FabSwingers.com forum: Accommodating Can or Can’t

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Does someone’s status of being able to accommodate or not play a deciding factor in your decision to meet someone or seek them out.

I’ve noticed a distinct change in number of messages since I changed mine.

Thoughts?

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By *rederick2000Man
over a year ago

Out and About near you

Fabers that accommodate are always my first choice. It's so much easier than arranging hotel meets and i much rather spend my money on a bunch of flowers or a box of chocolates for my host.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We prefer hotel meets so it really makes no difference to us

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By *oxic1998Woman
over a year ago

Belfast

Prefer hotel meets.....I wouldnt go to a fabbers house unless I really knew them well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I'd be very reluctant to go to someone's house too .... if there was an invite going on the first place haha

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By *arcolemMan
over a year ago

Killarney

I would need to meet in person first before inviting them to my house. Can be scary having a total stranger in your house.

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By *at3232Woman
over a year ago

the moon

Usually cannot accommodate means attached..

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By *eductively_SweetWoman
over a year ago

wexford

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By *eductively_SweetWoman
over a year ago

wexford

"Usually cannot accommodate means attached.."

It doesn't it can mean they have kids.

They houseshare

They leave at home

Or just dont want a number of strangers in their home safety and all that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Usually cannot accommodate means attached.."

attached.."

Not at all completely disagree. Some prefer not to as you’re inviting someone into your home in the past if I met someone socially etc first I’d consider accommodating but I’ve decided for myself that I won’t any longer for safety reasons. I’m deffo single!

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By *eductively_SweetWoman
over a year ago

wexford

Because I dont accommodate I get offered car meets 80% of the time

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By *eductively_SweetWoman
over a year ago

wexford

"Usually cannot accommodate means attached..

It doesn't it can mean they have kids.

They houseshare

They leave at home

Or just dont want a number of strangers in their home safety and all that."

*live at home

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By *at3232Woman
over a year ago

the moon

"Usually cannot accommodate means attached..

attached.."

Each to their own. I'm talking about men's profile and my experience

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By *at3232Woman
over a year ago

the moon

"Does someone’s status of being able to accommodate or not play a deciding factor in your decision to meet someone or seek them out.

I’ve noticed a distinct change in number of messages since I changed mine.

Thoughts? "

What change did you notice?

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By *hett and scarlettCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

Even before we had kids, we wouldn’t accommodate nor do a visit, and would only do hotel meets.

Makes for more fun anyway in our experience as you have the option of a drink at the bar and also you don’t have to run around straightening up!

That’s even before you factor in security and privacy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Even before we had kids, we wouldn’t accommodate nor do a visit, and would only do hotel meets.

Makes for more fun anyway in our experience as you have the option of a drink at the bar and also you don’t have to run around straightening up!

That’s even before you factor in security and privacy!"

And you don't have to worry about how to get rid of them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's one of the first things I look for when searching or looking at a profile.

I've had a few no shows at hotels that I ended up paying for so I stopped them unless the other was willing to book it, which never has happened for some reason.

I do prefer the more relaxed atmosphere of a home, and Ive always felt paying for accommodation for a meet a bit strange for me too.

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By *adBountyMan
over a year ago

Northside ;) D7

Some fabbers defo have some preferences, I much rather accommodating or been accommodated to be able to spare the hotel's fee on treats depending on tge occasion bottle of wine, toys lol That does not mean I wouldn't pay for it. Conveniently each of us know what we want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have accomodate down but need to change it. I'm single but don't accomodate as family live with me. I don't bring strangers into my home, and would definitely need to feel comfortable with whoever I would invite over.

The amount of guys who think because you can accommodate that we would invite someone over for a cup of tea without ever meeting them. Sorry way to many nutters and lunatics in this country.

And than you have oh how about some car fun sorry if a guy can't go half's on a hotel with me I ain't getting down and dirty in your car

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By *rmrspumpCouple
over a year ago

narnia

It doesn't make much differance to us, we we always arrange accommodation, never at our home, we arrange accommodation elsewhere. This way we are always in control of the situation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ideally Fab options should include accomodate in hotel...in with the no strangers in my house brigade...but then I do prefer a 1st social meet to decide who may be coming home or to a hotel.

