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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How many women on here have to search and message men for meets...I know the lads that join and for a while after joining pretty much have to graft and message women constantly for meets but is it as hard for any women on here?

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By *an For YouMan
over a year ago

belfast/holywood

Be interested to hear. After 3 years on here and quite a few meets, none came about by a woman messaging me

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By *ymbunny35Woman
over a year ago

Cork

I'm interested to hear from someone who has. I've never sent a message first. Due to the fact my inbox is always flooded

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How many women on here have to search and message men for meets...I know the lads that join and for a while after joining pretty much have to graft and message women constantly for meets but is it as hard for any women on here? "

Wouldn't imagine it's hard for ladies here but what do l know.. I'd imagine they're swamped with Messages every day ...a big yellow wall every day so they'd have a way easier job of getting meets and of course at their discretion..

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...

If i see a profile i like or intrigues me ill always message first some lead to a coffee,some lead to more and some didn't get futher than a chat

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If i see a profile i like or intrigues me ill always message first some lead to a coffee,some lead to more and some didn't get futher than a chat "

Pm me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have often sent the first message if I like the profile. I am confident enough in myself to know what I want and I am not shy in asking. It's like I am a Hr Manager and I am Head Hunting for hard working employees

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2 women have pm'd me in the last three days...so don't know what you're doing wrong...got to sharpen-up, mate!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have often sent the first message if I like the profile. I am confident enough in myself to know what I want and I am not shy in asking. It's like I am a Hr Manager and I am Head Hunting for hard working employees "

Were you ever rejected after sending a message?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have often sent the first message if I like the profile. I am confident enough in myself to know what I want and I am not shy in asking. It's like I am a Hr Manager and I am Head Hunting for hard working employees

Were you ever rejected after sending a message?"

No I don't recall ever being rejected. I think they were delighted I messaged them first for a change

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...


"If i see a profile i like or intrigues me ill always message first some lead to a coffee,some lead to more and some didn't get futher than a chat

Pm me "

Sent

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By *osyMan
over a year ago

athlone

Have twice received messages Frist from couples recently only to drive there and be told not interested sorry.plus they were well verify couples.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Ye I have sent first messages if it's someone who has interested me by their profile or something they said on here etc. It's not a big deal the worst thing that can happen is it gets ignored or the chat fizzles out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some i have met in the past i was the first to mail

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By *squaredCouple
over a year ago

Dublin/westmeath/kildare

I (ms R) send 1st message quite often. My email settings were quiet strict as inbox filling with junk.

No i seek profiles i like & that tie in with current interest or event or itch.

Ive had meets from those meets

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If i see a profile i like or intrigues me ill always message first some lead to a coffee,some lead to more and some didn't get futher than a chat

Pm me

Sent "

And me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes it happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive had meets resulting from being messaged first and also some great chats.

I dont think it was from them finding it hard on here.....or at least thats what I tell myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would also send a first message if I seen a profile i liked the look of.. Shouldn't always have to be a man that messages first We all know what we want from here xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Would also send a first message if I seen a profile i liked the look of.. Shouldn't always have to be a man that messages first We all know what we want from here xxx"

Some spiritual guidance?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ive had meets resulting from being messaged first and also some great chats.

I dont think it was from them finding it hard on here.....or at least thats what I tell myself"

Good for you...you must have the charmmm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive had meets resulting from being messaged first and also some great chats.

I dont think it was from them finding it hard on here.....or at least thats what I tell myself"
Probably took pity on you.lol

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By *marrisWoman
over a year ago

Cork


"If i see a profile i like or intrigues me ill always message first some lead to a coffee,some lead to more and some didn't get futher than a chat "
. Same here !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive had meets resulting from being messaged first and also some great chats.

I dont think it was from them finding it hard on here.....or at least thats what I tell myself Probably took pity on you.lol "

Ah a pity ride is still a ride

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If i see a profile i like or intrigues me ill always message first some lead to a coffee,some lead to more and some didn't get futher than a chat . Same here ! "

Lucky man that gets further with you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would also send a first message if I seen a profile i liked the look of.. Shouldn't always have to be a man that messages first We all know what we want from here xxx

Some spiritual guidance? "
oooh ya definitely that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I search men but very rarely message them first, the recent speed dating thread messaged all my matches. So maybe I'll get brave and start messaging first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've messaged guys first quite a few times. Wouldnt phase me at all. When I had a couple profile with my ex I sought out guys all the time.

