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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

A thought just came to me, do people ever see a veri on a profile and decide to contact the veri provider to ask for meet details, like because maybe they fancy the person the veri is about but have been told no thanks, or they like hearing “real life” stories for kicks. Is that a thing? It hasn’t happened to us on here. Just wondering though does it happen?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quite a few people contacted me about people ive met. I do that sometimes too.

Good to know what hasn't been said in a veri and a lot more accurate description of a person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Quite a few people contacted me about people ive met. I do that sometimes too.

Good to know what hasn't been said in a veri and a lot more accurate description of a person "

I get confirming what’s in the veri particularly if it’s someone you know asking but I mean more generally, as in asking for the details of how the sex might be etc for kicks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Quite a few people contacted me about people ive met. I do that sometimes too.

Good to know what hasn't been said in a veri and a lot more accurate description of a person "

Do you think people compose verifications with rose tinted glasses on? Would you say verifications are generally dishonest or is for more detail that you would contact?

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

I think what goes on at a meet should stay at that.. if someone mailed me to simply ask was Said person ok, fair enough but to ask the ins and outs (pardon the pun) of what went on.... mind your own beeswax find out yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think what goes on at a meet should stay at that.. if someone mailed me to simply ask was Said person ok, fair enough but to ask the ins and outs (pardon the pun) of what went on.... mind your own beeswax find out yourself. "

Agreed. I see verifications as a simple confirmation that the user is genuine according to the details in their profile. Any details of meets play, is irrelevant and indiscreet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its a bit creepy to message peoples veris looking for details and a bit manipulative to look for things they might like.

Fine to ask is this person safe to meet etc.....

Beyond that big no

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just to be clear, whilst fully acknowledging my creep capabilities (!) I haven’t done this and don’t plan to, but I feel like it must happen on occasion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just to be clear, whilst fully acknowledging my creep capabilities (!) I haven’t done this and don’t plan to, but I feel like it must happen on occasion. "

Im pretty sure if you can think of it its happened on here

I would be a bit pissed if I heard that someone I had met was discussing details of the meet with someone.else tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just to be clear, whilst fully acknowledging my creep capabilities (!) I haven’t done this and don’t plan to, but I feel like it must happen on occasion.

Im pretty sure if you can think of it its happened on here

I would be a bit pissed if I heard that someone I had met was discussing details of the meet with someone.else tbh"

Yes, it demonstrates a lack of discretion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A thought just came to me, do people ever see a veri on a profile and decide to contact the veri provider to ask for meet details, like because maybe they fancy the person the veri is about but have been told no thanks, or they like hearing “real life” stories for kicks. Is that a thing? It hasn’t happened to us on here. Just wondering though does it happen?"

Ive hidden my verifications. I dont need to explain anything to anybody. I just can confirm the person is nice and worthwhile to meet, even just for a coffee.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, we've been informed by meets that other users here (with whom we haven't had any contact) have asked them about what we are like - this is one of the reasons our veris are now hidden. We prefer people with the cojones to speak to us, not about us. It's fine if they ask if they can contact a past meet to check our bona fides (Assuming the other person doesn't mind being contacted of course).

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By *ouble Trouble 1000Couple
over a year ago

ireland

We ve contacted people just to ask how genuine etc the people we are gonna potentialy meet are but never to ask how they where in bed etc.That's a bit weird imo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Quite a few people contacted me about people ive met. I do that sometimes too.

Good to know what hasn't been said in a veri and a lot more accurate description of a person

I get confirming what’s in the veri particularly if it’s someone you know asking but I mean more generally, as in asking for the details of how the sex might be etc for kicks."

Oh gosh no, only to confirm if the person is like what their veris say they are. Definitely not fish details of sexual encounters. Don't even like reading explicit veris and mostly avoid people who display them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A thought just came to me, do people ever see a veri on a profile and decide to contact the veri provider to ask for meet details, like because maybe they fancy the person the veri is about but have been told no thanks, or they like hearing “real life” stories for kicks. Is that a thing? It hasn’t happened to us on here. Just wondering though does it happen?"

I call this cross-verification

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Quite a few people contacted me about people ive met. I do that sometimes too.

Good to know what hasn't been said in a veri and a lot more accurate description of a person

Do you think people compose verifications with rose tinted glasses on? Would you say verifications are generally dishonest or is for more detail that you would contact?"

Veris are dishonest. Good few times some people I have met pressured me into leaving them a veri when I didn't want to too, so I get it.

Fishing for any details - just ain't my style and pure despise receiving messages with questions like "any fun?" And "what did you do"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Quite a few people contacted me about people ive met. I do that sometimes too.

Good to know what hasn't been said in a veri and a lot more accurate description of a person

Do you think people compose verifications with rose tinted glasses on? Would you say verifications are generally dishonest or is for more detail that you would contact?

Veris are dishonest. Good few times some people I have met pressured me into leaving them a veri when I didn't want to too, so I get it.

