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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Two situations which makes me think what is wrong with people:

One. A husband/wife trade more time for a lover (sex)(spending more time with their lover) instead of spending time with their beautiful beloved children and partner(every genuine alpha people love and do prioritize their families), but his/her partner isn't clear what the other partners is doing by not spending enough time with them(skipping some family duties). So in my conclusion I call it cowardness, messed up feelings from a moment, a heartless person, immaturity, and not alpha at at all and probably lying to both women/men and probably may end up alone and blaming others.

Situation Two. The same as situation number one, but both partners are okay about it, they both know about eachother being in an affair. But one of the partners want to spend more time with their lover other than the family who will always be there when her/need. My conclusion is still the same(just my democratic humble opinion).

I would never trade my family for anything ever...

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By *andomCaptainMan
over a year ago

Roscommon

Ok!

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By *he SophisticatsCouple
over a year ago

Casa Del Fun

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin

No offence OP but you have not explained what you mean to say very well.

Maybe try again, being more "wordy", so that people can understand the point you are making and can then respond appropriately

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

Youre saying its okay to have other partners as long as it does not come at the expense of your children etc?

I always wonder where married people find the time to cheat. I am single, nothing to do, and cant even find the time to go on a date. But some men are married with kids, and 2 or 3 women on the side.

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin


"Youre saying its okay to have other partners as long as it does not come at the expense of your children etc?

I always wonder where married people find the time to cheat. I am single, nothing to do, and cant even find the time to go on a date. But some men are married with kids, and 2 or 3 women on the side."

Yeah, feckin multitaskers piss me off too!!

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city


"Youre saying its okay to have other partners as long as it does not come at the expense of your children etc?

I always wonder where married people find the time to cheat. I am single, nothing to do, and cant even find the time to go on a date. But some men are married with kids, and 2 or 3 women on the side.

Yeah, feckin multitaskers piss me off too!! "

Doesnt piss me off, just wonder how they do it. Do they give up biscuits and tea?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Youre saying its okay to have other partners as long as it does not come at the expense of your children etc?

I always wonder where married people find the time to cheat. I am single, nothing to do, and cant even find the time to go on a date. But some men are married with kids, and 2 or 3 women on the side."

That is what I have been wondering too. Even me having a child who I give as much time as I can and to a gf... It's pretty impossible to have an affair (even though I am opened for it)... Swinging is super occasional for my own person... I know people do whatever they whish, but come on...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No offence OP but you have not explained what you mean to say very well.

Maybe try again, being more "wordy", so that people can understand the point you are making and can then respond appropriately "

Read Devil's response, he got it right...

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin


"No offence OP but you have not explained what you mean to say very well.

Maybe try again, being more "wordy", so that people can understand the point you are making and can then respond appropriately

Read Devil's response, he got it right..."

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

So you're assuming that everyone having a lover/affair automatically neglects their family and partner to spend time with their lovers? And what has the whole thing to do with being alpha?

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin


"So you're assuming that everyone having a lover/affair automatically neglects their family and partner to spend time with their lovers? And what has the whole thing to do with being alpha? "

Don't know about the alpha bit but I guess that any time spent away from family/ partner is time that could have been spent with them.

The counter argument is that if that time away makes you a happier person, then the remaining time spent with family/ partner is more "quality" time and hence more valuable to them.

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of


"So you're assuming that everyone having a lover/affair automatically neglects their family and partner to spend time with their lovers? And what has the whole thing to do with being alpha?

Don't know about the alpha bit but I guess that any time spent away from family/ partner is time that could have been spent with them.

The counter argument is that if that time away makes you a happier person, then the remaining time spent with family/ partner is more "quality" time and hence more valuable to them."

Nobody spends 24-7 with their family and we all need some timeouts, some go to the gym, some hook regularly up with friends, some go hiking etc etc some might have a lover. Doesn't make you automatically an immature, selfish coward of a father or mother.

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin


"So you're assuming that everyone having a lover/affair automatically neglects their family and partner to spend time with their lovers? And what has the whole thing to do with being alpha?

Don't know about the alpha bit but I guess that any time spent away from family/ partner is time that could have been spent with them.

The counter argument is that if that time away makes you a happier person, then the remaining time spent with family/ partner is more "quality" time and hence more valuable to them.

Nobody spends 24-7 with their family and we all need some timeouts, some go to the gym, some hook regularly up with friends, some go hiking etc etc some might have a lover. Doesn't make you automatically an immature, selfish coward of a father or mother. "

Completely agree.

If something you do in your own time makes you a better father/mother/person, then do it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So you're assuming that everyone having a lover/affair automatically neglects their family and partner to spend time with their lovers? And what has the whole thing to do with being alpha?

Don't know about the alpha bit but I guess that any time spent away from family/ partner is time that could have been spent with them.

The counter argument is that if that time away makes you a happier person, then the remaining time spent with family/ partner is more "quality" time and hence more valuable to them."

Another good point too. But I can't compare oil and water, they don't mix... Just me being too monochrome

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By *ustin-SiderMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"So you're assuming that everyone having a lover/affair automatically neglects their family and partner to spend time with their lovers? And what has the whole thing to do with being alpha?

Don't know about the alpha bit but I guess that any time spent away from family/ partner is time that could have been spent with them.

The counter argument is that if that time away makes you a happier person, then the remaining time spent with family/ partner is more "quality" time and hence more valuable to them.

Another good point too. But I can't compare oil and water, they don't mix... Just me being too monochrome"

So if we choose to seek happiness outside of being devoted to our kids/family then we're selfish or cowardly? Is that the gist or have I missed something?

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

It wwouldn't be THAT hard to find the time. Someone could have an affair in their lunch hour if they chose to and still prioritise family. There isnt necessarily a link between having an affair and neglecting your family, although I'm sure some people do have this issue.

Also.. I would make a very clear distinction between an affair where the partner is NOT aware and swinging where the partner IS aware/supportive. It's certainly possible for both to he damaging to family, but at least one is honest.

On a side note it's also possible for a husband and wife combo to be so focused on swinging that spare time is spent here, rather than with their kids. That can be damaging also. This place can be addictive.

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