I never associate "cannot accommodate" with the person being attached.

to be honest I think I prefer the Hotel meet, it adds to the evening, the atmosphere , the sexcitement

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does someone’s status of being able to accommodate or not play a deciding factor in your decision to meet someone or seek them out.

I’ve noticed a distinct change in number of messages since I changed mine.

Thoughts? "

I take it you've had a decrease in mail received yea?

I never ever accommodate. I did once & it turned into a nightmare.

He used to turn-up unannounced at my door at all times of the day. I almost has to get the Police involved. Thankfully 2 of my Fab male friends got involved & it ceased his behavior.

I wouldn't mind I'd met him a good few times socially first in restaurants etc... & never thought he'd be that type. He was actually stalking me

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By *at3232Woman
over a year ago

the moon

"It's one of the first things I look for when searching or looking at a profile.

I've had a few no shows at hotels that I ended up paying for so I stopped them unless the other was willing to book it, which never has happened for some reason.

I do prefer the more relaxed atmosphere of a home, and Ive always felt paying for accommodation for a meet a bit strange for me too."

I have always booked and paid for hotels. Sometimes been stung! Home would be for someone i have known for a while and trust.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Does someone’s status of being able to accommodate or not play a deciding factor in your decision to meet someone or seek them out.

I’ve noticed a distinct change in number of messages since I changed mine.

Thoughts?

I take it you've had a decrease in mail received yea?

I never ever accommodate. I did once & it turned into a nightmare.

He used to turn-up unannounced at my door at all times of the day. I almost has to get the Police involved. Thankfully 2 of my Fab male friends got involved & it ceased his behavior.

I wouldn't mind I'd met him a good few times socially first in restaurants etc... & never thought he'd be that type. He was actually stalking me

Yes a decline lol I had this exact situation turned up dunk unannounced late one night and I had family with me like that met good few times prior to that. with me so since I’ve come back on here I’ve decided it’s not happening

Another thing I noted was just because you have down that you can accommodate and they can’t there’s an immediate assumption you will all the time. Change of scenery is a good as anything I’ve no issues splitting cost of a hotel but can’t stand people who are stingy and won’t.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does someone’s status of being able to accommodate or not play a deciding factor in your decision to meet someone or seek them out.

I’ve noticed a distinct change in number of messages since I changed mine.

Thoughts?

I take it you've had a decrease in mail received yea?

I never ever accommodate. I did once & it turned into a nightmare.

He used to turn-up unannounced at my door at all times of the day. I almost has to get the Police involved. Thankfully 2 of my Fab male friends got involved & it ceased his behavior.

I wouldn't mind I'd met him a good few times socially first in restaurants etc... & never thought he'd be that type. He was actually stalking me

OMG weren't you lucky you had family with you. Yes I agree a change of scenery is most definitely an advantage an escapism or whatever. Stay Safe Girl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't accommodate simple fact I live with members of family that don't know I dress etc. So am kinda stuck with trying to find someone who wants a submissive in Belfast

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to accommodate until a fabber started stalking my house at night and telling me he was not far away and just wanted to come talk to me..I have since moved and its now new house, new rules..no accommodating..made me nervous as hell..i get a lot less mail but I don't care..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I used to accommodate until a fabber started stalking my house at night and telling me he was not far away and just wanted to come talk to me..I have since moved and its now new house, new rules..no accommodating..made me nervous as hell..i get a lot less mail but I don't care..

With you there totally agree I moved also having the same rules as you

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I am single but I don't accommodate as I'm house sharing with family and there is no way I'm bringing people I don't know properly to my home especially when it's the first few meets. You hear of too many stories about people turning up unwanted. It doesn't bother me if someone can or can't accomadate there is always alternatives.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m here bo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a tent anyway..

just need a hand to pitch it..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have a tent anyway..

just need a hand to pitch it..

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By *entleman PoliteMan
over a year ago

Mars

There are weirdos everywhere. Used to accommodate in the past. Until some one invited herself few times.

If some one is asking for you to accommodate absolutely that's a red light. There are hotels every where, everyone should be happy with this.

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By *unnyfookMan
over a year ago

Naas

"Does someone’s status of being able to accommodate or not play a deciding factor in your decision to meet someone or seek them out.

