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By *oreThanOnce OP   Man
over a year ago

Dublin

Since I've joined Fab a year ago, I was surprised by the amount of couples or even single women profiles, where the woman has bí-curious and bisexual, as her sexual orientation.

Now each to their own, as everyone is free to say whatever they want on their profile, but is this the opposite to the "Fab straight" men case, where as a woman on Fab, it's cool to be "Fab bi", whereas for a man it's more of a "stigma"?

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

Look at the number of female and couple profiles that have 'no bi men" statements.

Thats why

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By *oreThanOnce OP   Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"Look at the number of female and couple profiles that have 'no bi men" statements.

Thats why"

I am aware of the "no bi men" preference on loads of profiles.

What I was trying to highlight was the amount of "Fab bi-" females, is it cool to be a bi female rather than straight on Fab?

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

I suspect there are a lot more bi of both sexes.. it's just many men lie.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I suspect there are a lot more bi of both sexes.. it's just many men lie."

I get a lot of messages from men with straight on their profile.

A lot of men that say bi on their profile are up front about it on fab but nearly all are very worried about being outed.

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

There's defo something to your theory. The sweet taste of beeing a unicorn and the hubby/lads find(s)s it so sexy. However I'd apply that to bi-curious only, I suspect that there's a good amount out there that are 'bi-curious' for the wrong reasons. Someone describing themselves bisexual doesn't feel the need to pretend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's acceptable to be bi/curious as a woman. They would not need to lie about it. People just have this glorified lesbian image in their head that was created by the porn industry. It's all nice and clean fun, whereas it's not for bi men

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By *oiracpl38Couple
over a year ago

moira ish

Dee is 100% straight female and peeps are like really ? Yes really lol but seems to be in a minority

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By *oreThanOnce OP   Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"I suspect that there's a good amount out there that are 'bi-curious' for the wrong reasons."

.... for the wrong reasons indeed!

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By *oft_sexy_sweetWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

Totally agree with the OP, there's definitely a pressure on the kink and swing scenes for women to play with other women, and it's almost always from a performative perspective, for the benefit of their male partners.

I've experimented in the past, partly because of those pressures, but now I'm much more confident in myself and my desires so I identify as straight.

I find the response of other kinksters and swingers when I say I don't play with women is usually disbelief, or 'never say never', or some other faintly dismissive or pressuring statement. I find it really rude!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yea there seems to be pressures or stigmas for both men and women and usually in the opposite directions. Some bi men may feel “hard done by” that they are pressured into not admitting their bi side and therefore miss out on experiences whereas women might feel pressured into more experimental situations than they’re comfortable with. As with anything in life, fab/swinging involves real people and therefore creates pressures and it’s own types of hypocrisies. Just as in life, nothing is black or white

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By *attooYouMan
over a year ago

just about northside

What is the question again?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dee is 100% straight female and peeps are like really ? Yes really lol but seems to be in a minority "

Yes I feel like that. I've always said 'never say never' but I cant say I have ever wanted to be with a woman in that sense so far. I have even thought about doing it as it seems to be 'the thing to do' on Fab, but I just dont fancy women at all. I also want to be true to myself. So many people are disappointed when they see I'm straight. We are different as Mr is Bi!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I suspect there are a lot more bi of both sexes.. it's just many men lie."

You are right. Or "straight" guys, but having verifications from the tv/ts, are the most funny thing on fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dee is 100% straight female and peeps are like really ? Yes really lol but seems to be in a minority

Yes I feel like that. I've always said 'never say never' but I cant say I have ever wanted to be with a woman in that sense so far. I have even thought about doing it as it seems to be 'the thing to do' on Fab, but I just dont fancy women at all. I also want to be true to myself. So many people are disappointed when they see I'm straight. We are different as Mr is Bi! "

Bi man in ours too. Most of women in the "couple profiles" are straight. The thing is, that their partners are running those profiles and they have fantasies,and putting pressure on women to have fun with other girls.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dee is 100% straight female and peeps are like really ? Yes really lol but seems to be in a minority "

We hear you, it seems the straight woman is the real unicorn around here, and there's sometimes a hint of you can't possibly be in any way sexually liberated unless you're experimenting with other women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say I'm pussy tolerant, but never bi or bi curious.

In a right moment with a right person- yes of course.

But there will never be a morning where I wake up and think to myself "I'd love to have sex with a woman today".

It is frustrating at times when your partner really likes someone and is all up for it and you're like nope, don't want it.

And it's not like I wouldn't. Just the right moment didn't come and I dont know that person well enough to be attracted to them

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By *unnyfookMan
over a year ago

Naas

there are a lot of bi guys Pretending to be straight here. probably because they want to seen as "Normal" to all the straight women looking for straight guys.

