FabSwingers.com forum: Staying positive.

By *ublinGirl92 OP Woman
over a year ago

Hell

So I'm the kind of person who is happy to be alone. I enjoy my own company and like a typical introvert most of my hobbies include technology if some sore.

But even I am starting to feel sad and lonely. I miss speaking out loud to my friends, I miss actual human contact. Mostly just the platonic kind.

Today I've been finding it so hard to stay positive. I feel very weepy and listless.

I've been keeping active and trying to stay busy but nothing I do today is shifting my mood.

Any tips on how to drag myself out of this? I know we are all in the same boat so I thought reaching out might benefit more than just me.

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By *ysteryman2009Man
over a year ago

Ireland

"So I'm the kind of person who is happy to be alone. I enjoy my own company and like a typical introvert most of my hobbies include technology if some sore.

But even I am starting to feel sad and lonely. I miss speaking out loud to my friends, I miss actual human contact. Mostly just the platonic kind.

Today I've been finding it so hard to stay positive. I feel very weepy and listless.

I've been keeping active and trying to stay busy but nothing I do today is shifting my mood.

Any tips on how to drag myself out of this? I know we are all in the same boat so I thought reaching out might benefit more than just me. "

Stay positive and distract yourself with some sort of hobbie that you enjoy, variety is the spice of life. Friends are only a phone call way, or the internet with face time, video char etc. Tell your self you are coming out of this a better person. Upwards and onwards nice lady.

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By *he chef 45Man
over a year ago

Banbridge

Keep the chin up DG phone a family member or friend when you are feeling low and make sure that you let them know that you will lift them if required we WILL get through this but we all need support from others. Stay safe xx

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By *avidc2019Man
over a year ago

dublin

"So I'm the kind of person who is happy to be alone. I enjoy my own company and like a typical introvert most of my hobbies include technology if some sore.

But even I am starting to feel sad and lonely. I miss speaking out loud to my friends, I miss actual human contact. Mostly just the platonic kind.

Today I've been finding it so hard to stay positive. I feel very weepy and listless.

I've been keeping active and trying to stay busy but nothing I do today is shifting my mood.

Any tips on how to drag myself out of this? I know we are all in the same boat so I thought reaching out might benefit more than just me. "
your feelings are perfectly normal I’m the very same boat like you and most people we need actual human contact it’s what keeps us sane really lol like most Ive been doing a lot of cleaning walks playing board games etc I feel chatting online and exchanging conversation on each other situation can be good and even funny,we all are in this together and mental health is very important at times like this we all need a laugh some distraction etc always here if anybody fancies a chat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is tough for us all DG. Sorry to hear your down at the moment, try to keep up as much contact as you can with the ones you love.

If you need a ridiculously beautiful shoulder to cry on, Kaizer is always here along with a whole host of some really super individuals in our very midst

Let's all get through this together and being stronger for it

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By *reland8Man
over a year ago

sandyford

"So I'm the kind of person who is happy to be alone. I enjoy my own company and like a typical introvert most of my hobbies include technology if some sore.

But even I am starting to feel sad and lonely. I miss speaking out loud to my friends, I miss actual human contact. Mostly just the platonic kind.

Today I've been finding it so hard to stay positive. I feel very weepy and listless.

I've been keeping active and trying to stay busy but nothing I do today is shifting my mood.

Any tips on how to drag myself out of this? I know we are all in the same boat so I thought reaching out might benefit more than just me. "

Sorry to hear that x

I hate giving advice when I’m not qualified to but try not think about the things u are missing but think instead and appreciate what you have right now, ur health, the great weather are the minute, the chance to take a breath and relax, sit and have a cup of tea outside and feel the sun on ur face. Stay positive x

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By *ysteryman2009Man
over a year ago

Ireland

Apologies for the suggestion phone had missed that on your profile.

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By *ublinGirl92 OP Woman
over a year ago

Hell

"Apologies for the suggestion phone had missed that on your profile."

I'm only too happy to talk to my friends on the phone or video chat. I can do it but I need people to be quite loud, repeat themselves a lot, etc. My friends don't mind but for here it defeats the purpose of people discreet and theres nothing like telling "what?!" 5 times in a row to kill the mood haha

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By *ublinGirl92 OP Woman
over a year ago

Hell

"Apologies for the suggestion phone had missed that on your profile.

