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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Or both ladies?

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

Compliment if he can go again. Letdown if he cant

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By *ro_boner_publicoMan
over a year ago

North County

Hence the importance of a bit of warning before a meet to take the edge of *manually*.

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By *oirinMarkusCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands and West London

Compliment. Does he stop the action there, or lick, rub, caress me etc and make sure I'm still being pleasured? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do u think a woman would ever ask this question?

What would u guys say?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do u think a woman would ever ask this question?

What would u guys say? "

Id be highly insulted if a woman came before me on a meet

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By *ro_boner_publicoMan
over a year ago

North County

Many women can stack orgasms, and their pussies often become wetter and better in the process.

Such advantages are often unavailable to men.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Should be no prob going again even if we have to lick for a little bit;)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to get my orgasam out of the way in the first 30 seconds so I can focus on her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd be fairly disappointed tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let down.

An early cummer can spoil what should be hours of teasing, flirting, foreplay and finally the grand finale.

Having said that, its a takent timing it so both share that final explosive few mins at same time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What if he don't cum at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No crime in that at all

Some prefer not to and enjoy staying on the crest of that wave.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes but the lady enjoy it as much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tried to excuse that by thinking of the men didn't have sex in a long time so they can't hold it for long. But its very disappointing. While Im still so horney and have to wait till he gets "in the mood" again. No thanks.

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By *ysteryman2009Man
over a year ago

Ireland

OP are you bored to ask a silly question like that.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork


"I tried to excuse that by thinking of the men didn't have sex in a long time so they can't hold it for long. But its very disappointing. While Im still so horney and have to wait till he gets "in the mood" again. No thanks."

What if you were to cum first? Would the man you're with be disappointed that he had to get you "in the mood" again? Would you expect to be made to feel bad for your poor performance (because he is skilled at making women cum)?

#orgasmequality

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I tried to excuse that by thinking of the men didn't have sex in a long time so they can't hold it for long. But its very disappointing. While Im still so horney and have to wait till he gets "in the mood" again. No thanks.

What if you were to cum first? Would the man you're with be disappointed that he had to get you "in the mood" again? Would you expect to be made to feel bad for your poor performance (because he is skilled at making women cum)?

#orgasmequality"

Ok theres a big difference here. Women can have several orgasms one after the other....men don't. So if I cum first theres literally nothing to stop him to cum when he is ready, and lets say he's very skilled.. I could cum again...

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

Some incorrect assumptions there. SOME women (but not all) can cum more than once. Many cant do it without a significant buildup with the male partner putting work in to get her in the mood and able to have orgasm number 2. Also some men can also cum more than once in fairly quick succession.

In my opinion the sign of a good lover is one who will happily put the work in to make me cum, not the one who can hold out the longest in some not-cumming competition (that doesnt also apply to the female).

In my opinion is not ok for men to bear all the pressure of somehow ruining sex and being a bad lover, if his partner gets him so turned on that he cums before her.

Complaining that you have to work to get him in the mood again is just lazy. Guys do it. You can too.

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By *ro_boner_publicoMan
over a year ago

North County

Shame you're all the way across the country, Filthy. You sound like an extremely considerate lover.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"OP are you bored to ask a silly question like that."

Sorry didn’t think there was guidelines for the questions here

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork


"OP are you bored to ask a silly question like that."

Not a silly question at all.

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By *ouble Trouble 1000Couple
over a year ago

ireland

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By *hiaboutMan
over a year ago

johnstown

Look hey it is what it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Or both ladies?"

A total let down

I used to see a guy & everytime I'd bend over for doggy he'd cum within seconds, I even counted the seconds once & he lasted a total of 3secs

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Couldn’t blame him lol where not all machines;)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some incorrect assumptions there. SOME women (but not all) can cum more than once. Many cant do it without a significant buildup with the male partner putting work in to get her in the mood and able to have orgasm number 2. Also some men can also cum more than once in fairly quick succession.

In my opinion the sign of a good lover is one who will happily put the work in to make me cum, not the one who can hold out the longest in some not-cumming competition (that doesnt also apply to the female).

In my opinion is not ok for men to bear all the pressure of somehow ruining sex and being a bad lover, if his partner gets him so turned on that he cums before her.

Complaining that you have to work to get him in the mood again is just lazy. Guys do it. You can too."

Incorrect assumptions....I never said ALL women

I never complained about making the effort? but you still call me lazy? Lol. Hey keep it cool. We all have preferences dont we?.... I just answered OP's question. Quickies dont do anything for me and Im sure wouldnt do anything for a man. Loads of considerations in this important topic...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well this seems to have divided opinions more than I thought!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Or both ladies?

A total let down

I used to see a guy & everytime I'd bend over for doggy he'd cum within seconds, I even counted the seconds once & he lasted a total of 3secs "

Oh no disaster. Something like that happened to me also....Its awckward because I wouldnt feel comfortable if he feels embarassed because of that.

