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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Look after it everyone. Sometimes I can see this site impacting negatively on it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Look after it everyone. Sometimes I can see this site impacting negatively on it."

Yes there are some here that take pleasure in preying on vulnerability throwing out snide comments hoping it will cause hurt and reaction. Try and rise above it and remember they are the ones who have the problem with negativity and don't let them drag you down.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Absolutely I often think this is not for the faint of heart or fragile mind.

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas


"Absolutely I often think this is not for the faint of heart or fragile mind."

Definitely not especially when you wear your heart on your sleeve people can be very mean x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Absolutely I often think this is not for the faint of heart or fragile mind.

Definitely not especially when you wear your heart on your sleeve people can be very mean x"

Unfortunately this is so true . Just because its fab people think its ok to be mean. We can't call them out on it as Admin will ban us ( again )

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary

Be nice to everyone Is the easy motto going forward.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think if Fab is affecting someones mental health its just a symptom of whats going on offline.

It wpuld be nice of everyone could ne respectful of each other but thats not realistic.

If you feel fab affecting yoir mood in anything but a positive way its time to take a break

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Look after it everyone. Sometimes I can see this site impacting negatively on it.

Yes there are some here that take pleasure in preying on vulnerability throwing out snide comments hoping it will cause hurt and reaction. Try and rise above it and remember they are the ones who have the problem with negativity and don't let them drag you down. "

I am lucky I am mentally strong enough to deal with the nasty messages I get. I learnt to stand up for myself when I joined Fab. But I feel sorry for the people affected by the abusive messages. People don't realise or just don't care about the damage they are doing by sending cruel nasty messages

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas


"Absolutely I often think this is not for the faint of heart or fragile mind.

Definitely not especially when you wear your heart on your sleeve people can be very mean x

Unfortunately this is so true . Just because its fab people think its ok to be mean. We can't call them out on it as Admin will ban us ( again ) "

The positive thing is the good outway the bad I kno what it’s like to be in trouble with admin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think if Fab is affecting someones mental health its just a symptom of whats going on offline.

It wpuld be nice of everyone could ne respectful of each other but thats not realistic.

If you feel fab affecting yoir mood in anything but a positive way its time to take a break"
I thought you were a wise man but how wrong can you be.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think if Fab is affecting someones mental health its just a symptom of whats going on offline.

It wpuld be nice of everyone could ne respectful of each other but thats not realistic.

If you feel fab affecting yoir mood in anything but a positive way its time to take a break"

That’s a ridiculous assumption to be making; “symptom of what’s going on offline”. A vast amount of society’s mental health problems these day are created online on such sites and glib presumptuous remarks don’t help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Be nice to everyone Is the easy motto going forward. "

Its the people that don't feel the need to treat others respectfully are the ones i feel sorry for, ok some people might be just nasty but the majority just frustrated, and if you fall into that category just delete and come back when your not

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By *ornybarMan
over a year ago

clonmel

Guys and girls. Talk if you need to be heard.

And listen when someone needs to talk.

It’s an easy thing to say but worthwhile doing x

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By *eminexWoman
over a year ago

some where in outer space


"Absolutely I often think this is not for the faint of heart or fragile mind."

Agree with u there ppl can be very mean on here thy forget that u arr a real person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Look after it everyone. Sometimes I can see this site impacting negatively on it.

Yes there are some here that take pleasure in preying on vulnerability throwing out snide comments hoping it will cause hurt and reaction. Try and rise above it and remember they are the ones who have the problem with negativity and don't let them drag you down.

I am lucky I am mentally strong enough to deal with the nasty messages I get. I learnt to stand up for myself when I joined Fab. But I feel sorry for the people affected by the abusive messages. People don't realise or just don't care about the damage they are doing by sending cruel nasty messages "

So true Rosy and we shouldn't let these idiots destroy what is otherwise a good experience here .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Absolutely I often think this is not for the faint of heart or fragile mind.

