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By *exytvlegs OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

North co dublin Ireland

And then it stops. I often get message from guys all interested in meet me.They send face pics and chat away about what they like and love to meet me.Will go on for a few day then nothing.But I have been driving to meet .And you get a text can't meet then block you.Has it happen to you.The best one was drove to an hotel and went to you room and from behind the door say after I knocked.A voice say we changed our minds.That was a cpl.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. It's not you baby. It's him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately a lot of guys are just horny and will agree to almost anything when they are sitting and stroking,then the reality kicks in and they loose this nerve

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By *ungry CatCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

Everybody gets flakes like that.

Establish connection and attraction first by meeting for a social before going anywhere else. Meeting someone face to face plays a big part in reducing flakes

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By *uittopMan
over a year ago

South County Dublin


"Everybody gets flakes like that.

Establish connection and attraction first by meeting for a social before going anywhere else. Meeting someone face to face plays a big part in reducing flakes"
I agree, doesn't matter what people say on messages, face to face coffee or a drink and a chat is always good.

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By *antra MassageMan
over a year ago

South Side.

For lots of guys they love the fantasy,.. Then after they've had a wank and orgasm they're no longer interested. So, get to know each other with chat, etc, first. Build up a friendship, the sex will be much better... I laughed at the idea of the couple hiding in their room and speaking through the door...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For lots of guys they love the fantasy,.. Then after they've had a wank and orgasm they're no longer interested. So, get to know each other with chat, etc, first. Build up a friendship, the sex will be much better... I laughed at the idea of the couple hiding in their room and speaking through the door... "

It's frustrating as hell though!

We've been chatting to a guy recently and invited him to meet us for a coffee, he was like "Oh, glengormley is too close to home"

Our first reaction was "wtf does that even mean? One adult meeting another 2 adults for a chat in a coffee shop, what does anyone's home have to do with it"

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By *lassy lady 216Woman
over a year ago

Craigavon

Guys are all talk they are horny when chatting but once reality sets in they are like scared little school boys as for not meeting vecause it was close tohome i can only assumme that he was married and playing away that is what is wrong on this site

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By *ungry CatCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah look, sometimes its just the heat of the moment, the interest wanes, or distractions happen...

C'est la vie.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually know when I move the conversation to Kik if they are genuine or just tyre kickers. They have no interest in meeting but just want the wank fodder as I like to call it.

How do I spot them well usually if the first message on Kik starts with " any naughty pictures" I kind of get the feeling that they just want something to blow their load to. I also suggest a coffee social and if they don't have a interest or fob me off it's Thank you Next!

I think some people think I lie around in my lingerie all day waiting to sext randomers. I don't sext randomers so it's another useful tool in seeing who the legit one's are that want to meet me. Usually by not sexting it quickly culls the tyre kickers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I usually know when I move the conversation to Kik if they are genuine or just tyre kickers. They have no interest in meeting but just want the wank fodder as I like to call it.

How do I spot them well usually if the first message on Kik starts with " any naughty pictures" I kind of get the feeling that they just want something to blow their load to. I also suggest a coffee social and if they don't have a interest or fob me off it's Thank you Next!

I think some people think I lie around in my lingerie all day waiting to sext randomers. I don't sext randomers so it's another useful tool in seeing who the legit one's are that want to meet me. Usually by not sexting it quickly culls the tyre kickers."

Right there with you.

At the start Dirk was quite surprised at how quickly I shut the sexters off with no return.

So I started giving sexters a chance and still have a conversation (not only men, women and couples too). Them conversations mutated into some most bizzare things ever as they went like:

"How are you doing, any naughty plans for this weekend?"

"Hey, we're working all weekend. Hard life eh, what about yourself? Anything exciting?"

"No, will just go lingerie shopping this afternoon"

"That's nice, any special occasion?"

Silence.

6 hours later receive a photo of tits in a dressing room.

"Very nice, is that what you picked?"

"No, didn't get it, prefer being naked".

"Don't we all lol what do you do for living? Would you like to meet for a drink sometime?"

"Haha yes, I'm always naked at home, just love the way my skin feels"(sends a naked photo).

"That's a nice photo, I don't believe we've exchanged face photos"(sends a face photo).

"Oh you guys look nice (sends a face photo sucking a cock or a dildo).

"Do you have any normal face photos?"

"I'm sorry, I'm so naughty, just been so horny all day"(sends more naked photos).

"Hey, I'm sorry, but we're not into sexting, we kinda like to be able to have a normal conversation with people that doesn't always steer into sex"

"Yes, I understand, I'm sorry"

"No problem at all. Let's start over, so what do you do?"

Silence

2 days later

"Hey, any naughty plans for next weekend"

Block.

Obviously that kind of a conversation was had with a female, but men aren't too far off ...

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By *ohnsmithMan
over a year ago

South Tipperary


"Everybody gets flakes like that.

