FabSwingers.com forum: why my messages will be delete

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi guys .could you tell me why most of my messages will be deleted before thay look at my profile

this is sample of my message I have sent .

Hi gorgeous .My name is Ben .could you please look at my profile hope you like what you see.

I am clean safe shave polie friendly funny and nauhty guy ,can acco every night or travel .I promis you wont be disapoined.if you like first we can have drink .I love your pics and your lovely feedbacks.it would be so nice to meet lovely lady like you.

thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

women get over 200 mails sent to them

if you read around the forms

plenty of topics about it

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By *uud 4-funMan
over a year ago

Dartford

From your post it looks as though you use a very similar message to each person you send to. Try tailoring your responses to pick out some particular part of the profile you liked eg. If they are tall that's the sort of lady you like then say so.

Another thing alot of women say they do not like is text speak and other abbreviations so use correct English spelling and grammar.

Good luck and happy swinging

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

thank u m8

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By *uietlykinkymeWoman
over a year ago

kinky land

If i get a generic message then i look at the profile (i don't show on looked at me) & usually make my decision on that. Sometimes i will check the profile before even opening the message.

As is said on these forums a lot sometimes a polite no thanks just gets more unwanted or nasty messages & the site rules state no response is a no thanks.

Look at other mens profiles. How does yours sell you?

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By *orsetandheelsWoman
over a year ago

Wimbledon

Sex pics - way too many for my preference.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

thank u .i just removed some pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have been on the site for over a year, claim to have been on the scene for 5 years and have 3 verications, all from a 3 day window just 2 weeks ago. To me that doesn't quite sit right and as soon as there is the slightest suspicion that something may not be as it seems then that is it. It's harsh, we are undeniably ruthless and may well be totally wrong but in 5 years never had the need to moan about timewasters.

Other than that, the key to getting a reply is to send a message that gives reason to reply. And yours doesn't. It's generic and impersonal. And if they do look at your profile that isn't much better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sort your spelling out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You have been on the site for over a year, claim to have been on the scene for 5 years and have 3 verications, all from a 3 day window just 2 weeks ago. To me that doesn't quite sit right and as soon as there is the slightest suspicion that something may not be as it seems then that is it. It's harsh, we are undeniably ruthless and may well be totally wrong but in 5 years never had the need to moan about timewasters.

Other than that, the key to getting a reply is to send a message that gives reason to reply. And yours doesn't. It's generic and impersonal. And if they do look at your profile that isn't much better"

And this

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

yes I know I wasnt active here .2 of my feedbacks are from people I know from the other site.but if you look at thair profile you will see thay are genuine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You may just not be their type

go to socials/clubs that may help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The ratio is 100 men to 1 woman and women get swamped with emails, so they delete them, my inbox can be quite for days or a week sometimes lol, I can see a tumble lol.

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

To be honest, it reads like a West African scam email. I half expected it to end with a request for their bank details or the words:

"Me love you long time".

Don't mean to be harsh, just honest. I know a couple of women on here as friends and they'd delete it straight away because of the poor quality of the Emglish. Whether we like it or not, this really, really matters.

I think "hello gorgeous" will be enough to get women deleting en masse - sounds like the kinda rubbish a d*unk bloke in a pub would say.

Keep it classy, gently humorous and show you've gleaned something about their character from their profile (not just looked at pics).

Hope that helps.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

yes thank you m8

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"From your post it looks as though you use a very similar message to each person you send to. Try tailoring your responses to pick out some particular part of the profile you liked eg. If they are tall that's the sort of lady you like then say so.

Another thing alot of women say they do not like is text speak and other abbreviations so use correct English spelling and grammar.

Good luck and happy swinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing worse than a "Round Robin" message.

Always gets deleted by us.

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside

"Hi guys .could you tell me why most of my messages will be deleted before they look at my profile

You'll never know if they are looking at your profile or not before deleting the messages if they have set their profile up to not to show on people's looked at me list!

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