People being discreet* yelling* ffs

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By *ublinGirl92 OP Woman
over a year ago

Hell

Thanks for the suggestions. I feel better already just knowing I'm not alone or overreacting. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for the suggestions. I feel better already just knowing I'm not alone or overreacting. X"

You are not alone DG, today was a very very grumpy Manbeast day

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By *ublinGirl92 OP Woman
over a year ago

Hell

"Thanks for the suggestions. I feel better already just knowing I'm not alone or overreacting. X

You are not alone DG, today was a very very grumpy Manbeast day

Ah sorry to hear that Kaizer. Hope everything is alright and that you're feeling better!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for the suggestions. I feel better already just knowing I'm not alone or overreacting. X

You are not alone DG, today was a very very grumpy Manbeast day

Ah sorry to hear that Kaizer. Hope everything is alright and that you're feeling better!"

All good DG... A glance in the mirror washed all these blues away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a single mum to two young boys. I hear you. I often miss adult company and conversation. I am honestly speaking more to my friends and sister's now via video calling than I ever did before. It's a great way to pass some time. Remember we are all in the same boat, your people will be happy to hear from u. Spend virtual time together. xx

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

Sorry to hear this DG it’s hard to stay positive when everything seems against you Iv had a pretty crap few days myself but I guess what gets me though is that there is a light at the Mc of the tunnel and there is always someone here in this little community of fabbers that will listen to you and help wipe away your tears. When I feel down I always try and think of something that I have to be thankful for and that’s usually what brings me round. Above all else just breathe

if you ever need anyone to talk to I’m here x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Summer is coming..all this will pass and we'll re unite as a country knowing we all absolutely did our bit. Try and focus on the good things to come OP..long summer evenings..bbq's..holidays..only good things ahead..and think of all those meets being pent up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I'm the kind of person who is happy to be alone. I enjoy my own company and like a typical introvert most of my hobbies include technology if some sore.

But even I am starting to feel sad and lonely. I miss speaking out loud to my friends, I miss actual human contact. Mostly just the platonic kind.

Today I've been finding it so hard to stay positive. I feel very weepy and listless.

I've been keeping active and trying to stay busy but nothing I do today is shifting my mood.

Any tips on how to drag myself out of this? I know we are all in the same boat so I thought reaching out might benefit more than just me. "

Can't lie l enjoy my own company too but atm l can still go to work with the job l'm in so lm Out in the World meeting others ,but there has been times on weekends etc that l find myself on my own and l just try to focus on what l enjoy doing , listening to music,playing guitar ,watch a good comedy ,whatever feels like the thing to do at any given time but to me the most important thing is NOT to be beating yourself up over how you approach your day or what you do in it....be your own person

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By *he English OneMan
over a year ago

west

"So I'm the kind of person who is happy to be alone. I enjoy my own company and like a typical introvert most of my hobbies include technology if some sore.

But even I am starting to feel sad and lonely. I miss speaking out loud to my friends, I miss actual human contact. Mostly just the platonic kind.

Today I've been finding it so hard to stay positive. I feel very weepy and listless.

I've been keeping active and trying to stay busy but nothing I do today is shifting my mood.

Any tips on how to drag myself out of this? I know we are all in the same boat so I thought reaching out might benefit more than just me. "

Yeah it's dark times indeed and it is hard to stay positive but if we all help each other the journey through this will be that much more pleasant and I'm sorry to hear this is getting you down I suppose the best I could advise to help lift your spirit is maybe perhaps go for a short walk maybe video chat with friends and family alot of people here are more than happy to chat away to you my door is certainly always open for those in need hopefully things get better soon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *osmicGateMan
over a year ago

louth

Felt like that earlier then just put my head phones in turned on the radio listened to some random music.. Now that song will be in my head all evening floating around don't even know what was wrong with me earlier now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suffer from anxiety and depression and have done for a long time. I’m fine once I’m kept busy but an idle mind gives the dark thoughts time to creepin.

From 6am to 10pm I’m out. Work and gym has me flat out. I was cracking up sitting on the couch all weekend.