Definitely not especially when you wear your heart on your sleeve people can be very mean x

Unfortunately this is so true . Just because its fab people think its ok to be mean. We can't call them out on it as Admin will ban us ( again )

The positive thing is the good outway the bad I kno what it’s like to be in trouble with admin "

Me too but we aren't allowed to mention it here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It took me quite sometime to get used to Fab. I only lasted 5 wks on each of my first 2 profiles because of trolls and abuse that were totally uncalled for. I knew I was probably too sensitive for this site... but this is my 3rd time lucky profile as I learned to grow a thicker skin on here... which one should never have to do but that's the way it is

Saying all that there are so many lovely kind legit genuine peeps on here that more than make up for the nasties

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think if Fab is affecting someones mental health its just a symptom of whats going on offline.

It wpuld be nice of everyone could ne respectful of each other but thats not realistic.

If you feel fab affecting yoir mood in anything but a positive way its time to take a break

That’s a ridiculous assumption to be making; “symptom of what’s going on offline”. A vast amount of society’s mental health problems these day are created online on such sites and glib presumptuous remarks don’t help.

"

I dont think saying that someones interactions on fab are probably not the root cause of their mental health issues is all that presumptious or at all glib.

Prehaps I should have said off fab instead of offline, but even still the point stands.

Disagree with it if you want but think about the tone of yoir response on a thread you created about caring for each others mental well being

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think if Fab is affecting someones mental health its just a symptom of whats going on offline.

It wpuld be nice of everyone could ne respectful of each other but thats not realistic.

If you feel fab affecting yoir mood in anything but a positive way its time to take a break

That’s a ridiculous assumption to be making; “symptom of what’s going on offline”. A vast amount of society’s mental health problems these day are created online on such sites and glib presumptuous remarks don’t help.

I dont think saying that someones interactions on fab are probably not the root cause of their mental health issues is all that presumptious or at all glib.

Prehaps I should have said off fab instead of offline, but even still the point stands.

Disagree with it if you want but think about the tone of yoir response on a thread you created about caring for each others mental well being"

So caring for the mental well being of others should consist of making abrupt presumptions and offering unfounded advice. Perhaps consider your own initial tone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Spread love not hate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think if Fab is affecting someones mental health its just a symptom of whats going on offline.

It wpuld be nice of everyone could ne respectful of each other but thats not realistic.

If you feel fab affecting yoir mood in anything but a positive way its time to take a break

That’s a ridiculous assumption to be making; “symptom of what’s going on offline”. A vast amount of society’s mental health problems these day are created online on such sites and glib presumptuous remarks don’t help.

I dont think saying that someones interactions on fab are probably not the root cause of their mental health issues is all that presumptious or at all glib.

Prehaps I should have said off fab instead of offline, but even still the point stands.

Disagree with it if you want but think about the tone of yoir response on a thread you created about caring for each others mental well being

So caring for the mental well being of others should consist of making abrupt presumptions and offering unfounded advice. Perhaps consider your own initial tone."

I made a very clear statement of my opinion contributing to the conversation.

You disagreed, but instead of asking for further discussion you in one paragraph call my words ridiculas presumptious and glib. Now I'm well able for it but imagine I was someone who was a little.fragile and did not communicate my point very well how does your reaponse help.

Everyone offers unfounded advise on here ffs lad, all.I saod was letring fab affect you is a sign all is not well elsewhere, there was nothing dismissive or inflamitory in my first post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think if Fab is affecting someones mental health its just a symptom of whats going on offline.

It wpuld be nice of everyone could ne respectful of each other but thats not realistic.

If you feel fab affecting yoir mood in anything but a positive way its time to take a break

That’s a ridiculous assumption to be making; “symptom of what’s going on offline”. A vast amount of society’s mental health problems these day are created online on such sites and glib presumptuous remarks don’t help.

I dont think saying that someones interactions on fab are probably not the root cause of their mental health issues is all that presumptious or at all glib.

Prehaps I should have said off fab instead of offline, but even still the point stands.

Disagree with it if you want but think about the tone of yoir response on a thread you created about caring for each others mental well being

So caring for the mental well being of others should consist of making abrupt presumptions and offering unfounded advice. Perhaps consider your own initial tone.

