FabSwingers.com forum: First meet preference

By *oreThanOnce OP Man
over a year ago

Dublin

What is your preference, coffee/social meet first or skip straight to a play meet?

I've done both and I find the later more intresting.

I've done coffee meets that turned into unplanned play meets and I find them even more intresting

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

Social first. Even when you're sure, it just builds the anticipation even more to flirt over a coffee, a drink, or a meal.

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By *elfastblondMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Usually social first

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By *cottybear74Man
over a year ago

kilkenny

Coffee or social first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even if you are going to play on that 1st meet, i think it is always good to meet for a coffee/drink before moving on to play. That way you can find out what the person likes, expects & more importantly if you still want to with the person your meeting. For your own safery it is also a good idea to meet socially 1st

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is your preference, coffee/social meet first or skip straight to a play meet?

I've done both and I find the later more intresting.

I've done coffee meets that turned into unplanned play meets and I find them even more intresting

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Parties and/or clubs

Prefer a no pressure to play, fluid, social gathering with like minded people that the party and/or club dynamic provides

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By *argus12Man
over a year ago

meath dublin / london

Always a clean meet first with no expectations of any sex. That way if something did happen on a first meet, it’s a bonus. And if it didn’t you can’t complain as the expectation was set at the outset

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By *murphMan
over a year ago

drogheda

Always a coffe drink or social first if no spark no fun

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By *hesexaddictMan
over a year ago

Dublin 24

Social meet 1st, if something happens even better.

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By *ouble Trouble 1000Couple
over a year ago

ireland

Done both but prefer a social first just "to be sure ,to be sure "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Coffee first...one thing chatting online to someone but you only get to see if the chemistry exists across s table from them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always a coffee/social meet first as I have found that even if the fab chat goes well, there might not be any chemistry/attraction in real life.

Having said that, the odd coffee meet went directly to fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Done both but prefer a social first just "to be sure ,to be sure "

As the Irish leprechaun said when asked why he was wearing two condoms..

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By *antra MassageMan
over a year ago

South Side.

I much prefer a social meet first, to get to know each other. If it doesn't work out its easier to walk away. It's also safer, as I meet in a local hotel, in very public view (under the cameras). It's much more relaxing as well, as there's no pressure, we can part or hang out.

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By *ouble Trouble 1000Couple
over a year ago

ireland

"Done both but prefer a social first just "to be sure ,to be sure "

As the Irish leprechaun said when asked why he was wearing two condoms..

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

Meh.

I prefer the social meet after the ride. You can enjoy the cuppa much better then.

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

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"Coffee first...one thing chatting online to someone but you only get to see if the chemistry exists across s table from them."

Not just sexual chemistry either... things like BO and halitosis are not apparent from online chat, or a phone call. You can have all the chemistry in the world with someone online but gag when they move in for a hello hug

I'm not sure that's something most would be willing to 'battle through'. There are a lot of things that can unexpectedly kill an attraction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Prefer social first,but when the chemistry is there as it was through the online chats,I have done both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

social. easier to figure out if there is any chemistry then

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By *Sparkie.Man
over a year ago

Ratoath

I think.it has to be a social first, if theres any physco tendencies they tend to come out in the wash there.

Years back I skipped the social meet, straight to bedroom, I started to undress the lady and she had a lot of self harm mark's, some fresh....I got worried and had to make excuses, she cried, I was genuinely worried as to what might happen afterwards, so now, its coffee first, I try to stretch that to as close to an hour as nutters will let their guard down in that time.

I'm sure a lot of people skipped the social and had a wonderful meet but after my experience I wont

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always a social meet first as can be plenty of attraction in texting but it really is only in person do I definitely know if I want to get naked and have fun with a guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Parties for me, fun gets me in the mood to join in

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By *ugs BunnyCouple
over a year ago

south Dublin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends

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By *ugs BunnyCouple
over a year ago

south Dublin

Defo prefer a social first. Organised socials like envy are perfect. Get to meet lots of people in a no pressure way. Parties are great too for meeting people, not only do you get to chat but sometimes you get to see them naked and in action with others before taking the plunge yourself.

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

"I think.it has to be a social first, if theres any physco tendencies they tend to come out in the wash there.

I'm sure a lot of people skipped the social and had a wonderful meet but after my experience I wont"

Would those cuts have been any more visible over coffee though? I'm not disagreeing with you that having a social meet first is better in many ways... Just curious how it might have changed anything.

Having coffee is no guarantee either, some people mask things very well and issues only become apparent after meeting or playing. There are plenty on here of both sexes who have had bad experiences with people they'd met more than once.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Social first always had one that turned into more. But I always do a social

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is your preference, coffee/social meet first or skip straight to a play meet?

I've done both and I find the later more intresting.

I've done coffee meets that turned into unplanned play meets and I find them even more intresting

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I’d love a lady to be naked on all fours in a hotel room and ready for me but that’s more likely to remain a fantasy for safety reasons

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had take away coffee in a car for first meet which turned into kinky fun in a quiet corner of cinema car park. Let's just say his fingers hit the right spots and had me soaking wet and while I sucked his cock another car pulled up about two spaces away. Got me even more wet thinking that someone might have seen me and I didn't stop. I even let him keep rubbing my clit while the other car was there Very horny now thinking about it ??????????????

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By *oey4somefunMan
over a year ago

Dublin/Drogheda

I like to do a social or coffee meet first and if it turns into a fun meet well that's a bonus

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By *hors.HammerMan
over a year ago

Newbridge

Coffee get to flirt see if there is some sort of chemistry there in person, or are they a judgemental crazy person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is your preference, coffee/social meet first or skip straight to a play meet?

I've done both and I find the later more intresting.

I've done coffee meets that turned into unplanned play meets and I find them even more intresting

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Most ladies ,and rightly so ,prefer to have a social meet first ,fully understandable ,but I've been very fortunate,after chatting for a while to ladies to have had 6 social meets that led to play the same time ,guess we both just saw something in each other there and then.but ive also had social meets that also just ended there and then too,and l knew in less than 30 seconds that they weren't gonna go any further ...the eyes tell it all...

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By *ol_ieMan
over a year ago

Dublin west

Always a social meet first to see if any spark there.

Don't like playing when no spark is present.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like straight to the point meet up if everyone is happy rip the clothes of each other ??

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By *oreThanOnce OP Man
over a year ago

Dublin

I much prefer the play meets and I avoid the coffee/social meets as much as I can.

I've no interest in finding out details of someone else's personal life and most of the time this is the main subject you end up talking about.

Fab is also full of serial daters, who love the excitement of new dates and can't get enough of collecting veris this way, but with very little interest to play, if ever.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Call me Boring I like to meet for coffee first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social coffee first allways

Saves on awkward regretted play meets afterwards

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

I don't do social meets. Waste of time. If I have doubts and need a social, it's not a goer.

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin

I do love coffee though, whether it's for an initial meet, or we make it later

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By *r AmbassadorMan
over a year ago

Dublin

"Social first. Even when you're sure, it just builds the anticipation even more to flirt over a coffee, a drink, or a meal.

Go way outta that will ya

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By *scouple07Couple
over a year ago

louth, Ireland

Social 1st, but have had play meets straight from social

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By *ed VixenWoman
over a year ago

vixenville

Social first usually

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