FabSwingers.com forum: Single male on fab is hard work

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Being a single male on fab hard work!!

Sometimes I see a couple or a lady on fab that takes my fancy but I don’t bother writing to them cause they are probably hounded and are sick to death of fellas mailing them!! I feel like I’m annoying them ha

So what I am wondering is should I start mailing them and join the rest of the hunters or should I just hope they notice and message me?

I’m sure I’m not the only one thinking this ha

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By *irl4fucking18Woman
over a year ago

city

Well for starters lose the bottle cock pic as it makes your tinker bell look tiny.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well for starters lose the bottle cock pic as it makes your tinker bell look tiny."

Done haha

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By *oft_sexy_sweetWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

"Being a single male on fab hard work!!

So what I am wondering is should I start mailing them and join the rest of the hunters or should I just hope they notice and message me?

I’m sure I’m not the only one thinking this ha"

So your logic is that since so many men are making a move, you'll do nothing and hope it works? Best of luck with that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Check the old posts for help on this matter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try being a 51 year old TV lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Being a single male on fab hard work!!

So what I am wondering is should I start mailing them and join the rest of the hunters or should I just hope they notice and message me?

I’m sure I’m not the only one thinking this ha"

Course tis hard for single guys on fab ,ladies get swamped with Messages here everyday ,l was chatting to a lady that is only on here a few days ,on her first day here she got 268 Messages that day alone so how the fuck is a lady gonna go through that amount ? It's head wrecking so that's why guys probably don't get many replies which in turn makes it harder for them as individual sender's of Messages,and l think that being on the forums and contributing to topics can be a way easier form of contact access as ladies see your posts etc and can work out for themselves what type of guy one is through his answers and comments.so maybe that might be a better avenue plus you can reply privately too which shows the ladies you're interested in what they're talking about which in turn catches their attention quicker than your messages lost in a yellow wall of hundreds.

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By *ordjeffMan
over a year ago

around and about ,as travel.

"Try being a 51 year old TV lol "

Or even 45 .

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By *illium_cobblersMan
over a year ago

swords EI & Derby UK

Well its all about the time you invest op. People are looking for you but theres a hell of a lot of other profiles out there (and some of them are real too!!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've read on a few ladies profiles that the ratio is huge on here of men to women. It's just a fact. This will obviously make things more difficult to stand out for a male when trying to contact a female. Even more so for us non-meet verified guys. It's just how it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

These sort of poor me trends anoy me.

There a load off bollox.

Ya it's harder for straight single guys on here than it is for the ladies but that's just life.

Fab is all about effort. If you put in the effort you will get what you are looking for.

If you have a piss poor profile and send out wanna fuck messages or in this case no messages at all. Than you will end up left on the shelf.

It's not really rocket science. Put in the leg work and expect a few knock backs. It no different to the real world of going out to pub or club or what ever.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aww it's hard boys no wonder I'm as grey as a badger

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

If someone is actively looking for someone in your age range, it's no harm to send a message. Thing is lots of guys don't read profiles and message people who are not looking for meets, or who are looking for someone older/younger, or only looking for couples or ladies, and that does become annoying... But if you're what they're looking for, you'd be daft not to message. Now don't think that guarantees you a meet, because even though they may be actively looking for a single male in your age range, they may be looking for someone taller, closer to home, further away from home, or aren't into big dicks... There may be lots of reasons why they won't pick you this time... But if you're polite and don't do the rejected rant thing, they might just pick you next time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone is actively looking for someone in your age range, it's no harm to send a message. Thing is lots of guys don't read profiles and message people who are not looking for meets, or who are looking for someone older/younger, or only looking for couples or ladies, and that does become annoying... But if you're what they're looking for, you'd be daft not to message. Now don't think that guarantees you a meet, because even though they may be actively looking for a single male in your age range, they may be looking for someone taller, closer to home, further away from home, or aren't into big dicks... There may be lots of reasons why they won't pick you this time... But if you're polite and don't do the rejected rant thing, they might just pick you next time

the advanced search is good for a lot of this stuff. Let's you look for people in your age range but has an option which excludes you if you're not in their range. Also an option that if they don't want single males they can be excluded from your search. Narrows down as best for guys looking and then you just need to read the profile a bit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did you expect it to be easy

people have standards and most women are inundated with hundreds of men all looking to bang them.

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By *ustkrissMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Just remember that all tho we do meet up for sex we gotta like you first. If u want instant sex go pay for it lol

I'm horny let's meet up messages just get deleted.