I made a very clear statement of my opinion contributing to the conversation.

You disagreed, but instead of asking for further discussion you in one paragraph call my words ridiculas presumptious and glib. Now I'm well able for it but imagine I was someone who was a little.fragile and did not communicate my point very well how does your reaponse help.

Everyone offers unfounded advise on here ffs lad, all.I saod was letring fab affect you is a sign all is not well elsewhere, there was nothing dismissive or inflamitory in my first post"
But you made the assumption that what happens on fab can't effect your mental health.How do you know this are you an expert in this field or is it just the usual I know everything.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think if Fab is affecting someones mental health its just a symptom of whats going on offline.

It wpuld be nice of everyone could ne respectful of each other but thats not realistic.

If you feel fab affecting yoir mood in anything but a positive way its time to take a break

That’s a ridiculous assumption to be making; “symptom of what’s going on offline”. A vast amount of society’s mental health problems these day are created online on such sites and glib presumptuous remarks don’t help.

I dont think saying that someones interactions on fab are probably not the root cause of their mental health issues is all that presumptious or at all glib.

Prehaps I should have said off fab instead of offline, but even still the point stands.

Disagree with it if you want but think about the tone of yoir response on a thread you created about caring for each others mental well being

So caring for the mental well being of others should consist of making abrupt presumptions and offering unfounded advice. Perhaps consider your own initial tone.

I made a very clear statement of my opinion contributing to the conversation.

You disagreed, but instead of asking for further discussion you in one paragraph call my words ridiculas presumptious and glib. Now I'm well able for it but imagine I was someone who was a little.fragile and did not communicate my point very well how does your reaponse help.

Everyone offers unfounded advise on here ffs lad, all.I saod was letring fab affect you is a sign all is not well elsewhere, there was nothing dismissive or inflamitory in my first post"

Once again you have jumped to conclusions and deviated from my point that this site can most definitely have an overwhelming negative impact on people of even very sound mind. Jumping to conclusions, getting hasty, and making presumptions may just drive a person into a spiral of devestating emotion.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think if Fab is affecting someones mental health its just a symptom of whats going on offline.

It wpuld be nice of everyone could ne respectful of each other but thats not realistic.

If you feel fab affecting yoir mood in anything but a positive way its time to take a break

That’s a ridiculous assumption to be making; “symptom of what’s going on offline”. A vast amount of society’s mental health problems these day are created online on such sites and glib presumptuous remarks don’t help.

I dont think saying that someones interactions on fab are probably not the root cause of their mental health issues is all that presumptious or at all glib.

Prehaps I should have said off fab instead of offline, but even still the point stands.

Disagree with it if you want but think about the tone of yoir response on a thread you created about caring for each others mental well being

So caring for the mental well being of others should consist of making abrupt presumptions and offering unfounded advice. Perhaps consider your own initial tone.

I made a very clear statement of my opinion contributing to the conversation.

You disagreed, but instead of asking for further discussion you in one paragraph call my words ridiculas presumptious and glib. Now I'm well able for it but imagine I was someone who was a little.fragile and did not communicate my point very well how does your reaponse help.

Everyone offers unfounded advise on here ffs lad, all.I saod was letring fab affect you is a sign all is not well elsewhere, there was nothing dismissive or inflamitory in my first post But you made the assumption that what happens on fab can't effect your mental health.How do you know this are you an expert in this field or is it just the usual I know everything. "

Here here

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By *oseredWoman
over a year ago

Dublin


"I think if Fab is affecting someones mental health its just a symptom of whats going on offline.

It wpuld be nice of everyone could ne respectful of each other but thats not realistic.

If you feel fab affecting yoir mood in anything but a positive way its time to take a break

That’s a ridiculous assumption to be making; “symptom of what’s going on offline”. A vast amount of society’s mental health problems these day are created online on such sites and glib presumptuous remarks don’t help.

I dont think saying that someones interactions on fab are probably not the root cause of their mental health issues is all that presumptious or at all glib.

