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By *andydevine OP   Man
over a year ago

sligo

Hey guys, I'm a single Male and at home for Christmas. I'm bored off my head, all my mates are married with kids. Anyone else in the same both. Sick to death of hearing about people's kids.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gosh yes, it's so selfish of people to prioritise their children over your need for entertainment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Christmas shouldn't be about kids

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By *kcoupleCouple
over a year ago

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Maybe try coming home at Easter instead

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get ya.

The op is not giving out about the kids persay.

It more he is home for a few days and is looking to catch up with his buddys the way he used to.

It can be hard on those that are single and are just looking for fun. When all your buddys get married and have kids.

There not his kids. So why would he want to prioritise them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe try coming home at Easter instead "

And those friends of his would have got board of their kids by than? Kids are for life not just for Christmas. He will have the same problem at easter

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By *kcoupleCouple
over a year ago

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"Maybe try coming home at Easter instead

And those friends of his would have got board of their kids by than? Kids are for life not just for Christmas. He will have the same problem at easter "

Wowowow are you telling me I can't send them back ? .

I get what the OP is saying but it's a completely pointless rant. Unless you are a complete bellend your kids will always take priority at times like this. That's not to say parents can't get out for the odd sneaky pint or sex fest, we just have to be home by 9pm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe try coming home at Easter instead

And those friends of his would have got board of their kids by than? Kids are for life not just for Christmas. He will have the same problem at easter "

Maybe he needs new friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe try coming home at Easter instead

And those friends of his would have got board of their kids by than? Kids are for life not just for Christmas. He will have the same problem at easter "

Maybe he needs new friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No there is no giving them back. But you can brining them out to the woods and "loose them"

I know when I used to come home for a visit, Christmas was the best time to do it. Even when all my friends had settled down. At least at Christmas you might get them out for a few drinks.

Middle of the year was no craic at all, as most will be working so mid week going out was impossible. During the day was worse, as your on holiday but everyone else has gone to work. Leaving you twiddling your thumbs. So you long for the weekend in hope that some might brake free. But their kids still soak up most of that time (and rightly so)

So going back to the start, Christmas is the best time of year for the single guy to come home. As there will be at least some hope of their buddies making it out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Maybe he needs new friends "

He probably has them where he currently lives. Hard to make new friends to are up for going out in a place he no longer lives. Plus propabably knows most anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Maybe he needs new friends

He probably has them where he currently lives. Hard to make new friends to are up for going out in a place he no longer lives. Plus propabably knows most anyway"

I was being facetious. Maybe he could try being happy for his friends in the stage of life they are currently at, people's lives move at different rates, sometimes we outgrow friendships, sometimes we need to adjust our expectations of people, a friendship based solely on people's ability to party isn't really much of a friendship is it?

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By *andydevine OP   Man
over a year ago

sligo

Think il go away for Christmas next year, iv plenty of friends where I now live. Iv my bags packed and heading there now. Cheers for the input guys. It's good to get different perspectives.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not criticising the OP, it's simply a fact that friendships evolve and sometimes fall away altogether.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure he is happy for his friends but that does not solve his problem of been board off his tits. And sick of listing to stories about kids that arnt his.

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By *ohng69Man
over a year ago

athenry


"Hey guys, I'm a single Male and at home for Christmas. I'm bored off my head, all my mates are married with kids. Anyone else in the same both. Sick to death of hearing about people's kids. "
It's called "life". Maybe you were also one of those kids that your parents single friends despised!!

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By *kcoupleCouple
over a year ago

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"I'm not criticising the OP, it's simply a fact that friendships evolve and sometimes fall away altogether. "

Very much agree with you here. My close friends were a group of about ten. Most of us now have kids but we still make the time to get out together once over Xmas. Few guys came home from abroad and i made the effort to fit them into a pretty mental Xmas the guys I don't really click with anymore fall to the side. I'd rather spend the time with my kids regardless of the time of year

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just remember it was not the OP that changed. It was his friends that changed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just remember it was not the OP that changed. It was his friends that changed.

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How dare they!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good few of my friendships fell away when them friends settled and started having kids.

