FabSwingers.com forum: why are single men so unpopular on Fabswingers?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So, I'm relatively new to fabswingers, and I'm happy to pay my dues and get to know everyone one message at time. Which has been great so far. But, are most couples against meeting single guys? How do I get in everyone's good books

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If couples aren't looking for men there is nothing you can do to change that, look for couples that are and mail them with stuff regarding their profile and see if you match what they want.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yeah... I s'pose it is that simple. Thanks

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By *epper123Woman
over a year ago

London

I dont think you can or should try to get into everyone's good books or you would send yourself mad ... be there or abouts, go to clubs and socialise ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are looking for single guys but 99% don't get past the first hurdle or two. Same old common complaints... Lazy boring and rude messages.

Don't read profiles.

One line message.

Just addressing the female.

Rude and downright rude messages

No pictures.

No verifications.

No idea how to hold a basic conversation.

Text speak and basic spelling errors.

All you need to do is be polite, say hello, be interested and interesting and sell yourself a bit.

Make the effort basically.

The OP has a nice profile tho. Not outstanding but ok.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I get it.

thank you x

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By *ondcpl4meetCouple
over a year ago

North of the river

"We are looking for single guys but 99% don't get past the first hurdle or two. Same old common complaints... Lazy boring and rude messages.

Don't read profiles.

One line message.

Just addressing the female.

Rude and downright rude messages

No pictures.

No verifications.

No idea how to hold a basic conversation.

Text speak and basic spelling errors.

All you need to do is be polite, say hello, be interested and interesting and sell yourself a bit.

Make the effort basically.

The OP has a nice profile tho. Not outstanding but ok. "

well said

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By *ubyExpreeWoman
over a year ago

BBBW Heaven

"I dont think you can or should try to get into everyone's good books or you would send yourself mad ... be there or abouts, go to clubs and socialise ...."

Clubs are the way forward.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"So, I'm relatively new to fabswingers, and I'm happy to pay my dues and get to know everyone one message at time. Which has been great so far. But, are most couples against meeting single guys? How do I get in everyone's good books

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Interesting status, op but he is verified by a meet ... how is he the fake and you are not?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Because he sent me 4 private pictures and one of them was actually an old selfie of mine that I used to post on Craigslist a few years ago. He also sent two nude shots, one of a cut dick and another of an uncut dick... interesting. I've seen my pictures pop up on Craigslist from time to time but i didn't expect to see them copied on here.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"Because he sent me 4 private pictures and one of them was actually an old selfie of mine that I used to post on Craigslist a few years ago. He also sent two nude shots, one of a cut dick and another of an uncut dick... interesting. I've seen my pictures pop up on Craigslist from time to time but i didn't expect to see them copied on here. "

I don't understand the fake picks, to be honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ruins it for everyone else. Sad really.

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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford

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. Who said that single men are unpopular . ?If you disregard all the profiles of single men that are three lines or less and also have poor pictures , you will probably find that single men are just as popular as ladies or couples .

As your profile is a key marketing tool , it needs to be detailed and well presented combined with good photos ..

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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford

"Ruins it for everyone else. Sad really."
. It does not ruin it for anyone . You sell yourself onfab fab by having a good well written interesting profile . The actions of others have no impact on the result which you achieve

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By *avid1Man
over a year ago

Dubai

I disagree that single men are unpopular; if they target the correct ladies and couples who are looking for single men. What is upsetting is single men not reading the profiles fully and sending out cut & paste messages on mass to anyone. These are the folk giving single men a bad name, but the way I look at it long may it continue as, for a respectable single man who can string more than a few words together it just makes me stand out a little more at times.

Selfish may be but all is fair in the fab world

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By *lackgrapeMan
over a year ago

Purley

I totally agree with those that believe clubs are the way, as someone who's single try and look at this site as a starting point , as a single guy my priority

was for single women so I decided to go to socials and parties which I found a lot better coz you meet people in person there are many events on display sometimes you may have to travel its all about going that extra mile, you will never know till you try.

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By *epper123Woman
over a year ago

London

We go to a lot of larger parties in London, but only one club now. We do it purely for the social aspect, in terms of the parties ... have a laugh and the pressure is not on in terms of play, which I think is much, much better. Of course, there are some desperate people at both clubs and parties, but you tend to find people on the same level as you are, whatever that is ....

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By *2deelightsCouple
over a year ago

romford

It's just the nature of things. Females and couples can afford to be more choosy than single men. If you look at any wildlife program there are always loads of males of the species trying to get inside the 1 female.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yeah true. Parties or events must be the best way to get to know people properly. Thanks y'all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I work in digital marketing, and I have access to the statistics on another, much smaller and less well known swingers site. The demographic breakdown is insane - assuming it's the same for Fab, it's literally 95% male to 5% female.

Throw in the fact that Fab attracts a lot of guys who can't get laid any other way and thing that swingers are 'easy' (They're not, highly sexed does not mean 'sleep with anyone', it just means they'll sleep with people they're attracted to more') and the fact that a lot of guys blood is, um, often not in their brains when they're on here and you've got a recipe for a boatload of bullshit in lasses and couples inboxes.

Some of them get pissed off, shockingly.

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