FabSwingers.com forum: Time wasters

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Did a post recently enough about how to avoid time wasters, surprisingly enough there was a horrible response.

Had a very successful meet last night, but also very nearly didn't have one at all. Originally we were meant to meet an account, don't know of i can use his name on here? Long story short the morning of yesterday he stopped replying, typical. But we had 2 back ups in place. Our second back up also bailed last minute. For the record both of these guys were meet verified. Just when we'd given up hope our third option came through, on time, and we had an absolute blast.

So the question is would you approve of having back up options, or is there a more concrete way of avoiding timewasters?

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By *unnyfookMan
over a year ago

Naas

in your situation I would say yes. but let the guys know. it same as booking an apoointment but its all full and hoping for a cancelation. or going to one of the many events not getting on the list but told if any cancel you are number 3 on the waiting list. and fuck the begrudgers

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By *adylaceWoman
over a year ago

Waterford City

It wasn’t so much the fact that you had back ups arranged that I for one had an issue with in your last post. But I feel there is a way of treating each other with respect. Just because it’s no strings doesn’t mean there has to be no manners involved. We are all still human beings.

A lot of us would be in a situation where we have arranged a meet and we’re still chatting to others. What I tend to do is act as if the original meet will happen but tell the next guy that you have a meet organised and ask if he’s available if you’re let down. Maybe I’m wrong but it has worked well for me so far.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for the input. Yeah an awful lot of you guys took what we were saying a bit too personal so we never bothered reading the rest of whatever you all said. What you described is exactly how we go about doing it

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By *uniorendowedMan
over a year ago

London

Maybe you were the backup options of the guys that bailed on you

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By *ofistimacatedMan
over a year ago

cavan town

Time wasting is time wasting. You are doing the very thing that annoys you. If you were getting ready for a meet, and last minute the guy cancels saying his first choice arrived, i don't think you would be overjoyed.

You say the last thread didnt go down well. Was everyone wrong, or is it possible you were being a bit disrespectful???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Did a post recently enough about how to avoid time wasters, surprisingly enough there was a horrible response.

So the question is would you approve of having back up options, or is there a more concrete way of avoiding timewasters?

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Fair play to you for not being afraid to say what you did in case it upset the little creatures on fab.

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By *haggyhandsomeMan
over a year ago

Blanchardstown

"Maybe you were the backup options of the guys that bailed on you

Fab women always think it’s one rule for them & different rules for men???????

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By *ommando4Man
over a year ago

South Co. Dublin

Use the site as you see fit yourself....everyone does the same. Be polite and straight up and if you are I see no issue with backups.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Time wasting is time wasting. You are doing the very thing that annoys you. If you were getting ready for a meet, and last minute the guy cancels saying his first choice arrived, i don't think you would be overjoyed.

You say the last thread didnt go down well. Was everyone wrong, or is it possible you were being a bit disrespectful???

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what are you on about

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Did a post recently enough about how to avoid time wasters, surprisingly enough there was a horrible response.

So the question is would you approve of having back up options, or is there a more concrete way of avoiding timewasters?

Fair play to you for not being afraid to say what you did in case it upset the little creatures on fab. "
That's just it half the people who reply in these forums are exactly that

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By *sLittleRedRidingHoodWoman
over a year ago

Magical Forrest

This is a public forum.

Anyone who gets upset should get a thicker skin.

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By *P_80Man
over a year ago

Waterford

Just curious.....

....If you had two back ups, had they all been willing to meet, wouldn't you have had to bail on two of them?

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By *easingTimMan
over a year ago

Loughlinstown

Was told once by a well known FAB couple

(not Op btw...) that I was on the "waiting list" that night

and things were "looking good" for me!