Also nice tits

Socials are a perfect way of meeting ladies imo.

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By * am in Your DreamsMan
over a year ago

South

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By * am in Your DreamsMan
over a year ago

South

Why do your sentences finish with ha?? Just be yourself ha. Chat to all and you will find the right lady or maybe a couple who like your profile and personality ha. But a bit of advice, drop the ha. You took the time to post here without sounding like a twat so just do the same to profiles you like. It's tough for us good looking guys I feel your pain. No ha's were killed or maimed in making this message ha.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

This is spot on

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By *aid backMan
over a year ago

by a lake with my rod out

It really isn't hard work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Being a single male on fab hard work!!

So what I am wondering is should I start mailing them and join the rest of the hunters or should I just hope they notice and message me?

I’m sure I’m not the only one thinking this ha

268 messages

im lucky if i even get one

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By *ightfury1Man
over a year ago

Co Armagh

Unfortunately a lot of fellas get on like twats on here with no respect and silly dick pics , which in turn tars us all with the same brush , be real be genuine and not a dick lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you don’t message then you have no chance at all of getting anywhere, I know the women on here get hounded by the usual creepy perverts going “wanna fuck” or “love your tits” that’s not going to get you anywhere so if your genuine in your message it should stand out from the rest. Also straight up sex there and then isn’t what a majority of women want from here, a social meet is best first off to see if you’ve any chemistry and then take things from there, just be patient, also read profiles before messaging too

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By *onedbodMan
over a year ago

co Galway

Well it's not hard work if you read their profile 1st! See what they are looking for and not looking for! If yah think you fit the bill i.e. age wise , single etc then no harm sending message! If you get no reply what harm move on!

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By *d01Man
over a year ago

tipperary

Im Single , It would be nice to get a reply to a message even ... We are all on here for the same senario , I'll share picts if the lady requests ......

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By *rishguy3217Man
over a year ago

Dublin/ South East sometimes

I love fab,and everything to do with it. I've met some amazing people and made great friends a long the way. It's not always about sex, if your a decent guy, respectful and mix in the social settings then you will find a play partner and replies to messages.

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By *oft_sexy_sweetWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

"Im Single , It would be nice to get a reply to a message even ... We are all on here for the same senario , I'll share picts if the lady requests ......"

Tip for you - the lady will never request. There are hundreds of other profiles giving them the information they need to determine whether they'll be interested without having to ask.

Your profile is your shop window. If it doesn't convey what's on offer, nobody is gonna go out of their way to come in and ask what you're selling on the slim chance they might want to buy.

Another analogy - having no pics and no bio on your profile is like being a restaurant called Food and instead of a menu board outside there's a small plaque that says "just ask".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im Single , It would be nice to get a reply to a message even ... We are all on here for the same senario , I'll share picts if the lady requests ......

Tip for you - the lady will never request. There are hundreds of other profiles giving them the information they need to determine whether they'll be interested without having to ask.

Your profile is your shop window. If it doesn't convey what's on offer, nobody is gonna go out of their way to come in and ask what you're selling on the slim chance they might want to buy.

Another analogy - having no pics and no bio on your profile is like being a restaurant called Food and instead of a menu board outside there's a small plaque that says "just ask". "

LOVE your restaurant analogy! Nailed it right on the head

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

"Why do your sentences finish with ha?? Just be yourself ha. Chat to all and you will find the right lady or maybe a couple who like your profile and personality ha. But a bit of advice, drop the ha. You took the time to post here without sounding like a twat so just do the same to profiles you like. It's tough for us good looking guys I feel your pain. No ha's were killed or maimed in making this message ha."

Oddly I find that 'ha' thing quite irritating too in messages or on profiles... Glad to know I'm not the only fusspot!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not that hard really

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

"Im Single , It would be nice to get a reply to a message even ... We are all on here for the same senario , I'll share picts if the lady requests ......"

In all honesty, if I were looking to meet someone, I wouldn't reply either (unless by some chance your message alone was incredibly witty and compelling), because you've no public pics, and your profile blurb is almost non-existent... I'd just skip to the next message.

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

"[Removed by trigger happy poster who used the wrong emoji at 21/12/19 11:12:44]"

Ah yeah but you're the Manbeast and we all want a cuddly toy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol...

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By *ecentguy321Man
over a year ago

nearby

I wouldnt get too worked up about it man.