Establish connection and attraction first by meeting for a social before going anywhere else. Meeting someone face to face plays a big part in reducing flakes"
100% with ye guys. Cut the keyboard pushers...

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By *iving guy95Man
over a year ago

lusk

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By *exytvlegs OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

North co dublin Ireland

Thank you all.some of the messages are follows.wow you better looking then most of the woman on here.not true the woman on here are gorgeous.And no guys read a profile in the last week I had 12 messages out of them 9 have face hair and smoke.they get annoyed and call you not nice things when you point out to read my profile.and that guys who send message like do you want to fxxx or I will let you give me a BJ IF YOU R A GOOD GIRL. I guy think TVS will play with anyone and everyone. I have to like what I see man or woman but I do prefer woman these day more in common with them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I usually know when I move the conversation to Kik if they are genuine or just tyre kickers. They have no interest in meeting but just want the wank fodder as I like to call it.

How do I spot them well usually if the first message on Kik starts with " any naughty pictures" I kind of get the feeling that they just want something to blow their load to. I also suggest a coffee social and if they don't have a interest or fob me off it's Thank you Next!

I think some people think I lie around in my lingerie all day waiting to sext randomers. I don't sext randomers so it's another useful tool in seeing who the legit one's are that want to meet me. Usually by not sexting it quickly culls the tyre kickers.

Right there with you.

At the start Dirk was quite surprised at how quickly I shut the sexters off with no return.

So I started giving sexters a chance and still have a conversation (not only men, women and couples too). Them conversations mutated into some most bizzare things ever as they went like:

"How are you doing, any naughty plans for this weekend?"

"Hey, we're working all weekend. Hard life eh, what about yourself? Anything exciting?"

"No, will just go lingerie shopping this afternoon"

"That's nice, any special occasion?"

Silence.

6 hours later receive a photo of tits in a dressing room.

"Very nice, is that what you picked?"

"No, didn't get it, prefer being naked".

"Don't we all lol what do you do for living? Would you like to meet for a drink sometime?"

"Haha yes, I'm always naked at home, just love the way my skin feels"(sends a naked photo).

"That's a nice photo, I don't believe we've exchanged face photos"(sends a face photo).

"Oh you guys look nice (sends a face photo sucking a cock or a dildo).

"Do you have any normal face photos?"

"I'm sorry, I'm so naughty, just been so horny all day"(sends more naked photos).

"Hey, I'm sorry, but we're not into sexting, we kinda like to be able to have a normal conversation with people that doesn't always steer into sex"

"Yes, I understand, I'm sorry"

"No problem at all. Let's start over, so what do you do?"

Silence

2 days later

"Hey, any naughty plans for next weekend"

Block.

Obviously that kind of a conversation was had with a female, but men aren't too far off ... "

Here Missus do ya happen to have her contact details..........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you all.some of the messages are follows.wow you better looking then most of the woman on here.not true the woman on here are gorgeous.And no guys read a profile in the last week I had 12 messages out of them 9 have face hair and smoke.they get annoyed and call you not nice things when you point out to read my profile.and that guys who send message like do you want to fxxx or I will let you give me a BJ IF YOU R A GOOD GIRL. I guy think TVS will play with anyone and everyone. I have to like what I see man or woman but I do prefer woman these day more in common with them "

Women get all of the above multiplied by 10. You are not alone. We all go through it. One thing to remember- there is always at least one gem who will make it all worth it. You just have to be patient.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I usually know when I move the conversation to Kik if they are genuine or just tyre kickers. They have no interest in meeting but just want the wank fodder as I like to call it.

How do I spot them well usually if the first message on Kik starts with " any naughty pictures" I kind of get the feeling that they just want something to blow their load to. I also suggest a coffee social and if they don't have a interest or fob me off it's Thank you Next!

I think some people think I lie around in my lingerie all day waiting to sext randomers. I don't sext randomers so it's another useful tool in seeing who the legit one's are that want to meet me. Usually by not sexting it quickly culls the tyre kickers.

Right there with you.

At the start Dirk was quite surprised at how quickly I shut the sexters off with no return.

So I started giving sexters a chance and still have a conversation (not only men, women and couples too). Them conversations mutated into some most bizzare things ever as they went like:

"How are you doing, any naughty plans for this weekend?"

"Hey, we're working all weekend. Hard life eh, what about yourself? Anything exciting?"

"No, will just go lingerie shopping this afternoon"

"That's nice, any special occasion?"

Silence.

6 hours later receive a photo of tits in a dressing room.

"Very nice, is that what you picked?"

"No, didn't get it, prefer being naked".

"Don't we all lol what do you do for living? Would you like to meet for a drink sometime?"

"Haha yes, I'm always naked at home, just love the way my skin feels"(sends a naked photo).

"That's a nice photo, I don't believe we've exchanged face photos"(sends a face photo).

"Oh you guys look nice (sends a face photo sucking a cock or a dildo).

"Do you have any normal face photos?"