I politely deleted all their messages and never had anything to do with them

Gosh, to think that I was nearly one of the chosen few

too

...but guess that's something I'll just have to live with

Anyway Op, I wouldn't do what you're doing myself,

but fair play to you both for being so upfront and honest

about it on the forums while others are doing the very same thing

...only covertly. Fair play

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well the way we see it is if it bothers you you're probably not what we're looking for. Some people get emotional and others are here for sexual encounters. Got exactly what we wanted last night, it was messy granted but paid off. As for having to bail on 2 of them, they knew what they were getting into and we could smell something fishy about one of them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Use the site as you see fit yourself....everyone does the same. Be polite and straight up and if you are I see no issue with backups."

I agree with this. The thing here is that the OP hasn't said if they were being polite and straight up with the 2 backup guys. They were willing to stand 2 guys up without telling them anything, giving no reason, if their first choice had arrived

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cannot see a problem if guys 2 and 3 have been explained the setup approach and are willing to accept it. I am assuming this is what the OP is outlining.

Communication is key.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Exactly this mate. The fairies are flocking to this post looking for drama lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Exactly this mate. The fairies are flocking to this post looking for drama lol"

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By *P_80Man
over a year ago

Waterford

"As for having to bail on 2 of them, they knew what they were getting into and we could smell something fishy about one of them. "

I was just curious about it is all. You hadn't explained that. That's why I asked.

It's far from me to tell anyone else how they should use this site. If it works for you OP then what do other's opinions matter?

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By *uniorendowedMan
over a year ago

London

"As for having to bail on 2 of them, they knew what they were getting into and we could smell something fishy about one of them.

I was just curious about it is all. You hadn't explained that. That's why I asked.

It's far from me to tell anyone else how they should use this site. If it works for you OP then what do other's opinions matter?"

It was OP that asked for the approval of strangers in a public forum in the first place!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree as long as guys 2 and 3 are aware they are back ups then it is their decision to be backups and it's all respectful and above board. If you didn't tell them that they are backups then I hope karma comes raining down on you with many timewasters in your future

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By *an For YouMan
over a year ago

belfast/holywood

"Did a post recently enough about how to avoid time wasters, surprisingly enough there was a horrible response.

So the question is would you approve of having back up options, or is there a more concrete way of avoiding timewasters?

Best way to avoid timewasters is to have sex with me!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always talk to several options but meet the one that suits me at the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Exactly this mate. The fairies are flocking to this post looking for drama lol

It's more when you don't get the reply you are looking for everyone's a fairy for not agreeing with you.

I think you are missing the point that that people are making.

Have all the back up plans, all you want, just remember if you are not up front with those that are your back up plan. Then you are the time wasters.

And for those that missed it here's the original thrend to go with this

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/ireland/941979

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By *he James gangCouple
over a year ago

NEWTOWNABBEY

"Did a post recently enough about how to avoid time wasters, surprisingly enough there was a horrible response.

Sorry but don’t agree that the response to your previous thread was ‘horrible’. You posted in a public forum and simply didn’t like the majority of comments you received.

So the question is would you approve of having back up options, or is there a more concrete way of avoiding timewasters?

In answer to your question I think having backups obviously works for you, but it’s not something we would ever even consider. To avoid time wasters we always have a social first. We get turned on by the chemistry between all three, four or more and don’t treat people like interchangeable, breathing sex toys. I suppose that makes me a ‘fairy’ in your eyes

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By *oathangerMan
over a year ago

Dublin

I dont know are you taking advantage of guys. Someone approaching for a meet. Then stop replying after arrangements are made cos number 1 came through....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tbh I don't like the idea of backs ups because - you say it's to protect against having your time wasted, but if option no. 1 had showed you'd have wasted the time of 2 others. Seems kinda hypocritical to me.

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin

"Tbh I don't like the idea of backs ups because - you say it's to protect against having your time wasted, but if option no. 1 had showed you'd have wasted the time of 2 others. Seems kinda hypocritical to me. "

Yeah but if they were informed in advance that they were backups, it's up to them to decide if they were happy with that situation.

