FabSwingers.com forum: WTF WOMEN???

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

This is the THIRD time I’ve been stood up.

Wtf?

All chat up to this morning and then nothing.

I’ve a nice suite in the Heritage hotel got too.

For f##kin nothing now.

Why be in this feckin site if you’re only going to back out !!!

I could go in, but I won’t.

Merry Christmas me bollox l!

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

Report them to admin.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Report them to admin. "

What good would that do?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thats a balls man.

Has it been 3 people in a row?

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By *exybitch123455Woman
over a year ago

carlow

That's not on they should have at least told you so you could cancel in time !!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yep.

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

Op, this isn't going to be any consolation to you at all but your judgement is questionable if you've been stood up three times in seven weeks. You need to relax and spend more time checking people out before booking hotel rooms.

You're right though, it's a bollix when that happens

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have to say; it’s a long long time since I felt this deflated !

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

This is my first time in 7 weeks.

It happened twice in my previous profile so I left.

More fool me for coming back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And this is why women always insist on coffee meets first.

When someone I'm about to meet is booking a hotel - in my head it automatically puts pressure on me to fuck them and very far and few are okay with the idea of fucking a complete stranger.

Also there's been a few times when I cancelled a coffee meet pretty much last minute just because person I've been chatting to crossed a line and pissed me off by being too forward.

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By *twasntme11Woman
over a year ago

dublin

"Report them to admin. "
see

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yep.

Its rude but unfortunetly it is part and parcel of a site like this.

I hate to say it but Id of been sceptical of a woman agreeing to meet me in a hotel for a first meet especially before I was verified

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By *exybitch123455Woman
over a year ago

carlow

Dont let them get you down enjoy the hotel you never know who you might meet in the bar

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"And this is why women always insist on coffee meets first.

When someone I'm about to meet is booking a hotel - in my head it automatically puts pressure on me to fuck them and very far and few are okay with the idea of fucking a complete stranger.

Also there's been a few times when I cancelled a coffee meet pretty much last minute just because person I've been chatting to crossed a line and pissed me off by being too forward.

We were both of a mutual understanding that it was for sex. No doubt

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By *uckypuppy007Woman
over a year ago

dublin

"Op, this isn't going to be any consolation to you at all but your judgement is questionable if you've been stood up three times in seven weeks. You need to relax and spend more time checking people out before booking hotel rooms.

Sorry to rain on your parade but agree with michael, more groundwork, well verified, chat on kik with videos (shame but alot of guys who set up profiles as women)

You're right though, it's a bollix when that happens

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Dont let them get you down enjoy the hotel you never know who you might meet in the bar "

Thanks. I actually went in to the bar.

I am definitely on my own tonight!

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By *exybitch123455Woman
over a year ago

carlow

Sorry to hear that but look on the bright side at last you will get a nice breakfast in the morning

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sorry to hear that but look on the bright side at last you will get a nice breakfast in the morning "

First laugh I’ve had. Thanks.

Have you had the pleasure?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very bad form,it take's 5 seconds to send a text. Maybe take "I can accom in Hotel's" off your profile for now as non genuine people will zone in on that and take advantage. That can alway's be disscussed when chatting privately.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Very bad form,it take's 5 seconds to send a text. Maybe take "I can accom in Hotel's" off your profile for now as non genuine people will zone in on that and take advantage. That can alway's be disscussed when chatting privately."

Thanks. Noted and done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's any consolation it happens to us ladies as well. I got stood up twice in a row at hotel meets. I had even had the coffee dates beforehand.

Grab a drink at the bar and put on your nearby location. You never know you might get lucky.

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By *ajobMan
over a year ago

Newtownabbey

A coffee/drink and chat should always be your first point of call OP...its never nice being let down last minute when folk know a place has been booked...leaving whoever booked it high n dry and probably having to pay as its either non refundanle or too late to cancel....but tbh you should get verified,that way other ppl will see that you are coshier and a decent fella OP

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If it's any consolation it happens to us ladies as well. I got stood up twice in a row at hotel meets. I had even had the coffee dates beforehand.

Grab a drink at the bar and put on your nearby location. You never know you might get lucky."

Are you nearby Rosie ?

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By *exybitch123455Woman
over a year ago

carlow

Glad I could make you laugh lol

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

"And this is why women always insist on coffee meets first.

When someone I'm about to meet is booking a hotel - in my head it automatically puts pressure on me to fuck them and very far and few are okay with the idea of fucking a complete stranger.

Also there's been a few times when I cancelled a coffee meet pretty much last minute just because person I've been chatting to crossed a line and pissed me off by being too forward.

We were both of a mutual understanding that it was for sex. No doubt "

Sex is never a given, either party can withdraw at anytime. That is why alot of people have socials, to check out that you are compatable. Valuable lesson learned - people change their minds, some tell you, some don't.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If it's any consolation it happens to us ladies as well. I got stood up twice in a row at hotel meets. I had even had the coffee dates beforehand.

Grab a drink at the bar and put on your nearby location. You never know you might get lucky."

