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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hello everyone ..ok..we know how hard it is for guys here to get meets etc (due,I suppose in no small way to the way over balanced ratio of guys & ladies) even with photos etc on their profile so while it may NOT in any way help that ,how many guys would be willing to hide their profile photos and just try to use their charm alone on the ladies to see if ye could " woo " them,to catch their attention and of course ,keep it , without showing one photo ,...that their personality alone gets the chance that gets them to get a meet or get chatting to a lady ,your profile piece is of course available to be seen by the lady to view and read ....l know there are those that will say .." l can't get a meet with photos so how am l gonna get one without photos " understandable..but would it lead to guys having to put more effort into their messages ???. any opinions...???

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By *oft_sexy_sweetWoman
over a year ago

Dublin


"Hello everyone ..ok..we know how hard it is for guys here to get meets etc (due,I suppose in no small way to the way over balanced ratio of guys & ladies) even with photos etc on their profile so while it may NOT in any way help that ,how many guys would be willing to hide their profile photos and just try to use their charm alone on the ladies to see if ye could " woo " them,to catch their attention and of course ,keep it , without showing one photo ,...that their personality alone gets the chance that gets them to get a meet or get chatting to a lady ,your profile piece is of course available to be seen by the lady to view and read ....l know there are those that will say .." l can't get a meet with photos so how am l gonna get one without photos " understandable..but would it lead to guys having to put more effort into their messages ???. any opinions...???"

If I get a message from an account without a profile pic on it (like yours) I just delete without even opening. Pics are part of the overall package for me, it's not enough to have a good profile OR good pics OR good conversation, it's gotta be all three! (again, for me, yes I have high standards)

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

Nice effort OP.. But no. No pics=no chance.

Why would a female even bother to reply as there are thousands more guys waiting who DO have pictures.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

Also, for me... no pics on an unverified male profile screams "married and bored"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No pic, no reply.Cock pics in a first message..delete

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Working it for years

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By *ofistimacatedMan
over a year ago

cavan town

I have pics, i put effort into my profile and i put effort into my messages. I'm not going to change that and I don't think anyone will.

I think any pic is better than no pic to be honest. Just takes 2 mins.

Just as a matter of interest, why do you not have at least a profile pic? As you say you can accom, I doubt you are married so no wife at home to catch you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Humans are quite visual, we all like pictures, especially of aesthetically pleasing individuals, however for me a profile with no pictures is unappealing on other levels also. It makes me wonder what the person is hiding, it also feels creepy in the sense that they can see me (or part of me) but I can't see anything at all of them.

So I tend to avoid, they give me bad vibes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Contrary to your theory OP, I find that those who put effort into their profile overall including a range of pictures and text also tend to be the ones who put effort into their messages, which is hardly that surprising when you consider it

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By *avidc2019Man
over a year ago

dublin

It’s hard enough to get a conversation going with most of the ladies on here due to the ratio men to women so a little bit of effort has to go into pics and profile,pictures don’t need to be perfect but they do help

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By *azmanMan
over a year ago

Vera Playa

give the lad a break, maybe the lighting was bad when he took the photo....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

IF we were in a community that was vetted, where all the members were verified (such as a sub-group of Fab), and were encouraged to communicate without pictures, I might do rather better than I currently do. I don’t think I’m hideous looking, but I think most of the female population of Fab do think that. I think most take one look at my picture and block. Those who take the time to read my profile tend to chat a while.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get the sentiment but your then asking someone to give a person who it will appear couldnt be arsed putting up some pics the time to show their charm....

I think with pics it is as much about showing the time and effort to take some decent pocs rather than having some amazing body or face on show tbh

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have pics, i put effort into my profile and i put effort into my messages. I'm not going to change that and I don't think anyone will.

I think any pic is better than no pic to be honest. Just takes 2 mins.