"I'm sorry, I'm so naughty, just been so horny all day"(sends more naked photos).

"Hey, I'm sorry, but we're not into sexting, we kinda like to be able to have a normal conversation with people that doesn't always steer into sex"

"Yes, I understand, I'm sorry"

"No problem at all. Let's start over, so what do you do?"

Silence

2 days later

"Hey, any naughty plans for next weekend"

Block.

Obviously that kind of a conversation was had with a female, but men aren't too far off ...

Here Missus do ya happen to have her contact details..........

"

Which one? There's at least a dozen floating around lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you all.some of the messages are follows.wow you better looking then most of the woman on here.not true the woman on here are gorgeous.And no guys read a profile in the last week I had 12 messages out of them 9 have face hair and smoke.they get annoyed and call you not nice things when you point out to read my profile.and that guys who send message like do you want to fxxx or I will let you give me a BJ IF YOU R A GOOD GIRL. I guy think TVS will play with anyone and everyone. I have to like what I see man or woman but I do prefer woman these day more in common with them

Women get all of the above multiplied by 10. You are not alone. We all go through it. One thing to remember- there is always at least one gem who will make it all worth it. You just have to be patient. "

Fab is like panning for gold eventually after wading through the muck and the fuckwits you will find the gems.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


".

Fab is like panning for gold eventually after wading through the muck and the fuckwits you will find the gems. "

If you find a gem when looking for gold your in the wrong fucking place Rosey

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


".

Fab is like panning for gold eventually after wading through the muck and the fuckwits you will find the gems.

If you find a gem when looking for gold your in the wrong fucking place Rosey"

She's bang on right though.

Dirt - general inbox.

Gold - people you make connections with and forums.

Gems - ones you meet and they blow your mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


".

Fab is like panning for gold eventually after wading through the muck and the fuckwits you will find the gems.

If you find a gem when looking for gold your in the wrong fucking place Rosey"

I tried looking for gold but it didn't pan out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never sext or exchange pics with anyone you haven't already played with. Keeps the wankers at bay

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never sext or exchange pics with anyone you haven't already played with. Keeps the wankers at bay "

This.

Also most on here can't do ordinary exploring chat either. They soon quickly loose interest and they move on to another. Can take months to find someone interesting enough to hold attention. But when you do you hold them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never sext or exchange pics with anyone you haven't already played with. Keeps the wankers at bay

This.

Also most on here can't do ordinary exploring chat either. They soon quickly loose interest and they move on to another. Can take months to find someone interesting enough to hold attention. But when you do you hold them."

It's a balance, too much chat and they're in the friendzone

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By *exytvlegs OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

North co dublin Ireland

Not all paned out you looking in the wrong places

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve had it many times with women here. Your playing mail tennis and then nothing. Or a few mails and over to kik and it’s like getting teeth out of their mouth. Some just want the excitement and have no intention of ever meeting. Some have contacted me and say I’ve a great profile and it’s just why they are looking for and I reply back and forth a bit and then absolutely nothing. Time wasters but fuck all you can do except play the game.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Fab is like panning for gold eventually after wading through the muck and the fuckwits you will find the gems. "

Luckily we know a few gems

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never sext or exchange pics with anyone you haven't already played with. Keeps the wankers at bay "

Really? I don't think I'd be willing to meet someone without sexting them first. It's such a great way to establish kinks in common, chemistry etc. I can't be arsed meeting someone for coffee if I don't at least know he's into the same things as me.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down


"

Fab is like panning for gold eventually after wading through the muck and the fuckwits you will find the gems. "

Luckily I have found some as well

I always chat for a while before I meet anyone. You get a pretty good idea then if they are genuine or not. While most chats do just die away the ones that don't are usually worth it when you meet I have found anyhow.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to chat but can nearly tell in first few messages, If I haven't met a guy sexting is weird. Just feel they say anything to get themselves off and fill you with crap in the chance you might send a naughty pic.

If I've met and theirs chemistry the sexting is definitely on the table. Love to tease.

But I'm also conscious of they chatting to me they chatting to a few other women too.

I find because of my work hours it's hard to find time to meet. Thankfully have had a few gems need to find one or two more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never sext or exchange pics with anyone you haven't already played with. Keeps the wankers at bay

Really? I don't think I'd be willing to meet someone without sexting them first. It's such a great way to establish kinks in common, chemistry etc. I can't be arsed meeting someone for coffee if I don't at least know he's into the same things as me. "

Yes really, sexting creates expectations that are rarely lived up to in my experience.

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By *iving guy95Man
over a year ago

lusk

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By *iving guy95Man
over a year ago

lusk

I all ways like to get to know a lady by texting you have an idea of the likes and dislikes

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By *exytvlegs OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

North co dublin Ireland

I have never met anyone without chatting. The ladys on here I have met I was chatting for a few weeks then kik then real meet. But you do a lot of chatting and nothing g happens

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