Christmas or no Christmas being child free and having friends with kids is like dating a married man - you have to suit their family schedule and their mind is always elsewhere. It does get really tiring.

As someone stated before - when friendships turn that way, it is time to make new friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey guys, I'm a single Male and at home for Christmas. I'm bored off my head, all my mates are married with kids. Anyone else in the same both. Sick to death of hearing about people's kids. "

100% with ye on this, Xmas has turned into the most boring and lonely time of year, can't remember the last time I went out to socialise at Xmas with friends.

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By *ateniteCouple
over a year ago

Youghal

Despite our efforts on our profile to discreetly imply that we have kids and can't drop things last minute, we still got messages on Christmas Eve wanting to know if we were free. One involved a 200 mile round trip to Galway.

We know its only loosely related to the OPs comment and as previous posters have stated private life always take priority. Some guys on fab forget that and think their hangover horn is more important

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

Simple solution: get some kids yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Simple solution: get some kids yourself. "

Ya you can pick them up at just about any corner store

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of


"Simple solution: get some kids yourself.

Ya you can pick them up at just about any corner store"

Or simply make some

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Simple solution: get some kids yourself.

Ya you can pick them up at just about any corner store

Or simply make some "

Or even better, get a goldfish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You offering your services?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get what the Op is saying,I'm sure he doesn't dislike kid's

Being the only Childless one in your group of friend's you get used to alot of canceled plan's that are nearly impossible to arrange in the first place. And Christmas you may as well forget as rightly so Kid's come first. It doesn't have to be the end of friendships just different now. You just have to find new way's to entertain yourself hence fab.

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of


"You offering your services?"

Me??? I'm too old for that kinda things, I'm only doing the recreational stuff, I happily leave the procreational one to the younger ones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We could always have a few practice goes. I'll leave the safety on to ensure there are no accidents

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By *osmicGateMan
over a year ago

louth


"Hey guys, I'm a single Male and at home for Christmas. I'm bored off my head, all my mates are married with kids. Anyone else in the same both. Sick to death of hearing about people's kids. "

solution there is get new friends that have no kids but they will be few and far between especially at your age or just go have a few babies yourself..cant beat them join them

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork


"Hey guys, I'm a single Male and at home for Christmas. I'm bored off my head, all my mates are married with kids. Anyone else in the same both. Sick to death of hearing about people's kids. "

Unfortunately this the way life goes. People have responsibilities and they cant just go out anytime they like. Try and make solid plans incl dates and times so your existing mates can try and get babysitting. Also keep an eye out for singles events/groups. There are plenty out there. See Facebook. The answer is going to be working around what your friends CAN do, and finding other people in the same situation as you and making new friends from that group. Making new friends later in life is HARD..but if you dont try you wont get.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bollox to all this making new friends shit. The OP has already came up with a solid solution.

Get back in his car and drive back to wherever he currently lives and head out. And he even knows better than to come back next year.

And on that note if anyone else is in a similar situation in cork. I'll be in town in under and hour, to do a bit of hell raising. Feel free to send me a message and join me for a drink or ten.

The devil rides tonight!

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By *andydevine OP   Man
over a year ago

sligo

Well I'm back now. All is good, different people are at different stages in their lives. I'm just looking for like minded people who have time and less commitments. Wish I was down in cork, I'd go for a pint or three. If anyone wants to come to gran canaria for two weeks are the end of the month they are more then welcome.

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By *d01Man
over a year ago

tipperary

I Totally get your thinking on this , My mates are all married and as ppl said drift away coz of children as per say or other commitments ... I find it hard to meet single ppl .i stayed too long visiting married ppl as they were friends ... Go into any pub and its full of 20 yr olds .. I go to limerick city a bit but noo 40 + women out

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By *ukeM8519Man
over a year ago

Sandymount

Christmas can be a very isolating time if you dont fit into the social click of being married with kids, you can be surrounded by all your family but feel very alone.

Yes, friends do get married, have kids, have less time, single ones get into relationships, but sometimes you were the one always there for them on the nites out when no one else was heading out, you went on the holiday with them when other friends didn’t, then they get into a relationship and they cast you aside, they are always busy.