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of


"there are a lot of bi guys Pretending to be straight here. probably because they want to seen as "Normal" to all the straight women looking for straight guys. "

What about the bi-women? Do they 'accept' bi-men more likely?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I suspect there are a lot more bi of both sexes.. it's just many men lie.

You are right. Or "straight" guys, but having verifications from the tv/ts, are the most funny thing on fab"

I don't get what's funny about this?

A verification from a man or TS doesn't mean that anything sexual has even occurred. Verifications are ment to verify people as genuine. I don't need to have sex with someone to know that they are genuine and verify this.

It's a shame that you get judged over this by people who don't even know what went down (or not).

Fab definitely needs better privacy controls when it comes to showing verifications.

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By *ugs BunnyCouple
over a year ago

south Dublin

I too was surprised by the amount of bi and bi curious ladies on fab. Though i am definitely not complaining, actually I'm thoroughly enjoying it! It's not easy to meet bi ladies for nsa fun outside fab. This a great playground for us bi ladies so maybe thats one of the reasons why it attracts so many. Mrs Bugs

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By *attooYouMan
over a year ago

just about northside


"I'd say I'm pussy tolerant, but never bi or bi curious.

In a right moment with a right person- yes of course.

But there will never be a morning where I wake up and think to myself "I'd love to have sex with a woman today".

It is frustrating at times when your partner really likes someone and is all up for it and you're like nope, don't want it.

And it's not like I wouldn't. Just the right moment didn't come and I dont know that person well enough to be attracted to them "

Well said

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By *attooYouMan
over a year ago

just about northside


"I too was surprised by the amount of bi and bi curious ladies on fab. Though i am definitely not complaining, actually I'm thoroughly enjoying it! It's not easy to meet bi ladies for nsa fun outside fab. This a great playground for us bi ladies so maybe thats one of the reasons why it attracts so many. Mrs Bugs "

And bully for you bunny girl. Keep enjoying.

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By *unnyfookMan
over a year ago

Naas


"there are a lot of bi guys Pretending to be straight here. probably because they want to seen as "Normal" to all the straight women looking for straight guys.

What about the bi-women? Do they 'accept' bi-men more likely? "
in my experience here being bi puts a lot of woman off. I'm just guessing but there is probably a perception of being slightly feminine when your a bi guy.when the lady is looking for a " Man". maybe I'm wrong.

even when the woman is bi. different strokes for different folks

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By *illium_cobblersMan
over a year ago

swords EI & Derby UK

whatever you put and whatever you say you will not please everyone on here so just make a choice and stick with it, lets face it bi or straight you not going to know how you will react in a meet if the temperature is correct ??

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of


"there are a lot of bi guys Pretending to be straight here. probably because they want to seen as "Normal" to all the straight women looking for straight guys.

What about the bi-women? Do they 'accept' bi-men more likely? in my experience here being bi puts a lot of woman off. I'm just guessing but there is probably a perception of being slightly feminine when your a bi guy.when the lady is looking for a " Man". maybe I'm wrong.

even when the woman is bi. different strokes for different folks

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I was just asking because you said straight women in the first place. I noticed both straight and bi women not wanting to meet bi guys. It's not that bi women would be more tolerant because they're conscious about their own bi-sexuality/curiosity. There might be that perception that bi men are less masculine but my best guess is it mainly boils down to the sti issue, namely that men who have sex with men are at greater risk of fetching an STI according to statistics. Although is tarring all bi and gay men with the same brush, by avoiding the whole group is perceived as being safer.

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By *etergemmaCouple
over a year ago

South Dublin Area


"there are a lot of bi guys Pretending to be straight here. probably because they want to seen as "Normal" to all the straight women looking for straight guys.

What about the bi-women? Do they 'accept' bi-men more likely? in my experience here being bi puts a lot of woman off. I'm just guessing but there is probably a perception of being slightly feminine when your a bi guy.when the lady is looking for a " Man". maybe I'm wrong.

even when the woman is bi. different strokes for different folks

I was just asking because you said straight women in the first place. I noticed both straight and bi women not wanting to meet bi guys. It's not that bi women would be more tolerant because they're conscious about their own bi-sexuality/curiosity. There might be that perception that bi men are less masculine but my best guess is it mainly boils down to the sti issue, namely that men who have sex with men are at greater risk of fetching an STI according to statistics. Although is tarring all bi and gay men with the same brush, by avoiding the whole group is perceived as being safer. "
I said exactly what you have just said on here a few weeks back and was accused of being homophobic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"there are a lot of bi guys Pretending to be straight here. probably because they want to seen as "Normal" to all the straight women looking for straight guys.

