FabSwingers.com forum: Bad experience at meeting

By *og-Man OP Man
over a year ago

somewhere

Had organised a meet for a coffee in a shopping centre.Sitting there waiting patiently when i got a message to ask me did my named wife know i was trying to cheat and they also used my real name.

I sat there for a few minutes and pretended nothing had happened and got up and left.I still dont know who it was

Has anyone ever met someone they actually know and what did they do or say

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

Thats the chance you take if your partner is unaware unfortunately. Bad luck tho.

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...

Jeeze that's a bummer

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By *eminexWoman
over a year ago

some where in outer space

Oh crikey ... Obviously knew u !

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

It happens. Married people cheating have had their faces posted on the feed, and their names, and sometimes married people not cheating have it happen them too.

There is nothing you can do about it until the new revenge porn laws come out, they will make all of this stalking type behaviour illegal

Until then revenge porn and online or digital harrasment is legal

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By *eminexWoman
over a year ago

some where in outer space

"It happens. Married people cheating have had their faces posted on the feed, and their names, and sometimes married people not cheating have it happen them too.

There is nothing you can do about it until the new revenge porn laws come out, they will make all of this stalking type behaviour illegal

Until then revenge porn and online or digital harrasment is legal"

God it's pretty scary if that happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Report the profile that's just someone being a cheeky sneaky fucker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Had organised a meet for a coffee in a shopping centre.Sitting there waiting patiently when i got a message to ask me did my named wife know i was trying to cheat and they also used my real name.

I sat there for a few minutes and pretended nothing had happened and got up and left.I still dont know who it was

Has anyone ever met someone they actually know and what did they do or say "
The moral of the story is don't go sneaking behind your partner's back.

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

"Had organised a meet for a coffee in a shopping centre.Sitting there waiting patiently when i got a message to ask me did my named wife know i was trying to cheat and they also used my real name.

I sat there for a few minutes and pretended nothing had happened and got up and left.I still dont know who it was

Has anyone ever met someone they actually know and what did they do or say The moral of the story is don't go sneaking behind your partner's back."

Well Harry, where did the op say he was cheating or that his wife doesn't know? It was only assumed by the person who set him up, but we don't really know, do we?

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By *abshwingerCouple
over a year ago

dublin

Excuse my ignorance but why would a married man be on as a single on a swinging website.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People are very foolish here in terms of discretion, face pics are routinely shared around. Everyone should bear that in mind if they don't want the world to know they are on here, regardless of their reasons.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Excuse my ignorance but why would a married man be on as a single on a swinging website. "

You're kidding, right?

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By *ocketman99Man
over a year ago

fermanagh

Was it your wife who messaged you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Had organised a meet for a coffee in a shopping centre.Sitting there waiting patiently when i got a message to ask me did my named wife know i was trying to cheat and they also used my real name.

I sat there for a few minutes and pretended nothing had happened and got up and left.I still dont know who it was

Has anyone ever met someone they actually know and what did they do or say The moral of the story is don't go sneaking behind your partner's back.

Well Harry, where did the op say he was cheating or that his wife doesn't know? It was only assumed by the person who set him up, but we don't really know, do we?

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So you reckon he just likes coffee.Well I suppose that's possible but I'm sure he don't have to go on a swinging site to drink coffee.

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By *abshwingerCouple
over a year ago

dublin

"Excuse my ignorance but why would a married man be on as a single on a swinging website.

You're kidding, right? "

No sarcasm emoji on this site...

but in all fairness either tell the wife u want to fuck others or keep your dick zipped up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Had organised a meet for a coffee in a shopping centre.Sitting there waiting patiently when i got a message to ask me did my named wife know i was trying to cheat and they also used my real name.

I sat there for a few minutes and pretended nothing had happened and got up and left.I still dont know who it was

Has anyone ever met someone they actually know and what did they do or say The moral of the story is don't go sneaking behind your partner's back.