Just as a matter of interest, why do you not have at least a profile pic? As you say you can accom, I doubt you are married so no wife at home to catch you "

Since you've asked my friend,I'll answer you,l'm not looking for any meet ,l've met this amazing lady on here and we've been seeing each other regularly since last April and it's absolutely amazing ...l'm only here for the banter on the forums ,to give my tuppence worth and to read the amazing witty replies on the different topics posted here by so many witty ,funny and Brilliant people.and also to keep my profile open to access or apply for invitations to parties..as it's a road we're both very interested in travelling.so l have absolutely no reason tbh to have a profile photo up atm as l'm not looking for any meets and yes of course l did have profile ,public and friends only photos up before l met this current lady ,and do of course fully realise that photos catch ladies attention and wouldn't think for one second that they wouldn't and can fully understand why ladies wouldn't reply to a non photo profile , Absolutely ,..BUT ...I cannot lie ,when l see something on a ladies profile that catches my attention ,l have sent messages asking or being curious about the same thing and all of them have replied and found it very interesting that l would ask about that certain point on their profile,and yes ,the ladies have also mentioned that l was the first guy to ask her about whatever it is l wrote to her about, so the point of my post here is ,can a guy get a lady's attention ,keep it.. without having a photo on his profile,like could a guy hit a switch with a lady WITHOUT her even seeing the guy as l do believe if there is mental stimulation between two the results are wayyyyyyyyyy better than just sex for the sake of sex ...and it's great to get everyone's opinion...but just to reiterate ,l have no photo's as l'm NOT looking for meets,the post here is just to see if any guy can get a meet by just his charm alone ..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Humans are quite visual, we all like pictures, especially of aesthetically pleasing individuals, however for me a profile with no pictures is unappealing on other levels also. It makes me wonder what the person is hiding, it also feels creepy in the sense that they can see me (or part of me) but I can't see anything at all of them.

So I tend to avoid, they give me bad vibes. "

Fully understandable.. Absolutely..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It’s hard enough to get a conversation going with most of the ladies on here due to the ratio men to women so a little bit of effort has to go into pics and profile,pictures don’t need to be perfect but they do help "

Fully agree ,as ladies here have the run of the shop and they're certainly not gonna chat to a guy with no photos if they can chat to 300+ that have , so you think a guy has no chance to hit the switch of a lady without a photo ,which is the topic of this post to get people's opinion....thanks for your reply my friend

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"IF we were in a community that was vetted, where all the members were verified (such as a sub-group of Fab), and were encouraged to communicate without pictures, I might do rather better than I currently do. I don’t think I’m hideous looking, but I think most of the female population of Fab do think that. I think most take one look at my picture and block. Those who take the time to read my profile tend to chat a while. "

Great reply my friend,but you think a guy has a better chance with a photo rather than be able to catch a lady's attention with his text charm to woo the lady ?

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By *outh_of_EdenMan
over a year ago

fota


"Hello everyone ..ok..we know how hard it is for guys here to get meets etc (due,I suppose in no small way to the way over balanced ratio of guys & ladies) even with photos etc on their profile so while it may NOT in any way help that ,how many guys would be willing to hide their profile photos and just try to use their charm alone on the ladies to see if ye could " woo " them,to catch their attention and of course ,keep it , without showing one photo ,...that their personality alone gets the chance that gets them to get a meet or get chatting to a lady ,your profile piece is of course available to be seen by the lady to view and read ....l know there are those that will say .." l can't get a meet with photos so how am l gonna get one without photos " understandable..but would it lead to guys having to put more effort into their messages ???. any opinions...???

If I get a message from an account without a profile pic on it (like yours) I just delete without even opening. Pics are part of the overall package for me, it's not enough to have a good profile OR good pics OR good conversation, it's gotta be all three! (again, for me, yes I have high standards) "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I get the sentiment but your then asking someone to give a person who it will appear couldnt be arsed putting up some pics the time to show their charm....

I think with pics it is as much about showing the time and effort to take some decent pocs rather than having some amazing body or face on show tbh"

The point l'm asking is do you think a guy can catch a lady's attention with his charm without a photo on his profile?...please note ..this topic is NOT about me personally...it's just an open post to get people's opinion...

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By *avidc2019Man
over a year ago

dublin


"I get the sentiment but your then asking someone to give a person who it will appear couldnt be arsed putting up some pics the time to show their charm....

