FabSwingers.com forum: No luck

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I find it very hard to find matches on here.. im polite, im inviting and i got very useful talents.

Am i the only one having this problem? Or am i even more ugly than i thought?? Lol (fishing)

I think my profile is ok could maybe be better but surely good convo trumps a lengthy profile?? And yes i send pics with messages.

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By *eathrow socialCouple
over a year ago

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I personally wouldn't look twice at someone who didn't have a public photo, but that a me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I send pics to those i approach or respond to when im confident they are genuine. Dont have anything piblic for very good reason... pic collectors and fakes

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By *infulSandyCouple
over a year ago

London

"I find it very hard to find matches on here.. im polite, im inviting and i got very useful talents.

Am i the only one having this problem? Or am i even more ugly than i thought?? Lol (fishing)

I think my profile is ok could maybe be better but surely good convo trumps a lengthy profile?? And yes i send pics with messages."

You ask if you're ugly but there are no pics to see.

Your profile is basic at best and doesn't stand out at all.

Good convo wouldn't necessarily trump a lengthy profile for most single ladies.

Most single ladies here get a huuuuuge amount of messages and their first impression would come from your profile, if they dont like it they will ignore, delete and in some cases block.

It's possible for single guys to get back what they put into this site, I guess you just have to ask yourself honestly if you've made enough of an effort.

Best of luck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

The ugly comment was just a joke i am not that insecure lol.

I have loads of people message me, the only problem is they are guys... lol

I always send pictures in my messages and always open to send more so i doubt the lack of pics is the problem.

Maybe the problem is the ratio like you said the women on here get alot of messages. I can only imagine

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By *infulSandyCouple
over a year ago

London

"The ugly comment was just a joke i am not that insecure lol.

I have loads of people message me, the only problem is they are guys... lol

I always send pictures in my messages and always open to send more so i doubt the lack of pics is the problem.

Maybe the problem is the ratio like you said the women on here get alot of messages. I can only imagine"

I think youre still missing the point, like the previous poster said if you have no pics it can put some people off regardless of whether you send some or not.

Yes there are lots of guys so the ratio is against you but the ones that have a lot more success usually put a lot more effort into their profile and presentation.

Your profile, like I said already, is basic and doesn't stand out, many women will look at the profile after seeing a message, right now yours is unlikely to get you much interest.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I do get your point, i just dont think its the reason. Im here to meet nice people who are looking for fun and good times. I cant be reading lengthy profiles all day to then discover that person aint for me or im not for them. Same as writing a big piece about my self. I think mine is short sweet. The same as the lovely ladies who cant be bothered to read the numerous amounts of messages they receive. I agree my profile is average at best but from what ive seen its as informative as others...

Thanks for the advice I'll look into jazzing it up a bit. Might hire a ghost writer lol

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By *infulSandyCouple
over a year ago

London

"I do get your point, i just dont think its the reason. Im here to meet nice people who are looking for fun and good times. I cant be reading lengthy profiles all day to then discover that person aint for me or im not for them. Same as writing a big piece about my self. I think mine is short sweet. The same as the lovely ladies who cant be bothered to read the numerous amounts of messages they receive. I agree my profile is average at best but from what ive seen its as informative as others...

Thanks for the advice I'll look into jazzing it up a bit. Might hire a ghost writer lol"

So you want advice, you just don't want to even contemplate whether or not it might apply to you.

The fact you see reading as too big an effort lets me know you're not seeing it from the other point of view.

It would be nice if things were equal but you are a single guy, numbers aren't in your favour, you can't compare a lady's experience on this site to yours.

A lady will not read countless messages but a good profile (which you don't have) will peak their interest.

Fact is you asked for advice and you're just not accepting it or prefer making light of it.

With your outlook all we can do is wish you luck because we think you will need it.

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By *0tt0nSu3Woman
over a year ago

London

"...Im here to meet nice people who are looking for fun and good times. I cant be reading lengthy profiles all day to then discover that person aint for me or im not for them. Same as writing a big piece about my self. I think mine is short sweet. The same as the lovely ladies who cant be bothered to read the numerous amounts of messages they receive. I agree my profile is average at best but from what ive seen its as informative as others...

You've answered your own question, OP.

Let's flip this question around. If you were looking for women, would you be interested in a shadow profile with an 'average' profile stating that pictures would be provided on request, or a profile with a picture and a well thought out profile displaying her needs and her desires in a witty way? Which one would you skip over, and which one would you pass?

Good luck in your endeavors.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have spoke to women with a shadow profile. As long as they are verified. Then they will send a pic and there is no problem..

Ive had pics up before and realised how risky it can be to my privacy.

I have also approached women with a 'less than average' profile. I have also seen other peoples verifications and the people they hve met have had way less than 'average' profiles.

To be honest i dont mind not being approached as its easier to avoid the people i dont fancy. Most people dont even look at profiles or open messages from people who approach them. They either bulk delete or just dont reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have spoke to women with a shadow profile. As long as they are verified. Then they will send a pic and there is no problem..

Ive had pics up before and realised how risky it can be to my privacy.

I have also approached women with a 'less than average' profile. I have also seen other peoples verifications and the people they hve met have had way less than 'average' profiles.

You can easily put body pics up without showing your face. Don’t resort to cock only pics though. Be creative, it’s your shop window.

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By *educerMan
over a year ago

Brentwood

Easy to put pics up without showing your face, as previous posts have mentioned be creative

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By *0tt0nSu3Woman
over a year ago

London

"I have spoke to women with a shadow profile. As long as they are verified. Then they will send a pic and there is no problem..

Ive had pics up before and realised how risky it can be to my privacy.

I have also approached women with a 'less than average' profile. I have also seen other peoples verifications and the people they hve met have had way less than 'average' profiles.

So you expect the whole world of Fab to be interested in you when you won't put in the effort?

Ok....

I'm going to quote SinfulSandy as they said it so perfectly.

"Fact is you asked for advice and you're just not accepting it or prefer making light of it.

With your outlook all we can do is wish you luck because we think you will need it."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have spoke to women with a shadow profile. As long as they are verified. Then they will send a pic and there is no problem..

Ive had pics up before and realised how risky it can be to my privacy.

I have also approached women with a 'less than average' profile. I have also seen other peoples verifications and the people they hve met have had way less than 'average' profiles.

So you expect the whole world of Fab to be interested in you when you won't put in the effort?

Ok....

I'm going to quote SinfulSandy as they said it so perfectly.

Fact is you asked for advice and you're just not accepting it or prefer making light of it.

With your outlook all we can do is wish you luck because we think you will need it."

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