FabSwingers.com forum: Conversation with ladies

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Can someone explain to me how to get a conversation going with a lady on fab . Obviously there’s not as many lady’s on here as men . Bit of help would be nice . Looking forward to the lady’s opinion . I know ye heard it all before but I’m a nice good looking fella

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By *oft_sexy_sweetWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

You don't have any pics and your profile doesn't actually say anything about you, it's just generic.

Doesn't matter what kind of message you send, if your profile doesn't have enough information on it for someone to decide if they might be interested, you're probably not gonna get any responses.

Personally, if I can't find something on someone's profile that makes me think I'd be a good match with someone, I'm not gonna spend my time fishing for it - I'll just move on to another profile that does click with me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You don't have any pics and your profile doesn't actually say anything about you, it's just generic.

Doesn't matter what kind of message you send, if your profile doesn't have enough information on it for someone to decide if they might be interested, you're probably not gonna get any responses.

This. Absolutely.

Also, I've found that some of the best "friendships" I've found here have come from having friendly (not pervy) banter with guys on forums and then taking it to pm.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ya I love the banter when u do get a conversation going . But it’s hard to understand someone or what they are thinking through a txt msg I suppose . I suppose u don’t want to come a cross as a perv .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ya I love the banter when u do get a conversation going . But it’s hard to understand someone or what they are thinking through a txt msg I suppose . I suppose u don’t want to come a cross as a perv . "

Then you're on to a winner cos most women here are sick of pervy men. Jazz up your profile and get involved in the forums and you'll be fighting them off!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I've been struggling a bit with that too. Literally treat it like a normal conversation at a bar or something like that. Crack an ould joke have a bit of craic.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Then you're on to a winner cos most women here are sick of pervy men. Jazz up your profile and get involved in the forums and you'll be fighting them off! "
. Thanks for reply I’ll have to make more of an effort . I suppose the ladies just think most of the men are just perving but ya have to do something different to change that mindset

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And down with the dick pic

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yeah I've been struggling a bit with that too. Literally treat it like a normal conversation at a bar or something like that. Crack an ould joke have a bit of craic.

I mean I find a good 80% of messages go unanswered. And to be fair you can't blame any females for that. Imagine your inbox being pummeled with dick pics. I've only started cracking on with the forums and it's such good craic and way better in terms of getting personality across. "
. Ya I’d say the amount of dick pics must be overwhelming. Ya often see ladies say they have hundreds of msg and they just bulk delete . I think chatting in forums way to go aswell .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to have a bit of banter and flirting. I just find if off putting to open the first message for it to immediately sexually graphic or has cock photos. Yes this is a swing site where people have sex but honestly you get cock blindness after a while. I want to have a meet that's fun and relaxed and laid back. So someone who can hold a engaging conversation and I can spark off is very attractive trait.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cock blindness is such a funny term. Is that in the dictionary?Because if it isn't called them nerds over in Oxford and have them commit it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I like to have a bit of banter and flirting. I just find if off putting to open the first message for it to immediately sexually graphic or has cock photos. Yes this is a swing site where people have sex but honestly you get cock blindness after a while. I want to have a meet that's fun and relaxed and laid back. So someone who can hold a engaging conversation and I can spark off is very attractive trait. "
. Ya totally agree it’s all about a bit of craic and banter. To get conversation flowing can be tricky. I know there’s dick pics on profile but I don’t go around randomly sending pics to ladies profiles . It just a complete no no on there part . As u say a complete turn off .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

especially when you're not irish! fab is a complicated site

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By *easingTimMan
over a year ago

Loughlinstown

"Can someone explain to me how to get a conversation going with a lady on fab . Obviously there’s not as many lady’s on here as men . Bit of help would be nice . Looking forward to the lady’s opinion . I know ye heard it all before but I’m a nice good looking fella

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