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By *ryst In Isolde OP   Woman
over a year ago

your imagination

Why you wouldn't meet me

Men often complain that they don't get replies to messages or meet requests, they never know what they're 'doing wrong' or why they've been rejected/blocked, so without naming anyone or giving away too much detail, I'd like you all to think of a recent expression of interest you declined, or ignored, and post your comment below in the form of a frank reply... Tell them why you didn't want to meet them.

Let's see if a sampling of reasons helps anyone understand this world of Fab a little better...

Remember... No names!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ooooh where to start...

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

I’m gona have a long think about this one I could write a book

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By *ryst In Isolde OP   Woman
over a year ago

your imagination


"Ooooh where to start... "

Not on me... I try to limit myself to receiving just one Manbeast rejection per week

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By *ryst In Isolde OP   Woman
over a year ago

your imagination


"I’m gona have a long think about this one I could write a book "

Just pick one! Maybe the last one... It's really just to give those who are never actually told 'why' some idea of reasons..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ooooh where to start...

Not on me... I try to limit myself to receiving just one Manbeast rejection per week "

Its best for both parties!

One awkward moment a week is more than sufficient

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By *easingTimMan
over a year ago

Loughlinstown


"Why you wouldn't meet me

Men often complain that they don't get replies to messages or meet requests, they never know what they're 'doing wrong' or why they've been rejected/blocked, so without naming anyone or giving away too much detail, I'd like you all to think of a recent expression of interest you declined, or ignored, and post your comment below in the form of a frank reply... Tell them why you didn't want to meet them.

Let's see if a sampling of reasons helps anyone understand this world of Fab a little better...

Remember... No names! "

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Paraphrasing a lttle here

(for purpose of Fabbers & Admin peeps)

DECLINE 1:

"No, I do not want to sleep with your sister and I think you need help" Think we know about that person

DECLINE 2:

"I met you for coffee. It was a good chat but there was no chemistry" She didn't take that well, tried harder to met only to see that there was no point

DECLINE 3:

"Sorry, I'm not into men. Have a great weekend"

I let him down gently and he then offered with

"How about I suck you off while you watch porn?"

Told him that wasn't a good idea

DECLINE 4:

"I think you need to chat to someone outside of FAB"

She was looking for revenge sex

DECLINE 5:

"I just don't think we'd click"

Nasty attitude towards men

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Question...

Will any of our listed answers be used from here on in towards the men of fab when we initially message someone???

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By *ryst In Isolde OP   Woman
over a year ago

your imagination


"Ooooh where to start...

Not on me... I try to limit myself to receiving just one Manbeast rejection per week

Its best for both parties!

One awkward moment a week is more than sufficient "

Shit... Better not open my last message then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ooooh where to start...

Not on me... I try to limit myself to receiving just one Manbeast rejection per week

Its best for both parties!

One awkward moment a week is more than sufficient

Shit... Better not open my last message then "

Marked unread

Taxi for Trysto

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By *ryst In Isolde OP   Woman
over a year ago

your imagination


"Why you wouldn't meet me

Men often complain that they don't get replies to messages or meet requests, they never know what they're 'doing wrong' or why they've been rejected/blocked, so without naming anyone or giving away too much detail, I'd like you all to think of a recent expression of interest you declined, or ignored, and post your comment below in the form of a frank reply... Tell them why you didn't want to meet them.

Let's see if a sampling of reasons helps anyone understand this world of Fab a little better...

Remember... No names!

---------------------

Paraphrasing a lttle here

(for purpose of Fabbers & Admin peeps)

DECLINE 1:

"No, I do not want to sleep with your sister and I think you need help" Think we know about that person

DECLINE 2:

"I met you for coffee. It was a good chat but there was no chemistry" She didn't take that well, tried harder to met only to see that there was no point

DECLINE 3:

"Sorry, I'm not into men. Have a great weekend"

I let him down gently and he then offered with

"How about I suck you off while you watch porn?"