Well Harry, where did the op say he was cheating or that his wife doesn't know? It was only assumed by the person who set him up, but we don't really know, do we?

So you reckon he just likes coffee.Well I suppose that's possible but I'm sure he don't have to go on a swinging site to drink coffee."

Need a face palm emoji

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Excuse my ignorance but why would a married man be on as a single on a swinging website.

You're kidding, right?

No sarcasm emoji on this site...

but in all fairness either tell the wife u want to fuck others or keep your dick zipped up

It sounds so straightforward doesn't it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Excuse my ignorance but why would a married man be on as a single on a swinging website.

You're kidding, right? "

That was my first reaction too ...

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By *og-Man OP Man
over a year ago

somewhere

Why would I tell my wife Im trying to have sex with other people outside of my marriage..thats a moral judgement that most people on this site also ignore when they are married.

I don't see where I have single down as my status but if I do its because I dont want people to think I'm doing this as part of a couple.

I'm as honest as I can be and i didnt realise that cheating men or women are not allowed on this site but then neither do they since there are so many singles on here.

All i did was to post about something that happened to me and asked a question I didnt ask for a judgement and let s/he without sin and all that....

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By *abshwingerCouple
over a year ago

dublin

"Why would I tell my wife Im trying to have sex with other people outside of my marriage..thats a moral judgement that most people on this site also ignore when they are married.

I don't see where I have single down as my status but if I do its because I dont want people to think I'm doing this as part of a couple.

I'm as honest as I can be and i didnt realise that cheating men or women are not allowed on this site but then neither do they since there are so many singles on here.

All i did was to post about something that happened to me and asked a question I didnt ask for a judgement and let s/he without sin and all that...."

Each to their own.. not judging or taking moral high ground just dont see the point in being on a swinging website if your married and not sharing the fun with the other half... but I suppose people get a kick out of that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unlucky it is Chance you do take..

There are some evil people out there

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By *andytownMan
over a year ago

Gods Own Country

Get the wife on here and let's see how that plays out

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By *og-Man OP Man
over a year ago

somewhere

Some amount of couples on this willing to criticize me and yet willing to meet single men on their profiles.

Also there's a huge amount of single women and men on this site so is swinging only for couples having sex with other other couples.

I would have thought that there's enough room for everyone in this world

I know what type of person I am, a decent bloke looking for a comfortable sexual relationship with a woman or a couple thats all.

I've been offered meets this week out of my comfort zone and have told the other couples no because I don't want to mess anyone about and arrange to meet and then not bother.

So maybe someone could answer my second question

What would you do if you met someone you knew

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By *cottybear74Man
over a year ago

kilkenny

There's loads of people know me either from here or know I'm on it... Doesn't bother me one bit.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

No I have never met anyone on here that I know in real life.

That is a horrible thing to happen to you tho and whoever did it should mind their own business. And yes I am single but I'm also not going to judge anyone else that is on here. People have their reasons to be on here and it's not always black and white like some try and make out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Excuse my ignorance but why would a married man be on as a single on a swinging website.

You're kidding, right?

No sarcasm emoji on this site...

but in all fairness either tell the wife u want to fuck others or keep your dick zipped up

It sounds so straightforward doesn't it? "

If only it was so easy!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some amount of couples on this willing to criticize me and yet willing to meet single men on their profiles.

Also there's a huge amount of single women and men on this site so is swinging only for couples having sex with other other couples.

I would have thought that there's enough room for everyone in this world

I know what type of person I am, a decent bloke looking for a comfortable sexual relationship with a woman or a couple thats all.

I've been offered meets this week out of my comfort zone and have told the other couples no because I don't want to mess anyone about and arrange to meet and then not bother.

So maybe someone could answer my second question

What would you do if you met someone you knew

Don't mind the judgement only you know your own circumstances. I have not met anyone I knew but always ask for a face pic beforehand. If I knew them I would only say sorry not my type rather than worry them unnecessarily.