I think with pics it is as much about showing the time and effort to take some decent pocs rather than having some amazing body or face on show tbh

The point l'm asking is do you think a guy can catch a lady's attention with his charm without a photo on his profile?...please note ..this topic is NOT about me personally...it's just an open post to get people's opinion..."

id love to think we all could op giving the time but I don’t think so a lot of women on here like to window shop before buying

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

Nope. You can be one charming bastard... but that doesnt compensate for ugly.

Relationships are different. If you're looking for a partner then you're looking for something deeper. On a sex site you're looking for someone you wanna fuck. That means pics.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Nice effort OP.. But no. No pics=no chance.

Why would a female even bother to reply as there are thousands more guys waiting who DO have pictures."

Hi..what do you mean by the " nice effort " ?.this topic or post isnt about me or my situation in any way ,it's just an open question to get people's opinions ..so you're saying that if you got a message from a guy that clicked your interest in what he asked ..maybe something that no one else asked you before but because he had no photo ,you wouldn't reply ?...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I get the sentiment but your then asking someone to give a person who it will appear couldnt be arsed putting up some pics the time to show their charm....

I think with pics it is as much about showing the time and effort to take some decent pocs rather than having some amazing body or face on show tbh

The point l'm asking is do you think a guy can catch a lady's attention with his charm without a photo on his profile?...please note ..this topic is NOT about me personally...it's just an open post to get people's opinion...id love to think we all could op giving the time but I don’t think so a lot of women on here like to window shop before buying "

Fair point my friend and of course l realise that photos would have to be exchanged at some point.. absolutely...for both parties..after all...there are times the lady that shows up at a meet isnt always the lady in the photo either ...

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By *sLittleRedRidingHoodWoman
over a year ago

Magical Forrest

At the end of the day women and men are selling themselves on his site.

Profile pic.

Profile.

Preferences

Location.

All are taken into account.

Yes the ratio is not equal.

But even at that many single guys get loads of meets,party invites and go to socials.

It's how you sell yourself that is important.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Nope. You can be one charming bastard... but that doesnt compensate for ugly.

Relationships are different. If you're looking for a partner then you're looking for something deeper. On a sex site you're looking for someone you wanna fuck. That means pics."

Of course l realise photos would have to be seen at some stage but l'm talking about the initial contact ...like , have you ever got a message from a non photo profile that caught your attention at all ..in any way ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"At the end of the day women and men are selling themselves on his site.

Profile pic.

Profile.

Preferences

Location.

All are taken into account.

Yes the ratio is not equal.

But even at that many single guys get loads of meets,party invites and go to socials.

It's how you sell yourself that is important.

"

Awesome reply ...so no photo profile ever caught your attention with a message ?

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By *he SophisticatsCouple
over a year ago

Casa Del Fun


"Nope. You can be one charming bastard... but that doesnt compensate for ugly.

Relationships are different. If you're looking for a partner then you're looking for something deeper. On a sex site you're looking for someone you wanna fuck. That means pics."

Although we like and somewhat get what the OP is trying to do, we both agree with you 100%

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get the sentiment but your then asking someone to give a person who it will appear couldnt be arsed putting up some pics the time to show their charm....

I think with pics it is as much about showing the time and effort to take some decent pocs rather than having some amazing body or face on show tbh

The point l'm asking is do you think a guy can catch a lady's attention with his charm without a photo on his profile?...please note ..this topic is NOT about me personally...it's just an open post to get people's opinion..."

Well you have stated that you have gotten replies so yes clearly it is possible.

I probably wouldnt get as many replies or messages if my tits werent on show but I think I could still manage a few.

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By *sLittleRedRidingHoodWoman
over a year ago

Magical Forrest


"At the end of the day women and men are selling themselves on his site.

Profile pic.

Profile.

Preferences

Location.

All are taken into account.

Yes the ratio is not equal.

But even at that many single guys get loads of meets,party invites and go to socials.

It's how you sell yourself that is important.

Awesome reply ...so no photo profile ever caught your attention with a message ?"

Yes some have... but then I always ask for recent face pic...

Attraction is a must.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork


"Nope. You can be one charming bastard... but that doesnt compensate for ugly.

Relationships are different. If you're looking for a partner then you're looking for something deeper. On a sex site you're looking for someone you wanna fuck. That means pics.

Of course l realise photos would have to be seen at some stage but l'm talking about the initial contact ...like , have you ever got a message from a non photo profile that caught your attention at all ..in any way ?"