What about the bi-women? Do they 'accept' bi-men more likely? in my experience here being bi puts a lot of woman off. I'm just guessing but there is probably a perception of being slightly feminine when your a bi guy.when the lady is looking for a " Man". maybe I'm wrong.

even when the woman is bi. different strokes for different folks

I was just asking because you said straight women in the first place. I noticed both straight and bi women not wanting to meet bi guys. It's not that bi women would be more tolerant because they're conscious about their own bi-sexuality/curiosity. There might be that perception that bi men are less masculine but my best guess is it mainly boils down to the sti issue, namely that men who have sex with men are at greater risk of fetching an STI according to statistics. Although is tarring all bi and gay men with the same brush, by avoiding the whole group is perceived as being safer. "

They are at greater risk of testing positive for an STI, this doesn't necessarily mean that they have higher incidence, they could in fact just be more diligent about getting tested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"there are a lot of bi guys Pretending to be straight here. probably because they want to seen as "Normal" to all the straight women looking for straight guys.

What about the bi-women? Do they 'accept' bi-men more likely? in my experience here being bi puts a lot of woman off. I'm just guessing but there is probably a perception of being slightly feminine when your a bi guy.when the lady is looking for a " Man". maybe I'm wrong.

even when the woman is bi. different strokes for different folks

I was just asking because you said straight women in the first place. I noticed both straight and bi women not wanting to meet bi guys. It's not that bi women would be more tolerant because they're conscious about their own bi-sexuality/curiosity. There might be that perception that bi men are less masculine but my best guess is it mainly boils down to the sti issue, namely that men who have sex with men are at greater risk of fetching an STI according to statistics. Although is tarring all bi and gay men with the same brush, by avoiding the whole group is perceived as being safer.

They are at greater risk of testing positive for an STI, this doesn't necessarily mean that they have higher incidence, they could in fact just be more diligent about getting tested. "

Me thinks it's the case too as most women are just "too ashamed" to visit gum clinic, as well as admit that they have been with another woman. God forbid some stranger (in this case doctor or a nurse) will judge them for being adventurous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"there are a lot of bi guys Pretending to be straight here. probably because they want to seen as "Normal" to all the straight women looking for straight guys.

What about the bi-women? Do they 'accept' bi-men more likely? in my experience here being bi puts a lot of woman off. I'm just guessing but there is probably a perception of being slightly feminine when your a bi guy.when the lady is looking for a " Man". maybe I'm wrong.

even when the woman is bi. different strokes for different folks

I was just asking because you said straight women in the first place. I noticed both straight and bi women not wanting to meet bi guys. It's not that bi women would be more tolerant because they're conscious about their own bi-sexuality/curiosity. There might be that perception that bi men are less masculine but my best guess is it mainly boils down to the sti issue, namely that men who have sex with men are at greater risk of fetching an STI according to statistics. Although is tarring all bi and gay men with the same brush, by avoiding the whole group is perceived as being safer.

They are at greater risk of testing positive for an STI, this doesn't necessarily mean that they have higher incidence, they could in fact just be more diligent about getting tested.

Me thinks it's the case too as most women are just "too ashamed" to visit gum clinic, as well as admit that they have been with another woman. God forbid some stranger (in this case doctor or a nurse) will judge them for being adventurous "

There's also the denial aspect, only "dirty" people get STIs according to some. Or "we use condoms, don't need testing".

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By *unnyfookMan
over a year ago

Naas


"there are a lot of bi guys Pretending to be straight here. probably because they want to seen as "Normal" to all the straight women looking for straight guys.

What about the bi-women? Do they 'accept' bi-men more likely? in my experience here being bi puts a lot of woman off. I'm just guessing but there is probably a perception of being slightly feminine when your a bi guy.when the lady is looking for a " Man". maybe I'm wrong.

even when the woman is bi. different strokes for different folks

I was just asking because you said straight women in the first place. I noticed both straight and bi women not wanting to meet bi guys. It's not that bi women would be more tolerant because they're conscious about their own bi-sexuality/curiosity. There might be that perception that bi men are less masculine but my best guess is it mainly boils down to the sti issue, namely that men who have sex with men are at greater risk of fetching an STI according to statistics. Although is tarring all bi and gay men with the same brush, by avoiding the whole group is perceived as being safer.

They are at greater risk of testing positive for an STI, this doesn't necessarily mean that they have higher incidence, they could in fact just be more diligent about getting tested. "
I think maybe both attitudes exist, ie the sti one and the masculinity one, as for the comment about homophobia. I don't see how you were called homophobic, the white knights must have been out that day

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