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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I don't know about you,but it has done nothing for us.maybe fab should outlawed the wink and put it to its final resting place in the sky. This way people will actually have to compose a sentence in a message.

Now the first message should also have a minimum amount of words before it is allowed to be sent.not the usual how are you? Or wanna meet crap.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

No to both suggestions. I don't mind the winks I often send one as well as look at who sends me one. And why should people have to write longer messages. Let them write what they want. I've often sent a first message and they aren't that easy to write. If it bothers you that people send you short ones block people from messaging and go look and message yourself or just ignore the short messages.

Run your fab profile the way you want but don't try and dictate how others run theirs is pretty much my motto on here anyhow.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't know about you,but it has done nothing for us.maybe fab should outlawed the wink and put it to its final resting place in the sky. This way people will actually have to compose a sentence in a message.

Now the first message should also have a minimum amount of words before it is allowed to be sent.not the usual how are you? Or wanna meet crap."

Never sent a wink or a short how are ya message because l think both show a huge lack of respect to the person you're messaging ,if one is interested in meeting another at least put some effort into it to at least show the person you've made an effort

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By *oxyvixen99Woman
over a year ago

Newtownabbey

Winks dont bother me in the slightest. Nor do short generic emails. Both are either read or deleted or indeed replied to easily enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't know about you,but it has done nothing for us.maybe fab should outlawed the wink and put it to its final resting place in the sky. This way people will actually have to compose a sentence in a message.

Now the first message should also have a minimum amount of words before it is allowed to be sent.not the usual how are you? Or wanna meet crap."
So if you're out and about and someone says How are you do you just ignore them.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

The best meet i had on here started with a wink.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No to both suggestions. I don't mind the winks I often send one as well as look at who sends me one. And why should people have to write longer messages. Let them write what they want. I've often sent a first message and they aren't that easy to write. If it bothers you that people send you short ones block people from messaging and go look and message yourself or just ignore the short messages.

Run your fab profile the way you want but don't try and dictate how others run theirs is pretty much my motto on here anyhow. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No to both suggestions. I don't mind the winks I often send one as well as look at who sends me one. And why should people have to write longer messages. Let them write what they want. I've often sent a first message and they aren't that easy to write. If it bothers you that people send you short ones block people from messaging and go look and message yourself or just ignore the short messages.

Run your fab profile the way you want but don't try and dictate how others run theirs is pretty much my motto on here anyhow. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No to both suggestions. I don't mind the winks I often send one as well as look at who sends me one. And why should people have to write longer messages. Let them write what they want. I've often sent a first message and they aren't that easy to write. If it bothers you that people send you short ones block people from messaging and go look and message yourself or just ignore the short messages.

Run your fab profile the way you want but don't try and dictate how others run theirs is pretty much my motto on here anyhow. "
I wasn't trying to dictate.i was asking a question

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't know about you,but it has done nothing for us.maybe fab should outlawed the wink and put it to its final resting place in the sky. This way people will actually have to compose a sentence in a message.

Now the first message should also have a minimum amount of words before it is allowed to be sent.not the usual how are you? Or wanna meet crap. So if you're out and about and someone says How are you do you just ignore them. "
big big difference buddy.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

The best meet i had on here started with a wink.

Same here now that I think back about it oh ye I definitely don't want to lose the wink.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

No to both suggestions. I don't mind the winks I often send one as well as look at who sends me one. And why should people have to write longer messages. Let them write what they want. I've often sent a first message and they aren't that easy to write. If it bothers you that people send you short ones block people from messaging and go look and message yourself or just ignore the short messages.

Run your fab profile the way you want but don't try and dictate how others run theirs is pretty much my motto on here anyhow. I wasn't trying to dictate.i was asking a question

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By *hy_bangor_bi-girlWoman
over a year ago

Bangor

I think the wink should stay as its a way off checking in with someone discretely. You either reply or you don't. I sometime reply to wind faster as my mail box is chaotic at times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't know about you,but it has done nothing for us.maybe fab should outlawed the wink and put it to its final resting place in the sky. This way people will actually have to compose a sentence in a message.

Now the first message should also have a minimum amount of words before it is allowed to be sent.not the usual how are you? Or wanna meet crap. So if you're out and about and someone says How are you do you just ignore them. big big difference buddy.

"
How it's the same word's buddy.

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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago

Galway

I quite like winks. Handy way of saying hi without flooding someone with messages. If you get a wink back, a conversation can start

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't know about you,but it has done nothing for us.maybe fab should outlawed the wink and put it to its final resting place in the sky. This way people will actually have to compose a sentence in a message.

Now the first message should also have a minimum amount of words before it is allowed to be sent.not the usual how are you? Or wanna meet crap. So if you're out and about and someone says How are you do you just ignore them. big big difference buddy.

How it's the same word's buddy."
so are you saying fab and the real world are the same?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't know about you,but it has done nothing for us.maybe fab should outlawed the wink and put it to its final resting place in the sky. This way people will actually have to compose a sentence in a message.