Nope. They get ignored.

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By *Sparkie.Man
over a year ago

Ratoath

Unless the lady is into that silhouette guy from the Milk Tray and years ago, you dont stand a chance, pics are a must I'm afraid

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

Where are all the sapiophiles gone? Or the ones that set personality above everything. Normally there's quite a bunch of them around.

Anyhow imo fab is a meat market and visual advertising is crucial.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Where are all the sapiophiles gone? Or the ones that set personality above everything. Normally there's quite a bunch of them around.

Anyhow imo fab is a meat market and visual advertising is crucial. "

I wonder if any ladies here met what they thought was gonna be a brilliant meet only to find and discover that the guy was a major disappointment in more ways than one because they went for the " meat meet "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Unless the lady is into that silhouette guy from the Milk Tray and years ago, you dont stand a chance, pics are a must I'm afraid"

Well...all l can say to that is ,it was my messages that got the ladies l met Interested as my profile photo was only a body shot of me in a blue top ..so that certainly wouldn't haven't got any ladies juices flowing at any stage ...

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By *easingTimMan
over a year ago

Loughlinstown


"Hello everyone ..ok..we know how hard it is for guys here to get meets etc (due,I suppose in no small way to the way over balanced ratio of guys & ladies) even with photos etc on their profile so while it may NOT in any way help that ,how many guys would be willing to hide their profile photos and just try to use their charm alone on the ladies to see if ye could " woo " them,to catch their attention and of course ,keep it , without showing one photo ,...that their personality alone gets the chance that gets them to get a meet or get chatting to a lady ,your profile piece is of course available to be seen by the lady to view and read ....l know there are those that will say .." l can't get a meet with photos so how am l gonna get one without photos " understandable..but would it lead to guys having to put more effort into their messages ???. any opinions...???"

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Tbh Op...

Saying that it's hard for a guy to get meets here is a cop out ...and you know it! There's guys who make an effort with profiles, pics, go attend socials (i.e. graft) and then there's men with a self defeatest attitude who blame the oft quoted "Male:female ratio" Question should be: How many women are you after NOT how many men are on the site???

Re: pics...

How about men getting more creative with a camera and in doing so, bring the playing field up a level, instead of depriving the opposite sex of a cheeky pic or a little eye candy? ...as let's face it, FAB would indeed be a dull place with less pics

The solution...

"More pics with less dicks!"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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Hello everyone ..ok..we know how hard it is for guys here to get meets etc (due,I suppose in no small way to the way over balanced ratio of guys & ladies) even with photos etc on their profile so while it may NOT in any way help that ,how many guys would be willing to hide their profile photos and just try to use their charm alone on the ladies to see if ye could " woo " them,to catch their attention and of course ,keep it , without showing one photo ,...that their personality alone gets the chance that gets them to get a meet or get chatting to a lady ,your profile piece is of course available to be seen by the lady to view and read ....l know there are those that will say .." l can't get a meet with photos so how am l gonna get one without photos " understandable..but would it lead to guys having to put more effort into their messages ???. any opinions...???

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Tbh Op...

Saying that it's hard for a guy to get meets here is a cop out ...and you know it! There's guys who make an effort with profiles, pics, go attend socials (i.e. graft) and then there's men with a self defeatest attitude who blame the oft quoted "Male:female ratio" Question should be: How many women are you after NOT how many men are on the site???

Re: pics...

How about men getting more creative with a camera and in doing so, bring the playing field up a level, instead of depriving the opposite sex of a cheeky pic or a little eye candy? ...as let's face it, FAB would indeed be a dull place with less pics

The solution...

"More pics with less dicks!" "

......…......….