Fishing for any details - just ain't my style and pure despise receiving messages with questions like "any fun?" And "what did you do" "

Pressured you? At the meet itself or afterward online?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been contacted once or twice in the past and someone o met

They were told a meet was arranged and they turned up

Anything else is no ones business

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was here before and I had a few previous meets contract me at the time to say women had contacted them to ask about me. I met a woman last week and she asked me to leave a verification and I did the next day and none back from here since, a week ago. Fucked if I know but the place hadn’t changed much in the time between my last profile and this one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been contacted once or twice in the past and someone o met

They were told a meet was arranged and they turned up

Anything else is no ones business"

Roger that

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By *unnyfookMan
over a year ago

Naas

couple of lads asked me about my verii before,ie, what they are like, I just say if they weren't sound I wouldn't meet them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Quite a few people contacted me about people ive met. I do that sometimes too.

Good to know what hasn't been said in a veri and a lot more accurate description of a person

Do you think people compose verifications with rose tinted glasses on? Would you say verifications are generally dishonest or is for more detail that you would contact?

Veris are dishonest. Good few times some people I have met pressured me into leaving them a veri when I didn't want to too, so I get it.

Fishing for any details - just ain't my style and pure despise receiving messages with questions like "any fun?" And "what did you do"

Pressured you? At the meet itself or afterward online? "

Both.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Quite a few people contacted me about people ive met. I do that sometimes too.

Good to know what hasn't been said in a veri and a lot more accurate description of a person

Do you think people compose verifications with rose tinted glasses on? Would you say verifications are generally dishonest or is for more detail that you would contact?

Veris are dishonest. Good few times some people I have met pressured me into leaving them a veri when I didn't want to too, so I get it.

Fishing for any details - just ain't my style and pure despise receiving messages with questions like "any fun?" And "what did you do"

Pressured you? At the meet itself or afterward online?

Both. "

I'd have made it clear once that I'd do one in my own time. If they kept up the pressure. I'd have walked away and not left one. Easier for a man to do though, which i can appreciate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We look at verifications but wouldn't message anyone from the list asking about the person. We prefer to make our own mind up about someone.

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"A thought just came to me, do people ever see a veri on a profile and decide to contact the veri provider to ask for meet details, like because maybe they fancy the person the veri is about but have been told no thanks, or they like hearing “real life” stories for kicks. Is that a thing? It hasn’t happened to us on here. Just wondering though does it happen?"

It does happen.

I think nearly any time I got a new veri I'd have some randomer or three mailing me asking for the salacious details... And even though said details weren't forthcoming, some would mail me lurid descriptions of what they imagined had happened anyway

Occasionally I would get one from someone who was ermmmm... 'unhappy' that I had met a particular person.

I remember being on another site and having to block one particular couple and warn anyone I met not to discuss our meet(s), because the female would pounce on anyone with a new verification who logged into the chatroom and ask for all the details, both sexual and personal about the person they had met. Most of them initially thought I was overreacting, but would then message me within hours of receiving their veri in shock to say they'd been contacted and grilled! I've never seen anyone as nosy in my life!

I will admit that some of us occasionally made up stories to tell her just to see how quickly and how far they'd spread

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By *ittyMissKittyWoman
over a year ago

Dublin


"Quite a few people contacted me about people ive met. I do that sometimes too.

Good to know what hasn't been said in a veri and a lot more accurate description of a person

Do you think people compose verifications with rose tinted glasses on? Would you say verifications are generally dishonest or is for more detail that you would contact?

Veris are dishonest. Good few times some people I have met pressured me into leaving them a veri when I didn't want to too, so I get it.

Fishing for any details - just ain't my style and pure despise receiving messages with questions like "any fun?" And "what did you do"

Pressured you? At the meet itself or afterward online?

Both. "

Have had this happen more than once. And that would make me leave a verification where while polite,the message would be clear that I am purely verifying the person exists. I had one guy plague me for veris and then complain that his wasnt as good as another I'd written

Honestly cant win with some people

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Side bar: why do people care who meets who to the extent of being in anyway upset?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Side bar: why do people care who meets who to the extent of being in anyway upset?"

Needy

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By *oseredWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

I'm sure it happens but I would find it a bit creepy. I also don't have any interest in personal intimate details of meets I'm not involved in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Side bar: why do people care who meets who to the extent of being in anyway upset?"

I spoke to someone about this before. I think some people don't get along, if they see someone contacted them and they have met X person it's an instant no because they don't like them.

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"I had one guy plague me for veris and then complain that his wasnt as good as another I'd written

Honestly cant win with some people "

I've had this too.. Two different guys. One was purely social but was offended when I hadn't mentioned his looks (a deliberate omission on my part as I hadn't actually found him physically attractive) and asked for a re-write. The other kept complaining that veris I wrote for someone else (whom I'd know a lot longer) were warmer, more affectionate and more enthusiastic than his

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Quite a few people contacted me about people ive met. I do that sometimes too.

Good to know what hasn't been said in a veri and a lot more accurate description of a person

Do you think people compose verifications with rose tinted glasses on? Would you say verifications are generally dishonest or is for more detail that you would contact?