Told him that wasn't a good idea

DECLINE 4:

"I think you need to chat to someone outside of FAB"

She was looking for revenge sex

DECLINE 5:

"I just don't think we'd click"

Nasty attitude towards men

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Question...

Will any of our listed answers be used from here on in towards the men of fab when we initially message someone??? "

Possibly... There may be some who actually don't know how to let someone down gently... They may find inspiration in someone else's replies.

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By *ryst In Isolde OP   Woman
over a year ago

your imagination


"Ooooh where to start...

Not on me... I try to limit myself to receiving just one Manbeast rejection per week

Its best for both parties!

One awkward moment a week is more than sufficient

Shit... Better not open my last message then

Marked unread

Taxi for Trysto "

Wait... If you reject me twice this week does that mean you'll cave next week?

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

Ok this one

‘Hi how are you? love your profile...... need a mammy if you want to submit your cv x’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ooooh where to start...

Not on me... I try to limit myself to receiving just one Manbeast rejection per week

Its best for both parties!

One awkward moment a week is more than sufficient

Shit... Better not open my last message then

Marked unread

Taxi for Trysto

Wait... If you reject me twice this week does that mean you'll cave next week? "

No it means once a week now becomes twice a week!

Kaizer is embarassed for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok this one

‘Hi how are you? love your profile...... need a mammy if you want to submit your cv x’

"

Shiver me timbers!

No one will ever come close to Mama TK

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By *ryst In Isolde OP   Woman
over a year ago

your imagination


"Ok this one

‘Hi how are you? love your profile...... need a mammy if you want to submit your cv x’

"

How would you reply?

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By *Sparkie.Man
over a year ago

Ratoath

I get this all the time, nobody reads profiles.

I state clearly in mine "no pussy pics" yet I'm bombarded daily, my inbox is like a Gynecological Data Base, then the girls message why wont you meet, then proceed to ask for videos, girls, just read the profile

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By *ryst In Isolde OP   Woman
over a year ago

your imagination


"Ooooh where to start...

Not on me... I try to limit myself to receiving just one Manbeast rejection per week

Its best for both parties!

One awkward moment a week is more than sufficient

Shit... Better not open my last message then

Marked unread

Taxi for Trysto

Wait... If you reject me twice this week does that mean you'll cave next week?

No it means once a week now becomes twice a week!

Kaizer is embarassed for you "

Embarrassment is good... Last week it was just apathy... See...? I'm wearing you down!

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By *ryst In Isolde OP   Woman
over a year ago

your imagination


"I get this all the time, nobody reads profiles.

I state clearly in mine "no pussy pics" yet I'm bombarded daily, my inbox is like a Gynecological Data Base, then the girls message why wont you meet, then proceed to ask for videos, girls, just read the profile "

How do you respond?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ooooh where to start...

Not on me... I try to limit myself to receiving just one Manbeast rejection per week

Its best for both parties!

One awkward moment a week is more than sufficient

Shit... Better not open my last message then

Marked unread

Taxi for Trysto

Wait... If you reject me twice this week does that mean you'll cave next week?

No it means once a week now becomes twice a week!

Kaizer is embarassed for you

Embarrassment is good... Last week it was just apathy... See...? I'm wearing you down! "

Your determination is either admirable or unnerving

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas


"Ok this one

‘Hi how are you? love your profile...... need a mammy if you want to submit your cv x’

How would you reply? "

I don’t know I was speechless I just ignored it

But in general messages that begin

Nice tits

What size are they ?

Wana trade pics?

Are you really married?

Does your husband know your here?

I answer none of them because I know if they read my profile they would know the answers to all of these

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I normally ask them to come back when they have grown a vagina....

Stunning but boring as fook could have been a recent one but I'm nice

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By *ryst In Isolde OP   Woman
over a year ago

your imagination


"Ooooh where to start...

Not on me... I try to limit myself to receiving just one Manbeast rejection per week

Its best for both parties!

One awkward moment a week is more than sufficient

Shit... Better not open my last message then

Marked unread

Taxi for Trysto

Wait... If you reject me twice this week does that mean you'll cave next week?

No it means once a week now becomes twice a week!

