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By *leasure Inc. OP   Man
over a year ago

Cork

Lately it seems that there all lots of people that show great enthusiasm for a meet but in the end come up with some excuse to bow out....maybe some are genuine....but.....do you find this happening to you....or are you one who acts that way ??

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By *un for fun.Man
over a year ago

Co.Cork

Seems to be happening alot with profiles in the Cork region I think, will come to arrange a meet & profile then disappears.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thats just fab in general the fakes are usually quite easy to spot if you dont let the little head do too much of the thinking.

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By *hors.HammerMan
over a year ago

Newbridge

It happens. Sometimes the fantasy in their head is more than what they can offer in person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lately it seems that there all lots of people that show great enthusiasm for a meet but in the end come up with some excuse to bow out....maybe some are genuine....but.....do you find this happening to you....or are you one who acts that way ??"

When the cold light of day realization that a meet is on the very near horizon hits them they melt away .. simply because they NEVER had any intention to meet from the very start, string a longers !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it's a strange one to be fair. many on here see themselves as swingers even if they have never met people they think they are ready for it. some lose their bottle. male,female and couples. the could be fake or just not as ready as they thought they were. have seen it several times where people lose their nerve when things get a bit too real for them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"it's a strange one to be fair. many on here see themselves as swingers even if they have never met people they think they are ready for it. some lose their bottle. male,female and couples. the could be fake or just not as ready as they thought they were. have seen it several times where people lose their nerve when things get a bit too real for them. "

I think ..that maybe in a couple situation that if one was to get cold feet about a play meet its the guy..cause l think the fear that the other guy might fuck her like she's never been fucked before and he mightened be able to handle that which would maybe lead to problems between them in their own personal sex life...which l know of a couple who went swinging to " cure " their marriage and it totally destroyed it cause the man couldn't handle his wife getting the fucking she was getting and he wanted to stop but she didn't ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"it's a strange one to be fair. many on here see themselves as swingers even if they have never met people they think they are ready for it. some lose their bottle. male,female and couples. the could be fake or just not as ready as they thought they were. have seen it several times where people lose their nerve when things get a bit too real for them. "

You are right.

It happens to everyone on the beginning of the journey.

For me safety is most important, if there is anything suspicious it is better say "sorry, I think it wouldn't work".

Im a single mother and have limited time to meet people.

My observation over a year, chatting and talking with people is: they always want more at the 1st meeting. It wouldn't help if the person is pushy too.

I totally understand that people want more than a coffee and chit chat but they have to remember that every person is different and need more time to make a decision.

The ratio men to women is about 25:1 or something. Im glad am a woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"it's a strange one to be fair. many on here see themselves as swingers even if they have never met people they think they are ready for it. some lose their bottle. male,female and couples. the could be fake or just not as ready as they thought they were. have seen it several times where people lose their nerve when things get a bit too real for them.

You are right.

It happens to everyone on the beginning of the journey.

For me safety is most important, if there is anything suspicious it is better say "sorry, I think it wouldn't work".

Im a single mother and have limited time to meet people.

My observation over a year, chatting and talking with people is: they always want more at the 1st meeting. It wouldn't help if the person is pushy too.

I totally understand that people want more than a coffee and chit chat but they have to remember that every person is different and need more time to make a decision.

The ratio men to women is about 25:1 or something. Im glad am a woman "
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The guitar in your photos ??.is it yours ? Do you play it ?...I tried to message to ask but site supporters only ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"it's a strange one to be fair. many on here see themselves as swingers even if they have never met people they think they are ready for it. some lose their bottle. male,female and couples. the could be fake or just not as ready as they thought they were. have seen it several times where people lose their nerve when things get a bit too real for them.

You are right.

It happens to everyone on the beginning of the journey.

For me safety is most important, if there is anything suspicious it is better say "sorry, I think it wouldn't work".

Im a single mother and have limited time to meet people.

My observation over a year, chatting and talking with people is: they always want more at the 1st meeting. It wouldn't help if the person is pushy too.

I totally understand that people want more than a coffee and chit chat but they have to remember that every person is different and need more time to make a decision.

The ratio men to women is about 25:1 or something. Im glad am a woman .

The guitar in your photos ??.is it yours ? Do you play it ?...I tried to message to ask but site supporters only .."

Its a gift and no, I dont play on the guitar. My 10 y o daughter is playing on both of them: acoustic and electric guitar. She is also taking piano lessons.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometime's real life get's in the way and it's hard to find the time that suit's both to meet. The chat or excitement can just fizzle out. Have chatted with a few whose profile's just dissappear so just assume I or fab wasn't for them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I'm chatting away to a guy and a meet is arranged for a few days away or more and therw is no contact (even though they are on Fab) until the day before the meet.....I have been known to cancel as the buzz, excitment and connection has gone.

The meet feels dead.

Maybe I expect too much though.

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By *orguyMan
over a year ago

Tuam

I think if you haven't met someone within 2 weeks of initial contact it usually ends up going nowhere.

I think both sides tend to lose interest.

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By *oseredWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

I have chatted for up to a year with some prior to meeting and some a week or less. It depends on timing, moods, life and how much people get on. Genuine people usually keep in contact and are ok about waiting and or will tell you straight up to contact them when you do have time if they are not into texting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think if you haven't met someone within 2 weeks of initial contact it usually ends up going nowhere.

I think both sides tend to lose interest. "

I dont agree with you. If both sides are still interested to meet each other they will definitely do it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think if you haven't met someone within 2 weeks of initial contact it usually ends up going nowhere.