Prehaps I should have said off fab instead of offline, but even still the point stands.

Disagree with it if you want but think about the tone of yoir response on a thread you created about caring for each others mental well being

So caring for the mental well being of others should consist of making abrupt presumptions and offering unfounded advice. Perhaps consider your own initial tone."

Have you considdered the possibility that it is neither a presumption or unfounded opinion. The forum is about discussion and that involves opinions that may be different to our own or from differing personal experiences. By you're own statement OP you felt it might not be the best place for faint hearted or fragile of mind, does this not actually suggest that fab is not likely to be the root cause but certainly may cause extra problems for someone with exsisting fragile mental health. Mental health issues are very rarely one dimensional. We should try and be mindful of everyones opinion and how they may have come to form that opinion.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think if Fab is affecting someones mental health its just a symptom of whats going on offline.

It wpuld be nice of everyone could ne respectful of each other but thats not realistic.

If you feel fab affecting yoir mood in anything but a positive way its time to take a break

That’s a ridiculous assumption to be making; “symptom of what’s going on offline”. A vast amount of society’s mental health problems these day are created online on such sites and glib presumptuous remarks don’t help.

I dont think saying that someones interactions on fab are probably not the root cause of their mental health issues is all that presumptious or at all glib.

Prehaps I should have said off fab instead of offline, but even still the point stands.

Disagree with it if you want but think about the tone of yoir response on a thread you created about caring for each others mental well being

So caring for the mental well being of others should consist of making abrupt presumptions and offering unfounded advice. Perhaps consider your own initial tone.

Have you considdered the possibility that it is neither a presumption or unfounded opinion. The forum is about discussion and that involves opinions that may be different to our own or from differing personal experiences. By you're own statement OP you felt it might not be the best place for faint hearted or fragile of mind, does this not actually suggest that fab is not likely to be the root cause but certainly may cause extra problems for someone with exsisting fragile mental health. Mental health issues are very rarely one dimensional. We should try and be mindful of everyones opinion and how they may have come to form that opinion. "

Perhaps this site may be horrific enough at times to be a primary factor in devestating people of very sound mind. Consider that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Once again you have jumped to conclusions and deviated from my point that this site can most definitely have an overwhelming negative impact on people of even very sound mind. Jumping to conclusions, getting hasty, and making presumptions may just drive a person into a spiral of devestating emotion."

I am not sure what conclusions I am jumping to giving my opinion anymore than you.

I could be wrong, hence it being an opinion and my first works being I think( not I know), that people of very sound mind have enough coping mechinisims and self awareness to withdraw or compatmentalise this site long before it becomes an overwhelming negative impact.

I really am not sure what part of this has offended you so much

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago

Galway

Would it not be better for everyone’s mental health if ye agreed to disagree. Arguing about it seems pretty counter productive

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

Once again you have jumped to conclusions and deviated from my point that this site can most definitely have an overwhelming negative impact on people of even very sound mind. Jumping to conclusions, getting hasty, and making presumptions may just drive a person into a spiral of devestating emotion.

I am not sure what conclusions I am jumping to giving my opinion anymore than you.

I could be wrong, hence it being an opinion and my first works being I think( not I know), that people of very sound mind have enough coping mechinisims and self awareness to withdraw or compatmentalise this site long before it becomes an overwhelming negative impact.

I really am not sure what part of this has offended you so much"

So we can therefore conclude that people who become negatively affected by this site and other online abuse are not of very sound mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would it not be better for everyone’s mental health if ye agreed to disagree. Arguing about it seems pretty counter productive "

Ya probably apologises for getring off track the initial intention was good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Once again you have jumped to conclusions and deviated from my point that this site can most definitely have an overwhelming negative impact on people of even very sound mind. Jumping to conclusions, getting hasty, and making presumptions may just drive a person into a spiral of devestating emotion.

I am not sure what conclusions I am jumping to giving my opinion anymore than you.