Veris are dishonest. Good few times some people I have met pressured me into leaving them a veri when I didn't want to too, so I get it.

Fishing for any details - just ain't my style and pure despise receiving messages with questions like "any fun?" And "what did you do"

Pressured you? At the meet itself or afterward online?

Both.

I'd have made it clear once that I'd do one in my own time. If they kept up the pressure. I'd have walked away and not left one. Easier for a man to do though, which i can appreciate. "

If someone pressured me for one at the very beginning I would walk away too.

Walked away for a lot less...

And yes, you tell them you'll do it in your own time, then daily follow up messages start on when's that veri coming

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Side bar: why do people care who meets who to the extent of being in anyway upset?"

Because people are involved and as much as we would all like it to be mature honest and open not everyone can deal with it. People develop feelings, people get jelous, people have irrational disliking of other people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bloody auto correct!

What i said was; my verifications are simple...

Genuine and as portrayed in their profile.

That should suffice. Anything else is over indulgent no sense.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I had one guy plague me for veris and then complain that his wasnt as good as another I'd written

Honestly cant win with some people

I've had this too.. Two different guys. One was purely social but was offended when I hadn't mentioned his looks (a deliberate omission on my part as I hadn't actually found him physically attractive) and asked for a re-write. The other kept complaining that veris I wrote for someone else (whom I'd know a lot longer) were warmer, more affectionate and more enthusiastic than his "

I’d be too mortified to either torment someone for a veri or to complain if it wasn’t “good enough”... cringe-a-rama!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Quite a few people contacted me about people ive met. I do that sometimes too.

Good to know what hasn't been said in a veri and a lot more accurate description of a person

Do you think people compose verifications with rose tinted glasses on? Would you say verifications are generally dishonest or is for more detail that you would contact?

Veris are dishonest. Good few times some people I have met pressured me into leaving them a veri when I didn't want to too, so I get it.

Fishing for any details - just ain't my style and pure despise receiving messages with questions like "any fun?" And "what did you do"

Pressured you? At the meet itself or afterward online?

Both.

Have had this happen more than once. And that would make me leave a verification where while polite,the message would be clear that I am purely verifying the person exists. I had one guy plague me for veris and then complain that his wasnt as good as another I'd written

Honestly cant win with some people "

That happened to me too. I've developed my own core for veris. If I don't want to meet that person again - I'd say something along the lines of "by all means please do meet them" meaning someone please keep that person preoccupied so they stop torturing me

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"Side bar: why do people care who meets who to the extent of being in anyway upset?"

My own personal experiences:

1) Other women who were possessive of men I have met (has happened a few times).

2) Men I have met who didn't want me meeting someone else (rare in fairness).

3) Rejected men who were outraged that I had passed them over for a particular person (quite common).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had one guy plague me for veris and then complain that his wasnt as good as another I'd written

Honestly cant win with some people

I've had this too.. Two different guys. One was purely social but was offended when I hadn't mentioned his looks (a deliberate omission on my part as I hadn't actually found him physically attractive) and asked for a re-write. The other kept complaining that veris I wrote for someone else (whom I'd know a lot longer) were warmer, more affectionate and more enthusiastic than his "

Had similar problems with two guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Quite a few people contacted me about people ive met. I do that sometimes too.

Good to know what hasn't been said in a veri and a lot more accurate description of a person

Do you think people compose verifications with rose tinted glasses on? Would you say verifications are generally dishonest or is for more detail that you would contact?

Veris are dishonest. Good few times some people I have met pressured me into leaving them a veri when I didn't want to too, so I get it.

Fishing for any details - just ain't my style and pure despise receiving messages with questions like "any fun?" And "what did you do"

Pressured you? At the meet itself or afterward online?

Both.

I'd have made it clear once that I'd do one in my own time. If they kept up the pressure. I'd have walked away and not left one. Easier for a man to do though, which i can appreciate.

If someone pressured me for one at the very beginning I would walk away too.

Walked away for a lot less...

And yes, you tell them you'll do it in your own time, then daily follow up messages start on when's that veri coming "

Not now buddy. You're getting on my nerves now. Mention it once more and you're blocked. That means no verification gimpy.

I'd say that

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Reading back over this thread it seems a lot of folks miss the key tenets of fab, namely, it’s NSA, is based on mutual attraction and if someone doesn’t want to have sex with you it doesn’t preclude them from having sex with anyone else who catches their eye!! Like, it’s not that complicated a concept

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Side bar: why do people care who meets who to the extent of being in anyway upset?"

There's a certain crowd I'm avoiding as well as avoiding people who met them.

2 reasons:

1. I know for a fact that crowd is spreading rumours about me, so don't want to have anything to do with them.

2. They play different games than me. I wouldn't want anyone who meets them to have same expectations from meeting me. Especially when I see a person being new and only veri they have is from the crowd that I'm avoiding

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Quite a few people contacted me about people ive met. I do that sometimes too.

Good to know what hasn't been said in a veri and a lot more accurate description of a person

Do you think people compose verifications with rose tinted glasses on? Would you say verifications are generally dishonest or is for more detail that you would contact?

