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By *ealitybites OP   Man
over a year ago

Belfast

I'm genuinely curious of the thought process that couples go through in deciding which if any single men they are prepared to chat to or consider meeting.

This is not another one of those"what am I doing wrong?" threads.

I am more than happy with my level of engagement with those who know me and have met both socially and intimately.

However 99% of messages to couples are deleted without response and the other 1% are,"not for us" replies.

My messages are always consistent with my profile and are respectful and non demanding.

When viewing verifications that some of those couples have received they are often from guys with no public pics or little or no profile text.

Therefore I'm curious as to what made those particular guys stand out and enticed a couple to meet with them?

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By *scouple07Couple
over a year ago

louth, Ireland

Well the single males we have met have all been very respectful when sending a message to begin with, always a good start

Also they have messaged us both and not aiming all chat like mr isnt there, then the social meet has to go well and I need to feel comfortable enough with them for any fun to happen

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By *ealitybites OP   Man
over a year ago

Belfast


"Well the single males we have met have all been very respectful when sending a message to begin with, always a good start

Also they have messaged us both and not aiming all chat like mr isnt there, then the social meet has to go well and I need to feel comfortable enough with them for any fun to happen "

I accept all that and all my messages are aimed at both and are always respectful. If they reply to say I'm not for them I always thank them for their time and wish them well.

I also accept it's a numbers game and there are so many men sending messages so I've no issue when a couple decide not to chat to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tbh, it depends on the humour I'm in .

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By *ealitybites OP   Man
over a year ago

Belfast


"Tbh, it depends on the humour I'm in .

"

Zenyatta Mondatta was a better album.

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By *irtypair00Couple
over a year ago

Dublin

Well it's simple answer from us . We don't meet single men at all . We have met lots socially and are good freinds with some , but that's all it will ever be .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tbh, it depends on the humour I'm in .

Zenyatta Mondatta was a better album. "

Hah!!

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By *ealitybites OP   Man
over a year ago

Belfast


"Well it's simple answer from us . We don't meet single men at all . We have met lots socially and are good freinds with some , but that's all it will ever be . "

And that's perfectly fine.

For those that do though, is it a spur of the moment decision and the luck of the draw or is it something specific in a male profile or message?

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

Factors include...

What kind of porn I'd been watching

The way the first message is composed

How horny I was

Practicalities like availability and accommodation possibly

What mood I was in

When I last shaved

Availability of face pics

Babysitting possibility

All fairly random

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By *ealitybites OP   Man
over a year ago

Belfast


"Factors include...

What kind of porn I'd been watching

The way the first message is composed

How horny I was

Practicalities like availability and accommodation possibly

What mood I was in

When I last shaved

Availability of face pics

Babysitting possibility

All fairly random"

That clears it up completely then. Thanks for that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well it's simple answer from us . We don't meet single men at all . We have met lots socially and are good freinds with some , but that's all it will ever be .

And that's perfectly fine.

For those that do though, is it a spur of the moment decision and the luck of the draw or is it something specific in a male profile or message?"

Its more a question of looking at their profile and seeing if there's anything there that I don't like, if not, seeing how the conversation progresses (unless we're not looking for single male meets at the time).

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By *rmrs1234Couple
over a year ago

Waterford

I try to answer every mail that we get even if its to say no thanks. If the message is ignorant or a one liner it will be deleted. no pics on profile - deleted. by and large a lot of it boils down to distance for us. we get a huge amount of mail from guys simply to far away from us and although some offer to drive i wouldnt be comfortable someone making that journey and also we have young kids so anything could happen and the last thing we would want is to have to cancel on someone who was after travelling to meet us hence we prefer local enough meets and I tell people straight off the bat our situation so they are either understanding or not. a large amount are not and then we get called time wasters even though im honest about everything from the get go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are starting out but at the minute I'll go with, have they read our profile? Are they respectfully of him or do they suggest three messages in that he can just stay at home? Are they gonna bring drama to us with a partner who doesn't know what they are at? Can he make her laugh or at least smile?

And then there's the base stuff, does she find them physically attractive? Could they spell their own name without help (youse, aloud instead of allowed are pet hates)? Does he have hair on his head enough for her to grab a handful?

It won't be something we rush headlong into but there are prospectives at the minute

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By *etergemmaCouple
over a year ago

South Dublin Area

If they have been on more than 6 months and not verified, generally we just ignore them.

If they are new and send a nice message, we will generally reply.

If they have a history of being with certain type of ladies and attending a certain type of night I ignore them.

But the best way to get a response is to send a nice face pic.

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By *rmrspumpCouple
over a year ago

narnia

A respectful and articulate message gets our attention. We then look for a well verified profile that meets Mrs P's physical requirements..

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By *appytoadsCouple
over a year ago

West Dublin

Single guys are not for us, yet they keep trying, block block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is simple, check our profile first, check what are we looking for. When you send a message say something more than ‘hi’ or ‘how is your day’. No need for an essay but just say what you do like, and what are you looking for. It is the same like you chat up someone in a bar - just a small talk. And another thing - we are a couple so treat and address us as a couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It very much depends but there has to be something which we find engaging and attractive, and they must not be worried that their cock might accidentally (or otherwise...) touch E's.