Kaizer is embarassed for you

Embarrassment is good... Last week it was just apathy... See...? I'm wearing you down!

Your determination is either admirable or unnerving "

Tenacity... I just need to work out now if it's time to increase the number of foof pics I send you... Y'know.. Seal the deal

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By *ryst In Isolde OP   Woman
over a year ago

your imagination


"Ok this one

‘Hi how are you? love your profile...... need a mammy if you want to submit your cv x’

How would you reply?

I don’t know I was speechless I just ignored it

But in general messages that begin

Nice tits

What size are they ?

Wana trade pics?

Are you really married?

Does your husband know your here?

I answer none of them because I know if they read my profile they would know the answers to all of these

"

That's the idea of this thread though... To provide answers. Not to specific questions as such... But in general terms.

For example, I could simply say that I'm not meeting... It's a boilerplate answer. But that tends to invite the 'well keep me in mind for when you are then' kind of message, so to be clearer, I might have to stipulate that even if I was meeting, the person was outside of my age range, or was too far away, etc.

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By *ryst In Isolde OP   Woman
over a year ago

your imagination


"I normally ask them to come back when they have grown a vagina....

Stunning but boring as fook could have been a recent one but I'm nice "

Miracle Gro really has upped it's game

So how do you phrase that nicely?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I normally ask them to come back when they have grown a vagina....

Stunning but boring as fook could have been a recent one but I'm nice

Miracle Gro really has upped it's game

So how do you phrase that nicely? "

Your pics are stunning but I dont think we are a great match..... or something along those lines

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By *ryst In Isolde OP   Woman
over a year ago

your imagination


"I normally ask them to come back when they have grown a vagina....

Stunning but boring as fook could have been a recent one but I'm nice

Miracle Gro really has upped it's game

So how do you phrase that nicely?

Your pics are stunning but I dont think we are a great match..... or something along those lines"

That sounds pretty acceptable to me... And it's also gender neutral. Could be used for either sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I normally ask them to come back when they have grown a vagina....

Stunning but boring as fook could have been a recent one but I'm nice

Miracle Gro really has upped it's game

So how do you phrase that nicely?

Your pics are stunning but I dont think we are a great match..... or something along those lines

That sounds pretty acceptable to me... And it's also gender neutral. Could be used for either sex "

I am available for rejection consultation anytime

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By *unnyfookMan
over a year ago

Naas

how about... I'm driving by you want a bj. I've turned that down a few times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"how about... I'm driving by you want a bj. I've turned that down a few times "

Ya its really hard to keep up with the car when your pants are lulled down

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By *ryst In Isolde OP   Woman
over a year ago

your imagination


"how about... I'm driving by you want a bj. I've turned that down a few times "

Yes but how have you turned it down?

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By *ryst In Isolde OP   Woman
over a year ago

your imagination


"how about... I'm driving by you want a bj. I've turned that down a few times

Ya its really hard to keep up with the car when your pants are lulled down"

Just snortled into my coffee and sprayed it everywhere... Most unladylike!

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By *Sparkie.Man
over a year ago

Ratoath


"I get this all the time, nobody reads profiles.

I state clearly in mine "no pussy pics" yet I'm bombarded daily, my inbox is like a Gynecological Data Base, then the girls message why wont you meet, then proceed to ask for videos, girls, just read the profile

How do you respond? "

I usually respond by asking if they want the video in 720p,1080p or 4K quality

All jokes aside, I feel for the ladies, some guys think swinging site = handy ride, I think porn is to blame, well that and stupidity, I say seduce the mind, the body will follow.

I pick out quality females that attract me, send a nice message and await a reply, never sent a second one if i didnt get a reply nor do i question why. I actually cant figure out guys who do, or then get nasty and call names

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By *ryst In Isolde OP   Woman
over a year ago

your imagination


"I get this all the time, nobody reads profiles.

I state clearly in mine "no pussy pics" yet I'm bombarded daily, my inbox is like a Gynecological Data Base, then the girls message why wont you meet, then proceed to ask for videos, girls, just read the profile

How do you respond?