I could be wrong, hence it being an opinion and my first works being I think( not I know), that people of very sound mind have enough coping mechinisims and self awareness to withdraw or compatmentalise this site long before it becomes an overwhelming negative impact.

I really am not sure what part of this has offended you so much"

Your not the only one..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

Once again you have jumped to conclusions and deviated from my point that this site can most definitely have an overwhelming negative impact on people of even very sound mind. Jumping to conclusions, getting hasty, and making presumptions may just drive a person into a spiral of devestating emotion.

I am not sure what conclusions I am jumping to giving my opinion anymore than you.

I could be wrong, hence it being an opinion and my first works being I think( not I know), that people of very sound mind have enough coping mechinisims and self awareness to withdraw or compatmentalise this site long before it becomes an overwhelming negative impact.

I really am not sure what part of this has offended you so much

Your not the only one.."

You’re

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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago

Galway


"

Once again you have jumped to conclusions and deviated from my point that this site can most definitely have an overwhelming negative impact on people of even very sound mind. Jumping to conclusions, getting hasty, and making presumptions may just drive a person into a spiral of devestating emotion.

I am not sure what conclusions I am jumping to giving my opinion anymore than you.

I could be wrong, hence it being an opinion and my first works being I think( not I know), that people of very sound mind have enough coping mechinisims and self awareness to withdraw or compatmentalise this site long before it becomes an overwhelming negative impact.

I really am not sure what part of this has offended you so much

Your not the only one..

You’re"

Wow you’re correcting someones grammar? Classy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Once again you have jumped to conclusions and deviated from my point that this site can most definitely have an overwhelming negative impact on people of even very sound mind. Jumping to conclusions, getting hasty, and making presumptions may just drive a person into a spiral of devestating emotion.

I am not sure what conclusions I am jumping to giving my opinion anymore than you.

I could be wrong, hence it being an opinion and my first works being I think( not I know), that people of very sound mind have enough coping mechinisims and self awareness to withdraw or compatmentalise this site long before it becomes an overwhelming negative impact.

I really am not sure what part of this has offended you so much

Your not the only one..

You’re"

Is everything ok? You seem a little angry old stock..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

Once again you have jumped to conclusions and deviated from my point that this site can most definitely have an overwhelming negative impact on people of even very sound mind. Jumping to conclusions, getting hasty, and making presumptions may just drive a person into a spiral of devestating emotion.

I am not sure what conclusions I am jumping to giving my opinion anymore than you.

I could be wrong, hence it being an opinion and my first works being I think( not I know), that people of very sound mind have enough coping mechinisims and self awareness to withdraw or compatmentalise this site long before it becomes an overwhelming negative impact.

I really am not sure what part of this has offended you so much

Your not the only one..

You’re

Is everything ok? You seem a little angry old stock.."

Old?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Once again you have jumped to conclusions and deviated from my point that this site can most definitely have an overwhelming negative impact on people of even very sound mind. Jumping to conclusions, getting hasty, and making presumptions may just drive a person into a spiral of devestating emotion.

I am not sure what conclusions I am jumping to giving my opinion anymore than you.

I could be wrong, hence it being an opinion and my first works being I think( not I know), that people of very sound mind have enough coping mechinisims and self awareness to withdraw or compatmentalise this site long before it becomes an overwhelming negative impact.

I really am not sure what part of this has offended you so much

Your not the only one.."
But how can anyone say that what is said or done on fab can't effect people's mental health.Because basically that's what that guy is saying.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

Once again you have jumped to conclusions and deviated from my point that this site can most definitely have an overwhelming negative impact on people of even very sound mind. Jumping to conclusions, getting hasty, and making presumptions may just drive a person into a spiral of devestating emotion.

I am not sure what conclusions I am jumping to giving my opinion anymore than you.

I could be wrong, hence it being an opinion and my first works being I think( not I know), that people of very sound mind have enough coping mechinisims and self awareness to withdraw or compatmentalise this site long before it becomes an overwhelming negative impact.