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By *ongueandgroove555Couple
over a year ago

Waterford

Mr can make me cum in seconds and then over and over till im exhausted, he can be relentless and it's mind blowing. On the other hand sometimes I feel bad that I cum so much and he might cum once or not a all but on occasion he cums in a few mins. What matters is we both enjoy and are happy with how things work for us.

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By *atherjackhackettMan
over a year ago

Tipperary

Are women happy to cum in any way or is it more important/more pleasurable to cum with sex?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do u think a woman would ever ask this question?

What would u guys say? "

I think most women would be ready to go again quite soon after, so it wouldn’t really be a problem. Most guys on the other hand, not so much.

I think most guys would take a woman cumming really quickly as a compliment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesnt bother me if he cums quick. Once he then turns his attention to me more so.

MrD will be ready to go again in 10mins anyway. If he is really turned on, sooner. So its just enough time for me to get a vib out & please myself while he recovers. He usually starts playing with my nipple piercing or something to keep me warmed up & horny.

I think you need an attentive lover who may cum quick but entertains you as he gears up again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Or both ladies?

A total let down

I used to see a guy & everytime I'd bend over for doggy he'd cum within seconds, I even counted the seconds once & he lasted a total of 3secs "

To be fair Zara with you bent over it's slot to hold back from cumming xx

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

I find it utterly frustrating and surely it isn't very promising nor a great motivation to get him and yourself going again for round two.

I can understand that the sheer initial excitement can lead to a quicker peak. However based on my experience the underlying problem is a lack of tuning between body and mind for various reasons.

As for #orgasmequality, where's mine if he goes off like a cheap firecracker?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

what about cum often ?? lol

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By *atherjackhackettMan
over a year ago

Tipperary

If the man cums fast ok as long as he doesn't go checking the football scores after

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of


"what about cum often ?? lol"

Do you mean 10 times 3 minutes? It's a bit like putting the kettle on over and over again for binge drinking on Nescafe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its almost like different people have different preferences.....

Clear communication and honesty are key.

If you are looking for someone to go and go be clear if your a guy and thats not your style be honest. And visa versa.

There is plenty people who want loads of various things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"what about cum often ?? lol

Do you mean 10 times 3 minutes? It's a bit like putting the kettle on over and over again for binge drinking on Nescafe. "

Loving the analogy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I tried to excuse that by thinking of the men didn't have sex in a long time so they can't hold it for long. But its very disappointing. While Im still so horney and have to wait till he gets "in the mood" again. No thanks.

What if you were to cum first? Would the man you're with be disappointed that he had to get you "in the mood" again? Would you expect to be made to feel bad for your poor performance (because he is skilled at making women cum)?

#orgasmequality

Ok theres a big difference here. Women can have several orgasms one after the other....men don't. So if I cum first theres literally nothing to stop him to cum when he is ready, and lets say he's very skilled.. I could cum again...

"

I haven't meet a girl that has cum before me in a long time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I tried to excuse that by thinking of the men didn't have sex in a long time so they can't hold it for long. But its very disappointing. While Im still so horney and have to wait till he gets "in the mood" again. No thanks.

What if you were to cum first? Would the man you're with be disappointed that he had to get you "in the mood" again? Would you expect to be made to feel bad for your poor performance (because he is skilled at making women cum)?

#orgasmequality

Ok theres a big difference here. Women can have several orgasms one after the other....men don't. So if I cum first theres literally nothing to stop him to cum when he is ready, and lets say he's very skilled.. I could cum again...

"

Best to look after her first

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By *heilsWoman
over a year ago

Midlands

All men and women are different...some cum quick and then can cum again, some take alot of build up and "effort" while some may not cum at all during a session. What is important is that both people are satisfied, happy and comfortable. It's not an insult if a guy cums quickly, it's an insult if he then lays back and says "woah...that was good, I don't think I can go again..." and ignores the lady and her needs, and vice versa for a female to do that. Sure I'm done, good luck...see ya!

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By *ensualandslow321Man
over a year ago

Tullamore


"I tried to excuse that by thinking of the men didn't have sex in a long time so they can't hold it for long. But its very disappointing. While Im still so horney and have to wait till he gets "in the mood" again. No thanks.

What if you were to cum first?

Would the man you're with be disappointed that he had to get you "in the mood" again? Would you expect to be made to feel bad for your poor performance (because he is skilled at making women cum)?

#orgasmequality

Ok theres a big difference here. Women can have several orgasms one after the other....men don't. So if I cum first theres literally nothing to stop him to cum when he is ready, and lets say he's very skilled.. I could cum again...

Best to look after her first"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hence the importance of a bit of warning before a meet to take the edge of *manually*. "

Just think about the movie - there's something about Mary

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Doesnt bother me if he cums quick. Once he then turns his attention to me more so.

MrD will be ready to go again in 10mins anyway. If he is really turned on, sooner. So its just enough time for me to get a vib out & please myself while he recovers. He usually starts playing with my nipple piercing or something to keep me warmed up & horny.