Tbh my friend ..you're missing the whole point of the topic which is just asking the question do people think they could get a lady's attention and keep it without a photo on their profile.. nothin' more .. nothin' less ..and " it's a cop out " ??..a " cop out " from what ? ..forums here have been littered with guys saying how hard it is to get meets or no replies or getting verified even to the extent of it getting to nearly frying people's heads ...and non verified won't be invited to a lot of parties ..l do of course agree with you on the points of guys putting in better effort etc with photos . Absolutely..it's only right ...but just to say the lady that l'm currently meeting that l met here had no profile photo at all or any photos of any discription on her page ,l had at the time ,but something just clicked in chatting,of course photos were exchanged before meeting but initially contact was made without any photos on her profile ,so that's why l was just asking other people's thoughts and opinions on the subject ,could guys catch and keep a lady's attention with a message without a photo on his page ..you know ..hit a switch on the lady with a question or comment about something she has posted on her profile..her status or something she posted on the forums ..( ps just to say the reason I've no photos on my profile is simply because l'm NOT looking to meet anyone ,when l was l had of course photos up and if circumstances changed ,so would my profile,) and just to finish my reply ,l do of course fully understand too why ladies wouldn't reply to a guys message with no photos on his profile cause it does give off the vibe of different scenarios.

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By *Sparkie.Man
over a year ago

Ratoath


"Unless the lady is into that silhouette guy from the Milk Tray and years ago, you dont stand a chance, pics are a must I'm afraid

Well...all l can say to that is ,it was my messages that got the ladies l met Interested as my profile photo was only a body shot of me in a blue top ..so that certainly wouldn't haven't got any ladies juices flowing at any stage ..."

I'm going to call you out, unhide your profile and let's see how many you've actually met

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

There is a difference between having no pics, and just having a basic body shot. Mr _ilthynights just has a clothed body pic here. You're talking about none at all.

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of


"Where are all the sapiophiles gone? Or the ones that set personality above everything. Normally there's quite a bunch of them around.

Anyhow imo fab is a meat market and visual advertising is crucial.

I wonder if any ladies here met what they thought was gonna be a brilliant meet only to find and discover that the guy was a major disappointment in more ways than one because they went for the " meat meet ""

There's always a rest-risk of a mismatch no matter what kinda criteria you use to choose your meet but also it depends what you're looking for.

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By *ofistimacatedMan
over a year ago

cavan town

Anything is possible I guess whatever works for yourself, keep doing it. I could eat a bowl of soup with a fork but would be much quicker and easier with a spoon. Maybe I'm just lazy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello everyone ..ok..we know how hard it is for guys here to get meets etc (due,I suppose in no small way to the way over balanced ratio of guys & ladies) even with photos etc on their profile so while it may NOT in any way help that ,how many guys would be willing to hide their profile photos and just try to use their charm alone on the ladies to see if ye could " woo " them,to catch their attention and of course ,keep it , without showing one photo ,...that their personality alone gets the chance that gets them to get a meet or get chatting to a lady ,your profile piece is of course available to be seen by the lady to view and read ....l know there are those that will say .." l can't get a meet with photos so how am l gonna get one without photos " understandable..but would it lead to guys having to put more effort into their messages ???. any opinions...???"
I see lots of couples with only the female half and maybe one picture of the male half on some.But yet those very same couples complain about single male's not having any pictures.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Personally I rarely answer a message now if someone has no profile pic up. As I think if they make that little an effort then why should I. Some have gotten through because there first message has been interesting.

Most use the excuse that they don't want anyone to know they are on here but that's a cop out you can easily hide who you are even when you put pics up.

At the end of the day tho this site is visual and the better a profile you have the more likely you are to get somewhere I always look at a profile first before I answer a first message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I rarely answer a message now if someone has no profile pic up. As I think if they make that little an effort then why should I. Some have gotten through because there first message has been interesting.

Most use the excuse that they don't want anyone to know they are on here but that's a cop out you can easily hide who you are even when you put pics up.

At the end of the day tho this site is visual and the better a profile you have the more likely you are to get somewhere I always look at a profile first before I answer a first message.

"

But does a picture really tell much about the person behind it you can cover over so many cracks in pictures now a days.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I rarely answer a message now if someone has no profile pic up. As I think if they make that little an effort then why should I. Some have gotten through because there first message has been interesting.

Most use the excuse that they don't want anyone to know they are on here but that's a cop out you can easily hide who you are even when you put pics up.

At the end of the day tho this site is visual and the better a profile you have the more likely you are to get somewhere I always look at a profile first before I answer a first message.

But does a picture really tell much about the person behind it you can cover over so many cracks in pictures now a days."