I really am not sure what part of this has offended you so much

Your not the only one.. But how can anyone say that what is said or done on fab can't effect people's mental health.Because basically that's what that guy is saying. "

Exactly my fundamental simple point was that this site can have a major impact on people so take care.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Once again you have jumped to conclusions and deviated from my point that this site can most definitely have an overwhelming negative impact on people of even very sound mind. Jumping to conclusions, getting hasty, and making presumptions may just drive a person into a spiral of devestating emotion.

I am not sure what conclusions I am jumping to giving my opinion anymore than you.

I could be wrong, hence it being an opinion and my first works being I think( not I know), that people of very sound mind have enough coping mechinisims and self awareness to withdraw or compatmentalise this site long before it becomes an overwhelming negative impact.

I really am not sure what part of this has offended you so much

Your not the only one.. But how can anyone say that what is said or done on fab can't effect people's mental health.Because basically that's what that guy is saying. "

You have made fantastic progress in English class today Harry, gold star for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Once again you have jumped to conclusions and deviated from my point that this site can most definitely have an overwhelming negative impact on people of even very sound mind. Jumping to conclusions, getting hasty, and making presumptions may just drive a person into a spiral of devestating emotion.

I am not sure what conclusions I am jumping to giving my opinion anymore than you.

I could be wrong, hence it being an opinion and my first works being I think( not I know), that people of very sound mind have enough coping mechinisims and self awareness to withdraw or compatmentalise this site long before it becomes an overwhelming negative impact.

I really am not sure what part of this has offended you so much

Your not the only one.. But how can anyone say that what is said or done on fab can't effect people's mental health.Because basically that's what that guy is saying.

You have made fantastic progress in English class today Harry, gold star for you"
Sometimes you need to say it as it is.

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary

The bottom line is nobody knows the stuff that effects people and drives them over the edge. All could seem well and happy but be suffering inside. Something could of happened or words could be affecting them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My take on this joint regards mental health is ..IF ..one is anyway easily offended in anyway ,they should NOT be here or if rejection is hard for them to take ,they should be on the next stage outta fab city .. AND ...I do fully recognise that ladies get far more abusive messages from guys that ,let's say ,failed to attract the ladies for whatever reason and many people have left and came back with a stronger mental attitude the next time cause for the simple reason of why should anyone spoil their fun ,tbh , timewasters were the biggest mental head wreck for me ,l honestly could not understand how ladies could string a guy along they way they do , promise to meet ,then totally deny they ever said such and think twas ok to do such..totally wrecked my head..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

To hell with this thread. It seems the length of someone’s foreskin is more important than the state of someone’s health. Says a lot about he clientele on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Absolutely I often think this is not for the faint of heart or fragile mind.

Definitely not especially when you wear your heart on your sleeve people can be very mean x

Unfortunately this is so true . Just because its fab people think its ok to be mean. We can't call them out on it as Admin will ban us ( again ) "

Yes it's quite characteristic of the bully mentality they say it because they can without redress. That us fueled by the element of anonymity. Just block them. We are all here for fun not to take crap from other inadequate twats.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Be nice to everyone Is the easy motto going forward. "

It is and most important thing is being nice cost nothing! Im here over a year but never ever been abused before on any social media. Im on twitter only but it doesnt change the fact that people think they are anonymous here because no face pic, etc!

First rule: treat others like you want to be treated . No more, no less

Good evening all fabbers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To hell with this thread. It seems the length of someone’s foreskin is more important than the state of someone’s health. Says a lot about he clientele on here."
This site always had it's bullies it's when you stand up to them you realize they are just cowards.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"To hell with this thread. It seems the length of someone’s foreskin is more important than the state of someone’s health. Says a lot about he clientele on here. This site always had it's bullies it's when you stand up to them you realize they are just cowards. "

Who’s the bully now?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is OP actually the problem we are all talking about and he doesn't see it within himself?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To hell with this thread. It seems the length of someone’s foreskin is more important than the state of someone’s health. Says a lot about he clientele on here. This site always had it's bullies it's when you stand up to them you realize they are just cowards.