Veris are dishonest. Good few times some people I have met pressured me into leaving them a veri when I didn't want to too, so I get it.

Fishing for any details - just ain't my style and pure despise receiving messages with questions like "any fun?" And "what did you do"

Pressured you? At the meet itself or afterward online?

Both.

I'd have made it clear once that I'd do one in my own time. If they kept up the pressure. I'd have walked away and not left one. Easier for a man to do though, which i can appreciate.

If someone pressured me for one at the very beginning I would walk away too.

Walked away for a lot less...

And yes, you tell them you'll do it in your own time, then daily follow up messages start on when's that veri coming

Not now buddy. You're getting on my nerves now. Mention it once more and you're blocked. That means no verification gimpy.

I'd say that "

I'm a lot more blunt than that, trust me. Some people just don't know when to stop. And yes, they're all now blocked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Then there are folk that have a zillion play veri's. I avoid folk who have met someone who has been around fab a lot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Quite a few people contacted me about people ive met. I do that sometimes too.

Good to know what hasn't been said in a veri and a lot more accurate description of a person

Do you think people compose verifications with rose tinted glasses on? Would you say verifications are generally dishonest or is for more detail that you would contact?

Veris are dishonest. Good few times some people I have met pressured me into leaving them a veri when I didn't want to too, so I get it.

Fishing for any details - just ain't my style and pure despise receiving messages with questions like "any fun?" And "what did you do"

Pressured you? At the meet itself or afterward online?

Both.

I'd have made it clear once that I'd do one in my own time. If they kept up the pressure. I'd have walked away and not left one. Easier for a man to do though, which i can appreciate.

If someone pressured me for one at the very beginning I would walk away too.

Walked away for a lot less...

And yes, you tell them you'll do it in your own time, then daily follow up messages start on when's that veri coming

Not now buddy. You're getting on my nerves now. Mention it once more and you're blocked. That means no verification gimpy.

I'd say that

I'm a lot more blunt than that, trust me. Some people just don't know when to stop. And yes, they're all now blocked "

That was my forum post response. In reality it would be a lot more satcastic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sarcastic! My feckin fingers today aren't playing ball

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Side bar: why do people care who meets who to the extent of being in anyway upset?

There's a certain crowd I'm avoiding as well as avoiding people who met them.

2 reasons:

1. I know for a fact that crowd is spreading rumours about me, so don't want to have anything to do with them.

2. They play different games than me. I wouldn't want anyone who meets them to have same expectations from meeting me. Especially when I see a person being new and only veri they have is from the crowd that I'm avoiding

"

Spreading rumours?? WTF? That’s awful

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By *verage Joe BlackMan
over a year ago

Border Area


"Reading back over this thread it seems a lot of folks miss the key tenets of fab, namely, it’s NSA, is based on mutual attraction and if someone doesn’t want to have sex with you it doesn’t preclude them from having sex with anyone else who catches their eye!! Like, it’s not that complicated a concept "

What..??!!!

Its NSA..??!!

And you can have sex with others too..???

I knew i was doing something wrong..!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Reading back over this thread it seems a lot of folks miss the key tenets of fab, namely, it’s NSA, is based on mutual attraction and if someone doesn’t want to have sex with you it doesn’t preclude them from having sex with anyone else who catches their eye!! Like, it’s not that complicated a concept

What..??!!!

Its NSA..??!!

And you can have sex with others too..???

I knew i was doing something wrong..!! "

I did say it’s not that complicated but clearly for some it is

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By *ittyMissKittyWoman
over a year ago

Dublin


"Quite a few people contacted me about people ive met. I do that sometimes too.

Good to know what hasn't been said in a veri and a lot more accurate description of a person

Do you think people compose verifications with rose tinted glasses on? Would you say verifications are generally dishonest or is for more detail that you would contact?

Veris are dishonest. Good few times some people I have met pressured me into leaving them a veri when I didn't want to too, so I get it.

Fishing for any details - just ain't my style and pure despise receiving messages with questions like "any fun?" And "what did you do"

Pressured you? At the meet itself or afterward online?

Both.

Have had this happen more than once. And that would make me leave a verification where while polite,the message would be clear that I am purely verifying the person exists. I had one guy plague me for veris and then complain that his wasnt as good as another I'd written

Honestly cant win with some people

That happened to me too. I've developed my own core for veris. If I don't want to meet that person again - I'd say something along the lines of "by all means please do meet them" meaning someone please keep that person preoccupied so they stop torturing me "

I met one guy 3 times in 3 weeks and he wanted a veri for each one. When on the 4th occasion I said that it looked a bit silly verifying so close together I saw his true colours! Immature, possessive idiot! So I blocked him and he was minus 3 veris! He then text me a while later asking had I left fab and I said I had that I was on fab for bi women only (godhelpus, I had also ascertained that he wasnt the sharpest knife in the drawer!). So 2 days later he text saying he had asked 3 friends (men) to look me up and they could see me so obviously I had him blocked so I blocked him on all mediums! I was actually embarrassed for him that he would admit to getting 3 people to check

Very lucky escape... and a lesson learned

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By *an For YouMan
over a year ago

belfast/holywood


"Quite a few people contacted me about people ive met. I do that sometimes too.