At the end of the day, it's your profile, do with it as you see fit, if it gets you the you're looking for, go you

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Personally I rarely answer a message now if someone has no profile pic up. As I think if they make that little an effort then why should I. Some have gotten through because there first message has been interesting.

Most use the excuse that they don't want anyone to know they are on here but that's a cop out you can easily hide who you are even when you put pics up.

At the end of the day tho this site is visual and the better a profile you have the more likely you are to get somewhere I always look at a profile first before I answer a first message.

But does a picture really tell much about the person behind it you can cover over so many cracks in pictures now a days.

It doesn't really but you can tell if you like the look of someone. But a profile that has been up ages and just has fill me later or ask me anything etc is lazy. Most people message because they initially like the profile someone has up, then you chat and yes quite often the chat will fizzle out that's normal. But someone who has made no effort on their profile at all why should anyone make an effort back.

But everyone works fab in a way to suit them just saying how I look at it. I have my filters set so people without public pics can't message yet daily I still get people who stick up one to get through my filters and then remove it once they send the message I have actually seen the pic dissappear.

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By *easingTimMan
over a year ago

Loughlinstown


"

Hello everyone ..ok..we know how hard it is for guys here to get meets etc (due,I suppose in no small way to the way over balanced ratio of guys & ladies) even with photos etc on their profile so while it may NOT in any way help that ,how many guys would be willing to hide their profile photos and just try to use their charm alone on the ladies to see if ye could " woo " them,to catch their attention and of course ,keep it , without showing one photo ,...that their personality alone gets the chance that gets them to get a meet or get chatting to a lady ,your profile piece is of course available to be seen by the lady to view and read ....l know there are those that will say .." l can't get a meet with photos so how am l gonna get one without photos " understandable..but would it lead to guys having to put more effort into their messages ???. any opinions...???

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Tbh Op...

Saying that it's hard for a guy to get meets here is a cop out ...and you know it! There's guys who make an effort with profiles, pics, go attend socials (i.e. graft) and then there's men with a self defeatest attitude who blame the oft quoted "Male:female ratio" Question should be: How many women are you after NOT how many men are on the site???

Re: pics...

How about men getting more creative with a camera and in doing so, bring the playing field up a level, instead of depriving the opposite sex of a cheeky pic or a little eye candy? ...as let's face it, FAB would indeed be a dull place with less pics

The solution...

"More pics with less dicks!"

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Tbh my friend ..you're missing the whole point of the topic which is just asking the question do people think they could get a lady's attention and keep it without a photo on their profile.. nothin' more .. nothin' less ..and " it's a cop out " ??..a " cop out " from what ? ..forums here have been littered with guys saying how hard it is to get meets or no replies or getting verified even to the extent of it getting to nearly frying people's heads ...and non verified won't be invited to a lot of parties ..l do of course agree with you on the points of guys putting in better effort etc with photos . Absolutely..it's only right ...but just to say the lady that l'm currently meeting that l met here had no profile photo at all or any photos of any discription on her page ,l had at the time ,but something just clicked in chatting,of course photos were exchanged before meeting but initially contact was made without any photos on her profile ,so that's why l was just asking other people's thoughts and opinions on the subject ,could guys catch and keep a lady's attention with a message without a photo on his page ..you know ..hit a switch on the lady with a question or comment about something she has posted on her profile..her status or something she posted on the forums ..( ps just to say the reason I've no photos on my profile is simply because l'm NOT looking to meet anyone ,when l was l had of course photos up and if circumstances changed ,so would my profile,) and just to finish my reply ,l do of course fully understand too why ladies wouldn't reply to a guys message with no photos on his profile cause it does give off the vibe of different scenarios."

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"Friend" Awww you!!!

Been thinking about what you wrote and you're 100% right . Those charismatic, coquettish cheeky chaps of FAB with exuberant personalities (if they haven't done so already) should take down all profile pictures and rely purely on their charm

No doubt the ladies will be bowled over with lovely eloquent messages & contemplating whether their articulate suitor looks either like an extra member of One Direction or The Fury Brothers?

Ohhh the suspense of it all!!!!