I think you need an attentive lover who may cum quick but entertains you as he gears up again. "

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By *oft_sexy_sweetWoman
over a year ago

Dublin


"Are women happy to cum in any way or is it more important/more pleasurable to cum with sex?"

For me, it's not about how I cum but the fact that I like to be fucked for a long time, whether or not I cum! I'm very much all about cock so being stimulated only with fingers or tongue (because my partner has cum quickly) is frustrating for me.

So on the original Q, yes for me it's disappointing when my partner cums quickly.

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By *an For YouMan
over a year ago

belfast/holywood

Another point of view.... sometimes I know, no matter what I do, I ain’t gonna cum. I’ve spent so so long pleasuring her, licking her, rimming her , every position going fuckin her, so I’ve lost the plot wen it comes to my Cumming. Normally pull out and wank over her , happens mebbe 1 in 20 times

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin


"Some incorrect assumptions there. SOME women (but not all) can cum more than once. Many cant do it without a significant buildup with the male partner putting work in to get her in the mood and able to have orgasm number 2. Also some men can also cum more than once in fairly quick succession.

In my opinion the sign of a good lover is one who will happily put the work in to make me cum, not the one who can hold out the longest in some not-cumming competition (that doesnt also apply to the female).

In my opinion is not ok for men to bear all the pressure of somehow ruining sex and being a bad lover, if his partner gets him so turned on that he cums before her.

Complaining that you have to work to get him in the mood again is just lazy. Guys do it. You can too."

Great attitude

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By *ORDERMANMan
over a year ago

wrexham

Also depends on circumstances.. An ex sometimes liked a quickie and enjoyed that she'd turned me on so much I came quickly..

Other times I'd enjoying savouring the love making for considerably longer..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Complete let down if a partner isn't a repeat performer.

I'm not one for quickies with new people (people I'm familiar with- yes, no problem, if all circumstances are right).

It's extremely deflating building up chemistry and tension and electricity only for a 20 second dip. Yes, I've been there many times. Apparently my vajayjay really tightens when I'm enjoying myself and it makes people cum in no time and be like "whoah, that was out of this world, I can't move my legs" for about an hour. Which is just enough time to kill my mojo

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By *hiaboutMan
over a year ago

johnstown

I think aget the quick cumm done an then enjoy the build up of passion for round 2.find it works a treat most ot the time

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By *ubeMan
over a year ago

Drogheda

It's not all about cumming it's about pleasure for me, I enjoy giving a woman pleasure using everything I got, there is nothing more pleasurable for me than taking a woman to the edge and keeping her there for hours if she comes a few times so be it, as long as we both have a great time,

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By *hebossman1Man
over a year ago

dublin


"Or both ladies?

A total let down

I used to see a guy & everytime I'd bend over for doggy he'd cum within seconds, I even counted the seconds once & he lasted a total of 3secs "

Ah now 3 seconds that has to be a joke haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Everyone is different I guess haha

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork


"my vajayjay really tightens when I'm enjoying myself"

Mailbox implosion lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not all about cumming it's about pleasure for me, I enjoy giving a woman pleasure using everything I got, there is nothing more pleasurable for me than taking a woman to the edge and keeping her there for hours if she comes a few times so be it, as long as we both have a great time,"

agree its all about pleasure ... i think age & the snip had somewhat reduced my ability to cum quickly...but i so love the time we spend enjoying each other...as for the recovery time...a wonderful time to relax together, chat & prefare for the next round

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By *olongsuckerMan
over a year ago

Carrickonshannon


"Some incorrect assumptions there. SOME women (but not all) can cum more than once. Many cant do it without a significant buildup with the male partner putting work in to get her in the mood and able to have orgasm number 2. Also some men can also cum more than once in fairly quick succession.

In my opinion the sign of a good lover is one who will happily put the work in to make me cum, not the one who can hold out the longest in some not-cumming competition (that doesnt also apply to the female).

In my opinion is not ok for men to bear all the pressure of somehow ruining sex and being a bad lover, if his partner gets him so turned on that he cums before her.

Complaining that you have to work to get him in the mood again is just lazy. Guys do it. You can too.

Incorrect assumptions....I never said ALL women

I never complained about making the effort? but you still call me lazy? Lol. Hey keep it cool. We all have preferences dont we?.... I just answered OP's question. Quickies dont do anything for me and Im sure wouldnt do anything for a man. Loads of considerations in this important topic..."

The reality is that each situation is different and there are no hard & fast rules (see what I did there) I've been with women that claim they never cum, some that only cum once & others that can't stop Cummings once they've had the first one, ultimately they've all reached the latter stage and it's through practice and relaxation. I've also been in group situations where guys can't cum, cum in seconds or hold off so long it's difficult to cum & yes there's even been repeat loads from guys, the best I've witnessed was 5 loads in an hour(not me) with the same woman. Bottom line is there can be any number of reasons for a quick cummer, if the woman takes it as anything other than a compliment then it's game over.

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