Now the first message should also have a minimum amount of words before it is allowed to be sent.not the usual how are you? Or wanna meet crap. So if you're out and about and someone says How are you do you just ignore them. big big difference buddy.

How it's the same word's buddy.so are you saying fab and the real world are the same?"
How are you means the same in both worlds.

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By *hiaboutMan
over a year ago

johnstown

I agree the wink is a positive reaction when u get one bac .just ignore if it bothers u so much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are winks really that intrusive?

I rarely notice if one comes through.

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...

I always send a wink if like the profile or there pics sometimes it leads to chat and more...who dosent enjoy a good aul wink

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By *he MickMan
over a year ago

southside

I like to give a wink , here and in real life . I figure no harm in a cheeky wink ??

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By *londy84Man
over a year ago

Scotstown

Hi

Should be enough in the first message.

Who knows if they are even interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd love to be notified when you've been added to someones hotlist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd love to be notified when you've been added to someones hotlist "

No no no on all levels . I want my hot list to remain private

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By *oey4somefunMan
over a year ago

Dublin/Drogheda

I have also had meets come from winks, it's a great way to show interest and then follow through with a message. So a no to ban them in my opinion. If you don't like them don't use or look at them, simples

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By *eductively_SweetWoman
over a year ago

wexford

Winks don't bother me atal I've sent them myself. I dont understand the issue with hi how are messages or fancy a coffee. Isn't this the way we are in public with ppl or in a bar. Why can't it work here to. I dont expect anyone in a bar to prep a long 'stand out paragraph" message to get my attention there so I don't on fab. I'm either interested or not no matter how I'm approached. You would swear it was a job they were applying for and not a ride.. Ppl need to relax on the how to message jezz

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd love to be notified when you've been added to someones hotlist

No no no on all levels . I want my hot list to remain private "

i'm an exhibitionist ....i'd display mine lol

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By *oey4somefunMan
over a year ago

Dublin/Drogheda


"Winks don't bother me atal I've sent them myself. I dont understand the issue with hi how are messages or fancy a coffee. Isn't this the way we are in public with ppl or in a bar. Why can't it work here to. I dont expect anyone in a bar to prep a long 'stand out paragraph" message to get my attention there so I don't on fab. I'm either interested or not no matter how I'm approached. You would swear it was a job they were applying for and not a ride.. Ppl need to relax on the how to message jezz "

Couldn't agree more Sweets

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

Surely nothing easier than to ignore the wink facility if it doesn't appeal to you. What might not work for you, does for others. Simple as that. If you don't want mayo on your sandwich at the deli counter, are you going to look to get it banned althogether?

As for minimum words in messages, that's just ridiculous. Why don't you use short messages as a filter for people you don't want to meet if they don't make your word count.

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By *ol_ieMan
over a year ago

Dublin west


"I'd love to be notified when you've been added to someones hotlist

No no no on all levels . I want my hot list to remain private "

It would be good however if it let you know if you had each other on your hot list..

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By *eminexWoman
over a year ago

some where in outer space

I never look at my winks but reading this I think I should pay more attention!!

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By *ol_ieMan
over a year ago

Dublin west

Don't check my winks often as they are usually just from other blokes

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By *ouble Trouble 1000Couple
over a year ago

ireland

Def not ,sometimes they can be very worthwhile

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By *Belfast_FellaMan
over a year ago

belfast

Not interested in winks? Ignore them. No need to ban them if they're working for other people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i love an oul wink

A lot of fun has come from one or two of them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd love to be notified when you've been added to someones hotlist

No no no on all levels . I want my hot list to remain private

i'm an exhibitionist ....i'd display mine lol"

I know you would

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd love to be notified when you've been added to someones hotlist

No no no on all levels . I want my hot list to remain private

It would be good however if it let you know if you had each other on your hot list.. "

I suppose yes

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By *unnyfookMan
over a year ago

Naas

jaysus it's only awink, show of interest. if someine winked at you on the street would you gouge out their eyeball?

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By *scouple07Couple
over a year ago

louth, Ireland

We dont agree OP, the wink can be a good gauge to see if any interest off other party

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't know about you,but it has done nothing for us.maybe fab should outlawed the wink and put it to its final resting place in the sky. This way people will actually have to compose a sentence in a message.

Now the first message should also have a minimum amount of words before it is allowed to be sent.not the usual how are you? Or wanna meet crap."

I don't think it should be banned, it is fairly easy to ignore.

Regarding minimum length mails I do wish there was a way to filter them, ie: mail must be 20 words long.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any meet I’ve had on here originated from a wink great way to express interest without the essay I’m a serial winker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Self confessed grammar Nazis here.

So not massive fans of the;

"Hey, how are you? Would you like to chat?" (hey how are you wanna chat)

Our lastest reply was;

"Let's eat kids.

Let's eat, kids.