I know they could send a fake one but so far it hasn't happened.

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

Yes I've met people I already knew... Having said that, I knew before we met that we already knew each other, so there were no shocks or surprises.

Sounds like you've been deliberately catfished by someone you know though OP, which seems to be becoming more common. Had you swapped face pics, etc., before meeting?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some amount of couples on this willing to criticize me and yet willing to meet single men on their profiles.

Also there's a huge amount of single women and men on this site so is swinging only for couples having sex with other other couples.

I would have thought that there's enough room for everyone in this world

I know what type of person I am, a decent bloke looking for a comfortable sexual relationship if with a woman or a couple thats all.

I've been offered meets this week out of my comfort zone and have told the other couples no because I don't want to mess anyone about and arrange to meet and then not bother.

So maybe someone could answer my second question

What would you do if you met someone you knew

If all the single and attached but secretly meeting people left fabswinger, there would be very few people left on it, for people that are supposed to be very open minded, they are very narrow minded

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bogman report the profile...

This is shocking!!

But nothing surprises me here...

I could tell stories but I'd get myself banned..

Be careful who you give your information to, if you exchange numbers it could be connected to your Facebook or other apps..

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By *og-Man OP Man
over a year ago

somewhere

"There's loads of people know me either from here or know I'm on it... Doesn't bother me one bit. "

Actually I look like you and when i read your profile a few weeks ago i thought you were amazing and had so much confidence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why would I tell my wife Im trying to have sex with other people outside of my marriage..thats a moral judgement that most people on this site also ignore when they are married.

I don't see where I have single down as my status but if I do its because I dont want people to think I'm doing this as part of a couple.

I'm as honest as I can be and i didnt realise that cheating men or women are not allowed on this site but then neither do they since there are so many singles on here.

All i did was to post about something that happened to me and asked a question I didnt ask for a judgement and let s/he without sin and all that....

Maybe a lot of married guys are here cause they're getting no sex at home or not the sex they want or the volume of it ,why they're here is totally and utterly their own business and who's to say their partner isn't on here as well without his knowledge ?... people are here because of reasons known only to themselves unless they want to disclose them to others ,

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By *adylaceWoman
over a year ago

Waterford City

"Some amount of couples on this willing to criticize me and yet willing to meet single men on their profiles.

Also there's a huge amount of single women and men on this site so is swinging only for couples having sex with other other couples.

I would have thought that there's enough room for everyone in this world

I know what type of person I am, a decent bloke looking for a comfortable sexual relationship with a woman or a couple thats all.

I've been offered meets this week out of my comfort zone and have told the other couples no because I don't want to mess anyone about and arrange to meet and then not bother.

So maybe someone could answer my second question

What would you do if you met someone you knew

To answer your second question. I’ve bumped into a good few people that I know here. It has never been a problem cos most people know that what we get up to is private. But I also don’t have a partner at home that I’m worried about finding out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some amount of couples on this willing to criticize me and yet willing to meet single men on their profiles.

Also there's a huge amount of single women and men on this site so is swinging only for couples having sex with other other couples.

I would have thought that there's enough room for everyone in this world

I know what type of person I am, a decent bloke looking for a comfortable sexual relationship with a woman or a couple thats all.

I've been offered meets this week out of my comfort zone and have told the other couples no because I don't want to mess anyone about and arrange to meet and then not bother.

So maybe someone could answer my second question

What would you do if you met someone you knew

And that takes off a huge amount of pressure straight away , wipes away a lot of mental worry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Had organised a meet for a coffee in a shopping centre.Sitting there waiting patiently when i got a message to ask me did my named wife know i was trying to cheat and they also used my real name.

I sat there for a few minutes and pretended nothing had happened and got up and left.I still dont know who it was

Has anyone ever met someone they actually know and what did they do or say "
Like a few have said block the profile..Its ur own business why ur on here and no one else's.Just because ur married means nothing.There's plenty on her that are both male and female.Hopefully the next coffee u arrange will be more successful.And swop a pic first.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

Surely the real question you need to be asking is if you can identify this person, and are they going to fuck your life up by contacting your partner (if this is an issue for you).