If they weren't informed in advance, that's ignorant and would block the original couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There’s still some genuine males still on here

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By *he James gangCouple
over a year ago

NEWTOWNABBEY

Sounds like any old cock will do for you, we tend to be a wee bit more choosy. Wouldn't want a track suit, and baseball cap back to front wearing guy. If it works for you, go ahead but I suspect a lot of people reading this post will give you a wide berth in future knowing your M.O. and they're on a list!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sounds like any old cock will do for you, we tend to be a wee bit more choosy. Wouldn't want a track suit, and baseball cap back to front wearing guy. If it works for you, go ahead but I suspect a lot of people reading this post will give you a wide berth in future knowing your M.O. and they're on a list!"

I was thinking the same thing, and for a guy to be happy to be back up then he's got the same standards imo, doesn't care where he puts it or what they think of him.

Why bother putting them in order? Just do a first come first served approach? That way noone would be let down, everyone's a winner

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

It wouldn't feel right to me to have guys on hold, first of all I wouldn't like to be on hold so I wouldn't do it the other way around. Also I like to tune my naughty mind with the one I'm going to meet because it's not just the cock I'm meeting.

Anyhow I never had a no show so it seems there's other ways to make sure you're getting what you want without putting someone on hold.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Did a post recently enough about how to avoid time wasters, surprisingly enough there was a horrible response.

So the question is would you approve of having back up options, or is there a more concrete way of avoiding timewasters?

If their verifications are in public view or displayed just contact any of the others that verified them..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Jesus you're keeping track hahahahaha

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Any old cock will not do, thanks for whatever that was meant to mean

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

Jesus do we really need to do the same fucking thread again!

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By *oathangerMan
over a year ago

Dublin

It is hypocritical. Cos men then will be dealing with "timewaster women" . One big full circle of shite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Jesus do we really need to do the same fucking thread again!"

It's like RTE...

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By *ickheadcuntCouple
over a year ago

Cork Ireland

Always have 2 or 3 couples lined up... once we had 4 or 5 couples lined up and none of them turned up..

Had a couple massaging us saying no we can't meet tonight so we would be chatting another couple and they would say to us the first couple who said they were busy are meeting them lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the back ups are aware that they are backups then I see no issue.

Personally I would never be happy as a back up option and would rather not meet at all.

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By *he James gangCouple
over a year ago

NEWTOWNABBEY

The hole must be getting deep now!

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

"Always have 2 or 3 couples lined up... once we had 4 or 5 couples lined up and none of them turned up..

Had a couple massaging us saying no we can't meet tonight so we would be chatting another couple and they would say to us the first couple who said they were busy are meeting them lol "

Wow. 5 meets cancelling in a night. Thats awful!.

Would you tell these couples that they were backups? What if more than 1 couple arrived?

(To be fair to the couple who were meeting the other couple.. they WERE busy hehe)

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By *ickheadcuntCouple
over a year ago

Cork Ireland

"Always have 2 or 3 couples lined up... once we had 4 or 5 couples lined up and none of them turned up..

Had a couple massaging us saying no we can't meet tonight so we would be chatting another couple and they would say to us the first couple who said they were busy are meeting them lol

Wow. 5 meets cancelling in a night. Thats awful!.

Would you tell these couples that they were backups? What if more than 1 couple arrived?

(To be fair to the couple who were meeting the other couple.. they WERE busy hehe)"

They told us they were at a wedding lol we don't care it's ok but tell us we are grown ups..

We like meeting groups lol

Last time we were chatting to 4 couples and 4 turned up and they had a brilliant night

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

Haha ok. I guess its win-win as long as everyone is happy with a group

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Always have 2 or 3 couples lined up... once we had 4 or 5 couples lined up and none of them turned up..

Had a couple massaging us saying no we can't meet tonight so we would be chatting another couple and they would say to us the first couple who said they were busy are meeting them lol "

Their loss....

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