Good to know what hasn't been said in a veri and a lot more accurate description of a person

Do you think people compose verifications with rose tinted glasses on? Would you say verifications are generally dishonest or is for more detail that you would contact?

Veris are dishonest. Good few times some people I have met pressured me into leaving them a veri when I didn't want to too, so I get it.

Fishing for any details - just ain't my style and pure despise receiving messages with questions like "any fun?" And "what did you do"

Pressured you? At the meet itself or afterward online?

Both.

Have had this happen more than once. And that would make me leave a verification where while polite,the message would be clear that I am purely verifying the person exists. I had one guy plague me for veris and then complain that his wasnt as good as another I'd written

Honestly cant win with some people

That happened to me too. I've developed my own core for veris. If I don't want to meet that person again - I'd say something along the lines of "by all means please do meet them" meaning someone please keep that person preoccupied so they stop torturing me

I met one guy 3 times in 3 weeks and he wanted a veri for each one. When on the 4th occasion I said that it looked a bit silly verifying so close together I saw his true colours! Immature, possessive idiot! So I blocked him and he was minus 3 veris! He then text me a while later asking had I left fab and I said I had that I was on fab for bi women only (godhelpus, I had also ascertained that he wasnt the sharpest knife in the drawer!). So 2 days later he text saying he had asked 3 friends (men) to look me up and they could see me so obviously I had him blocked so I blocked him on all mediums! I was actually embarrassed for him that he would admit to getting 3 people to check

Very lucky escape... and a lesson learned "

You met him 4 times and only then realised he was a twat???????

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By *ittyMissKittyWoman
over a year ago

Dublin


"Quite a few people contacted me about people ive met. I do that sometimes too.

Good to know what hasn't been said in a veri and a lot more accurate description of a person

Do you think people compose verifications with rose tinted glasses on? Would you say verifications are generally dishonest or is for more detail that you would contact?

Veris are dishonest. Good few times some people I have met pressured me into leaving them a veri when I didn't want to too, so I get it.

Fishing for any details - just ain't my style and pure despise receiving messages with questions like "any fun?" And "what did you do"

Pressured you? At the meet itself or afterward online?

Both.

Have had this happen more than once. And that would make me leave a verification where while polite,the message would be clear that I am purely verifying the person exists. I had one guy plague me for veris and then complain that his wasnt as good as another I'd written

Honestly cant win with some people

That happened to me too. I've developed my own core for veris. If I don't want to meet that person again - I'd say something along the lines of "by all means please do meet them" meaning someone please keep that person preoccupied so they stop torturing me

I met one guy 3 times in 3 weeks and he wanted a veri for each one. When on the 4th occasion I said that it looked a bit silly verifying so close together I saw his true colours! Immature, possessive idiot! So I blocked him and he was minus 3 veris! He then text me a while later asking had I left fab and I said I had that I was on fab for bi women only (godhelpus, I had also ascertained that he wasnt the sharpest knife in the drawer!). So 2 days later he text saying he had asked 3 friends (men) to look me up and they could see me so obviously I had him blocked so I blocked him on all mediums! I was actually embarrassed for him that he would admit to getting 3 people to check

Very lucky escape... and a lesson learned

You met him 4 times and only then realised he was a twat???????"

I wasnt the only one believe me! It was when things didnt go his way he let his true colours show

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn’t like to think that someone I had met would disclose private details of a meet with someone else just for kicks.. I definitely wouldn’t respond to a message asking questions like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You'd be surprised how indiscreet some people are on fab. I have been on a few times before like many here. This time around i'm taking things slowly, in that I'm more selective whom i chat with, approach(via message) or arrange meets with. I'm also sticking to my own rules. There are too many that are loose with their tongue, i don't mean about me but about other meets in conversation. Once i clock a,red flag like that. I stop the conversation. I also tell them why. Most have then blocked me. Which is fine but I'd rather point out their indiscretion. I wouldn't like someone talking about me, so i don't accept folk doing it about others.

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

I have been asked to share stories and photos, but by men.

They promise photos, stories and what their meets like in return.

I have also been promised to girls without knowing. Other guys have said they know me and can setup a 3some with the girl. They then message me offering me a 3some, telling me just to tell her that we know each other from before.

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"I have been asked to share stories and photos, but by men.

They promise photos, stories and what their meets like in return.

I have also been promised to girls without knowing. Other guys have said they know me and can setup a 3some with the girl. They then message me offering me a 3some, telling me just to tell her that we know each other from before."

Oh yes I've had that too. I even heard from a couple I know well, of a guy I had chatted with at a social contacting them to arrange a foursome.... I had no idea!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been asked to share stories and photos, but by men.

They promise photos, stories and what their meets like in return.

I have also been promised to girls without knowing. Other guys have said they know me and can setup a 3some with the girl. They then message me offering me a 3some, telling me just to tell her that we know each other from before."