I’ve noticed a distinct change in number of messages since I changed mine.

Thoughts? "

if you can't acom it's less likely I would meet someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can and have done , good and bad experience. Not something I would rush into .

But if they can’t accommodate also, I would be inclined to be interested in excuse or reasons .

Not fair one left washing the dirty sheets all the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does someone’s status of being able to accommodate or not play a deciding factor in your decision to meet someone or seek them out.

I’ve noticed a distinct change in number of messages since I changed mine.

Thoughts? "

I (Mrs) think it is better to meet in the hotel.

We have kids at home and of course it wouldn't happen we will invite people there.

I have chatted with a few ladies when we have joined fab two years ago a first time about accommodation and they said: it is not safety any more: stalkers and psychos. For some of them who have kids its absolutely no. The house is their kids sanctuary.

I have seen a lot 'no accommodate' statuses in the profiles and totally understand the reason why.

Some couples or single men can and send the invites but we prefer a social first to see with whom we have a pleasure to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does someone’s status of being able to accommodate or not play a deciding factor in your decision to meet someone or seek them out.

I’ve noticed a distinct change in number of messages since I changed mine.

Thoughts? "

Yes definitely. We don't accom because of proximity of family, so the other party being able to accommodate negates the need for a hotel room and babysitters and all that other stuff for a night away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It does generally matter to.me. I travel a lot with work so if I'm in area just for the day I'd prefer she can accommodate. Although this weekend I had my first car meet (not pre planned) in over 5 years and it was way more manageable then I remember.

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By *sexyoneWoman
over a year ago

Northside

I don't meet if guys cant acomodate most are cheating on the wife's and tired of the excuse cant acomodate as just moved back home saving for a house and he is like 40 years old all bollox if u can't acomodate just say it on your profile

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By *yesgreenMan
over a year ago

north and south

"I don't meet if guys cant acomodate most are cheating on the wife's and tired of the excuse cant acomodate as just moved back home saving for a house and he is like 40 years old all bollox if u can't acomodate just say it on your profile "
I can accommodate but rarely do as after a 13 hour shift I want to relax and go to a nice hotel for a drink and meet some lovely company , Mind you if any submissive females want to tidy up that's great and we can have fun after

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Usually cannot accommodate means attached.."

I am not attached but certainly don’t fancy perfect strangers knowing where I live

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...

Im single and don't ever accommodate simply because id rather keep my fab life and private life separate ive kids so don't want strangers to my home..

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By *ORETHANUSCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

We have gone the hotel route so far. We make a night of it and if it stays as just a social we will have our own fun.

If we start to meet a couple or single regularly and have that element of trust then we might accommodate.

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By *murphMan
over a year ago

drogheda

"Usually cannot accommodate means attached..

I am not attached but certainly don’t fancy perfect strangers knowing where I live

I’m not attached but I prefer keep this side of my life private I always meet in a hotel as if meet just turns out to be social either party can leave when ever they want

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

Interesting read, I would have never thought that 'cannot accommodate' gets less mail. Great additional filter so.

'Cannot accommodate' certainly wouldn't deter me from approaching someone who's profile sparked my naughty mind. A hotel room solves the problem.

Anyhow I've to say though I prefer private accommodation, especially when it's a regular/repeat meet. Also dinner tastes so much better when someone cooks it just for you.

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By *oey4somefunMan
over a year ago

Dublin/Drogheda

I don't see cannot accommodate as off putting. Everyone is intilleled to choose whether to accommodate or not even if they are married, single or have kids. It's there house any personally I wouldn't be inviting strangers into my house with so many fakes on here so I can se why some ladies don't accom. Also some people have nosy neighbours and don't want them talking about you having different people calling around. Social meets first then hotels for fun meets. People like to keep fab life separate from their day to day life too.

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

"Fabers that accommodate are always my first choice. It's so much easier than arranging hotel meets and i much rather spend my money on a bunch of flowers or a box of chocolates for my host.