All judgement aside from folks on here, you should be more worried about this person who fuck shit up in real life.

To those saying that this person should be reported.. I'm not even sure that they have broken any site rules.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Surely the real question you need to be asking is if you can identify this person, and are they going to fuck your life up by contacting your partner (if this is an issue for you).

All judgement aside from folks on here, you should be more worried about this person who fuck shit up in real life.

To those saying that this person should be reported.. I'm not even sure that they have broken any site rules."

Well if the messages threatening exposure were sent via the site then they would probably have, but otherwise (and rightly so) why would the site get involved in an alleged incident offsite. But I agree with your first point

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

Fair point. I'm not sure a message asking if his partner was aware, and using his real name would be considered threatening. I guess it depends on how it was written.

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By *og-Man OP Man
over a year ago

somewhere

In fairness it wasn't threatening and whoever sent it was probably in the same situation as me in the first place.

I mean what would they say to my wife"I was looking for the shift and arranged a meet with your husband )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In fairness it wasn't threatening and whoever sent it was probably in the same situation as me in the first place.

I mean what would they say to my wife"I was looking for the shift and arranged a meet with your husband )"

Most likely they just liked the feeling of power it gave them. There are a lot of fucked up people in the world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Had organised a meet for a coffee in a shopping centre.Sitting there waiting patiently when i got a message to ask me did my named wife know i was trying to cheat and they also used my real name.

I sat there for a few minutes and pretended nothing had happened and got up and left.I still dont know who it was

Has anyone ever met someone they actually know and what did they do or say The moral of the story is don't go sneaking behind your partner's back."

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

"In fairness it wasn't threatening and whoever sent it was probably in the same situation as me in the first place.

I mean what would they say to my wife"I was looking for the shift and arranged a meet with your husband )"

Thags a big assumption. Many on here arent cheating. She could say something like... "did you know your husband is looking for extramarital sex on the internet". Who knows.

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By *he James gangCouple
over a year ago

NEWTOWNABBEY

OP sounds like somebody wants to make trouble for you - absolutely horrible. Nobody has the right to judge you. Just a suggestion and I’m not sure about losing any veris, but if it were me I would delete your existing profile and rejoin using slightly different details so they can’t identify you again. Blocking doesn’t help if they rejoin using a new profile.

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By *Sparkie.Man
over a year ago

Ratoath

"Had organised a meet for a coffee in a shopping centre.Sitting there waiting patiently when i got a message to ask me did my named wife know i was trying to cheat and they also used my real name.

I sat there for a few minutes and pretended nothing had happened and got up and left.I still dont know who it was

Has anyone ever met someone they actually know and what did they do or say The moral of the story is don't go sneaking behind your partner's back.

Well Harry, where did the op say he was cheating or that his wife doesn't know? It was only assumed by the person who set him up, but we don't really know, do we?

Says Harry with his multiple personalities who most certainly cheats on himself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Had organised a meet for a coffee in a shopping centre.Sitting there waiting patiently when i got a message to ask me did my named wife know i was trying to cheat and they also used my real name.

I sat there for a few minutes and pretended nothing had happened and got up and left.I still dont know who it was

Has anyone ever met someone they actually know and what did they do or say The moral of the story is don't go sneaking behind your partner's back.

Well Harry, where did the op say he was cheating or that his wife doesn't know? It was only assumed by the person who set him up, but we don't really know, do we?

Says Harry with his multiple personalities who most certainly cheats on himself

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Ah but I'm so irresistible I can't even resist myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't believe how many people on this thread felt it necessary to judge this guy. It actually is laughable, it's no one's business why anyone is on here or what their personal situation is never mind pass an opinion on their martial status ...I didn't hear the op call in the marriage police ... Oh how wonderful life would be in black and white eh, no

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