Off topic. That profile pic of yours- yum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been asked to share stories and photos, but by men.

They promise photos, stories and what their meets like in return.

I have also been promised to girls without knowing. Other guys have said they know me and can setup a 3some with the girl. They then message me offering me a 3some, telling me just to tell her that we know each other from before."

That’s madness! I had two separate people, a local man and a troll female profile message a few of my veris asking for my personal details - face pics and address - for something in return

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been asked to share stories and photos, but by men.

They promise photos, stories and what their meets like in return.

I have also been promised to girls without knowing. Other guys have said they know me and can setup a 3some with the girl. They then message me offering me a 3some, telling me just to tell her that we know each other from before.

That’s madness! I had two separate people, a local man and a troll female profile message a few of my veris asking for my personal details - face pics and address - for something in return "

What the fuck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been asked to share stories and photos, but by men.

They promise photos, stories and what their meets like in return.

I have also been promised to girls without knowing. Other guys have said they know me and can setup a 3some with the girl. They then message me offering me a 3some, telling me just to tell her that we know each other from before."

I had a guy message ne not long after coming back on. When i think back, he has pretty much sent the same message the previous times I've been on too. He wants to be fab buddies, to be able to arrange threesomes with ladies. It's always a well constructed message and lengthy at that. However he always persists until i tell him to finally fook off before blocking him.

I have many choice words for men messaging me for anything other than forum chat. I usually don't have any message filters up. Most of my chat is on the forums. So i leave it off, as occasionally guys would message about a post. However i have all but my preferences blocked now, as getting too many unwanted messages from guys begging to be abused or wanting to drain me! There's a weirdo for everything on Fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been asked to share stories and photos, but by men.

They promise photos, stories and what their meets like in return.

I have also been promised to girls without knowing. Other guys have said they know me and can setup a 3some with the girl. They then message me offering me a 3some, telling me just to tell her that we know each other from before.

That’s madness! I had two separate people, a local man and a troll female profile message a few of my veris asking for my personal details - face pics and address - for something in return

What the fuck "

Freaked me the fuck out, wasn’t long after I joined fab. Thankfully the veris showed me the messages and the profiles and they soon disappeared

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been asked to share stories and photos, but by men.

They promise photos, stories and what their meets like in return.

I have also been promised to girls without knowing. Other guys have said they know me and can setup a 3some with the girl. They then message me offering me a 3some, telling me just to tell her that we know each other from before.

That’s madness! I had two separate people, a local man and a troll female profile message a few of my veris asking for my personal details - face pics and address - for something in return "

That's a disgrace. I tell nobody my personal details. Is that something that you can report to admin?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Side bar: why do people care who meets who to the extent of being in anyway upset?

There's a certain crowd I'm avoiding as well as avoiding people who met them.

2 reasons:

1. I know for a fact that crowd is spreading rumours about me, so don't want to have anything to do with them.

2. They play different games than me. I wouldn't want anyone who meets them to have same expectations from meeting me. Especially when I see a person being new and only veri they have is from the crowd that I'm avoiding

Spreading rumours?? WTF? That’s awful "

I heard a very funny rumour about me being recently. Someone had met me for a coffee and posted my verification. A girl he had met previously messaged him and said I was to be avoided as I wasn't a very nice person and was trading sexual favours to get my garden and jobs around the house done! Jesus my bushes aren't that big that I would throw the leg over to get them done!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Side bar: why do people care who meets who to the extent of being in anyway upset?

There's a certain crowd I'm avoiding as well as avoiding people who met them.

2 reasons:

1. I know for a fact that crowd is spreading rumours about me, so don't want to have anything to do with them.

2. They play different games than me. I wouldn't want anyone who meets them to have same expectations from meeting me. Especially when I see a person being new and only veri they have is from the crowd that I'm avoiding

Spreading rumours?? WTF? That’s awful

I heard a very funny rumour about me being recently. Someone had met me for a coffee and posted my verification. A girl he had met previously messaged him and said I was to be avoided as I wasn't a very nice person and was trading sexual favours to get my garden and jobs around the house done! Jesus my bushes aren't that big that I would throw the leg over to get them done!"

Ah women are mad aren't they. Was chatting a guy few months ago a d he told me that a woman he had met had warned him off me. He was the 3rd guy to tell me this. Obvious not enough men to go around

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Side bar: why do people care who meets who to the extent of being in anyway upset?

There's a certain crowd I'm avoiding as well as avoiding people who met them.

2 reasons:

1. I know for a fact that crowd is spreading rumours about me, so don't want to have anything to do with them.

2. They play different games than me. I wouldn't want anyone who meets them to have same expectations from meeting me. Especially when I see a person being new and only veri they have is from the crowd that I'm avoiding

Spreading rumours?? WTF? That’s awful

I heard a very funny rumour about me being recently. Someone had met me for a coffee and posted my verification. A girl he had met previously messaged him and said I was to be avoided as I wasn't a very nice person and was trading sexual favours to get my garden and jobs around the house done! Jesus my bushes aren't that big that I would throw the leg over to get them done!"