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honestly I’d prefer the hotel meet my home Is my home where my children live. A bunch of flowers may look nice but for me I’d like to keep my swinging away from my own home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get messages off guys saying they can accommodate. Ah the back seat of your car doesn't count as accommodation!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I cant accommodate, I'm a single man of a few years, I cant accommodate cause I had to move back home with my family after splitting from my ex..i work a full time job and from the day I moved home I've been looking for a place of my own, but nothing around my work or my kide is popping up..there is circumstances where men cant accommodate genuinely, but if I had my own place I wouldn't have anyone stay over unless it was a repeat meet and I knew them well enough..

I'm more than happy to drive anywhere in the country and pay for a hotel if I click with someone..

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By *allyWally19Woman
over a year ago

The Road to Nowhere

It wouldn't put me off a guy in he can or can't accommodate. I generally could accommodate but I'm wary about bringing people into my home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would only accommodate now if I had met them a few times and trusted them. I was a bit naive and stupid when I started out in the lifestyle two years ago. So I have learnt a few hard lessons. I can laugh about it now but I had a meet in my house and he stayed the night. The sex was pretty meh as he had whiskey dick but he promised he would make up for it. Next morning he woke me up at 6am for another feeble attempt to ride me. He made his excuses to use my bathroom. Next thing I hear a car pulling out of my drive at high speed never to be seen again. Obviously I was upset to be treated with that little regard but it taught me a very harsh lesson. Was kinda raging I didn't lock my gate like I normally do that would have being priceless

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would only accommodate now if I had met them a few times and trusted them. I was a bit naive and stupid when I started out in the lifestyle two years ago. So I have learnt a few hard lessons. I can laugh about it now but I had a meet in my house and he stayed the night. The sex was pretty meh as he had whiskey dick but he promised he would make up for it. Next morning he woke me up at 6am for another feeble attempt to ride me. He made his excuses to use my bathroom. Next thing I hear a car pulling out of my drive at high speed never to be seen again. Obviously I was upset to be treated with that little regard but it taught me a very harsh lesson. Was kinda raging I didn't lock my gate like I normally do that would have being priceless

That's just rude, sneaking out like a theif

Would have been hilarious if the gate had been locked, having to sheepishly ring the doorbell to be let out

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...

"I get messages off guys saying they can accommodate. Ah the back seat of your car doesn't count as accommodation! "

Funny as fuck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You could almost write a Netflix comedy series at this stage

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We wouldn’t have a problem accommodating if we knew the people. But it doesn’t always suit in our house so we prefer to do hotel meets when we get someone to babysit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer hotel meets unless im meeting a regular playmate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You could almost write a Netflix comedy series at this stage

Haha the working title is " My UnFab Life"

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By *allyWally19Woman
over a year ago

The Road to Nowhere

Ohhh similar situation only I went to the bathroom, came back & he was gone. Some charmers right??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ohhh similar situation only I went to the bathroom, came back & he was gone. Some charmers right?? "

God sorry to hear it happened to you as well. We were quite literally ghosted they just vanished into thin air

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does someone’s status of being able to accommodate or not play a deciding factor in your decision to meet someone or seek them out.

I’ve noticed a distinct change in number of messages since I changed mine.

Thoughts? "

Shouldn't make a difference I've met women in their houses before but always after a public meet. Was due to be a fondle in the car but half way through she said to cum back to hers. Never a deal breaker

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By *allyWally19Woman
over a year ago

The Road to Nowhere

Ohhh similar situation only I went to the bathroom, came back & he was gone. Some charmers right??

God sorry to hear it happened to you as well. We were quite literally ghosted they just vanished into thin air

Perhaps we have a super power?

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By *r_mrs_studmuffinCouple
over a year ago

narnia

We would always go to a hotel for our meets and we wouldn't expect the other person to pay half of it. That way if the person was local they could head home after it was all over and we would stay the night and head home the next day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He obviously felt ashamed at not being as able as he thought and couldn't face the thought of you being disappointed. One reason I don't like meeting if there's been more than one or two drinks already.

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By *ouble Trouble 1000Couple
over a year ago

ireland

"It doesn't make much differance to us, we we always arrange accommodation, never at our home, we arrange accommodation elsewhere. This way we are always in control of the situation"

Same for us !

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By *upermanslovechildMan
over a year ago

Glasnevin

"Usually cannot accommodate means attached.."

Not really, could mean you have kids at home(i.e divorced/separated)

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