Its like being out in town. Are all the ladies in the bar just going to talk to you? Are they all gona want to jump in bed? Are you gona want to get in bed with them? No. Each person has a personality and style that is them. Each has their own likes and dislikes

But not communicating is like winking at a girl in the dark. You know youre doing it, but they dont

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

be yourself don't follow the crowd. if your respectful and not a knob head you'll get somewhere on the site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It really isn't hard work. "

It's actually really enjoyable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab is what you make of it ...

Focus on the positives if you can't step away...

Fab should be a fun outlet whether that is meets or just chats , that's what it should be ...fun...

But it's down to you how you treat it..in my opinion..I'm sure others will disagree and I'm totally ok with that

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By *Sparkie.Man
over a year ago

Ratoath

Both public pics are dick pics, your profile refers to your dick and how big it is, your free falling without a parachute, crashing a burning in a great ball of fire, if you think for a second that's what women or couples are looking for I think your mistaken.

There is nothing interesting about your profile to entice a female or couple but that's just my opinion.

Now I'm away to get popcorn and theres room on the couch for one or two to join me lol

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

"Both public pics are dick pics, your profile refers to your dick and how big it is, your free falling without a parachute, crashing a burning in a great ball of fire, if you think for a second that's what women or couples are looking for I think your mistaken.

There is nothing interesting about your profile to entice a female or couple but that's just my opinion.

Now I'm away to get popcorn and theres room on the couch for one or two to join me lol

Schooch over I'll bring the drink this could get interesting.

I agree with your points tho

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By *esareBorgiaMan
over a year ago

Dublin

The problem is the male to female ratio

Heres an idea, what about a group (maybe kik group) where the same number of males to females is allowed ?

Then see how u get on

(And put me in the group seems its my idea)

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By *sLittleRedRidingHoodWoman
over a year ago

Magical Forrest

Well try being a single lady who doesnt meet attached,or over/under a certain age,within a certain radius of her,wanting some attributes attached to the man with the cock... yeah needle in a haystack...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The problem is the male to female ratio

Heres an idea, what about a group (maybe kik group) where the same number of males to females is allowed ?

Then see how u get on

(And put me in the group seems its my idea) "

Trust me ratio has nothing to do with someone just being naturally attractive or sending a message that actually peaks someone's attention and interest.

There can be 1000 messages sitting in the inbox, but that one, which is worth reading will always get a reply in a timely manner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well try being a single lady who doesnt meet attached,or over/under a certain age,within a certain radius of her,wanting some attributes attached to the man with the cock... yeah needle in a haystack... "

Nah, it's the ratio they say. They must know better...

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By *sLittleRedRidingHoodWoman
over a year ago

Magical Forrest

Nah, it's the ratio they say. They must know better..."

They know best... apparently...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not hard on here for a single guy.

Fortunetly 75%(not an official figure) act like horny teenagers and rule themselves out of most meets.

A little bit of perspective, sanity and patience go a long way.

Add in the slightest bit off effort and you will be flying it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You gotta send out those mails OP, you'll never know unless you ask. As said above, if you put the effort in and behave like a decent human being then you have every chance of getting meets.

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By *allyWally19Woman
over a year ago

The Road to Nowhere

Didn't read the whole thread but as the 2 lads above said...effort. it's appreciated & for me, more likely to garner a response.

Don't not message someone coz there's like 5 guys to every one woman on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just try to be yourself . Don’t be talking about things like how you’d destroy her in the back of your car or making her gag with your massive cock lol ... not a good opening line to someone you’ve never talked to before . I try to talk to the ladies on here like they are in front of me, like I’ve gone up to talk to them in the bar . Sometimes a polite hello goes a long way and read her profile to make sure you understand what she’s looking for . Good luck

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By *hiteKniteMan
over a year ago

Nearby

It’s hard for single guys until you get a few veris under your belt and the only way you’ll get started is by messaging people.

Be polite and respectful, write more than two lines but don’t make it an essay. Send a pic or two that doesn’t include a dick pic (only send those if your asked) and if you don’t get a reply, don’t take it to heart.

The odds are stacked against you as a single guy due to the sheer number of us versus couples and ladies, and the fact that some guys act like 12 year olds when they don’t get what they want at a click of the fingers, having said that, not all couples are saints either but when you put in the effort and get chatting to some genuine people, you’ll have some very enjoyable meets and lots of fun times. It’s worth it in the end, but it’s a long term project. Stick with it!

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By *sLittleRedRidingHoodWoman
over a year ago

Magical Forrest

It's hard for single men on fab.