Who’s the bully now?"
Believe me there is always one or two on the go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This thread has just gone a bit awry. Why can't we all take each other's views on board and leave them there. We are all aware that comments have an effect on each other so lets draw a line under it now. It is actually nice to be nice.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"To hell with this thread. It seems the length of someone’s foreskin is more important than the state of someone’s health. Says a lot about he clientele on here. This site always had it's bullies it's when you stand up to them you realize they are just cowards.

Who’s the bully now? Believe me there is always one or two on the go."

There’s always a wise man to say what the wise man once said.

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By *oseredWoman
over a year ago

Dublin


"

Once again you have jumped to conclusions and deviated from my point that this site can most definitely have an overwhelming negative impact on people of even very sound mind. Jumping to conclusions, getting hasty, and making presumptions may just drive a person into a spiral of devestating emotion.

I am not sure what conclusions I am jumping to giving my opinion anymore than you.

I could be wrong, hence it being an opinion and my first works being I think( not I know), that people of very sound mind have enough coping mechinisims and self awareness to withdraw or compatmentalise this site long before it becomes an overwhelming negative impact.

I really am not sure what part of this has offended you so much

Your not the only one.. But how can anyone say that what is said or done on fab can't effect people's mental health.Because basically that's what that guy is saying. "

But nobody said it can't, just that it may not be the only contributor and if it is having a negative impact then it maybe wise to avoid. In actuality kinda all saying the same thing so I don't understand why it became somewhat hostile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Once again you have jumped to conclusions and deviated from my point that this site can most definitely have an overwhelming negative impact on people of even very sound mind. Jumping to conclusions, getting hasty, and making presumptions may just drive a person into a spiral of devestating emotion.

I am not sure what conclusions I am jumping to giving my opinion anymore than you.

I could be wrong, hence it being an opinion and my first works being I think( not I know), that people of very sound mind have enough coping mechinisims and self awareness to withdraw or compatmentalise this site long before it becomes an overwhelming negative impact.

I really am not sure what part of this has offended you so much

Your not the only one.. But how can anyone say that what is said or done on fab can't effect people's mental health.Because basically that's what that guy is saying.

But nobody said it can't, just that it may not be the only contributor and if it is having a negative impact then it maybe wise to avoid. In actuality kinda all saying the same thing so I don't understand why it became somewhat hostile."

Franky I'm amazed

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

Once again you have jumped to conclusions and deviated from my point that this site can most definitely have an overwhelming negative impact on people of even very sound mind. Jumping to conclusions, getting hasty, and making presumptions may just drive a person into a spiral of devestating emotion.

I am not sure what conclusions I am jumping to giving my opinion anymore than you.

I could be wrong, hence it being an opinion and my first works being I think( not I know), that people of very sound mind have enough coping mechinisims and self awareness to withdraw or compatmentalise this site long before it becomes an overwhelming negative impact.

I really am not sure what part of this has offended you so much

Your not the only one.. But how can anyone say that what is said or done on fab can't effect people's mental health.Because basically that's what that guy is saying.

But nobody said it can't, just that it may not be the only contributor and if it is having a negative impact then it maybe wise to avoid. In actuality kinda all saying the same thing so I don't understand why it became somewhat hostile."

It was made quite clear initially by the poster this site could not be the sole contributor to mental health issues. However of course it can. It can be a primary factor, it’s just like any other social media harassment, it can affect even the brave.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is OP actually the problem we are all talking about and he doesn't see it within himself?"

The OP original post was a good and valid point but he obviously finds himself irritated beyond belief by a certain poster. So much so that his post inflamed him beyond belief and he ends up derailing his own post. Maybe he should take a step back to gain perspective.

If you don't agree with someones point of view you don't have to comment or let it anger you.

The realities of life is that people are going to be more blunt when anynomous and some are going to use it to be down right rude. If you are online that's a risk you take some are more able to deal with it than others.

In all the time I am here I must say I probably received about 5 abuse texts. I am not talking about weird or creepy ones but abusive once turned down. Given the number of text received that is not bad in my opinion. Is it acceptable no.