It will also give the rest of us genuine, nice guys an equal chance of finding meets

Top marks Sir!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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Hello everyone ..ok..we know how hard it is for guys here to get meets etc (due,I suppose in no small way to the way over balanced ratio of guys & ladies) even with photos etc on their profile so while it may NOT in any way help that ,how many guys would be willing to hide their profile photos and just try to use their charm alone on the ladies to see if ye could " woo " them,to catch their attention and of course ,keep it , without showing one photo ,...that their personality alone gets the chance that gets them to get a meet or get chatting to a lady ,your profile piece is of course available to be seen by the lady to view and read ....l know there are those that will say .." l can't get a meet with photos so how am l gonna get one without photos " understandable..but would it lead to guys having to put more effort into their messages ???. any opinions...???

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Tbh Op...

Saying that it's hard for a guy to get meets here is a cop out ...and you know it! There's guys who make an effort with profiles, pics, go attend socials (i.e. graft) and then there's men with a self defeatest attitude who blame the oft quoted "Male:female ratio" Question should be: How many women are you after NOT how many men are on the site???

Re: pics...

How about men getting more creative with a camera and in doing so, bring the playing field up a level, instead of depriving the opposite sex of a cheeky pic or a little eye candy? ...as let's face it, FAB would indeed be a dull place with less pics

The solution...

"More pics with less dicks!"

......…......….

Tbh my friend ..you're missing the whole point of the topic which is just asking the question do people think they could get a lady's attention and keep it without a photo on their profile.. nothin' more .. nothin' less ..and " it's a cop out " ??..a " cop out " from what ? ..forums here have been littered with guys saying how hard it is to get meets or no replies or getting verified even to the extent of it getting to nearly frying people's heads ...and non verified won't be invited to a lot of parties ..l do of course agree with you on the points of guys putting in better effort etc with photos . Absolutely..it's only right ...but just to say the lady that l'm currently meeting that l met here had no profile photo at all or any photos of any discription on her page ,l had at the time ,but something just clicked in chatting,of course photos were exchanged before meeting but initially contact was made without any photos on her profile ,so that's why l was just asking other people's thoughts and opinions on the subject ,could guys catch and keep a lady's attention with a message without a photo on his page ..you know ..hit a switch on the lady with a question or comment about something she has posted on her profile..her status or something she posted on the forums ..( ps just to say the reason I've no photos on my profile is simply because l'm NOT looking to meet anyone ,when l was l had of course photos up and if circumstances changed ,so would my profile,) and just to finish my reply ,l do of course fully understand too why ladies wouldn't reply to a guys message with no photos on his profile cause it does give off the vibe of different scenarios.

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"Friend" Awww you!!!

Been thinking about what you wrote and you're 100% right . Those charismatic, coquettish cheeky chaps of FAB with exuberant personalities (if they haven't done so already) should take down all profile pictures and rely purely on their charm

No doubt the ladies will be bowled over with lovely eloquent messages & contemplating whether their articulate suitor looks either like an extra member of One Direction or The Fury Brothers?

Ohhh the suspense of it all!!!!

It will also give the rest of us genuine, nice guys an equal chance of finding meets

Top marks Sir!

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It was just a question to get people's opinions...like another day on the forums.... maybe even something different...and open to anyone to post their comments or thoughts ...however smug or sarcastic or condescending like your one ...and if you read it again,the question was just to ask would guys be able to catch ,and keep a lady's attention without a photo on their profile ? ..cause as you may have noticed there are loads of ladies here on this site without any photo on either their profile,public or friends only section and am sure it doesn't stop them from receiving messages from guys .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Personally I rarely answer a message now if someone has no profile pic up. As I think if they make that little an effort then why should I. Some have gotten through because there first message has been interesting.

Most use the excuse that they don't want anyone to know they are on here but that's a cop out you can easily hide who you are even when you put pics up.

At the end of the day tho this site is visual and the better a profile you have the more likely you are to get somewhere I always look at a profile first before I answer a first message.

But does a picture really tell much about the person behind it you can cover over so many cracks in pictures now a days.

It doesn't really but you can tell if you like the look of someone. But a profile that has been up ages and just has fill me later or ask me anything etc is lazy. Most people message because they initially like the profile someone has up, then you chat and yes quite often the chat will fizzle out that's normal. But someone who has made no effort on their profile at all why should anyone make an effort back.