I usually respond by asking if they want the video in 720p,1080p or 4K quality

All jokes aside, I feel for the ladies, some guys think swinging site = handy ride, I think porn is to blame, well that and stupidity, I say seduce the mind, the body will follow.

I pick out quality females that attract me, send a nice message and await a reply, never sent a second one if i didnt get a reply nor do i question why. I actually cant figure out guys who do, or then get nasty and call names"

That's something I'm also curious about... Do rejected ladies ever behave the same way? But that's a topic for another thread, another day.

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By *oseredWoman
over a year ago

Dublin


"how about... I'm driving by you want a bj. I've turned that down a few times

Yes but how have you turned it down?"

Hillarious. That image is imprinted for ever.

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By *ickheadcuntCouple
over a year ago

Cork Ireland

A simple'No thanks" usually does it for us - we don't have to explain ourselves

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By *r AmbassadorMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"A simple'No thanks" usually does it for us - we don't have to explain ourselves "

Jesus I tried that and got my head taken off,

To which I replied

Ohhh potty mouth, I'm not sure but I think I like it,

I got blocked

So won't be trying that again.

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By *r AmbassadorMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"I get this all the time, nobody reads profiles.

I state clearly in mine "no pussy pics" yet I'm bombarded daily, my inbox is like a Gynecological Data Base, then the girls message why wont you meet, then proceed to ask for videos, girls, just read the profile

How do you respond?

I usually respond by asking if they want the video in 720p,1080p or 4K quality

All jokes aside, I feel for the ladies, some guys think swinging site = handy ride, I think porn is to blame, well that and stupidity, I say seduce the mind, the body will follow.

I pick out quality females that attract me, send a nice message and await a reply, never sent a second one if i didnt get a reply nor do i question why. I actually cant figure out guys who do, or then get nasty and call names"

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

how about... I'm driving by you want a bj. I've turned that down a few times

Ya its really hard to keep up with the car when your pants are lulled down

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By *P_80Man
over a year ago

Waterford

She mentions that she thinks Coldplay are a good band.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ooooh where to start...

Not on me... I try to limit myself to receiving just one Manbeast rejection per week

Its best for both parties!

One awkward moment a week is more than sufficient

Shit... Better not open my last message then

Marked unread

Taxi for Trysto

Wait... If you reject me twice this week does that mean you'll cave next week?

No it means once a week now becomes twice a week!

Kaizer is embarassed for you

Embarrassment is good... Last week it was just apathy... See...? I'm wearing you down!

Your determination is either admirable or unnerving

Tenacity... I just need to work out now if it's time to increase the number of foof pics I send you... Y'know.. Seal the deal "

Block

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By *r AmbassadorMan
over a year ago

Dublin

You look clean and neat but tattoos are a SUCH a turn off,

Sorry x x x

Not much I can say about that 1

I did suggest she could give me a really hot bath and try scrub them off,

I was blocked,

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas


"You look clean and neat but tattoos are a SUCH a turn off,

Sorry x x x

Not much I can say about that 1

I did suggest she could give me a really hot bath and try scrub them off,

I was blocked, "

Are girls really that mean

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By *r AmbassadorMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"You look clean and neat but tattoos are a SUCH a turn off,

Sorry x x x

Not much I can say about that 1

I did suggest she could give me a really hot bath and try scrub them off,

I was blocked,

Are girls really that mean "

Are you joking,,

That's nothing

No harm no fowl

Saying that I've been shown a few screen shots of real Nastyness that ye girls get,

So unfortunately I think Guys might win that 1.