What about the the lawn?

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city


"Off topic. That profile pic of yours- yum "

Right back at you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been asked to share stories and photos, but by men.

They promise photos, stories and what their meets like in return.

I have also been promised to girls without knowing. Other guys have said they know me and can setup a 3some with the girl. They then message me offering me a 3some, telling me just to tell her that we know each other from before.

That’s madness! I had two separate people, a local man and a troll female profile message a few of my veris asking for my personal details - face pics and address - for something in return

That's a disgrace. I tell nobody my personal details. Is that something that you can report to admin?"

It was months ago but yeah reported the profiles and they disappeared, although another female profile appeared not long after, I’m thinking it was the same person/s, put my real name on their status so whoever it was knew who I was

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been asked to share stories and photos, but by men.

They promise photos, stories and what their meets like in return.

I have also been promised to girls without knowing. Other guys have said they know me and can setup a 3some with the girl. They then message me offering me a 3some, telling me just to tell her that we know each other from before.

That’s madness! I had two separate people, a local man and a troll female profile message a few of my veris asking for my personal details - face pics and address - for something in return

That's a disgrace. I tell nobody my personal details. Is that something that you can report to admin?

It was months ago but yeah reported the profiles and they disappeared, although another female profile appeared not long after, I’m thinking it was the same person/s, put my real name on their status so whoever it was knew who I was "

Why are people such f*cktards?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been asked to share stories and photos, but by men.

They promise photos, stories and what their meets like in return.

I have also been promised to girls without knowing. Other guys have said they know me and can setup a 3some with the girl. They then message me offering me a 3some, telling me just to tell her that we know each other from before.

That’s madness! I had two separate people, a local man and a troll female profile message a few of my veris asking for my personal details - face pics and address - for something in return

That's a disgrace. I tell nobody my personal details. Is that something that you can report to admin?

It was months ago but yeah reported the profiles and they disappeared, although another female profile appeared not long after, I’m thinking it was the same person/s, put my real name on their status so whoever it was knew who I was

Why are people such f*cktards? "

aha.. I’d love to know! Had my fair share of shit on here like

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city


"I have been asked to share stories and photos, but by men.

They promise photos, stories and what their meets like in return.

I have also been promised to girls without knowing. Other guys have said they know me and can setup a 3some with the girl. They then message me offering me a 3some, telling me just to tell her that we know each other from before.

That’s madness! I had two separate people, a local man and a troll female profile message a few of my veris asking for my personal details - face pics and address - for something in return

What the fuck

Freaked me the fuck out, wasn’t long after I joined fab. Thankfully the veris showed me the messages and the profiles and they soon disappeared "

Yeah its nothing to freak out about, I think most guys wouldnt be interested in sharing a girls info. But yeah there are people who fish around for it.

Also if youre a guy and tempted to share a girls info, dont. The guy you share it with will sell you out in a heart beat and tell the girl "Devil showed me your face" if they think it will get them laid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had two different guys asking some of my veris if they had face pics of me or knew where I lived. Creepy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been asked to share stories and photos, but by men.

They promise photos, stories and what their meets like in return.

I have also been promised to girls without knowing. Other guys have said they know me and can setup a 3some with the girl. They then message me offering me a 3some, telling me just to tell her that we know each other from before.

That’s madness! I had two separate people, a local man and a troll female profile message a few of my veris asking for my personal details - face pics and address - for something in return

That's a disgrace. I tell nobody my personal details. Is that something that you can report to admin?

It was months ago but yeah reported the profiles and they disappeared, although another female profile appeared not long after, I’m thinking it was the same person/s, put my real name on their status so whoever it was knew who I was

Why are people such f*cktards?

aha.. I’d love to know! Had my fair share of shit on here like "

So many deranged people about. I'd hazard a guess that many singles on here are here because they can't get any off the site. They are frustrated with probably more than their sex life. So they comr to fab thinking easy ride. Then realise its not and the frustration builds again. They slabber at other instead of looking in the mirror. C*nts!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been asked to share stories and photos, but by men.

They promise photos, stories and what their meets like in return.

I have also been promised to girls without knowing. Other guys have said they know me and can setup a 3some with the girl. They then message me offering me a 3some, telling me just to tell her that we know each other from before.

That’s madness! I had two separate people, a local man and a troll female profile message a few of my veris asking for my personal details - face pics and address - for something in return

What the fuck

Freaked me the fuck out, wasn’t long after I joined fab. Thankfully the veris showed me the messages and the profiles and they soon disappeared

Yeah its nothing to freak out about, I think most guys wouldnt be interested in sharing a girls info. But yeah there are people who fish around for it.

Also if youre a guy and tempted to share a girls info, dont. The guy you share it with will sell you out in a heart beat and tell the girl "Devil showed me your face" if they think it will get them laid."

That’s very true!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been asked to share stories and photos, but by men.

They promise photos, stories and what their meets like in return.

I have also been promised to girls without knowing. Other guys have said they know me and can setup a 3some with the girl. They then message me offering me a 3some, telling me just to tell her that we know each other from before.