But everyone works fab in a way to suit them just saying how I look at it. I have my filters set so people without public pics can't message yet daily I still get people who stick up one to get through my filters and then remove it once they send the message I have actually seen the pic dissappear. "

Thank you for that Brilliant piece as a reply or opinion... awesome ..a brilliant read and attitude

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By *easingTimMan
over a year ago

Loughlinstown


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Hello everyone ..ok..we know how hard it is for guys here to get meets etc (due,I suppose in no small way to the way over balanced ratio of guys & ladies) even with photos etc on their profile so while it may NOT in any way help that ,how many guys would be willing to hide their profile photos and just try to use their charm alone on the ladies to see if ye could " woo " them,to catch their attention and of course ,keep it , without showing one photo ,...that their personality alone gets the chance that gets them to get a meet or get chatting to a lady ,your profile piece is of course available to be seen by the lady to view and read ....l know there are those that will say .." l can't get a meet with photos so how am l gonna get one without photos " understandable..but would it lead to guys having to put more effort into their messages ???. any opinions...???

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Tbh Op...

Saying that it's hard for a guy to get meets here is a cop out ...and you know it! There's guys who make an effort with profiles, pics, go attend socials (i.e. graft) and then there's men with a self defeatest attitude who blame the oft quoted "Male:female ratio" Question should be: How many women are you after NOT how many men are on the site???

Re: pics...

How about men getting more creative with a camera and in doing so, bring the playing field up a level, instead of depriving the opposite sex of a cheeky pic or a little eye candy? ...as let's face it, FAB would indeed be a dull place with less pics

The solution...

"More pics with less dicks!"

......…......….

Tbh my friend ..you're missing the whole point of the topic which is just asking the question do people think they could get a lady's attention and keep it without a photo on their profile.. nothin' more .. nothin' less ..and " it's a cop out " ??..a " cop out " from what ? ..forums here have been littered with guys saying how hard it is to get meets or no replies or getting verified even to the extent of it getting to nearly frying people's heads ...and non verified won't be invited to a lot of parties ..l do of course agree with you on the points of guys putting in better effort etc with photos . Absolutely..it's only right ...but just to say the lady that l'm currently meeting that l met here had no profile photo at all or any photos of any discription on her page ,l had at the time ,but something just clicked in chatting,of course photos were exchanged before meeting but initially contact was made without any photos on her profile ,so that's why l was just asking other people's thoughts and opinions on the subject ,could guys catch and keep a lady's attention with a message without a photo on his page ..you know ..hit a switch on the lady with a question or comment about something she has posted on her profile..her status or something she posted on the forums ..( ps just to say the reason I've no photos on my profile is simply because l'm NOT looking to meet anyone ,when l was l had of course photos up and if circumstances changed ,so would my profile,) and just to finish my reply ,l do of course fully understand too why ladies wouldn't reply to a guys message with no photos on his profile cause it does give off the vibe of different scenarios.

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"Friend" Awww you!!!

Been thinking about what you wrote and you're 100% right . Those charismatic, coquettish cheeky chaps of FAB with exuberant personalities (if they haven't done so already) should take down all profile pictures and rely purely on their charm

No doubt the ladies will be bowled over with lovely eloquent messages & contemplating whether their articulate suitor looks either like an extra member of One Direction or The Fury Brothers?

Ohhh the suspense of it all!!!!

It will also give the rest of us genuine, nice guys an equal chance of finding meets

Top marks Sir!

.....................

It was just a question to get people's opinions...like another day on the forums.... maybe even something different...and open to anyone to post their comments or thoughts ...however smug or sarcastic or condescending like your one ...and if you read it again,the question was just to ask would guys be able to catch ,and keep a lady's attention without a photo on their profile ? ..cause as you may have noticed there are loads of ladies here on this site without any photo on either their profile,public or friends only section and am sure it doesn't stop them from receiving messages from guys ."

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Sarcastic? Absolutely but definitely never had my comments described as smug or condescending in any way, so that's a first!

Seriously, my last comment was very tongue in cheek so take it with a tablespoon of salt!

(Too much coffee d*unk. ...)

...so am just acting the maggot here is all mate! Op

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