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By *orguyMan
over a year ago

Tuam


"I'm interested to hear from someone who has. I've never sent a message first. Due to the fact my inbox is always flooded "

I hope nobody gets drowned in your box

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've messaged guys first quite a few times. Wouldnt phase me at all. When I had a couple profile with my ex I sought out guys all the time. "

Ah here who's gonna turn you down!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I imagine a Fab lady is probably more confident in seeking out what they want.

Having said that I am not there yet and never messaged first if interested in someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've messaged guys first quite a few times. Wouldnt phase me at all. When I had a couple profile with my ex I sought out guys all the time.

Ah here who's gonna turn you down!!! "

Plenty. I cant be everyone's type.

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By *osyMan
over a year ago

athlone

Maybe if the woman didn't want to be the one to message first she could show interest with the wink button.

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By *oft_sexy_sweetWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

I have in the past, and sometimes use wink (like a hypocrite cos I hate it when dudes just wink me)

I don't mind messaging first, it's just rare that I'm bothered to! I've definitely been "rejected" this way, aka no replies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I send messages..

I enjoy seeking out men, can't be letting the guy's do all the work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I send messages..

I enjoy seeking out men, can't be letting the guy's do all the work. "
That's the kind of woman that's needed of fab not afraid to send first message.

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By *ordjeffMan
over a year ago

around and about ,as travel.


"If i see a profile i like or intrigues me ill always message first some lead to a coffee,some lead to more and some didn't get futher than a chat

Pm me "

Pm me too , if I intrigue you

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By *uckold jasonMan
over a year ago

wexford

It’s how I got my first meet, just saying guys (“)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I send messages..

I enjoy seeking out men, can't be letting the guy's do all the work. That's the kind of woman that's needed of fab not afraid to send first message. "

Pm sent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I send messages..

I enjoy seeking out men, can't be letting the guy's do all the work. That's the kind of woman that's needed of fab not afraid to send first message.

Pm sent "
Well thank you I will be delighted to reply.

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...


"If i see a profile i like or intrigues me ill always message first some lead to a coffee,some lead to more and some didn't get futher than a chat

Pm me

Pm me too , if I intrigue you "

Message sent

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By *hors.HammerMan
over a year ago

Newbridge

I rarely mail anyone first unless it's to do with something off the forums. If someone is interested they are free to mail me.

I know it may seem counter productive to be that way but, the ladies have messages coming in all day from loads of guys. It's easy for one to get lost in the chaos of "wanna fuck" mails.

Plus in the days of equality nothing wrong with a woman making the first move. I'm not everyone's cup of tea anyway so the option is there. I don't bite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its quite common

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive never got a message first nor do i ever get a reply when i message first

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By *ymbunny35Woman
over a year ago

Cork


"I'm interested to hear from someone who has. I've never sent a message first. Due to the fact my inbox is always flooded

I hope nobody gets drowned in your box "
wetter the better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend not to send the first message, even if I’m interested, but I’ll get their attention by fabbing a pic usually

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By *bsolute gentMan
over a year ago

county Cork


"I imagine a Fab lady is probably more confident in seeking out what they want.

Having said that I am not there yet and never messaged first if interested in someone. "

Waiting patiently

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Glad a few guys are getting a few messages on the back of this

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"2 women have pm'd me in the last three days...so don't know what you're doing wrong...got to sharpen-up, mate!"

Thanks for the advice

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By *attooYouMan
over a year ago

just about northside


"I tend not to send the first message, even if I’m interested, but I’ll get their attention by fabbing a pic usually "

= you message first. Fab a pic and break the ice, oops, too late

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have in the past, and sometimes use wink (like a hypocrite cos I hate it when dudes just wink me)

I don't mind messaging first, it's just rare that I'm bothered to! I've definitely been "rejected" this way, aka no replies. "

Can't see why...I'd definitely reply so hit me up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can’t say it’s happened to me too often lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I send the first message the odd time if a profile catches my attention.

Sometimes its just a chat, a coffee or the very odd time more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Glad to see there's some hope lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Since im here obviously I've sent a multiple more of messages than I've received, but it's not uncommon for me to receive a hey message from time to time, and I'm the name of single men I take great pride in deleting that message

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By *an For YouMan
over a year ago

belfast/holywood

So many women on here have absolutely zero intention of meeting. They already have a FB and god knows why they are on here except to pretend they want to meet but never do. They still message me but I know it’s going nowhere so I string them along and play their stupid fucking game.

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

Half of my meets were initiated by myself and that's my preferred way to do so.

