FabSwingers.com forum: I know this has been asked a thousand times but...

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm relatively new on here, a few weeks, but am having zero luck when it comes to messaging people. I filled out my profile as best I could, I have a profile pic, and when I send a message, I always read the person's profile and am respectful in whatever message I send. I don't send dick pics, don't say "wanna fuck" or whatever, I write a normal, respectful message.

Either it's not read (which I understand due to the sheer volume women receive) it's read and deleted, or there is one reply and then nothing after.

I don't mean to sound like a moaner, or be a misogynistic asshole, because I'm not angry or blaming or anything. I'm just perplexed as to what Im doing wrong, or what I can improve on.

Any advice appreciated, sorry for the diatribe haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey fella

Look you're not doing anything wrong but you are just gonna have to stick at it and take your time, it's not going to happen over night unless your very lucky.

My advise would be to just stick with it, interact in the forums and let ppl get to know you and let them see your personality and let them decide if you're worth taking a chance on. It's not easy but nothing ever worth while ever is. This is not an escort site these are real ppl with real lives and real jobs and real wants. No one's is gonna jump for the new guy as guys here are a dime a dozen and well verified too.

Sit back , get stuck in and have patience your time will come but you'll have to give it just that..... time.

Welcome and hope to see you in the rooms for chats for some daily banter.

Best of luck pal

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks so much for this reply. Means alot. Shows there are nice people on here! Much appreciated!

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

First thing I do is look at a person's profile when I read a new message. If that interests me then I'll chat. Otherwise it's usually a no thanks message or a delete I'm afraid.

It is a lot harder for guys. But chat on the forums or in the chat rooms get to know people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Flesh the profile out a bit,let people know a bit more about you,put up more pics,engage more on the forums and attend as many socials as possible,

Hope this helps!

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By *ipskyMan
over a year ago

: An Autumn Haze

In my opinion..

You definitely need more pics.

And, at this early stage at least, you need to put a lot more detail into the written part of your profile about yourself and your interests. Not a generality about looking for fun - as everybody is looking for fun.

Be respectful and polite, always. Don't take anything personally. Keep putting the effort in and as mentioned above, it takes time, time, time, time, time...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you, I think I will flesh out the profile a bit

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks it does help! Will be more a rive in the forums from now on I think

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It's great to get a woman's perspective on this! I think I'll work on the profile and be more active in the forums. Thanks again!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try being a 51 year old TV cross dresser and see how much luck you have lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Haha I can only imagine

Also where are these fabled social meets I hear so much about?

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