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By *d01Man
over a year ago

tipperary

I totally agree most of my mates are married and drift away coz of kids or jobs ...its not easy to find ppl out any more in pubs to chat with or have a few pints with ...

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By *andydevine OP   Man
over a year ago

sligo

I just felt lonely this Christmas, il have to get a girlfriend who likes swinging.

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By *ukeM8519Man
over a year ago

Sandymount


"I totally agree most of my mates are married and drift away coz of kids or jobs ...its not easy to find ppl out any more in pubs to chat with or have a few pints with ... "

For me it’s about respect. Anytime I was in a relationship I always made time for friends. I always made sure to include the single ones, and do stuff with them on my own.

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By *ukeM8519Man
over a year ago

Sandymount


"I just felt lonely this Christmas, il have to get a girlfriend who likes swinging. "

Iam sure there’s plenty here in the northwest.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

Funnily enough Mrs filthy and me got our first babysitting tokens in a while and went to a busy bar last night for a few drinks. It was PACKED full of 18 to 20somethings looking to get totally trashed and fuck each other. There was 1 single older guy there with his grey ponytail who was walking about trying to talk to everyone and got many many strange looks from the kids. We felt quite sorry for him actually. I think if I found myself out drinking and was decades older than the average then I'd find myself sonething else to do where I could meet fems my own age. A yoga class, a book club, a dining circle, an evening course.

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By *andydevine OP   Man
over a year ago

sligo

That's good advice.

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By *andydevine OP   Man
over a year ago

sligo

Not sure but I'd be afraid girls would think I was been creepy going to a yoga class.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork


"I totally agree most of my mates are married and drift away coz of kids or jobs ...its not easy to find ppl out any more in pubs to chat with or have a few pints with ...

For me it’s about respect. Anytime I was in a relationship I always made time for friends. I always made sure to include the single ones, and do stuff with them on my own.

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That's grand if someone is just coupled up, but once you add a couple of kiddies into the mix then it gets hard. Babysitting, lack of funds due to child expenses, bedtime problems, tiredness from night feeds. It's not always a lack of respect. It's hard to juggle, and old priorities being able to go drinking when a buddy invites you, arrnt top of the list.

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By *d01Man
over a year ago

tipperary

So ye girls witnessed my senario last night .. Dno either bout yoga class ... As ive already commented nobody over 40 out single anymore as they will be outcasts amoung 20 somethings ......

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

There are plenty of 40+ single fems. You're looking on the wrong places.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork


"Not sure but I'd be afraid girls would think I was been creepy going to a yoga class."

Only if you were acting creepy. Men do yoga too you know. Anyway this is only an example. Go where the women you want to meet are, and stop hanging about with teenagers in bars when you're nearly 50.. because that way creepier

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

Sorry I think I got my profiles confused. You're not 50, that was someone else. My apologies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I totally agree most of my mates are married and drift away coz of kids or jobs ...its not easy to find ppl out any more in pubs to chat with or have a few pints with ...

For me it’s about respect. Anytime I was in a relationship I always made time for friends. I always made sure to include the single ones, and do stuff with them on my own.

That's grand if someone is just coupled up, but once you add a couple of kiddies into the mix then it gets hard. Babysitting, lack of funds due to child expenses, bedtime problems, tiredness from night feeds. It's not always a lack of respect. It's hard to juggle, and old priorities being able to go drinking when a buddy invites you, arrnt top of the list. "

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By *andydevine OP   Man
over a year ago

sligo

It's alright, I'm starting to feel like 50. Ok so coffee shops gyms yogo hiking surfing where else should I try.

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of


"Funnily enough Mrs filthy and me got our first babysitting tokens in a while and went to a busy bar last night for a few drinks. It was PACKED full of 18 to 20somethings looking to get totally trashed and fuck each other. There was 1 single older guy there with his grey ponytail who was walking about trying to talk to everyone and got many many strange looks from the kids. We felt quite sorry for him actually. I think if I found myself out drinking and was decades older than the average then I'd find myself sonething else to do where I could meet fems my own age. A yoga class, a book club, a dining circle, an evening course."

Maybe that older guy was into young ones and not fems his own age. Just a thought.

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By *andydevine OP   Man
over a year ago

sligo

Your probably right. Everyone is different.

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