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By *icole FanningTV/TS
over a year ago

Navan

God, it’s a bit ironic how a post that started by suggesting we all be a bit more mindful & less negative towards each other, has become one of the most negative discussions I've seen in ages.

group hug everyone

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is OP actually the problem we are all talking about and he doesn't see it within himself?

The OP original post was a good and valid point but he obviously finds himself irritated beyond belief by a certain poster. So much so that his post inflamed him beyond belief and he ends up derailing his own post. Maybe he should take a step back to gain perspective.

If you don't agree with someones point of view you don't have to comment or let it anger you.

The realities of life is that people are going to be more blunt when anynomous and some are going to use it to be down right rude. If you are online that's a risk you take some are more able to deal with it than others.

In all the time I am here I must say I probably received about 5 abuse texts. I am not talking about weird or creepy ones but abusive once turned down. Given the number of text received that is not bad in my opinion. Is it acceptable no.

"

I didn’t see the subsequent poster taking a step back to gain perspective. And there are other ways that this site can create mental anguish for people than dealing with the abusive messages aspect of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Once again you have jumped to conclusions and deviated from my point that this site can most definitely have an overwhelming negative impact on people of even very sound mind. Jumping to conclusions, getting hasty, and making presumptions may just drive a person into a spiral of devestating emotion.

I am not sure what conclusions I am jumping to giving my opinion anymore than you.

I could be wrong, hence it being an opinion and my first works being I think( not I know), that people of very sound mind have enough coping mechinisims and self awareness to withdraw or compatmentalise this site long before it becomes an overwhelming negative impact.

I really am not sure what part of this has offended you so much

Your not the only one.. But how can anyone say that what is said or done on fab can't effect people's mental health.Because basically that's what that guy is saying.

But nobody said it can't, just that it may not be the only contributor and if it is having a negative impact then it maybe wise to avoid. In actuality kinda all saying the same thing so I don't understand why it became somewhat hostile."
Didn't the guy above say it's offline the problem start he knows this how?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"God, it’s a bit ironic how a post that started by suggesting we all be a bit more mindful & less negative towards each other, has become one of the most negative discussions I've seen in ages.

group hug everyone "

It became such because the initial good intentions were abruptly shot down by those who know better.

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By *ol_ieMan
over a year ago

Dublin west

The world is full of assholes. You just need to be able to spot them early enough.

And when you do you just need to learn to ignore them

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By *oseredWoman
over a year ago

Dublin


"God, it’s a bit ironic how a post that started by suggesting we all be a bit more mindful & less negative towards each other, has become one of the most negative discussions I've seen in ages.

group hug everyone

It became such because the initial good intentions were abruptly shot down by those who know better."

I'm really sorry you got that impression OP. Honestly I think people were in general agreement with you though. From someone familiar with mental health it is rarely the sole factor in causing mental illness but maybe the defining factor is pushing an individual over the edge. Annonymous sites are different in as far as it is a persona that is targeted and not your real life and some safeguards exsist to help. Block those that offend. Hide profile to take a rest or leave the site completely if needed. Also some members have reached out in the forums and gotten some genuine support on this site too so not all bad.

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By *appytoadsCouple
over a year ago

West Dublin

Your correct,keyboard warriors, just cowards in my view, cant say something nice/positive Don't say anything


"Look after it everyone. Sometimes I can see this site impacting negatively on it.

Yes there are some here that take pleasure in preying on vulnerability throwing out snide comments hoping it will cause hurt and reaction. Try and rise above it and remember they are the ones who have the problem with negativity and don't let them drag you down.

I am lucky I am mentally strong enough to deal with the nasty messages I get. I learnt to stand up for myself when I joined Fab. But I feel sorry for the people affected by the abusive messages. People don't realise or just don't care about the damage they are doing by sending cruel nasty messages

So true Rosy and we shouldn't let these idiots destroy what is otherwise a good experience here . "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As I always say it’s nice to be important but far more important to be nice. One word ( good or bad) can have a big affect on people. It works both ways so always be nice

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