As much as you care for her feelings, she has to care about yours.

To be honest I'm losing my mind with the lack of sex. Happy to chat via PM."

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By *ittleMinx77ABCWoman
over a year ago

Sutton

"Yep. And it isn't about having the balls to walk away when you have so many other things intertwined with each other. That's a rubbish comment to make.

You try to be all things to her, change your approach, be spontaneous, create fantasies and excitement and at the end of the day you're lying awake thinking of what the next thing to do is.

Only advice I can give is just continue to be the best you can be, but at the same time be nice to yourself.

She married you for a reason, and once upon a time it was probably good and that may come back.

Have a meet or an affair, see if it makes things any better, but to be honest you'll most likely feel empty and the whole thing will stress you out.

Honestly it's so hard to get around it but you have to be awake to the moments where she is ready to talk about it, and use your words wisely.

Ultimatum giving is a big turn off, there's no advantage to that, but you're 50/50 in this. As much as you care for her feelings, she has to care about yours.

To be honest I'm losing my mind with the lack of sex. Happy to chat via PM."
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Soo true.. my hubby found my old fab account and now wants a divorce.. tbh I’m heartbroken as love him and the kids..

but if he finds my sexuality soo disgusting then he’s not for me..

I’m willing to try for the kids but he refuses.. it’s all about HIM..

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By *areToBe43 OP Man
over a year ago

Surrey

Sorry to hear that, Minx. I imagine my other half would react in a similar way if she found my profile. I think my response would be something along the lines of: well, what the bloody hell did you think was going to happen? All very well putting the blockers on any kind of physical intimacy but it’s a bit naive to expect there to be no consequences to that!

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By *irkydirkyMan
over a year ago

Stevenage

"Sorry to hear that, Minx. I imagine my other half would react in a similar way if she found my profile. I think my response would be something along the lines of: well, what the bloody hell did you think was going to happen? All very well putting the blockers on any kind of physical intimacy but it’s a bit naive to expect there to be no consequences to that!"

Well aren’t you just a top notch guy

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over a year ago

"Probably loads. You have 2 choices stay or leave. That choice is yours alone but i get fed up with guys moaning about it when they dont have the balls to walk away."
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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This old chestnut where’s my violin

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By *adbury girlWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

Soo true.. my hubby found my old fab account and now wants a divorce.. tbh I’m heartbroken as love him and the kids..

but if he finds my sexuality soo disgusting then he’s not for me..

I’m willing to try for the kids but he refuses.. it’s all about HIM..

Don't know your full story but I would say don't stay for the kids. Totally different situation to you but I stayed for the kids and they as young adults wish I hadn't.

Kids suffer if both parents aren't content and happy.

Good luck whatever you decide xx

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Soo true.. my hubby found my old fab account and now wants a divorce.. tbh I’m heartbroken as love him and the kids..

but if he finds my sexuality soo disgusting then he’s not for me..

I’m willing to try for the kids but he refuses.. it’s all about HIM..

Don't know your full story but I would say don't stay for the kids. Totally different situation to you but I stayed for the kids and they as young adults wish I hadn't.

Kids suffer if both parents aren't content and happy.

Good luck whatever you decide xx"

I stayed for the kids but when i left when they were older they hated me and never spoke to me for many weeks. It was a bad time in my life but alls good now.

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By *adbury girlWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

Soo true.. my hubby found my old fab account and now wants a divorce.. tbh I’m heartbroken as love him and the kids..

but if he finds my sexuality soo disgusting then he’s not for me..

I’m willing to try for the kids but he refuses.. it’s all about HIM..

Don't know your full story but I would say don't stay for the kids. Totally different situation to you but I stayed for the kids and they as young adults wish I hadn't.

Kids suffer if both parents aren't content and happy.

Good luck whatever you decide xx

I stayed for the kids but when i left when they were older they hated me and never spoke to me for many weeks. It was a bad time in my life but alls good now. "

I remember when my kids were really young my cousin told me it would be easier on the kids to leave my ex when they are young as he was a teenager when his parents split which he thought was harder.

My older kids were upset initially but I managed to keep the family home so they didn't have to move house which I think helped. My youngest adjusted quite well as he was only 3.

Glad it worked out in the end for you, I think there is much more responsibility placed on a mother to do whats right for the family and not her sanity

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By *ser574Man
over a year ago

London

Why do you want to know all the details of the people you meet here and in the lifestyle?

People have their own histories, fears, secrets, see the whole picture and they may not want to share it with some random guy/woman they meet here.

I never pray in the lives of people I meet. I respect their privacy and the reasons they are drawn here.

If they want to share and talk I happily engage in discussions without judging them.

I am not going to tell them what to do and what is right or wrong when it comes to affairs of their personal lives.

Life may be short but it can also be very long..and real life usually tends to be complicated.

If they want to cheat I don't judge them. If they want to collect validations I don't judge them. I just accept them. And if what they are/do does not suit me I move on and wish them well.

And I expect the same in return.

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over a year ago

"Why do you want to know all the details of the people you meet here and in the lifestyle?

People have their own histories, fears, secrets, see the whole picture and they may not want to share it with some random guy/woman they meet here.

I never pray in the lives of people I meet. I respect their privacy and the reasons they are drawn here.

If they want to share and talk I happily engage in discussions without judging them.

I am not going to tell them what to do and what is right or wrong when it comes to affairs of their personal lives.

Life may be short but it can also be very long..and real life usually tends to be complicated.

If they want to cheat I don't judge them. If they want to collect validations I don't judge them. I just accept them. And if what they are/do does not suit me I move on and wish them well.

And I expect the same in return."

totally agree with this... who am I to judge anyone.. we live in a world of judgement everyday... just because I dont like things doesn't mean its wrong … its just not what I want to do...

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over a year ago

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over a year ago

Ditto above

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What a fantastic well thought out reply.... what he said!!