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By *eijaWoman
over a year ago

City Centre

I've never messaged someone first but I have shown my interest in one or two by sending a wink and I now meet them regularly

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've never messaged someone first but I have shown my interest in one or two by sending a wink and I now meet them regularly "

OK that's just rubbing it in lol

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By *LICK IF U DAREWoman
over a year ago

good girl gone bad!!!!!!

Have to say I’m the same never had to ask for meets women on here normally don’t theres about 30 to 1 so kinda spoiled for choice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I message first if I see something I like about a profile, or I send a wink to show interest.

I often meet after a chat.. But I find its the single guys that bottle it when it comes to the actual coffee... I'm not that scary.. Am I?

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By *tanonieMan
over a year ago

killorglin

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By *tanonieMan
over a year ago

killorglin

You cant beat a cheeky wink to get folk interested

So wink away ladies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm interested to hear from someone who has. I've never sent a message first. Due to the fact my inbox is always flooded "

Good job i have water wings

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Have to say I’m the same never had to ask for meets women on here normally don’t theres about 30 to 1 so kinda spoiled for choice "

Yep ye are.tell all your female friends to sign up try and even out the numbers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah you’re lovely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Believe me when I say it, you are lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've messaged guys first quite a few times. Wouldnt phase me at all. When I had a couple profile with my ex I sought out guys all the time.

Ah here who's gonna turn you down!!!

Plenty. I cant be everyone's type. "
believe me when I say it, you are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I message first if I see something I like about a profile, or I send a wink to show interest.

I often meet after a chat.. But I find its the single guys that bottle it when it comes to the actual coffee... I'm not that scary.. Am I? "
nah, you’re lovely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a hard working employee

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couldn't agree more but unfortunately it's not like that on here.

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

Absolutely. If I see someone who captures my attention on the forums, a chatroom, or in any of the photo pages, of course I will send a message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the length of time I've been on here I've had 2 winks from women. When I'd send a mail thanking them for the wink there was no reply. I know I'm no oil painting but it's the obvious the women have more men to choose from so they don't really need to mail men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never sent a first message as in initiated a conversation, I leave it to the Men to mail first

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By *sLittleRedRidingHoodWoman
over a year ago

Magical Forrest

I have several times...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only ever sent a first message once that was completely random and not related to any forum post. It was my only time ever.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I only ever sent a first message once that was completely random and not related to any forum post. It was my only time ever. "

You never know where a first message can take you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I only ever sent a first message once that was completely random and not related to any forum post. It was my only time ever.

You never know where a first message can take you "

It took me no where ha ha

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By *hors.HammerMan
over a year ago

Newbridge


"I only ever sent a first message once that was completely random and not related to any forum post. It was my only time ever.

You never know where a first message can take you

It took me no where ha ha "

Ah don't let that stop ya

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I only ever sent a first message once that was completely random and not related to any forum post. It was my only time ever.

You never know where a first message can take you

It took me no where ha ha

Ah don't let that stop ya "

I'll pluck the courage up again sometime

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By *bsolute gentMan
over a year ago

county Cork


"I only ever sent a first message once that was completely random and not related to any forum post. It was my only time ever.

You never know where a first message can take you

It took me no where ha ha

Ah don't let that stop ya

I'll pluck the courage up again sometime "

No courage needed to message me. Give it a go.

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

I had a few ladies message me and got to meet them and dont mind ladies asking me .

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By *an For YouMan
over a year ago

belfast/holywood

Women don’t need to message anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I only ever sent a first message once that was completely random and not related to any forum post. It was my only time ever.

You never know where a first message can take you

It took me no where ha ha

Ah don't let that stop ya

I'll pluck the courage up again sometime "

Please do

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I only ever sent a first message once that was completely random and not related to any forum post. It was my only time ever.

You never know where a first message can take you

It took me no where ha ha "

Was he that bad?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Loads of messages from guys which I am not after unless part of a couple lol

No messages from ladies...

sad face

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By *arkseductionMan
over a year ago

Drogheda

I get messages from women and couples without even ever going to their profile.. But doesn’t mean an automatic meet.. No op I still have to do the wooing after that to get them to the bedroom

Then sometimes I don’t even get a peep at profile haha even after messaging for a week

Just saying as a single guy it’s all down to your profile, charm and most importantly a bit of luck because what u think you have ? 50+ other guys have it on this site. Big competition but the reward is Fabulous.

Put the effort guys !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive been on fabswingers on/of for 2 years and i havent met anyone either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive been on fabswingers on/of for 2 years and i havent met anyone either

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