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By *ouble Trouble 1000Couple
over a year ago

ireland


"You look clean and neat but tattoos are a SUCH a turn off,

Sorry x x x

Not much I can say about that 1

I did suggest she could give me a really hot bath and try scrub them off,

I was blocked, "

That bitch be crazy

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By *r AmbassadorMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"You look clean and neat but tattoos are a SUCH a turn off,

Sorry x x x

Not much I can say about that 1

I did suggest she could give me a really hot bath and try scrub them off,

I was blocked,

That bitch be crazy "

Lol

See I wanted to say that but I'm neat and clean you see , can't be at that shite lol

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

You look clean and neat but tattoos are a SUCH a turn off,

Sorry x x x

Not much I can say about that 1

I did suggest she could give me a really hot bath and try scrub them off,

I was blocked,

Ohh I like tattoos. And she obviously had no sense of humour either lol

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas


"You look clean and neat but tattoos are a SUCH a turn off,

Sorry x x x

Not much I can say about that 1

I did suggest she could give me a really hot bath and try scrub them off,

I was blocked,

Are girls really that mean

Are you joking,,

That's nothing

No harm no fowl

Saying that I've been shown a few screen shots of real Nastyness that ye girls get,

So unfortunately I think Guys might win that 1. "

I don’t know if I wana be here anymore I don’t know why ud go out of your way to insult someone it’s beyond me

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By *r AmbassadorMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"You look clean and neat but tattoos are a SUCH a turn off,

Sorry x x x

Not much I can say about that 1

I did suggest she could give me a really hot bath and try scrub them off,

I was blocked,

Ohh I like tattoos. And she obviously had no sense of humour either lol "

1 would think that a SOH is a must here, right,,,, right,,

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By *ryst In Isolde OP   Woman
over a year ago

your imagination

Well this thread has completely gone off the rails...

I give up!

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By *unnyfookMan
over a year ago

Naas


"how about... I'm driving by you want a bj. I've turned that down a few times

Yes but how have you turned it down?"

usually a no thanks. civil reply always

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By *ouble Trouble 1000Couple
over a year ago

ireland


"You look clean and neat but tattoos are a SUCH a turn off,

Sorry x x x

Not much I can say about that 1

I did suggest she could give me a really hot bath and try scrub them off,

I was blocked,

Ohh I like tattoos. And she obviously had no sense of humour either lol

1 would think that a SOH is a must here, right,,,, right,, "

Nope just a pulse

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

You look clean and neat but tattoos are a SUCH a turn off,

Sorry x x x

Not much I can say about that 1

I did suggest she could give me a really hot bath and try scrub them off,

I was blocked,

Ohh I like tattoos. And she obviously had no sense of humour either lol

1 would think that a SOH is a must here, right,,,, right,,

Lol. You would think so alright

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By *antra MassageMan
over a year ago

South Side.

I get lots of men asking.. "my wife wd like a tranta message"..

I reply, " thanks, I'd love to talk to you wife anytime about her massage,"

"wd you fuck her".

I don't reply after that.

My favourite requests are from women who have heard about me from a female friend. They've read my profile, and write a nice intro message telling me a bit about themselves= Instant rapport=good vibes=guaranteed massage.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Well this thread has completely gone off the rails...

I give up!

Oops sorry. I do just say a no thanks usually tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You look clean and neat but tattoos are a SUCH a turn off,

Sorry x x x

Not much I can say about that 1

I did suggest she could give me a really hot bath and try scrub them off,

I was blocked, "

Wow really! I find tattoos such a turn on I think they’re so sexy well except when they’re spelling out your wife’s name but then each to their own

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary

I don't get mails. Simple as that.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

The only times I've had to say no or turn down an offer was if it came from another man or a suspicious couples profile or a lady young enough to be my daughter.

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By *londy84Man
over a year ago

Scotstown

U are to good looking for me

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I can understand if I don't fit someone's expectations and if they are honest and polite and say thanks but no thanks that's fine.

It's when we've chatted for a while and they ask for a face pic and then block immediately. A simple message to say I'm not their type would be less frustrating.

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary


"The only times I've had to say no or turn down an offer was if it came from another man or a suspicious couples profile or a lady young enough to be my daughter."
That's what u want. One in her 20s or 30s. She'd give you the ride of your life

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"The only times I've had to say no or turn down an offer was if it came from another man or a suspicious couples profile or a lady young enough to be my daughter.That's what u want. One in her 20s or 30s. She'd give you the ride of your life "

Not for me thanks.

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