I think both sides tend to lose interest.

I dont agree with you. If both sides are still interested to meet each other they will definitely do it! "

I once had to wait 8 months between sports injuries family commitments the usual crap that gets in your way. But fuck me it was worth the wait. God even thinking about the flashbacks gets me going

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think if you haven't met someone within 2 weeks of initial contact it usually ends up going nowhere.

I think both sides tend to lose interest.

I dont agree with you. If both sides are still interested to meet each other they will definitely do it!

I once had to wait 8 months between sports injuries family commitments the usual crap that gets in your way. But fuck me it was worth the wait. God even thinking about the flashbacks gets me going "

Im still thinking when we will finally meet for a tea chat my dear!

Gimme more time, please

Hopefully before Christmas. If not then in a New Year but it is worthwhile to wait

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think if you haven't met someone within 2 weeks of initial contact it usually ends up going nowhere.

I think both sides tend to lose interest.

I dont agree with you. If both sides are still interested to meet each other they will definitely do it!

I once had to wait 8 months between sports injuries family commitments the usual crap that gets in your way. But fuck me it was worth the wait. God even thinking about the flashbacks gets me going

Im still thinking when we will finally meet for a tea chat my dear!

Gimme more time, please

Hopefully before Christmas. If not then in a New Year but it is worthwhile to wait "

Aw we will make it happen a trip to Cork is well overdue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"it's a strange one to be fair. many on here see themselves as swingers even if they have never met people they think they are ready for it. some lose their bottle. male,female and couples. the could be fake or just not as ready as they thought they were. have seen it several times where people lose their nerve when things get a bit too real for them.

You are right.

It happens to everyone on the beginning of the journey.

For me safety is most important, if there is anything suspicious it is better say "sorry, I think it wouldn't work".

Im a single mother and have limited time to meet people.

My observation over a year, chatting and talking with people is: they always want more at the 1st meeting. It wouldn't help if the person is pushy too.

I totally understand that people want more than a coffee and chit chat but they have to remember that every person is different and need more time to make a decision.

The ratio men to women is about 25:1 or something. Im glad am a woman .

The guitar in your photos ??.is it yours ? Do you play it ?...I tried to message to ask but site supporters only ..

Its a gift and no, I dont play on the guitar. My 10 y o daughter is playing on both of them: acoustic and electric guitar. She is also taking piano lessons. "

Awesome... Absolutely Brilliant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"it's a strange one to be fair. many on here see themselves as swingers even if they have never met people they think they are ready for it. some lose their bottle. male,female and couples. the could be fake or just not as ready as they thought they were. have seen it several times where people lose their nerve when things get a bit too real for them.

I think ..that maybe in a couple situation that if one was to get cold feet about a play meet its the guy..cause l think the fear that the other guy might fuck her like she's never been fucked before and he mightened be able to handle that which would maybe lead to problems between them in their own personal sex life...which l know of a couple who went swinging to " cure " their marriage and it totally destroyed it cause the man couldn't handle his wife getting the fucking she was getting and he wanted to stop but she didn't ..."

seen that too. sad when a person chooses the lifestyle over the people they love

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By *outh_of_EdenMan
over a year ago

fota


"it's a strange one to be fair. many on here see themselves as swingers even if they have never met people they think they are ready for it. some lose their bottle. male,female and couples. the could be fake or just not as ready as they thought they were. have seen it several times where people lose their nerve when things get a bit too real for them.

You are right.

It happens to everyone on the beginning of the journey.

For me safety is most important, if there is anything suspicious it is better say "sorry, I think it wouldn't work".

I'd say 100:1 !!

Im a single mother and have limited time to meet people.

My observation over a year, chatting and talking with people is: they always want more at the 1st meeting. It wouldn't help if the person is pushy too.

I totally understand that people want more than a coffee and chit chat but they have to remember that every person is different and need more time to make a decision.

The ratio men to women is about 25:1 or something. Im glad am a woman "

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By *orguyMan
over a year ago

Tuam


"I think if you haven't met someone within 2 weeks of initial contact it usually ends up going nowhere.

I think both sides tend to lose interest.

I dont agree with you. If both sides are still interested to meet each other they will definitely do it! "

I'm not saying it doesn't happen. Just from a personal point of view I find it difficult to carry on small talk etc with someone I haven't met and tend to lose interest. Just my opinion, nothing more

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By *easingTimMan
over a year ago

Loughlinstown


"Lately it seems that there all lots of people that show great enthusiasm for a meet but in the end come up with some excuse to bow out....maybe some are genuine....but.....do you find this happening to you....or are you one who acts that way ??"

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Have genuinely been sick once and had to postpone but if was with a regular FWB and she understood.

However, getting stood up is a part of FAB life but am surprised by some of the sexy ladies and couples left high and dry waiting in hotel rooms for a guy or girl to show up

...I think that's the lowest of the lowest act here...

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"If I'm chatting away to a guy and a meet is arranged for a few days away or more and therw is no contact (even though they are on Fab) until the day before the meet.....I have been known to cancel as the buzz, excitment and connection has gone.

The meet feels dead.

Maybe I expect too much though.

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Totally get this!! It's something I've experienced in the past.. You're chatting daily with someone, the connection feels great, there's a spark, and you agree to meet.... Then radio silence for a week or more until you finally get a text or a message saying 'we still OK for tomorrow?'

Sorry but no... If someone drops off the radar, that's disinterest to me... There has to be communication.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had this happen a couple of times so far with my first attempts at meets here. One was even just for a social. It sucks but cold feet happen.

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