FabSwingers.com forum: Broken heart

By *anaduABC OP Man
over a year ago

Dublin

I know ive asked this before but I'm still fucked up. How do you stop missing somebody and get your life back. It seems impossible.....

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By *an For YouMan
over a year ago

belfast/holywood

It’s a bit like grief . Takes time

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By *ork fellaMan
over a year ago

Macroom

"I know ive asked this before but I'm still fucked up. How do you stop missing somebody and get your life back. It seems impossible....."

As someone whose been there I'd say all you can do is give it time. Day by day and eventually things start to work out again. Keep the head up OP. Hope you get there.

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By *ltmtvtsMan
over a year ago

south

You don’t stop missing somebody..

what you can do is focus and concentrate your mind elsewhere, you have to force yourself to do this and in time it all gets more relaxed and easier.

Nobody can do it for you! You got to get out and do it. People can offer kind words on this forum which is nice of course but it’s up to you to make the change

Speaking from experience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Truth be told, sometimes you never stop loving them, even from a far. But in time, they cross your mind a little less, but they do cross it.

Best thing to do is keep busy, and in volved in groups of people. When on your own, it'll hit you a litle more, but limit that time if you can, at the start. Try sports, or something that occupies the mind....movies or reading. Some people throw themselves into their work, but not sure thats the best thing.

And sometimes you just realise something better is on its way, though it doesnt seem like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know ive asked this before but I'm still fucked up. How do you stop missing somebody and get your life back. It seems impossible....."

I guess its just take one day at a time and chat away to people here so you're not bottling it all up which would let it fester on you . Hopefully things will get easier soon .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not impossible but it can be difficult, it will ease over time and life will start to feel worthwhile again, the only advice I can give is to never stop moving forward

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By *asterIrelandMan
over a year ago

Tipperary

It pass with time and trying to focus on something else.

It never leaves though...i know by experience...I am missing someone right now so I know how you feel.

It takes time and it's hard... But it gets better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Time and more time we've all been there and it's an awefull feeling I don't envy but keep talking to people even if it is on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It pass with time and trying to focus on something else.

It never leaves though...i know by experience...I am missing someone right now so I know how you feel.

It takes time and it's hard... But it gets better"

Agree..Time is a great healer they say but it dam hurts getting there..but there is life after it..promise..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's awful and it's heartbreaking but it will get easier. Keep busy and distract yourself. Use this time to focus on yourself and make you happy.

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By *omripleyMan
over a year ago

blackrock

"I know ive asked this before but I'm still fucked up. How do you stop missing somebody and get your life back. It seems impossible....."

With time is all. ups and downs will come in waves for several months. You cant ride it away. You just need time space and something you enjoy in between and cant stress how important it would be to be social.

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

A broken heart can take ages to heal im afraid . Find something to take up your time and just keep going

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By *hors.HammerMan
over a year ago

Newbridge

Time heals. We learn to adapt. Learn to move on. Have to because if you live in the past you let it eat you alive.

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By *easingTimMan
over a year ago

Loughlinstown

"I know ive asked this before but I'm still fucked up. How do you stop missing somebody and get your life back. It seems impossible....."

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Some men deal with a break up by throwing themselves into sports or work more and that works for some

...but each man is different. I'd recommend you hang out with a few male mates or at least chat with a mate whose opinion you trust and who has your best interests at heart...

They say time heals all wounds... but it this has been going on a while, you might need to have a chat with a trained professional...

Keep your chin up & keep moving forward big man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know ive asked this before but I'm still fucked up. How do you stop missing somebody and get your life back. It seems impossible....."

Not meaning to sound cold, but have you logically examined why your relationship ended ?

Can you look at the reasons objectively ?

If she left you are you haunted by unanswered questions ?

It's impossible to fully move on until you make peace with why things went sour. Like others have said, a broken heart is a grieving heart. There are many stages of grief and you have to go through and come to acceptance with each one before you can tackle the next. I know well the absolute AGONY you feel in your heart right now. In time your head will make sense of it all and your heart will lighten.

If you find you can't cope with this alone I think a good option would be to talk with a good and well qualified IACP counselor OP. Not only will it help you come to terms with love lost but it could be a great way to get to know yourself better and your needs going forward.

You will eventually get over this. Just back yourself !

Good luck.

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

go back and re-do your childhood so you can be a lone wolf like me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You learn to live a different way with them... cliched but time does work x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep busy.. hit the gym..

mind yourself.

listen to link below

anxiety after breakup

https://youtu.be/6fJOWfHacW0

and TIME.....

BUT I promise you one thing.. it does get better..how many times have you heard that.. and when your going through it...its the last thing you want to hear... but the thing is...its true.

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By *he MickMan
over a year ago

southside

"I know ive asked this before but I'm still fucked up. How do you stop missing somebody and get your life back. It seems impossible....."

I am going through something myself and it is harder than i ever could have imagined but I'm constantly trying to have things to do so I have less time to sit alone and think . Not saying that's the answer but that's what I'm doing .

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By *rutus83Man
over a year ago

naas

"I know ive asked this before but I'm still fucked up. How do you stop missing somebody and get your life back. It seems impossible....."

A broken heart takes time to heal so don't try rush it or it just might take that bit longer or you might just end up hurting yourself again

I find that after a break up, you have to find yourself again as you tend to change or evolve into someone you never intended to be.

I myself write poems or at least try to write them to get my emotions onto a page that might work for you or if you can draw or paint why not try them either

I hope this has at least helped you in some way shape or form

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