Use Commas, they save lives. "

As for winks, hardly check and rarely send

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the real world ,a wink or a " how's things ?" are the finest , Absolutely ,cause it's a way more personal situation but maybe to be bombarded with winks and 3 letter messages every day here on fab is maybe a bit too much and not the same scenario as in the real world ...plus how many times would one read on a ladies profile " No ,how's things ..how are ya ..ya doing anything tonight etc etc messages...

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By *unnyfookMan
over a year ago

Naas


"Self confessed grammar Nazis here.

So not massive fans of the;

"Hey, how are you? Would you like to chat?" (hey how are you wanna chat)

Our lastest reply was;

"Let's eat kids.

Let's eat, kids.

Use Commas, they save lives. "

As for winks, hardly check and rarely send"

grammar Natzis are the worst

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By *adylaceWoman
over a year ago

Waterford City

I have no problem with winks or short opening messages. It’s just a way of getting the conversation started. I sometimes think people expect too much from people here. I wouldn’t be great at approaching people myself.

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By *cottybear74Man
over a year ago

kilkenny

Winks are grand

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"In the real world ,a wink or a " how's things ?" are the finest , Absolutely ,cause it's a way more personal situation but maybe to be bombarded with winks and 3 letter messages every day here on fab is maybe a bit too much and not the same scenario as in the real world ...plus how many times would one read on a ladies profile " No ,how's things ..how are ya ..ya doing anything tonight etc etc messages..."

My point exactly.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I think the wink is a lazy way to contact .some use it like it's going out of fashion. Sending them to whoever without even reading a person's profile in the hope that someone will respond. As for the short message here's an example

We got a wink.

We wink back.

Message then sent to us just says hi.

If that's all I get back well sorry.not worth the effort.

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

It’s the people who wink and send a friend request that annoy me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It’s the people who wink and send a friend request that annoy me "

That will be tomorrow's topic

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By *rksideMan
over a year ago

Midlands/Dublin


"I have no problem with winks or short opening messages. It’s just a way of getting the conversation started. I sometimes think people expect too much from people here. I wouldn’t be great at approaching people myself. "

Good point!

Simple "hi, how are you? " + face pic should be a good starter.

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By *eijaWoman
over a year ago

City Centre

I like the wink option instead of wasting your time sending me a message as I get lots and don't have time to reply..send a wink..I check them regularly if I like what I see I wink back...and that's a sign I'd like to chat

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I like the wink option instead of wasting your time sending me a message as I get lots and don't have time to reply..send a wink..I check them regularly if I like what I see I wink back...and that's a sign I'd like to chat "

The only time the wink worked for us

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas


"It’s the people who wink and send a friend request that annoy me

That will be tomorrow's topic "

Woo hoo

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By *Sparkie.Man
over a year ago

Ratoath

I like an auld wink every now and then, I dont bombard ladies/couples with messages or cock pics and I kinda see it as a polite invite to send a message, if I like the person I tend to follow up with a detailed message of who I am and what I'm looking for, if they reply, Bingo, if not, move swiftly alone

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By *eijaWoman
over a year ago

City Centre


"I like the wink option instead of wasting your time sending me a message as I get lots and don't have time to reply..send a wink..I check them regularly if I like what I see I wink back...and that's a sign I'd like to chat

The only time the wink worked for us "

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By *unnyfookMan
over a year ago

Naas

a wink is better than sending a message and not getting a reply.

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By *r AmbassadorMan
over a year ago

Dublin

There some amount of BS coming from responses to this thread here,,

1.

No man on here will EVER complain about receiving a Wink, so by that reasoning can't complain about sending one,, so stop fishing for points, we all know that is B's.

2.

A wink is a great ,,Hey what's up tool,, if someone is online,,,as we all know a Fem will or could have 1000+ msg so chances are your msg ( no matter how long or short) ain't getting read, so a wink is a simple tool in that respect.

3.

Not everyone on here is on Par with St Peter or St Paul with Bible length standards msg,s,

And to be fair just like Bible standard profile info, they get a tad boring after paragraph 3, so get over yourselves,

Short and sweet is your only man,,

With all due Respect, as it is a Friday..

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By *r AmbassadorMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"No to both suggestions. I don't mind the winks I often send one as well as look at who sends me one. And why should people have to write longer messages. Let them write what they want. I've often sent a first message and they aren't that easy to write. If it bothers you that people send you short ones block people from messaging and go look and message yourself or just ignore the short messages.

Run your fab profile the way you want but don't try and dictate how others run theirs is pretty much my motto on here anyhow. "

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By *r AmbassadorMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"I like the wink option instead of wasting your time sending me a message as I get lots and don't have time to reply..send a wink..I check them regularly if I like what I see I wink back...and that's a sign I'd like to chat

The only time the wink worked for us

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By *r AmbassadorMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"I like an auld wink every now and then, I dont bombard ladies/couples with messages or cock pics and I kinda see it as a polite invite to send a message, if I like the person I tend to follow up with a detailed message of who I am and what I'm looking for, if they reply, Bingo, if not, move swiftly alone"

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