Although sometimes if we're busy, not really in the mood or know we won't be in a position to meet anyone for a while then even some of those will slip through the net.

It's such a difficult thing to define, and the single guys we have met are very diverse. Guys may fare better if we're in a playful mood and they engage in a bit of light hearted banter - and that's very much down to luck and timing

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By *andyman11Man
over a year ago

dublin

Personally, I think it’s always best to read their profile and see if you are what they’re looking for first. See if you all would vibe or get on.. do one of the following, send a simple wink. If they wink back they’re keen if not (maybe they’re not interested or just busy) or send a very polite message and show that you’ve read their profile and you’re not just another rude single guy.

Iv found that its also good if you’re not one of them guys that has all cock pics on their page, people don’t always like that.. have a bit of mysterious thing, keep something for the imagination... mostly, don’t be pushy or aggro when you don’t get your way...

See, that’s not so hard it’s very simple really

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By *ealitybites OP   Man
over a year ago

Belfast

Thanks everyone for your contributions and happy New year all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks everyone for your contributions and happy New year all. "

And to you

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By *otsureaboutMan
over a year ago

south


"I try to answer every mail that we get even if its to say no thanks. If the message is ignorant or a one liner it will be deleted. no pics on profile - deleted. by and large a lot of it boils down to distance for us. we get a huge amount of mail from guys simply to far away from us and although some offer to drive i wouldnt be comfortable someone making that journey and also we have young kids so anything could happen and the last thing we would want is to have to cancel on someone who was after travelling to meet us hence we prefer local enough meets and I tell people straight off the bat our situation so they are either understanding or not. a large amount are not and then we get called time wasters even though im honest about everything from the get go"

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By *otsureaboutMan
over a year ago

south


"I try to answer every mail that we get even if its to say no thanks. If the message is ignorant or a one liner it will be deleted. no pics on profile - deleted. by and large a lot of it boils down to distance for us. we get a huge amount of mail from guys simply to far away from us and although some offer to drive i wouldnt be comfortable someone making that journey and also we have young kids so anything could happen and the last thing we would want is to have to cancel on someone who was after travelling to meet us hence we prefer local enough meets and I tell people straight off the bat our situation so they are either understanding or not. a large amount are not and then we get called time wasters even though im honest about everything from the get go"

What an amazing beautiful answer and so straightforward and honest

It's not easy for single mature men on here

I greatly appreciate your honest reply

And thank you

PAT

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By *ateniteCouple
over a year ago

Youghal


"I try to answer every mail that we get even if its to say no thanks. If the message is ignorant or a one liner it will be deleted. no pics on profile - deleted. by and large a lot of it boils down to distance for us. we get a huge amount of mail from guys simply to far away from us and although some offer to drive i wouldnt be comfortable someone making that journey and also we have young kids so anything could happen and the last thing we would want is to have to cancel on someone who was after travelling to meet us hence we prefer local enough meets and I tell people straight off the bat our situation so they are either understanding or not. a large amount are not and then we get called time wasters even though im honest about everything from the get go"

Kinda the same as us. We don't like to have a guy travel miles in case we have to cancel for whatever reason.

We've found some of our best single guy meets have been random "see who's near" meets when we are staying away. So there is an element of luck and timing involved for us too. And as shallow as it sounds a nice cock helps lol

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By *rmrs1234Couple
over a year ago

Waterford


"I try to answer every mail that we get even if its to say no thanks. If the message is ignorant or a one liner it will be deleted. no pics on profile - deleted. by and large a lot of it boils down to distance for us. we get a huge amount of mail from guys simply to far away from us and although some offer to drive i wouldnt be comfortable someone making that journey and also we have young kids so anything could happen and the last thing we would want is to have to cancel on someone who was after travelling to meet us hence we prefer local enough meets and I tell people straight off the bat our situation so they are either understanding or not. a large amount are not and then we get called time wasters even though im honest about everything from the get go

Kinda the same as us. We don't like to have a guy travel miles in case we have to cancel for whatever reason.

We've found some of our best single guy meets have been random "see who's near" meets when we are staying away. So there is an element of luck and timing involved for us too. And as shallow as it sounds a nice cock helps lol "

Not shallow at all. At then end of the day you want the best so why settle for less lol

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By *ealitybites OP   Man
over a year ago

Belfast


"I try to answer every mail that we get even if its to say no thanks. If the message is ignorant or a one liner it will be deleted. no pics on profile - deleted. by and large a lot of it boils down to distance for us. we get a huge amount of mail from guys simply to far away from us and although some offer to drive i wouldnt be comfortable someone making that journey and also we have young kids so anything could happen and the last thing we would want is to have to cancel on someone who was after travelling to meet us hence we prefer local enough meets and I tell people straight off the bat our situation so they are either understanding or not. a large amount are not and then we get called time wasters even though im honest about everything from the get go

Kinda the same as us. We don't like to have a guy travel miles in case we have to cancel for whatever reason.

We've found some of our best single guy meets have been random "see who's near" meets when we are staying away. So there is an element of luck and timing involved for us too. And as shallow as it sounds a nice cock helps lol "

I'll have to make sure I'm online nearby next time you are up this direction

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