How do

You put your location on?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Select `Home` & under that select `Who's Near` make sure your mobile data is on too

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Select `Home` & under that select `Who's Near` make sure your mobile data is on too"

Done. Where do I see who is near?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Select `Home` & under that select `Who's Near` make sure your mobile data is on too

Done. Where do I see who is near? "

Got it. Its all men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Were they all meet verified?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And this is why women always insist on coffee meets first.

When someone I'm about to meet is booking a hotel - in my head it automatically puts pressure on me to fuck them and very far and few are okay with the idea of fucking a complete stranger.

Also there's been a few times when I cancelled a coffee meet pretty much last minute just because person I've been chatting to crossed a line and pissed me off by being too forward.

We were both of a mutual understanding that it was for sex. No doubt

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By *marrisWoman
over a year ago

Cork

You're right though, it's a bollix when that happens

I got stood up by people I knew/know,ones I chatted too on the phone or video,well verified guys that always asked to meet, etc ...maybe I ask for too much ....so it's a hit and miss

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Were they all meet verified? "

Here is a fact....

when you are new, women here will not talk to you.

So; when new, you talk to new women too. That’s about the only bloody hope you have of meeting here.

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

"Were they all meet verified?

Here is a fact....

when you are new, women here will not talk to you.

So; when new, you talk to new women too. That’s about the only bloody hope you have of meeting here.

Stood up by a man then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Were they all meet verified?

Here is a fact....

when you are new, women here will not talk to you.

So; when new, you talk to new women too. That’s about the only bloody hope you have of meeting here.

Thats not actually a fact its a statement of opinion.

You have very established fabbers talking to you now.

I think the message here is although its frustrating and slow ypu need to take a bit more time selecting meets and screening them. Even at that you might still.get no shows but hopefully not as many. And never book a hotel room for a meet with a really new member

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And this is why women always insist on coffee meets first.

When someone I'm about to meet is booking a hotel - in my head it automatically puts pressure on me to fuck them and very far and few are okay with the idea of fucking a complete stranger.

Also there's been a few times when I cancelled a coffee meet pretty much last minute just because person I've been chatting to crossed a line and pissed me off by being too forward.

Is that not the problem though, with a site like this.

It promises so much... yet you need to be able to read a judge the signals.

Not everyone does that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Were they all meet verified?

Here is a fact....

when you are new, women here will not talk to you.

So; when new, you talk to new women too. That’s about the only bloody hope you have of meeting here.

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but a non verified person cant verify someone

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

Yeah I have heard that it can happen that you can be stood up on here, not had it happen me though.

Be more careful maybe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe she got the flu.. I'm dieing ffs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Were they all meet verified?

Here is a fact....

when you are new, women here will not talk to you.

So; when new, you talk to new women too. That’s about the only bloody hope you have of meeting here.

It was just a question, if not and you didn't speak to or video chat then they may well have been men... Hence why I asked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh... And I have met ALOT of unverified men so...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Start with actually speaking to each other..arrange to meet for a drink and then see about taking it further..we've all been there

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By *oreThanOnceMan
over a year ago

Dublin

"If it's any consolation it happens to us ladies as well. I got stood up twice in a row at hotel meets. I had even had the coffee dates beforehand."

Another lady I've met from Fab, told me that pre coffee meets can be very misleading and she was stood up once or twice, even after a coffee meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Report them to admin.

What good would that do?"

Yes it does no good at all I reported 3 people who stood me up and nothing.

Because they have as much right to change their minds as anyone etc etc

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By *he SophisticatsCouple
over a year ago

Casa Del Fun

Was the profile verified or new?

Not trying to knock you OP but some people jump onto newbies or unverified profiles and wonder why they get no shows OR ‘she’ shows up with a full beard and an extra packet in their pants.

Either way it’s a crap thing and wish you well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Was the profile verified or new?

Not trying to knock you OP but some people jump onto newbies or unverified profiles and wonder why they get no shows OR ‘she’ shows up with a full beard and an extra packet in their pants.

Either way it’s a crap thing and wish you well

Agree plus ALWAYS check it out on kik and ask for a quick live pic or video.

I use this method to verify everyone, no matter about gender.

And OP, please take the advice for not booking the hotel without the cancelation option. Additionally, Im wondering why haven't first arrange the social?!

I can understand "being in need" but now you are complaining about that person but to be honest... You have to blame yourself for being naive and in rush...

I hope you have learned this lesson.

Everybody was newbie and had different adventures with other fabbers but you have returned here, so you should be aware what's up. Just saying

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By *an For YouMan
over a year ago

belfast/holywood

There’s an excellent course being run by a fab member to help you sort this out. Check the forum out.... you will be told everything you need to know to sort out the waisters from the keepers. You will be shagging b4 you can say “fuck me; so that’s where I’ve been going wrong!!”

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There’s an excellent course being run by a fab member to help you sort this out. Check the forum out.... you will be told everything you need to know to sort out the waisters from the keepers. You will be shagging b4 you can say “fuck me; so that’s where I’ve been going wrong!!”"

Brilliant. Now I know!

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

Yeah but accoding to this thread it seems not only single men need swinging education.

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