That’s madness! I had two separate people, a local man and a troll female profile message a few of my veris asking for my personal details - face pics and address - for something in return

What the fuck

Freaked me the fuck out, wasn’t long after I joined fab. Thankfully the veris showed me the messages and the profiles and they soon disappeared

Yeah its nothing to freak out about, I think most guys wouldnt be interested in sharing a girls info. But yeah there are people who fish around for it.

Also if youre a guy and tempted to share a girls info, dont. The guy you share it with will sell you out in a heart beat and tell the girl "Devil showed me your face" if they think it will get them laid."

Lesson learned from experience?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Side bar: why do people care who meets who to the extent of being in anyway upset?

There's a certain crowd I'm avoiding as well as avoiding people who met them.

2 reasons:

1. I know for a fact that crowd is spreading rumours about me, so don't want to have anything to do with them.

2. They play different games than me. I wouldn't want anyone who meets them to have same expectations from meeting me. Especially when I see a person being new and only veri they have is from the crowd that I'm avoiding

Spreading rumours?? WTF? That’s awful

I heard a very funny rumour about me being recently. Someone had met me for a coffee and posted my verification. A girl he had met previously messaged him and said I was to be avoided as I wasn't a very nice person and was trading sexual favours to get my garden and jobs around the house done! Jesus my bushes aren't that big that I would throw the leg over to get them done!"

Some bimbo had issues with who I was meeting and dating and was doing exact same thing.

I was a cunt who "stole someone's man" and an sti riddled escort all in one.

Looks like I'm a busy bee. No wonder I never get time for any free fab meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A thought just came to me, do people ever see a veri on a profile and decide to contact the veri provider to ask for meet details, like because maybe they fancy the person the veri is about but have been told no thanks, or they like hearing “real life” stories for kicks. Is that a thing? It hasn’t happened to us on here. Just wondering though does it happen?"

A woman contacted one of mine and asked about me which I found rather strange.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And to think people wonder why we don't share face pics, allow meets to take pics of us, or meet at home

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By *lay2018Couple
over a year ago

westmeath & roscommon.

Our verifications are hid and are only viewable to whom we choose to meet. We do however look for well verified profiles for meeting after being let down to many times from those who don't have many verications.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If i have given someone a veri thats it ...i would never go behind their back...if someone want to know aboutvthem let them ask them...there will be no pillow talk from me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If somebody mailed me about a veri I left I would find it odd. Take veris as they are. Suss out the person myself. I take them with a pinch of salt. I know a guy who's currently serving ten years for sexual assault and violence who is well verified on fab and quoted as being such a gent and was on fab up until ten months ago. He's now in Mount joy. I've had other questionable behaviour from well verified men. I've also had great mets with non verified guys.I don't always go by verifications.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

My veris are hidden it's no ones business who I have met. I'm veried that should be it. If I meet someone and they want to see them then ye I'll show them but no one has, asked yet. As for the guys I veried they can show the ones I given I'd they want but if someone ever contacted me to ask about anyone I'd met I wouldn't give them info and I wouldn't want anyone I've met to give details of our meets either.

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin


"A thought just came to me, do people ever see a veri on a profile and decide to contact the veri provider to ask for meet details, like because maybe they fancy the person the veri is about but have been told no thanks, or they like hearing “real life” stories for kicks. Is that a thing? It hasn’t happened to us on here. Just wondering though does it happen?"

Surely, other than they met when they said they would, it's irrelevant?

Who has ever had the same exact sex with two different people?

Very rarely, I imagine. Each coupling is different people and will have a different dynamic, so you can't compare how one person found the sex to be with how it may be between you and them.

Which makes the questioning of the intimate details a moot point, surely?

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By *ustin-SiderMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I don't like the idea of people messaging my veris to find out info about me. Not that I have anything to hide but just I would like to be judged on my own merits rather than what people say about me. My veris wouldn't have anything negative to say about me anyway but that's besides the point.

If people want to know anything about me all they gotta do is ask or meet me. There's no bullshit or underhandedness in my corner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our verifications are honest but we use code for our own benefit such as

definitely meet again = excellent meet and all round good guy

It’s what we don’t say that makes the difference.

If we don’t say anything like welcome back, then it wasn’t a good meet

If we don’t comment on looks or cock size then it wasn’t worth mentioning.

If we just say it was a good social with no play then they were not physically or mentally stimulating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tbh..I take all veri's with a bucket of salt simply because not all shoes fit the same person,not everyone will see the person's physical appearance or personality the same as others do and that can only be discovered when a meet takes place because a person behind a keyboard MAY NOT always be the same person in public..l keep my veri's private,and mostly have said to ladies that theres no need for a verification as what occurred between us is absolutely no one else's business and the lady also felt the same as she felt that it MAY lead to her getting Messages from guys along the lines of .." oh ..you met so and so but you wouldn't meet me ..what's so special about him over me " etc etc so it eliminates that happening to her ..to me ,a lady's personal state of well being gets top priority,always,and would not place that or expose her to anything less.

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