What I’ve found that helps is make a plan for the week.

Every hour or 2 have something new. Walk, calls with friends, exercise, cook, read.

Hope this helps. Feel free to pm even for a chat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not easy that's for sure up until today I was going to work. Even enjoyed the hour commute last two weeks but working for m gone tonight and the night shift is hard. I am keeping in touch with friends, listening to music, catching up on TV. Started watching the sopranos from the start.

To keep busy I've been putting together a life list of the stuff I will do when this is over. Stay strong and know plenty here to chat too xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First of all, sending you love and empathy.

I'm in the high risk category so facing another 10 weeks cooped up inside. Add to that, missing E dreadfully - we don't live together - and there have been times when I've felt completely bereft.

Allow yourself to work through your emotions because there has to be a process of coming to terms with all these huge changes to our daily life. There might be times when you feel crippled by it all and it's ok to acknowledge those feelings. I've found that after being extremely unsettled, a kind of reluctant acceptance has set in. I'm working out at home, baking and cooking things I've always wanted to try, doing little jobs around the house that I dont always have time to do. Keeping in regular contact with people has been really important, whether that's been on Skype, Zoom, WhatsApp groups, or virtual coffee mornings. And lastly I've been trying to embrace this less frantic way of life by appreciating the things that often go unnoticed. Keep well x

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By *he English OneMan
over a year ago

west

"So I'm the kind of person who is happy to be alone. I enjoy my own company and like a typical introvert most of my hobbies include technology if some sore.

But even I am starting to feel sad and lonely. I miss speaking out loud to my friends, I miss actual human contact. Mostly just the platonic kind.

Today I've been finding it so hard to stay positive. I feel very weepy and listless.

I've been keeping active and trying to stay busy but nothing I do today is shifting my mood.

Any tips on how to drag myself out of this? I know we are all in the same boat so I thought reaching out might benefit more than just me. "

Oh and another thing cos I know your a bit of gamer not sure if you play pokemon go or not but il be happy to add you to my friends list maybe we can battle here's my trainer code if you want it

0854-9633-5963

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By *ary-JaneWoman
over a year ago

mid ulster

Love this

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By *elfastDMan
over a year ago

belfast

DG I think it’s important that we all still have face to face communication with people. We can very easily slip into messaging and texting and then you find yourself waiting for the beep of a return message. FaceTime, video call, even Cam but face to face is so much easier to gauge peoples moods and humour and get that interaction and reaction/approval of what we say. It will be important to keep that up in the weeks ahead.

Thinking of you

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By *andydevineMan
over a year ago

sligo

I'm having a great time. Surfing, skating hill walking swimming and cycling. It's all within 2km of my house. Iv house mates to hangout with and the garda are not very active around here. Living the beautiful life.

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By *ublinGirl92 OP Woman
over a year ago

Hell

"I'm having a great time. Surfing, skating hill walking swimming and cycling. It's all within 2km of my house. Iv house mates to hangout with and the garda are not very active around here. Living the beautiful life."

Well I'm so fucking happy for you.

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By *andydevineMan
over a year ago

sligo

Thanks, more people more problems. Come west when you can. No one bothers us here. Think il go sea swimming tomorrow. Il post a pic.

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By *he English OneMan
over a year ago

west

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By *he English OneMan
over a year ago

west

"Thanks, more people more problems. Come west when you can. No one bothers us here. Think il go sea swimming tomorrow. Il post a pic."

Really dude just because no one is bothering ye don't mean you can do what you like OP was simply asking for a bit of advice not trying to rub things in her face

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find that distracting myself with either work or doing/thinking of something kind for another person helps no end. For me, there's no better feeling than making someone else's day.... Just a thought

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By *cottybear74Man
over a year ago

kilkenny

The voices keep me company... But they are starting to go crazy.. But I've my hobbies and creative side keeps me going... I'll hug the world when this is over... So there will be free fabber hugs available.

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By *he English OneMan
over a year ago

west

"The voices keep me company... But they are starting to go crazy.. But I've my hobbies and creative side keeps me going... I'll hug the world when this is over... So there will be free fabber hugs available. "

Yeah you can count me in on that giving out hugs maybe a social gathering

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