It's hard for single women on fab.

End of.

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By *hiteKniteMan
over a year ago

Nearby

"It's hard for single men on fab.

It's hard for single women on fab.

End of."

Let’s all just be hard together

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By *sLittleRedRidingHoodWoman
over a year ago

Magical Forrest

"It's hard for single men on fab.

It's hard for single women on fab.

End of.

Let’s all just be hard together

Preferably in same bed ...

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By *hiteKniteMan
over a year ago

Nearby

I hope you have a very big bed

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By *sLittleRedRidingHoodWoman
over a year ago

Magical Forrest

Kingsize

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By *oreThanOnceMan
over a year ago

Dublin

One of the best advices is the one above.

Don't mind the general ratio between males/couples/females.

What you should concentrate on, is to find the women who like your type, both looks and personality.

Stay away from the Fab forum "celebrities", also from the ones posting daily pics looking for attention and fabs.

Concentrate on the ones close to where you live.

Look for the ones that are +/- 5 years to your real age.

Work on your pics, everyone loves nice pics.

Once you get a reply back, try your best to keep her interested.

The majority of us on Fab, have bits, bumps and lumps, but we always look for some sort of physical attraction first.

No matter what, ultimately the face pic swap is going to be the moment when she or you, will know if you want to meet or not, regardless of how funny and smart your chat was.

Even if you spent days and weeks chatting, after you exchanged face pics, it is a make or break moment.

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By *hiteKniteMan
over a year ago

Nearby

One of the best advices is the one above.

Don't mind the general ratio between males/couples/females.

What you should concentrate on, is to find the women who like your type, both looks and personality.

Stay away from the Fab forum "celebrities", also from the ones posting daily pics looking for attention and fabs.

Concentrate on the ones close to where you live.

Look for the ones that are +/- 5 years to your real age.

Work on your pics, everyone loves nice pics.

Once you get a reply back, try your best to keep her interested.

The majority of us on Fab, have bits, bumps and lumps, but we always look for some sort of physical attraction first.

No matter what, ultimately the face pic swap is going to be the moment when she or you, will know if you want to meet or not, regardless of how funny and smart your chat was.

Even if you spent days and weeks chatting, after you exchanged face pics, it is a make or break moment.

Good advice there too

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By *etergemmaCouple
over a year ago

South Dublin Area

One of the best advices is the one above.

Don't mind the general ratio between males/couples/females.

What you should concentrate on, is to find the women who like your type, both looks and personality.

Stay away from the Fab forum "celebrities", also from the ones posting daily pics looking for attention and fabs.

Concentrate on the ones close to where you live.

Look for the ones that are +/- 5 years to your real age.

Work on your pics, everyone loves nice pics.

Once you get a reply back, try your best to keep her interested.

The majority of us on Fab, have bits, bumps and lumps, but we always look for some sort of physical attraction first.

No matter what, ultimately the face pic swap is going to be the moment when she or you, will know if you want to meet or not, regardless of how funny and smart your chat was.

Even if you spent days and weeks chatting, after you exchanged face pics, it is a make or break moment.

Last paragraph

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's also hard work when a single guy is on a couple profile when not a couple.

Bad form

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You only get what you put into fab

A lot of time

Having proper Manners

Having conversations with like minded folks

And being patient

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By *emper-fudgeMan
over a year ago

Blackrock

Its funny the there seem to be alot of experts on this thread , dushing out advice and have zero verifications...

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By *iktikiCouple
over a year ago

cork

"Its funny the there seem to be alot of experts on this thread , dushing out advice and have zero verifications..."
they are the ones that are expert in not getting meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its funny the there seem to be alot of experts on this thread , dushing out advice and have zero verifications..."

There is literally one profile on the whole thread that isnt verified. And he isnt exactly professing to be an expert.

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By *d01Man
over a year ago

tipperary

Im not verified of been chatted much to ... Ive picts if ppl want them .Like most ppl we share an interest in both Sexual preferances and meeting someone to fulfill those interests ... Ppl should give others a chance ... I recently joined as with plenty other ppl on here want some fun .... Maybe my Bio isnt great but that doesnt mean ive nothing to offer ... If their is and genuine woman on here interested in messaging me then ill reply with dignity and interest ....

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By *d01Man
over a year ago

tipperary

Im new here but joined like others to enjoy some fun with light minded women if possible ... My profoil isnt great but dont judge me coz ive no picts up ... If ye women show interest and message me i might get verified and be able to navigate this site better ..thanks

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